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- Summary Of The Company She Keeps - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2008 from Georgia DuranteModel, Mafia Wife, Mother, and Stunt Driver—has packed a lifetime of lessons into forty-eight years. This is the true story of one of Hollywood’s most successful female commercial stunt drivers. A woman who can dominate a two-ton vehicle at high speeds, but off road has careened from one ...
Views: 1626 - A Voice For The Oppressed! - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2008 from Biancia TateOppress-to weigh heavily on the mind of; worry. to keep down by the cruel or unjust use of authority. Oppression-physical or mental distress. Bless- to consecrate with blood; to make holy. To ask divine favor for; to endow; to make happy; to praise. Jesus said in His Word the following ...
Views: 1109 - How To Release Addictions And Bad Habits With Ease And Grace - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2009 from Bill AustinThese are practices that I do whenever I am trying to release a pattern that no longer serves my highest good. I am using smoking as an example but you can fill in any other habit instead of smoking like drinking, drugs and other addictive behaviors. It is easier to release old patterns and ways ...
Views: 4019(1 vote) - What Is Family Of Origin Work? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Lisa KiftI've been asked this question enough times that I decided to expand on the topic in this article. Therapists will likely have slightly different interpretations of what it is - and how to go about doing the therapy work itself. My definition of "family of origin work" in it's simplest form is, ...
Views: 7075 - Why Go Off Track With An Attack; It’s Really A Lack. - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2009 from Ewa SchwarzUnderstanding what happens when a person verbally attacks is the key to knowing how to respond to them. The hardest situations are ones where there have been ongoing attacks for a long period of time. We all know this by its common name, verbal abuse. There are two sides that we need to look at ...
Views: 1356 - Statistics Of Abuse And Stalking - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2008 from Sam VakninBefore we proceed to outline the psychological profile of the stalker, it is important to try and gauge the extent of the problem by quantifying its different manifestations. More plainly, studying the available statistics is both enlightening and useful. Contrary to common opinion, there has ...
Views: 1664 - Coping with Your Stalker - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2008 from Sam VakninAbuse by proxy continues long after the relationship is officially over (at least as far as you are concerned). The majority of abusers get the message, however belatedly and reluctantly. Others – more vindictive and obsessed – continue to haunt their ex-spouses for years to come. ...
Views: 1711 - Isolation, A Bully's Most Harmful Weapon - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2008 from ABC AntiBullyingCrusador"Work place bullying and mobbing" is a little known phenomenon in the United States but is well known and addressed on many levels in several other countries, primarily The United Kingdom. Although most people in the United States are unfamiliar with the terms "work place bullying and mobbing" ...
Views: 20917(1 vote) - The Broken Spirit - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2008 from Biancia TateMy name is Biancia Tate and I am the founder of The Hope Network whose mission is to provide educational support, hope and healing to survivors of trauma and/or crisis. Within the Hope Network, I have created The Hope Center which is full of spiritual resources for those who have or are ...
Views: 4159 - Hope ! - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2008 from Biancia TateI have a passion and that is hope! Hope is an expectation of something desired and the thing that gives or object of this feeling. Since 911, hope has been much in demand but low on supply because, that which one placed their hope in prior to 911 has disappointed them. Some of these things ...
Views: 932(1 vote) - Interacting With Your Abuser - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2008 from Sam VakninHaving chosen your team of consultants and experts – and having hired their services – relegate any inevitable contact with your abusive ex – when and where possible – to professionals: your lawyer, or your accountant. Work with these qualified third parties to extricate yourself and your loved ...
Views: 1426 - The Power Of Loving Touch - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2008 from Paul VinczeIn 2000 I had eye surgery, please imagine if you will being strapped onto a table so you are unable to move, you are fully awake your eye is taped open and you see a large machine over your head. To say the least I was a little stressed. My body was tense my heart rate was high and my breathing ...
Views: 1436 - “Survivor To Thriver”: Healing The Impact Of Childhood Abuse - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2008 from Lauri Allison LaBadieHealing the impact of childhood abuse is a difficult yet hopeful process. If you were physically or sexually abused as a child, you may often feel fragmented, confused, vulnerable, and somewhat chaotic inside. You may have difficulty with trust and intimacy in your relationships, and your ...
