The best managers are the ones with emotional intelligence! Here's why.
1. Managers are called upon to make decisions. Primitive emotions, unmonitored, automatic, powerful and not always conscious can “hijack” us making us react thoughtlessly to people and situations instead of thinking ... Views: 1243
“Anger kills,” says Redford Williams, director of Duke University Medical Center's Behavioral Medicine Research Center. He references studies of cancer and cardiac patients. He has also authored the book, "Anger Kills".
And “Prayer saves lives,” says Harold Koenig, director of the medical ... Views: 1242
I am a mother. I had a mother. I write about emotional intelligence. There is nothing more emotional than "mother."
Be prepared to welcome some visceral emotions. We depend absolutely on our mothers for survival, and this sort of feeling, or instinct resides in the reptilian brain, hundreds of ... Views: 1233
My years in public relations taught me a lot about setting
up successful events – and that’s what you family
reunion can be. Here are some tips.
1. You take the lead.
Maybe your family’s never had a family reunion. Probably
they’d all like it, but someone has to get the ball rolling. It ... Views: 1226
Halloween is an exciting night for children and a busy time for their parents. With such excitement, it’s easy for children to forget basic safety rules.
When emotions are running high, it’s a good time to remember to “use your head.” Plan ahead and plan to have a safe Halloween. Raise ... Views: 1220
One of the hardest things for some people to do is to accept the blame for something they did, as in admit they made a mistake. This has to do with authenticity, with being honest with yourself, and with your self-esteem. Perfectionists have the hardest time owning up to a mistake; in fact ... Views: 1209
Keely is 30 and has been married for about 6 months. Last time we talked, she was expressing dissatisfaction with the man she’d married. They had disagreements over political issues that were influencing where they shopped, where he worked, and what TV shows they watched. She was wondering if ... Views: 1204
I stopped by a preschool the other day, and met Sam. He caught my eye right away because he had presence. We call him “Mr. President,” the teacher told me. “He’s bossy.”
Sam was focused on a car he was playing with. When I walked up to him, he looked up slowly, with confidence. Something ... Views: 1200
Have you considered having a personal rebirth this spring, recreating your life, planting new seeds to bring about a different harvest? A coach can help you do this.
"A garden in the early stage is not a pleasant or compelling place: it's a lot of arduous, messy, noisome work -- digging up ... Views: 1190
In a recent article in Forbes magazine, Wachovia CEO G. Kennedy Thompson is quoted as saying that Beta Theta Pi, which he joined while an undergrad at the University of North Carolina, gave him "the opportunity to meet people from different backgrounds and places, and the connections have ... Views: 1189
I don’t know anyone who isn’t riveted on the Gulf Coast situation and the devastation of New Orleans, deeply concerned, thinking and praying for the survivors, the ones who didn’t survive, the helpers, and those who have loved ones not accounted for.
I do know individuals who are handling it ... Views: 1185
Safety first whenever you're in the car, but for most of us, it's a pocket of time, and time is what we have the least of. Know yourself. If you're the kind who can't do two things at once, don't.
Driving time can be a great source of stress if you let it be, but if you are intentional, and ... Views: 1180
My granddaughter has great parents and also great grandparents, and we all do things differently.
As parents, we love our children and also are responsible for emotional intelligence training and also character training! We want them to grow up to be responsible adults, contributing members ... Views: 1180
Lifelong learning is one of the things that makes us resilient. The older you get, the more important it is to learn something entirely new. It literally regenerates the brain, and makes it more resilient to insult and injury. The most important thing to learn about learning is that old dogs can ... Views: 1174
It happens. You hate your boss, but you love your job. Or you love your boss, but hate your job. Or you’ve seen a colleague in that position, or you have a client so encumbered.
I’ve seen it play itself out in more than one work situation. In fact, in one situation, I accompanied the ... Views: 1173
In today's fast-changing world, there's hardly a more important emotional intelligence competency to have than resilience.
Resilience means being able to bounce back after setbacks, failures, disappointments and losses. It means not giving up, and continuing to face the future with optimism ... Views: 1168
If you've always worked for someone else, you may harbor fantasies of what it would be like to "be your own boss." While working for yourself has major advantages; if you choose this route you may find some surprises.
1. MYTH: I won't have to work as hard.
REALITY: You'll probably work ... Views: 1162
More people are hiring a coach every day. Choosing a coach is an important decision. To choose wisely, use your emotional intelligence - all parts of your brain, emotional as well as cognitive.
