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- Helpful Tips On What To Buy For Pepper Spray - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2007 from Jared KelleyPepper Spray: When buying pepper spray the things that need to be looked at are the scoville heat units, percentage of pepper and oleoresin from capsicum plants. Remember mace is a name brand not a pepper spray. The product is as equal as any other name brand other than the components in it. ...
Views: 3599 - Avoiding Your Abuser - The Conflictive Posture - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2007 from Sam VakninThere is nothing special about the body language or behavior patterns of the abuser. If your abuser is a narcissist, his pathology is evident on first sight (read "How to Recognize a Narcissist"). But not all abusers are narcissists. Regrettably, most victims find themselves trapped long before ...
Views: 1247 - Avoiding Your Abuser - The Submissive Posture - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2007 from Sam VakninThere is nothing special about the body language or behavior patterns of the abuser. If your abuser is a narcissist, his pathology is evident on first sight (read "How to Recognize a Narcissist"). But not all abusers are narcissists. Regrettably, most victims find themselves trapped long before ...
Views: 1537 - The Abuser in Denial - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2007 from Sam VakninAbusers regularly deny the abuse ever took place – or rationalize their abusive behaviors. Denial is an integral part of the abuser's ability to "look at himself/herself in the mirror". There are many types of denial. When confronted by his victims, most abusers tend to shift blame or avoid the ...
Views: 1396 - Are You Enabling Addiction In The One You Love? The Role of Enabler - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2007 from Bill UrellUnfortunately, many times, a loved one actually is enabling addiction through their well intentioned desire to help the addict or alcoholic. How does this occur? Consider the role of the addict; their intention is to continue the using behavior at all costs. What better way to continue that ...
Views: 2031 - 3 Sure-fire Ways to Reduce Pain and Speed Healing - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2007 from Steve HefferonThe last time I gave advice to a bodybuilder was in 1981. I was a freshman in high school, and I told a friend's brother to "slow down his reps." I thought that was good information, seeing as how I had just read it in article by Arnold Schwarzenegger. Well, this guy put the weight down and ...
Views: 1229 - Understanding How You May Be Enabling Addiction in Someone You Care About - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2007 from Bill UrellThere are many people who suffer from addictions, and in some cases their loved ones actually enable the addiction because they want to help. Sure, you want to help the one you love to overcome addiction, but you definitely to not want to enable the addiction any further. Take a minute to think ...
Views: 5398 - The Guilt of the Abused - Pathologizing the Victim - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2007 from Sam VakninIt is telling that precious few psychology and psychopathology textbooks dedicate an entire chapter to abuse and violence. Even the most egregious manifestations – such as child sexual abuse – merit a fleeting mention, usually as a sub-chapter in a larger section dedicated to paraphilias or ...
Views: 2457 - Why Answer The Question, "Am I In An Abusive Relationship?" - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2007 from Jeanne KingWarning! This article will either turn you upside down or be the angel that keeps you on your feet, or both. Each time I go into a chat room on the Internet, in which the topic is abusive relationships, I hear the question: “My boyfriend pushes me to the wall and braces me there. Is this ...
Views: 724 - Can People Change - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2007 from Peter WeldonToday's Sermon - Can People Change - by Facilitator Peter Copyright © 2004 - 2007 Facilitator Peter All Rights Reserved A baby that is born will never be more than the baby’s natural capability. This is God’s structural law providing the fetus was not damaged and if damaged, ...
Views: 1324 - The Gradations of Abuse - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2007 from Sam VakninIs sexual abuse worse than emotional abuse? Is verbal abuse less deleterious than physical abuse (beatings)? Somehow, the professional literature implies that there is a hierarchy with sexual mistreatment at its nadir. It is rare to hear about a dissociative identity disorder ("multiple ...
Views: 906 - Victim Reaction to Abuse by Narcissists and Psychopaths - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2007 from Sam VakninPersonality disorders are not only all-pervasive, but also diffuse and shape-shifting. It is taxing and emotionally harrowing to watch how a loved one is consumed by these pernicious and largely incurable conditions. Victims adopt varying stances and react in different ways to the inevitable ...