Views: 2181 - Ten Resolutions To Get Out of Abuse - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2008 from Lisa Peck1-I will believe in my value and worth as a person. 2- I will take time weekly to learn about the dynamics of abuse. 3- I will tell at least one trusted person about my situation and ask for support. 4- I will become familiar with my local law agencies, and their procedures to help victims. 5- I ...
Views: 888 - Alcohol Detox Programs; How They Work - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2008 from Terje EllingsenAll across the United States, people are looking to regain control through alcohol detox programs. It is fortunate that we live in a country where there are so many public and private agencies looking out for the welfare of society. These programs are known to be very effective when people ...
Views: 1253 - Contracting With Your Abuser - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2008 from Sam VakninHow can one negotiate with an abuser without incurring his wrath? What is the meaning of contracts "signed" with bullies? How can one motivate the abuser to keep his end of the bargain – for instance, to actually seek therapy and attend the sessions? And how efficacious is psychotherapy or ...
Views: 945 - Reforming The Abuser - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2008 from Sam VakninHow to get your abuser to see reason in the first place? How to obtain for him the help he needs – without involving law enforcement agencies, the authorities, or the courts? Any attempt to broach the subject of the abuser's mental problems frequently ends in harangues and worse. It is ...
Views: 966 - Living With A Narcissist - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2007 from Stacy Kamala WaltmanEmotional Intelligence (EI), Narcissism and Private versus Secret As is often the case, what comes up for one of my clients tends to be a recurring theme for just about everyone I coach during certain periods of time and, as luck would have it, I lived with and was engaged to a ...
Views: 10934(1 vote) - Dangerous Dieting - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2007 from VicToria FreudigerThe Escape Artists that hide their Dangerous Dieting: "Needing some true research," April explained to me. I'm sure it'll bring back memories, but still it would be helpful to us if you think you can do it." "Well, of course, I can do it!" The time for this particular event was 1988, I ...
Views: 1265 - "Humility Is Not Thinking Less About Yourself, But Rather Thinking About Yourself Less." - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2007 from Michael ZOh, how the ego rebels against the thought of humility. "If I'm humble, I'll be a nothing. I'll vanish! I must be distinguished, different, better than! Only by standing out will I have an identity," it screams. We in recovery have felt the stinging reprisals from our fellows when we listened to ...
Views: 5578 - The Anomaly Of Abuse - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2007 from Sam VakninIs abuse anomalous – or an inevitable part of human nature? If the former – is it the outcome of flawed genetics, nurture (environment and upbringing) – or both? Can it be "cured" – or merely modified, regulated, and accommodated? There are three groups of theories – three schools – regarding ...
Views: 903 - Condoning Abuse - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2007 from Sam VakninStatistics show that intimate partner abuse, including domestic violence, has declined by one half in the last decade in the United States. Jay Silverman and Gail Williamson demonstrated in "Social Ecology and Entitlements Involved in Battering by Heterosexual College Males" (published in ...
Views: 868 - The Mind Of The Abuser - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2007 from Sam VakninTo embark on our exploration of the abusive mind, we first need to agree on a taxonomy of abusive behaviours. Methodically observing abuse is the surest way of getting to know the perpetrators. Abusers appear to be suffering from dissociation (multiple personality). At home, they are ...
Views: 1140 - The Dynamics Of Spousal Abuse - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2007 from Sam VakninImportant Comment Most abusers are men. Still, some are women. We use the masculine and feminine adjectives and pronouns ('he", his", "him", "she", her") to designate both sexes: male and female as the case may be. It takes two to tango – and an equal number to sustain a long-term abusive ...
Views: 1083 - Learn About Work Place Bully And Mobbing Today - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2007 from ABC AntiBullyingCrusadorVery few people in Connecticut are familiar with the terms “Work Place Bully and Mobbing” although according to the Workplace Bullying Institute’s - Zogby survey on workplace bullying, this problem is of epidemic proportions affecting 49% of workers nationally. Workplace bullying ...
