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How many of us have not been in a store when our child wants the candy that just happens to be perfectly displayed at their eye level?
We deny their first request as they always seem to be asking for something. Their second appeal gets overturned as it’s too close to dinner. The next demand ... Views: 1839
Louis shock turns to disbelief and anger
The world caved in on Louis when his girlfriend of three years ditched him, complaining he was ‘too needy!’ Louis had been the devoted boyfriend and caretaker. He did whatever she asked no matter what the cost to him. He cut out his friends and family. ... Views: 5678
There's no doubt: anger takes its toll on every facet of our lives. From on the job, to our personal relationships, to our health and overall enjoyment of life, destructive anger can wreak havoc in our daily lives.
On the job it cost businesses over $4.2 billion, yes -billion, a year. ... Views: 1975
The key to control of your anger is to be slow to anger. No one can turn anger on and off like a light switch. But having a very, very long fuse is the key to anger management. There are three attributes that are common, however, to someone that is slow to anger.
GRACIOUS
People who have ... Views: 7521
I recently read a book first published in 1796, entitled “The Immortal Mentor.” The preface was written by George Washington, praising the author’s work. The first section was about health, and the premise that our extremes of lifestyle shorten our lives by many years, while moderation in all ... Views: 1504
From the moment a child is born, the parent begins to worry: illnesses, the safety of vaccinations, best ways to discipline, foods that children are most likely to choke on when eating. It seems worry and parenting go hand and hand, much like peanut butter and jelly; you can’t have one without ... Views: 1561
There is a significant difference between anger and rage. Anger can be viewed as a scale that ranges from minor irritation to intense rage. It can be very scary indeed when the scale tips toward rage. Most of us don’t have any idea what to do when someone we love becomes that angry. Do we ... Views: 4644
I have asked countless number of children “Is getting mad bad?” Very close to 100% answered yes. This has made me very curious as to the message we are presenting to children about anger. It has made me wonder how we adults express our anger and how that affects our children’s perspective ... Views: 4396
Many parents make the mistake of assuming that since their child’s behavior is connected to their feelings, fixing the feelings will fix the behavior. Unfortunately, nothing could be further from the truth. It’s critical for parents to understand that processing your child’s feelings while they ... Views: 3396
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ON THE RISE- HOW CAN YOU PROTECT YOURSELF
Just this summer, Governor Schwarzenegger cut funding for all Domestic Violence Programs in the state of California as part of his $489 million in budget cuts. You certainly don’t need to be a psychic to predict an increase in ... Views: 1759
Have you ever felt your anger boil over to the point that it spilled out in ways you wished it hadn’t? Has your blood pressure ever risen when someone offended you and you could not respond? Have you ever clenched your teeth, biting back your words till your jaws ached or you got a headache? ... Views: 2654
Every emotion triggers different reaction or decision of us. The emotions we feel can change our decisions. Some emotions can make us avoid something or some can force us to reach for it. This is an important effect when we are making decisions. If we want to make decisions consciously we must ... Views: 1304
I need to say straight off the bat stress is a killer and I don't intend to be a victim anytime soon! I am a sixty years old, hard working single mum of five adult children, eight grandchildren plus a great granddaughter. I still have two sons at home all of which means I do know and understand ... Views: 1321
We always have a choice, in every given moment, to be, act and communicate in whatever way we do, however, most of the time we do it unconsciously.
We’ve heard it, read it or have said it many times…kids don’t come with a manual and we all do the best we can with what we know!
It appears ... Views: 2375
Dear Friends
Part XXXVI - Some early morning thoughts:
. Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha
. Forgiving is all about letting go of: anger, resentment, sorrow and the victim ... Views: 1107
What we resist, persists. As humans, we naturally want to avoid pain, and that includes our feelings. Trying to push the emotions away, or using substances like food or alcohol, work for a little while. Then the emotion is worse than ever.
While understandable, this simply doesn't work. ... Views: 1497
Most people experience a great deal of stress in that period of time between Thanksgiving and New Years, fondly known as “The Holidays”. Many of us, find ourselves becoming irritable, with our patience and tolerance stretched to the limit.