Views: 1563 - What is it like to be a multiple personality - by It is not a mental illness. It is, instead, the results of a psychological mechanism initiated in childhood to survive trauma and/or abuse. Operating far below consciousness, the child is not aware of the changes that are occurring in its psyche. In most cases, these children will live long and ...
Views: 1431 - 10 Feng Shui Tips for your Office to Boost your Prosperity - by Feng Shui (fung-shway) is the study of arranging your environment to enhance your life. Every minute of every day your environment is either supporting you or draining you. Feng Shui teaches you to join forces with your environment to make living your best life effortless.
Not only does your ...
Views: 13540(2 votes) - All 12 Steppers Need Original Source Material - by No matter what 12 Step group you belong to, or what addiction/dysfunction you're dealing with, it's imperative you use the original 12 Step source material as well as whatever literature your group provides.
The 12 Step Movement continues to grow, addressing all sorts of issues. Unfortunately, ...
Views: 1185 - Gratitude is Empowering for 12 Steppers! - by You've heard it at meetings, "Have an attitude of gratitude."
It's one of those sayings that gets tossed around and is often greeted with a moan or rolled eyes because it sounds so sappy. Often the mind-set behind the resistance goes something like this:
"Ok, sure, I'm grateful that I'm ...
Views: 1548 - Stop the Negative Self-Talk - by Have you ever listened to what you're telling yourself? You know, those almost unconscious mental messages you give yourself all the time as you move through your daily life.
Take a moment and listen to what you're saying to you. What sort of messages are you sending to yourself? How would you ...
Views: 1093 - Surviving Betrayal Requires a Leap of Faith! - by I define a betrayal as any experience, even one that should be insignificant, that produces ongoing resentment, anger, fear and helplessness. Has someone you trusted deeply ever betrayed you? Have you betrayed someone you love? We may rage and punish ourselves and the other, or deny the pain, ...
Views: 3163 - Taming the Beast - Improving the Narcissist's Quality of Life (Part 2) - by In the previous part we discussed the healing prospects of a Narcissist. yet, how can a False Self be anything but false? How can anyone on a permanent diet of reflections ever see true objects? How can the Narcissist - whose essence is the devouring of meaningful others and their transformation ...
Views: 2737 - Taming the Beast - Improving the Narcissist's Quality of Life (Part 1) - by Many textbooks (and many patients ...) claim that the psychodynamic therapies when applied to personality disorders are ineffective. Functional (cognitive, behavioral) treatments should be preferred in certain cases and regarding certain aspects of the disorder.
To a Narcissist, I would ...
Views: 2103 - Rebuilding Relationships with Your Family - by Tips for Gaining Back Trust and Intimacy with Parents and Family Members
Relationships with family members can be fraught with problems and complications. These are the people you can't easily run away from. Yet you might not always want to be around them either. We want to be close to our ...
Views: 10991 - How To Change Bad Habits - by Let's say you have a bad habit. You continually do the bad habit. Your bad habit is cemented in. What do you say to yourself about the bad habit? *That's just the way I am.* *I'll never change.* *This is the way my life will be from now on.* *I can't change. This is how my friends see me. If I ...
Views: 3479 - What Are You Doing In Front Of Your Children? - by Kids mimic their parents, even if they don't understand what is going on. What are you doing in front of your children?
Do you want to be spontaneous in the act of making love, and does that mean in front of the kids? Regardless of the consequences?
And what are the consequences? This, ...
Views: 2642 - After The Fall - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2007 from Johnny MorneyLife has sent me more than what I consider my fair share of stumbling blocks my way over the years . My great friend and mentor Les Browns says “When you fall try to land on your back because if you can look up, you can get up. But the problem is most of the time the fall is totally ...
Views: 1111 - Communicate with Kids about Drugs - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2007 from Jane NelsenCommunicate with Kids about Drugs an excerpt from the book, Positive Discipline for Parenting in Recovery, by Jane Nelsen, Riki Intner, and Jane Nelsen Recovering parents know first hand the realities and dangers of using drugs and alcohol. The last thing they want is for their kids to go ...