HOW TO START YOUR SEARCH
Start by doing the research.
· Enter "EQ coach" on a search engine, ... Views: 1161
Difficult to diagnose, with no known cause (and/or multiple causes), and no known cure, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (or Myalgic Encephalomyelitis or ME) plagues over 1,000,000 people in the US. Here are some of the latest findings about this syndrome:
1. About 1.3 million people in the US have ... Views: 1157
There we were, newly married, living thousands of miles from either of our homes, in Durham, NC where he was in medical school. My husband was from Texas, and I was from the North Shore of Chicago. We came from two different cultures ourselves, and now were together in a new one. It turned ... Views: 1150
Emotional intelligence involves many separate competencies. One of them is compassion or empathy. You might think of it as ^soft.^ Well, actually some people think of emotional intelligence as ^soft.^
Which brings up an interesting point. In the Strengths e-course I offer, I ask the ... Views: 1144
The days of dining by plucking fruit from trees and roasting small animals over the fire, eating with fingers, and perhaps fighting with others over the scraps are long gone. Or are they?
More and more we swing our car through the drive-in, grab our food from the window, and proceed to eat ... Views: 1142
“Oh,” said Bob, after listening to me explain what I do, “So coaching’s like therapy for healthy people?”
No, because for one thing there are healthy people in therapy, and for another, coaches aren’t doing therapy. In fact this strikes many of us coaches as funny, because we intentionally ... Views: 1141
Matthew is not ambivalent about the war. He’s for it, 100%. This is his “first” war, being 30 years old. He’s watching the news avidly on t.v., is glad we’re over there, and sends me emails to that affect.
My client in Australia has strain in her voice when we talk. She assumes I’m “against ... Views: 1139
"A garden in the early stage is not a pleasant or compelling place: it's a lot of arduous, messy, noisome work -- digging up the hard ground, putting in the fertilizer, along with the seeds and seedlings. So with beginning a story or novel." --Ted Solotaroff
That's like the beginning of ... Views: 1137
There is a demographic trend you need to be prepared for if you have employees. According to demographic trends analyst, Cheryl Russell, by the year 2005, the most common household in the US will be single-person households. "Never before in American history has living alone been the ... Views: 1137
You’d have to be living under a rock not to have heard of Emotional Intelligence (EQ). More and more businesses are recognizing the need for an EQ culture. Businesses have used it to ease the strain of diversity, multicultural and global offices; to decrease negative friction in the ... Views: 1135
When are you planning to get old? According to a recent study, you'd better move the date back.
"Contrary to common belief, many people can live well into their 90s without becoming cognitively impaired, study findings indicate." - Neurology 2003; 60: 477–480
But statistics are ... Views: 1126
Did you know that more than 47% of US households are headed by unmarried individuals? The American Association for Single People projects this figure will continue to rise in the coming decade. Therefore, if you are single you are not alone. And … if you have single adults in your social ... Views: 1120
Currently, the leading causes of death for women in the US are:
1. Heart Disease, 29.9%
2. Cancer, 21.8%
3. Stroke, 8.4%
4. Chronic lower respiratory diseases, 5.1%
5. Diabetes, 3.1%
6. Influenza and pneumonia, 3.0%
7. Alzheimer’s disease, 2.9%
8. Unintentional injuries, 2.8%
9. Kidney disease, ... Views: 1116
“Having decided to achieve a certain task, achieve it at all costs of tedium and distaste. The gain in self-confidence of having accomplished a tiresome labor is immense.” ~ Thomas Bennett
You can’t talk yourself into self-esteem, and neither can your coach, your best friend, your boss or ... Views: 1114
Saul's mastered enjoying life and smelling the roses, but his job is in jeopardy because he doesn’t get enough done, and so is his marriage, for the same reason.