Views: 4883 - Restraining Orders and Peace Bonds - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2007 from Sam VakninIf you want the nightmare to end, there is a rule of thumb which requires courage and determination to implement: Involve the courts whenever possible. In many countries, the first step is to obtain a restraining order from a civil court as part of your divorce or custody proceedings or as a ...
Views: 1478 - Getting Law Enforcement Authorities and the Police Involved - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2007 from Sam VakninIf you want the nightmare to end, there is a rule of thumb which requires courage and determination to implement: Involve the police whenever possible. Report his crimes as soon as you can and make sure you retain a copy of your complaint. Your abuser counts on your fear of him and on your ...
Views: 970 - Planning and Executing Your Getaway - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2007 from Sam VakninDo not leave unprepared. Study and execute every detail of your getaway. This is especially important if your partner is violent. Be sure to make a Safety Plan – how to get out of the house unnoticed and the indispensable minimum items that you should carry with you, even on a short ...
Views: 809 - The Human Struggle Acutely Described - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2007 from Chuck BarbarowReducing Society's Dilemma to the Ultimate Basic Fundamental truth.. The ultimate truth cannot be " figured out " by the human mind ..it must be observed through the Human consciousness.. when you can see this and experience you can accept this at an extraordinary elevated level of ...
Views: 3135 - Psychological Abuse - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2007 from Gary DirenfeldPsychological Abuse Psychological abuse leaves the victim blaming herself and questioning her own perceptions over the behaviour of the abusive partner and it can start very insidiously. Psychological abuse occurs when one’s feelings, thoughts, preferences, desires, needs, appearance or ...
Views: 1423 - Domestic Violence Shelters - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2007 from Sam VakninShelters are run, funded, and managed either by governments or by volunteer non-government organisations. According to a 1999 report published by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, there are well over 2000 groups involved in sheltering abused women and their off-spring. Before ...
Views: 1076 - Getting Help - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2007 from Sam VakninThis article is meant to be a general guide to seeking and finding help. It does not contain addresses, contacts, and phone numbers. It is not specific to one state or country. Rather, it describes options and institutions which are common the world over. You should be the one to "fill in the ...
Views: 1053 - The Three Forms of Closure - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2007 from Sam VakninFor her traumatic wounds to heal, the victim of abuse requires closure - one final interaction with her tormentor in which he, hopefully, acknowledges his misbehaviour and even tenders an apology. Fat chance. Few abusers - especially if they are narcissistic - are amenable to such weakling ...
Views: 845 - The Three Forms Of Closure - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2007 from Sam VakninFor her traumatic wounds to heal, the victim of abuse requires closure - one final interaction with her tormentor in which he, hopefully, acknowledges his misbehaviour and even tenders an apology. Fat chance. Few abusers - especially if they are narcissistic - are amenable to such weakling ...
Views: 871 - Enduring Narcissism, Addictions, And Abuse In Silence To Avoid Appearing Ungrateful - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2007 from Diane England,Some women endure their husbands’ narcissism, addictions, and abuse silently because they believe they have no right to complain. They realize they are living lives that so many other women only dream about. Really, do they dare express any dissatisfaction and thus come across as ...
Views: 9676 - Psychological Abuse - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2007 from Gary DirenfeldPsychological Abuse Psychological abuse leaves the victim blaming herself and questioning her own perceptions over the behaviour of the abusive partner and it can start very insidiously. Psychological abuse occurs when one’s feelings, thoughts, preferences, desires, needs, appearance or ...
Views: 946 - Tips For Recognizing Alcoholism - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2007 from Terje EllingsenIn this article I will will discuss signs to be aware of if you suspect that a friend, family member or yourself have alcohol problems. But first let's make clear what we mean by 'alcoholism': "a chronic disorder characterized by dependence on alcohol, repeated excessive use of alcoholic ...
Views: 824 - Alcohol Or Drug Addiction; Some Questions And Answers - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2007 from Terje EllingsenAlcohol or drug addiction affect more than just the person suffering the addiction. The situation also harms the people who care for the addicted person, such as family, friends… even coworkers are affected. In this article, we hope to offer some helpful information concerning drug addiction ...