Much of the impatience and intolerance involves ... Views: 6267
I facilitated an anger management support group for several years. One woman began attending shortly after our first meeting. Her name was Joan. Joan's marriage of thirty plus years was in trouble. Admitting she had a bad temper, her husband recently filed for divorce. She was devastated. "I ... Views: 1675
You've heard mention of that "inner child," the needy, vulnerable part of you that you neglect or criticize. We therapists often talk about "the baby part of you" or "the child side of you" as a way to address dependency issues. You know you've got a kid inside of you, right?
A lot of the ... Views: 1468
Never, ever ask this question! It is the quickest way to offend someone and turn an ordinary conversation into an argument.
We've all encountered someone who is upset, distressed, angry, sad or not in a positive frame of mind. In an effort to find out what's wrong, we sometimes blurt out a ... Views: 976
"I did everything I was supposed to: I worked hard, raised my family, helped others. Now I'm retiring and want to enjoy life and I'm diagnosed with cancer. It's not fair!"
A tearful "Susan" sat in my office last year, steeped in anger over the injustice of her diagnosis and fluctuating ... Views: 899
Anger Management skills can be helpful for people ranging from the mildly miffed to the violently vengeful. You do not need to be in a physically violent relationship to benefit from understanding and learning about communicating anger and hurt feelings constructively. Secondly, if you are ... Views: 1725
Motivational Reasons
I don’t want or need to change my behavior. This is probably the most common reason for not changing how anger is expressed. No change is likely until the abuser ‘puts down the binoculars and picks up a mirror.’ Often shame is at the core of men and women who are ... Views: 1685
Dealing with anger is in no way simple or easy process, but after reading this article you will be able to avoid some of the most common mistakes. You will get the general idea of how to react when anger problems occur as well as specific tips.
So, let's start:
1) Think before you ... Views: 1073
For most marriages, marriage counseling is very crucial and important. Without it, many marriages would have crumbled. Marriage counseling involves giving advice to couples on how to achieve mutual understanding. This, however, is usually rendered during a period of marital discord. Issues that ... Views: 1280
Kodi put his legs up and switched on the television. Checking out of his life by jumping into a hilarious reality show was just what the doctor ordered. Two minutes later Ciana sat by him and asked how he fared in his Engineering seminar.
“ It was fine.” Kodi replied to shut it down.
“ Did ... Views: 2441
Divorce is difficult for everyone. Even though children are resilient in many areas of life, divorce takes its toll on the youngest family members as well. While superficially they may appear to be fine, their internal struggles and turmoil are often hidden beneath an exterior of normalcy. ... Views: 1500
Many corporate organizations have been dragged to court because of anger related issues. Most people, especially bosses, do underrate the effect of anger on their business. Recently, many cases have been witnessed whereby some of the workers filed lawsuits against the corporation. What such ... Views: 1390
Good that you not only want control over the outer anger but even the anger inside. And yes when you get rid of weakness like anger inside out you would be more than happy.
Once we realize and confront the problem, the solution is half reached. One cannot stop anger immediately. Firstly, one ... Views: 851
It’s hard to get most adolescents to comply, but when you’re dealing with a hostile teen, it can be almost impossible. In part two of this series on anger and hostility in kids, James Lehman discusses concrete ways for you to break through your child’s force field of anger and defuse his ... Views: 2139
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am a 49 year old disabed vet, chest injury in pain 24/7. I am on MAJOR pain pills. Have not had sex with wife since one day I pulled her pants down and found a river of a substance that looked like human ejaculate but smelt like beer. Six months later she said it was ... Views: 1488
For those of you who know me and my views on ‘weekend enlightenment workshops’ you will be appropriately shocked by the title of this article, and even more shocked to know that I believe this to be true.
