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-flashback to my 20’s, it’s not me today
I went to a concert over the weekend to see Credence Clearwater Revival, or what’s left of the group. The music was great, it really was good old rock and roll, but the feelings were funny!
There was a lot of gray hair in the crowd, ... Views: 793
Those suffering from addictions habitually engage in compulsive behaviors to avoid feelings of depression, anxiety, and other distressing mood states. Holistic Therapy offers opportunities to safely experience painful emotions while learning ways to manage destructive thoughts and ... Views: 1038
Scared To Take Chances?
Being afraid to try and fail was part of the turmoil I faced before making a decision to regain my life and recover from the demons.
I get some great readings, and this one from Hazelden resonated!
If you're never scared or embarrassed or hurt, it means you never take ... Views: 2074
Do It Because You Like The EFFECT??
I get some great stuff from friends who are in recovery from one thing or another, or just recovering from people and the past. The Following hit me right between the eyes. Can you relate?
"Men and women drink (drug, overeat, cut, use sex, gamble, ... Views: 735
A Thought: Limited expectations yield only limited results.
Our thoughts determine our actions, and when our thoughts are negative, our successes are few. What we hold in our mind is certain to be reflected in the day's activities. And we are capable of fueling our thoughts positively, if we ... Views: 735
In the last decade, a lot has changed in the world of love addiction. Not that love addiction itself has changed. It is pretty much the same insidious disorder it always has been. What has changed is how the world looks at it. Twenty years ago, our understanding of love addiction was still ... Views: 2118
Do You Understand Coaching and The Benefits To You?
- A review for me too, and why I know it’s my life purpose.
Man, life has been busy and with the different holidays, a little confused over the last few weeks. Days go by, and I wonder where time goes, and sometimes I am guilty of losing ... Views: 777
All people that suffer from binge eating disorder know about that little negative voice that plays inside of your head. It’s the one that urges you to binge eat and makes you feel bad about yourself. It’s the voice that tells you that you aren’t good enough to stop binge eating, that you will ... Views: 2331
When you can’t control when to start or stop a substance or behavior, you have a compulsion. Compulsive overeaters have the urge to gorge until they feel sick, shopaholics can’t control the urge to buy all sorts of stuff they don’t need. Many don’t even open the bag once ... Views: 1873
After you realize that you have binge eating disorder, it’s important to figure out the root of why you binge. The root is the reason you turn to bingeing; it’s why you do what you do. This is one of the first steps you need to figure out as you try to move into binge eating ... Views: 1751
This action scared the living twist out of me!
What was hammered through my thick skull that the amends I made were for my benefit, not for the benefit of the person I was making amends to. I was carrying the garbage, and this step in my journey was for me to clear up my garbage, and I was told ... Views: 1044
If you’re looking for advice on how to stop drinking and taking drugs, hopefully I can help.
But before I do that, let me give you the bad news first ...
If you’re looking for a genuine solution to alcoholism or drug addiction and really want to stop drinking and using, ultimately ... Views: 8001
Resentments can kill
As we look at making amends, I was reminded again today about resentments.
If I’m ever going to return to my old ways of dealing with the less pleasant side of life, it will likely be due to a resentment that I allow to remain unresolved. If my head is an apartment ... Views: 1765
Do You Have Any Idea Where You’re Going??/Life Direction
The above question can be found as part of a collage of questions on a bill board in Dallas. They are questions from God.
Upon seeing this, it made me reflect.
There was a time that I had no idea of where I was going. Then as they ... Views: 832
Smoking is detrimental not only to your health, but to your family's health as well. People who smoke are aware, and are constantly reminded, that smoking is harmful and provides no health benefit at all. In fact, this vice has been linked to many serious diseases, such as cancers, ...Smoking is ... Views: 801
Ready For More Steps/Footprints?
I can get off track with the best of them! I was rolling along on a step review which I like to do annually, and ensuring the “footprints” I use in my practice are in sync with what must happen to live a quality life.
Life got in the way.