What can Saul do to improve his efficiency? Well here at EQ Central, we teach Emotional Intelligence, not just a list of to-dos, ... Views: 1113
This isn’t the story about the four blind men and the elephant, this is the story of me looking at that 6 ton elephant in the zoo, tethered to that tiny stake, and wondering why on earth she doesn’t break loose. Instead she rocks back and forth when it should take an electric fence, iron bars, ... Views: 1106
"Motivation is not a thinking word," say John P. Kotter and Dan S. Cohen, in their book, "The Heart of Change." (http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1578512549/susandunnmome-20 )
They go on to say ANALYSIS HAS 3 LIMITATIONS:
1. In a remarkable number of cases you don’t need it to find the ... Views: 1098
The flareup was immediate. "I'm writing a book called 'How to Choose the Perfect Gift for the Woman You Love,' I told my friend Sam, and he replied immediately, "If any woman doesn’t like what I get her then…” and his voice trailed off in… what was it? Anger? No I think it was more eternal ... Views: 1096
“In the time you spent complaining about this, Susan, you
could’ve had it done.”
Did anyone else’s mother used to say that?
She also might’ve added that if I’d just gone ahead and done
it, I would:
1. Feel good about myself, with a sense of accomplishment
2. Free the energy of feeling like ... Views: 1085
Knowing how you feel, having personal power, managing anger, being creative, focusing on your strengths and having Intentionality - these are all emotional intelligence competencies.
1. You can never go down, never go down, never go down the
drain.
2. You can stop when you want to, stop ... Views: 1084
Crises and traumas change our lives. We talk about Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome, but did you know they can also change us for the better? There is also a Post traumatic Stress Growth Syndrome. Many people come out of crises stronger and more resilient, and have learned many new life ... Views: 1071
Shelley is worried about her financial situation. She has a home business that seems promising but is still barely producing and her credit card bills are starting to pile up. She picks up the newspaper to look at the want ads, thinks about doing some marketing for her home business, wonders ... Views: 1067
We’re coming down to the wire. How’s it feeling to you?
Why do I ask that? Well, whatever you’re celebrating, and whatever your religious orientation, Christmas is a celebration, a celebration that for many has a spiritual basis to it. That is, it’s supposed to be merry, at the least, and ... Views: 1064
DECLUTTER
Consider anything that might be more costly to move than to rebuy. Have a garage sale, take things to Goodwill, call Habitat to come pick up big items. When you come across something you haven’t used in a couple of years, unless it’s sentimental, get rid of it.
TRANSFER ... Views: 1064
Time Management Seminars don’t work, and here’s why: They are treating the symptom and not the cause.
They’re based on two assumptions that no longer work. The first is that you don’t know how to manage your time.
Let’s say you’re asked to attend a Time Management seminar at work. You’ll ... Views: 1064
If you’re stuck with something you’d like help with and no one else comes to mind, you might try a coach, and here’s why: Coaching developed to fill a need that wasn’t being met. Actually it developed to meet a number of needs that weren’t being met, and it’s still evolving.
If there’s ... Views: 1062
The reptilian brain takes over sometimes; it's there to keep us alive, and it's instinctual messages are strong. The limbic brain can also "flood" us with emotions. Have you used the phrase, "talk til you're blue in the face"? These are some of the times when our neocortex (thinking brain) shuts ... Views: 1062
1. Get caught up on all details requiring thoughtful attention so you can devote your attention to her and to the moment.
2. Check to see what movies and attractions are in town, and schedules for amusement parks, skating rinks, library, Sunday School, etc. Check newspaper and with friends for ... Views: 1062
“Don’t ask your father the minute he walks in the door,” my Mom used to tell me. “Wait till he’s in a good mood. Let him unwind a little.”
Then some time later, she would alert me that “the good mood” had arrived, and it was time to ask him. It was a mystery to me, but gradually I began to ... Views: 1059
It used to be a college education was enough, and then you would learn a few job skills and be on your way. People often stayed in the same job, much less career, for their entire working life.
In today’s fast-paced workplace, the college education is just the beginning, and you must ... Views: 1043
If you want to stay well, the best path for handling anger is to experience as little of it as possible. However, we aren’t all lamas, we live in increasingly stressful times, and to be numb and feel nothing is no solution either. We need our emotions for the information they give us and to ... Views: 1041
One of the greatest joys of grandparenting is taking the grandkids for an outing, yes?
And of course you buckle them into their car seats. But even the best car seat on the market can’t protect the grandkids in case of an accident, so there’s one other thing you need to be doing.
Driver ... Views: 1039
Lifelong learning is one of the things that makes us resilient. The older you get, the more important it is to learn something entirely new. It literally regenerates the brain, and makes it more resilient to insult and injury. The most important thing to learn about learning is that old dogs can ... Views: 1006