Views: 1335 - Are you Addicted to Bad Relationships? - by Do you often find that you involve yourself in relationships that disappoint you? Are you not getting what you need and desire from the people you choose to date? Does there always seem to be something missing? If you answered yes to one or all of those questions, you could very well be addicted ...
Views: 2654 - After Abuse: The Challenging Work of Forging Healthy Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2007 from Lauri Allison LaBadieMany people have done the tough work of recovery from sexual abuse, whether with help in therapy or on one’s own. It challenges us to the core, but it also frees us, and gives life and possibility where we once felt that we might never get through it. For some, getting into a relationship, or ...
Views: 7294 - Tooth Truth - by Getting to the root cause of a physical symptom can be a lot like pulling teeth. In my case, it involved literally pulling a tooth….
There was no apparent reason for the eruption of my left upper eye tooth in 1987. It had been crowned along with its neighboring teeth the year I first teamed ...
Views: 1152 - Transcending: Turning Pain into Poetry - by Writing poetry based in personal experience gives us a chance to focus on small, manageable pieces of past events and transform them into art. When we turn our painful memories into poetry, we remember our experiences, validate them and examine them from a new perspective. As we write, we ...
Views: 1781 - Bulimia/Anorexia and Compulsive Overeating:When Family and Friends Don't Get It - by Often a person with an eating disorder covers her pain so well that even when she tells the truth about her suffering, people don't believe her. They think she is exaggerating, overreacting, in a mood that will pass.
She can look so good or so happy that people who love her and think they know ...
Views: 1162 - Graceful Guidlines for Sexual Healing - by Graceful Guidelines for Sexual Healing
Michael Picucci, PhD, MAC
The article below contains extractions from The Journey Toward Complete Recovery: Reclaiming Your Emotional, Spiritual & Sexual Wholeness. It has appeared in more condensed and more expanded versions in various spiritual, ...
Views: 2752 - Changing the Way we Look at Drugs - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2007 from Linda WielandA commentary on the 2007 World Drug Report from the United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime by Keith Code The 2007 World Drug Report released this week by the United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime, has good news for everyone fighting the war on drugs - the "run away train of drug addiction ...
Views: 1444(1 vote) - Myth of Silence - by Submitted on May 26, 2011 from Gail OKeeffeMyth of Silence Silence as a survival tool. Generations of children have been sexually abused. It was done to them in secret and they remain silent. Not talking about the painful childhood experiences has been a survival tool. The shame and secrecy that surrounds sexual abuse of ...
Views: 1435(1 vote) - The Nurturer - Sabotager - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2007 from Jay KrunszyinskyYou love your partner very much. You want to please him at all costs. You will go out of your way to create the perfect life for him by reducing or eliminating all of his stress and pressures of life. What can be wrong with helping people and ensuring that peace and harmony exists wherever ...
Views: 5115 - A New Perception for Healing Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2007 from Marilyn RedmondIt is time to treat the whole person including emotional and subconscious aspects originating domestic violence and move beyond the current theory of behavioral and book solutions. When treating the whole person results are effective and long term, not the usual shallow help. Growing into ...
Views: 1771 - ADVICE FOR PARENTS & TEACHERS - by Recent statistics show that:
1 out of 4 kids is Bullied.
1 out of 5 kids admits to being a bully, or doing some "Bullying."
8% of students miss 1 day of class per month for fear of Bullies.
43% fear harassment in the bathroom at school.
100,000 students carry a gun to school.
28% of ...
Views: 1081(2 votes) - Hostages of Sexual Abuse - by Submitted on May 26, 2011 from Gail OKeeffeSexual abuse is a life altering experience that impacts on many aspects of your life daily. I liken it to being held hostage with a gun to your head. You spend your days trying to prevent the gun from going off. This may be a graphic description for some; however, if you have experienced ...