In the ... Views: 662
In spite of all the health warnings, the teens of today are still getting hooked on smoking. They are aware of how bad it is for them and for some reason they do not care. Why? Because they think they can quit anytime they feel like it. Also teens feel invincible and time has little ... Views: 1553
Regardless of the orientation of the treatment program, treatment strategies designed to bring about changes in the lifestyle of the patient are essential. For example, if the patient returns to the same friends and activities that were a part of their lives prior to treatment, relapse is ... Views: 1097
A woman enters my office disheveled, thin, mid forties, with hollow eyes. It is as if the sparkle in her eyes ceased to exist a very long time ago. She tells me she has been drinking and is using methamphetamines. I am not surprised to hear this because lately my practice has been filled with ... Views: 2905
A technique known as urge surfing, which harnesses mindfulness, can help people who are experiencing cravings. Originally developed as a tool to help people struggling to battle alcohol and drug addiction, urge surfing is now being used to help people with overeating, gambling, compulsive ... Views: 3574
Do You Understand Detachment?
I’m off at 6 in the morning for golf, so an early blog!
For years, I have heard about detachment, often loving detachment. As the child of an alcoholic who went on to be a practicing addict in several areas, it is not a term I understood, particularly with ... Views: 1091
Treatment for people with addiction problems, particularly in a residential rehab, is notoriously expensive. The fees for such treatments often run into thousands of pounds or dollars a month. Unfortunately, most people who have addiction problems cannot afford such expensive treatments, and ... Views: 1649
Can You Confess? And Why?
One day this week, I had a response to a blog about being honest with yourself in taking a personal inventory. It was great to get a response; it’s nice to know someone actually reads what I write. The response was about being a former Catholic and the real ... Views: 742
For a long time I thought I was on a run of bad luck!
My wife had left me, friends were pulling away, and nothing seemed to come together at work, not to mention I never won the lottery or even a lucky draw?
Ever had that feeling?? Just plain bad luck.
It’s funny after I decided to seek ... Views: 765
While it is probable that no one consciously sets out to create a life of substance abuse, those who end up addicted to substances are choosing certain thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors that will likely end up leading to some form of substance abuse - drugs, alcohol, nicotine, food, junk food, ... Views: 3249
I get a chance to go to some very interesting meetings with some very bright people. All should understand you meet very bright people in recovery programs; they were smart enough to do something about their living problems.
Today a person stated that during his “dark” days, he has ... Views: 709
When I used to drink years ago I assumed I'd always drink---my entire life. I liked it so much. I depended on alcohol and didn't want to think about ending my relationship with drinking. But after several years of drinking with the boyfriends and losing relationship after relationship it ... Views: 2649
What a great reminder tonight, and it tied in to closing off my personal inventory.
I, like many others, had secrets buried deep inside of me that I honestly thought I die with. No one ever had to know.
Today I am aware that these secrets caused guilt and shame daily, and some I had buried so ... Views: 1123
Treatment works. However, getting the individual to treatment is easier said than done. The exact nature of their problem may not be readily identifiable and those who could help are too close to the problem to be helpful. Family members, corporate colleagues and most clergy are not in the ... Views: 2180
I have spent 29 years as a technical researcher facilitating healings on a variety of illnesses. In the beginning, my understanding of“energy” was strictly that taught in engineering school. There was no mention of energy associated with the human body.
Those of us studying energy today view ... Views: 4231
It was a very interesting day yesterday. A day where I had a wonderful opportunity to lunch with a psychiatrist associate, then golf with a business coach I have known for years, but never had the opportunity to spend one on one time with.
Upon reflection this morning, and looking at what has ... Views: 753
I have been journaling, and posting my journal as a blog for some time. Why?
I am a member of a group of coaches who can be found at Big Life.ws, and have been part of a share group about blogging. I am trying to put into practice what others are telling me about blogging. I look for the input ... Views: 728
POWERLESS. WHO ME?
I’ve got a friend going for wedding #3 tomorrow, I’m best(questionable) man, and pre-wedding golf game. Thus an early post!
It’s been a day to really think about powerlessness.