The three minutes are spent in reading this article, which if understood, will in fact ... Views: 2151
Emotions are quite literally our feelings. We feel them in our bodies. Sometimes we feel an emotion as a tingle, we can feel our bodies overheat and blood rush to our faces when we are embarrassed, we can feel muscular tension when we are angry or afraid, our hearts start to beat faster. But ... Views: 1284
Have you ever got angry before? Everyone has. Since we are all human beings with emotions, being angry is one of the multitudes of emotions we experienced. We could get angry due to life frustration or even a difference in opinion. This is quite normal. Whatever the reason that causes the ... Views: 946
What is the best length anger management program to take? Ironically, this is one of the most frequently asked questions we get asked of prospective anger management customers who are thinking about registering for a program. There are several ways to determine what what duration class would ... Views: 1803
Being open hearted is living with a heart full to overflowing with loving kindness. It is a life of power from within, a life filled with purpose and service to humanity. It is a life that can be easily manifested by nurturing your heart with a meditation on loving kindness.
Go to a quiet place ... Views: 3393
Anger seems to be one of the primary emotions with which most people consistently struggle. Anger can be an extremely SCARY emotion for an individual to feel…it is powerful and therefore difficult for people to HOLD. “Holding” in the psychological sense means the ability to tolerate an emotion ... Views: 2906
If your brother said something hurtful to you, how would you respond? If your best friend betrayed you, what would you do? If your neighbor damaged your property and failed to make restitution, how would you handle it?
Some seek revenge. They subscribe to the adage, "Don't get mad. Get ... Views: 1476
People wish to be settled. Only as far as they are unsettled is there any hope for them.
--Ralph Waldo Emerson
Two monks were traveling down a road beside a river. They came upon a woman sitting on the bank with her head in her hands and tears streaming down her face. One monk asked what ... Views: 3997
Incidents involving Ron Attest, Jose Guillen and Milton Bradley as well as college athletes have thrust anger management into the news on an almost daily basis. Many questions are being asked about the effectiveness of anger management. Questions are also being asked about the training, ... Views: 3004
People are incredibly angry these days. The governing class in America fears a "populist backlash," as the New York Times dubbed it. They are worried that if ordinary Americans get mad enough, they will derail recovery plans. But this isn't only a Joe Six-Pack phenomenon. Anyone with a decent ... Views: 971
It's nest building time. Beneath the Juniper tree where three dogs sleep the day away, is a litter pile of broken twigs. High overhead, two magpies are busy home-building six feet from the top of the tree.
Right now, its rush hour in the sky south of my house, as bluejays, woodpeckers, ... Views: 846
Greetings!
As we begin to become friends, you will notice that I'm very frank with my language because I want you to heal and not go around the same emotional mountain for many years needlessly the way I had.
The reason for that is so that you will learn from my experience since I didn't ... Views: 1290
Have you ever gotten out of bed in the morning declaring that today was going to be a great day? And before your first cup of coffee, something happened that completely ruined everything? Perhaps your child woke up sick or the car wouldn't start or your boss calls you to let you know that ... Views: 1109
Have you found yourself asking the question, “Why is my child always so angry at me?” Do you feel like your adolescent surrounds himself with a force field of anger and hostility? In part one of this frank Q&A, James Lehman explains the difference between hostility and anger—and tells you where ... Views: 2597
Anyone with children knows how hard it can be raising kids. Our annoyance tolerance is constantly challenged every day. kids don't necessarily know they are making us upset (although some do!). Depending on a child's age or developmental stage, they may be doing things inadvertently that ... Views: 1464
Twenty-two year old Jared Loughner killed six and wounded 14 innocent people in Tucson. The public reaction; a “deranged monster.” Others blame angry political speeches. Loughner’s friends called him a “social outcast.”
This tragic event is a wake up call to focus on mental health and how to ... Views: 1347
ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION & ANGER
Anger is a natural emotion, but often times, people don't express anger and allow it to be stockpiled. Anger has a way of expressing itself on its own. Letting anger express itself like this is unhealthy and can have negative consequences.
A person who ... Views: 1287
Dear Dr. Romance
I came across your name in an article on Yahoo titled "More Couples Sleeping Apart: Is This
Healthy?". My wife and I have been together
since for over ten years, and have 3 children. and my wife has a daughter from a previous relationship. We ... Views: 1757
IT’S TIME TO THROW A TANTRUM!
Women since generations ago, have been told to be polite, ladylike, calm and collected and in the midst of struggle to rise above and push through. But what’s the definition of pushing through? Some people are content to spend hours rationalising whether their ... Views: 1463