Views: 1951 - Music For Tragic Times: Tuning In to Recovery - by I was fortunate to be with family, though far from my home in Los Angeles, when tragedy struck last week. An old friend pulled me aside at the end of that long day when we were raw with terror. "Do you know what I did this morning, after I saw the news, to cope?" asked Bonnie. "I turned off the ...
Views: 1387 - How to Break Free From Abuse - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2007 from Piercarla GarusiDear Friend, I would like to share with you something I learned from personal experience – I was emotionally and mentally abused for about 15 years in my childhood – in the hope it will be of help to you in your journey to freedom, healing and happiness. And you will get there, that is for ...
Views: 3311 - Understanding Worthiness - by It is obvious that we are in a time of change. With all of the changes occuring in the world we should not be surprised when the doors of change open in our own personal life. When my doors opened I was very afraid. At first I didn't recognize them as doors of oppurtunity, I thought my whole ...
Views: 1114 - YOU DIDN’T CAUSE IT, YOU CAN’T CURE IT, AND YOU CAN’T CONTROL IT - by When someone we care about is in danger, it is only natural to want to do something. Our hand reaches out automatically when a loved one loses their balance and is about to fall. Parents, understanding they are protecting their teen from the consequences of facing the world on their own, tap ...
Views: 13225 - CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS: RISKS AND RECOVERY - by Many children of alcoholics (COAs) leave the family they grew up in vowing “I will never become an alcoholic like my father/mother” Or, I will never marry an alcoholic.” Many do become alcoholic. Many do marry alcoholics. Very many suffer in adulthood from self-defeating patterns resulting from ...
Views: 2607 - ONE DRINK IS TOO MANY AND A THOUSAND IS NOT ENOUGH - by Whenever one hundred Americans are gathered together, twenty to twenty-five of them will have been affected by alcoholism. On any given day, one out of four hospital patients in the United States are hospitalized due directly to alcoholism or complications related to it. As a result of the ...
Views: 8417(1 vote) - TURN OFF THE MEDIA VIOLENCE - by If a stranger came to your door and said, "Hello, I'd like to come in. I promise to keep your kids entertained and while I'm doing that I'm going to show them graphic pictures of violence and murder and rape." What would you do? Would you open the door and say, "Great, come on it. Hey kids, ...
Views: 2427 - Rebuilding Trust - by How long did it take you to build, and what did it take to build it?
Picture it as a structure, a building of sorts. What purpose does that structure serve? Can you consult others to help you build that structure exactly the way you want it? What materials will you use to build it? Wouldn't ...
Views: 3486 - The Daily Homework - by Submitted on May 31, 2007 from Harry HenshawWe learn much of what we learn initially through repetitious exposure. It is by becoming present to something repeatedly that space is created for us to learn anew. It is by taking that which we are exposed to and bringing it forth into our life, committing it to action, that we begin to change ...
Views: 2231 - How to Diffuse Hostile or Aggressive Behavior - by The hands of the clock (tha pages of the calendar) are going faster than we would like. How in the world am I going to finish this -- in time? How am I going to get through all this traffic -- in time? How am I going to be able to pay my bills -- in time?
I'm dreading class tomorrow. I have to ...
Views: 2025 - After Abuse: The Challenging Work of Forging Healthy Relationships - by Submitted on May 31, 2007 from Lauri Allison LaBadieMany people have done the tough work of recovery from sexual abuse, whether with help in therapy or on one’s own. It challenges us to the core, but it also frees us, and gives life and possibility where we once felt that we might never get through it. For some, getting into a relationship, or ...
Views: 1316(1 vote) - What To Do If Your Child Is Being Sexually Exploited On The Internet - by Discovering that your child is being sexually exploited through the internet is a highly traumatic experience for both parent and child. Your child may be panicking, frightened that they have done wrong and will be punished, so much so that it may be hard to get any information from them. ...
Views: 1784 - You Are Responsible For Who You Become - by You are not responsible for the background and circumstances that may have influenced who you are, but you are responsible for who you become.
As I have said before, “we need to learn from our mistakes.” Not only that, but we need to learn from others mistakes. All to often I hear people say, ...
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