Years ago, I came to realize that I was powerless over my addictions, and my ... Views: 870
The Internet is starting to take over our lives. We can shop, bank, find a dentist, read the newspaper, date and watch exercise videos all online. So what about addiction recovery? In our information-on-demand type of society it was inevitable that people would begin looking online for their ... Views: 1151
Technology Addiction? Tomorrows Pot?
There is no doubt that during the later part of my life, technology in communications has exploded. Is it good or bad, and how many are becoming addicted? I’ve certainly had some comments about this on the Big Life web site in my Free From Addictions ... Views: 850
Another weekend over, and some very good reminders and perspectives.
I was very fortunate to get three golf games in on three days, and to have a chance to do something nice for my dear old mother.
Friday we had a good buddy down from Peterborough. He is a great athlete, about my age, and has ... Views: 765
I've started to realize that waiting is an art, that waiting achieves things. Waiting can be very, very powerful. Time is a valuable thing. If you can wait two years, you can sometimes achieve something that you could not achieve today, however hard you worked, however much money you threw up in ... Views: 728
Gambling caught me by surprise.
i was ignorant.
i had no idea what was happening.
i ALWAYS gambled compulsively..when i gambled...but...I rarely gambled.
we took the occasional trip to Las Vegas... but when gambling came to my town I rarely did it.
Sometimes the family would go...on ... Views: 1235
It’s been said that drug use is a “victimless crime,” but for methamphetamine addicts, it’s certainly not true—especially for those with children in their homes.
Many users of methamphetamine—a.k.a. “meth”—manufacture the drug in makeshift, homemade “labs,” using ingredients that can be easily ... Views: 1338
Well, we are coming to the end of the first good weather (supposedly) long weekend of the year. For my American friends, we celebrate “Victoria Day” the weekend ahead of Memorial Day, a tie to our British roots.
I feel for those with cottages and those who are campers. If people were ... Views: 768
With a smile on my face, I say, “will restore us to sanity”! It’s Sunday, and for the second day in a row, I headed to the golf course with anticipation. For the second day in a row, it began to rain part way through the golf game. For the second day in a row, I finished the ... Views: 868
An individual I know recently decided that she was going to kick the cigarette habit after a lifetime of smoking. She had made several attempts to quit in the past, but no matter what she tried, she always seemed to fail. It was after she realized that she had to change her frame of mind that ... Views: 777
This article will help you to maximize your recovery and performance in every aspects of your life, especially, in handling stress, the loss of relationships, jobs, and all destructive coping choices.
When we are young we seem to have boundless energy to enjoy life. As we grow older and ... Views: 1236
It’s always interesting to see what a difference 24 hours can make, even two hours.
I am a life transformation coach, coach based on many of the principles Eckhart Tolle put forth in A New Earth, I have a strong spiritual foundation, have helped many others, have been addiction free for a ... Views: 894
The chemicals in cigarettes make it very difficult for smokers to quit for good. There are also mental attachments that make it very easy for people to relapse.
Many people will have to try many times before they are able to finally quit smoking. Others will never be able to give it up, while ... Views: 1289
A real true friend sent this to me. She is going through a lot with a husband who is unfortunately being taken slowly by cancer. Patti is hanging in, hanging on, and despite all that is happening to her and around her, she is so often there for others.
This small piece of prose is part of her ... Views: 5671
Could you recognize the stages of alcoholism in yourself, your friends, or your family members? If you are concerned that someone you know has an alcohol problem, then just knowing the four alcoholism stages could enable you to help that person quit drinking, and may even help you save their ... Views: 2037
I must admit that I missed A New Earth and Eckhart Tolle on web cast last night. I don’t miss Oprah, even though she did a good job. The things that I found in A New Earth, particularly as they apply to addiction recovery, life coaching and transformation, and awakening spiritually are ... Views: 735
Here are five tips that I have received from people who are struggling with binge eating disorder. When I was bingeing I used some of these exact tips. The tricks really helped to curb a binge or two. Try them out ad let me know how they work out for you.
1. Become a vegan.
I’ve heard ... Views: 1592