Views: 1080 - Tell Your Children The Truth - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2007 from Sam VakninMost victims attempt to present to their children a "balanced" picture of the relationship and of the abusive spouse. In a vain attempt to avoid the notorious (and controversial) Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS), they do not besmirch the abusive parent and, on the contrary, encourage the ...
Views: 968 - "What Other People Think Of Me Is None Of My Business." - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2007 from Michael ZHow much of my time have I spent worrying about what other people think of me? Too much is the short answer. Before recovery in Al-Anon, I had no boundaries, no sense of self, and how I felt about myself and my life was largely determined by whether or not you approved. With no internal ...
Views: 6389 - Leveraging The Children - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2007 from Sam VakninThe abuser often recruits his children to do his bidding. He uses them to tempt, convince, communicate, threaten, and otherwise manipulate his target, the children's other parent or a devoted relative (e.g., grandparents). He controls his - often gullible and unsuspecting - offspring exactly as ...
Views: 1030 - "When One Door Closes, Another Opens, But It's Hell In The Hallways." - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2007 from Michael ZBoy do we hate change. Before recovery I had few tools or healthy ways of dealing with change. If something ended in my life, it often felt like the end of my life. Once I entered the hallway, it was dark indeed. As I worked through recovery, I learned many valuable life lessons. The first was ...
Views: 7565 - Signs of Emotional Abuse: Friend Or Foe? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2007 from Jeanne King, PhDDid you know the signs of emotional verbal abuse are your friends if you recognize them for what they are? An adult survivor of severe childhood abuse by her natural father plotted with her sister (also abused) to kill their parents in cold blood. The mother, who watched the children being ...
Views: 4379 - Abuse By Proxy - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2007 from Sam VakninIf all else fails, the abuser recruits friends, colleagues, mates, family members, the authorities, institutions, neighbours, the media, teachers – in short, third parties – to do his bidding. He uses them to cajole, coerce, threaten, stalk, offer, retreat, tempt, convince, harass, communicate ...
Views: 1485 - Ambient Abuse - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2007 from Sam VakninAmbient abuse is the stealth, subtle, underground currents of maltreatment that sometimes go unnoticed even by the victims themselves, until it is too late. Ambient abuse penetrates and permeates everything – but is difficult to pinpoint and identify. It is ambiguous, atmospheric, diffuse. Hence ...
Views: 2240 - The Path to Abuse - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2007 from Sam VakninThe abuser mistreats only his closest – spouse, children, or (much more rarely) colleagues, friends, and neighbours. To the rest of the world, he appears to be a composed, rational, and functioning person. Abusers are very adept at casting a veil of secrecy – often with the active ...
Views: 946 - Do You Know Where To Buy A Crown For My Narcissistic Husband? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2007 from Diane England,Have you ever wanted to walk into a store and ask that question? I know there were days when I felt I might as well acquiesce and place a crown on the top of my husband’s head. It was so frustrating. I had married expecting a partnership, not to become his subject. I wasn’t knowledgeable about ...
Views: 4311(1 vote) - Self Defeating Beliefs & Behaviors - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2007 from Michael RymerWe are Known for doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results. Some call this addictive insanity, returning to past self-defeating behavior and thinking is a perfect example of addicitive insanity. This mind set can derail our recovery from self-defeating beliefs and ...
Views: 3403 - How To Spot An Abuser On Your First Date - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2007 from Sam VakninIs there anything you can do to avoid abusers and narcissists to start with? Are there any warning signs, any identifying marks, rules of thumb to shield you from the harrowing and traumatic experience of an abusive relationship? Imagine a first or second date. You can already tell if he is a ...
Views: 1083 - What You Must Know When Seeking Help For Domestic Abuse - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2007 from Jeanne King, PhDThe last thing an abused woman needs to hear while seeking safety from domestic violence is that she’s crazy. Unfortunately, however, this may be one of first things she learns from the evaluating mental health professional. The Battered Women’s Movement and Clinical Psychology are ...
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