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If a man was able to take a step back and reflect on his behaviour, he may soon find that he generally hides himself around others and rarely shows up. This will mean that his physical self will be seen but he will be estranged from his inner self.
As a result of this, the person who shows up ... Views: 241
If a man spends most of his life doing what he can to please others and his mother, in particular, it is going to mean that he is primarily focused on what is going on without. What is taking place within is rarely, if ever, going to something that he is aware of.
This is likely to mean that ... Views: 266
Firstly, a mother-enmeshed man will need to see that he is enmeshed, and, secondly, he will need to do something about it. It can be difficult for him to see that this is the case and doing something about it can be even harder.
If he had a physical problem, it would stand out and he would ... Views: 264
In order for a man to deal with an issue that he has, he will need to be aware of the issue; naturally, if he is not aware of it, it won’t be possible for him to do anything about it. The first step, then, if a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, will be for him to realise that this is ... Views: 279
It is incredibly important for a man to not only have the ability to say yes and no, but to really mean it when he says each word. Having this ability will allow him to listen to and protect himself.
However, if a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, he may find that he doesn’t know ... Views: 301
If a man is in a position where he is overly caught up in his mother’s life and neglects his own life as a result, he is unlikely to have much of a life. This is because most of his time and energy will be directed towards his mother.
However, although his life is unlikely to be very ... Views: 235
One thing that can cross a woman’s mind, that’s if she is in a relationship with a man who is entangled with his mother, is if he can see that he is not living his own life. By being on the outside, so to speak, she will be able to clearly see what is going on.
As opposed to putting his own ... Views: 241
If a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, he will look like an individual but that will probably be about as far as it will go. In general, he can act as though he is nothing more than an extension of his mother.
This can mean that a large part of his life will revolve around taking ... Views: 358
It can be hard for someone to understand why a man would be happy to focus on his mother’s needs and ignore his own. This could be something that his partner could find confusing, that’s if he has one.
Along with this, his mother could treat him badly and feel entitled to his attention and ... Views: 322
If a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, he is going to spend a lot of time being there for his mother and supporting her. It will be as if his sole purpose is to be there for her and to take care of her needs.
He could create the impression that he doesn’t have needs, or has a few ... Views: 286
Over the years, a woman may have been with a number of men who were too focused on their mothers. There is even the chance that she is currently with a man who is like this.
Assuming that she is currently single and not with a man who is like this, she could be well and truly fed up when it ... Views: 111
In order for a man’s life to be an expression of who he is, he will need to be both in touch with and to feel comfortable expressing himself. Being in touch with himself will involve being connected to his body and being aware of his needs, feelings, wants and preferences.
When it comes to ... Views: 279
It would be easy to say that if a man is enmeshed with his mother, it means that he will be a certain way. However, in the same way, that not everyone with depression will have the same experience, neither will a man who is in this position.
At the same time, all men who are in this position ... Views: 433
If a man is emotionally entangled with his mother and unable to live his own life, other people could end up commenting on his behaviour. This is something that his partner could do, assuming that he is in a relationship.
She could often tell him that although he spends a lot of time focusing ... Views: 284
One thing that a man could find, that’s if he was to get into a relationship, is that he is out of touch with how he feels. Prior to this, it might not have even occurred to him that he was this way.
This would have just been what was normal and he may have been this way for as long as he can ... Views: 266
Although a mother enmeshed man will have missed out on the love and nurturance that he needed very early on, it doesn’t mean that he will no longer have these childhood needs. No, these unmet needs will have stayed inside him and they will have a big effect on his life.
However, even though ... Views: 307
If a man is in a position where he is emotionally entangled with his mother, there is the chance that he is not even aware of this. This is likely to show that this is normal, which is why he is unable to see what is going on.
Focusing on his mother's needs and doing what he can to be there ... Views: 293
From the outside, a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother is likely to look as free as just about anyone else. He will then have the ability to behave however he wants to behave and to live the life that he wants to live.
At times, it could even appear as though he is in control of ... Views: 221
Even if a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, he will appear to be free to live his own life. Therefore, it will be hard for some people to accept that he doesn’t feel free deep down.
He will be a separate adult but he will feel as though he is nothing more than an extension of ... Views: 244
Although a man can come across as needless and create the impression that he is happy to be there for his mother, this is likely to be nothing more than a facade. The truth is that he will have needs and abandoning himself is going to causing him to suffer.
However, he will deny his own needs ... Views: 421
If a man is in a position where he is focused on his mother’s needs and neglects himself, it is going to show that he is out of touch with himself. However, how he lives will most likely be what is normal and thus, he probably won’t even realise that this is the case.
Based on how he ... Views: 304
As a result of the fact that a man is an individual, it will mean that he will be on this planet to live his own life. For this to take place, he will need to be in touch with his true self – his feelings, needs, and preferences – and feel comfortable enough to express these parts of ... Views: 361
What could stand out, if a man was to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he has felt responsible for his mother for as long as he can remember. He could see that this doesn’t just relate to her physical wellbeing but also relates to her happiness.
Therefore, he will feel the ... Views: 247
Even though a man is in a relationship, it doesn’t mean that his primary relationship will be with his partner. No, there can be someone else, and this person will take up a lot of his time and energy as a result.
What could come to mind at this point is that he is having an affair, with this ... Views: 294
For as long as a man can remember, he may see that he has had the need to focus on his mother and to take care of her needs. Nonetheless, this is unlikely to be something that he consciously thinks about, as it is likely to be something that just happens.
It will then be clear that he spends ... Views: 261
While both her son and his mother will be adults, he can have the need to essentially save his mother. It then won’t matter if he is not a doctor or a therapist, for instance, as he will do what he can to resolve all her issues.
Now, this could mean that his mother is deeply unwell and has ... Views: 267
What should be normal is for a man to be connected to his own needs and to do what he can to take care of them. But, if a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, what can be normal is for him to be connected to her needs and to do what he can to meet them.
Being there for her in this ... Views: 308
Now that a man is in a relationship, he may have the need for it to end and/or want to get as far away from his partner as he can. This is not to say that that he won’t like or even love her; it is due to the fact that he will feel trapped.
When he first started spending time with her, ... Views: 269
What a man may see is that he finds it difficult to express his needs and feelings when he is with his partner. When he is not around her, however, this might not be something that he struggles with.
If this is the case, he could struggle to understand why he is this way. Not only this, his ... Views: 265
Even though a man will have his own needs and feelings, he could generally be out of touch with what is taking place within him. These parts, along with his desires and preferences, will be connected to his true self.
Thus, if he is out of touch with what is going on within him and is ... Views: 217
When a mother is unable to see her son as an individual, she is going to have an issue with him living his own life. His purpose, as far as she is concerned, will be to be there for her and to take care of her needs.
Still, this is not to say that this is something that she will be ... Views: 225
Even if a man has the desire to connect with and develop a deeper connection with a woman, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to achieve this aim. So, if he has been able to connect with at least one woman, he might not have been able to take things further.
Then again, he might not have ... Views: 126
Over the years, a man may have been with a number of women who were anything but nurturing. These women may have undermined him in a variety of different ways and made his life a misery.
Once his time with one of these women came to an end, it might have taken him a number of months if not ... Views: 135
When a man is around a woman, he could typically lose himself. In other words, he won’t be in touch with and express his true self; no, he will end up putting on an act.
As a result of this, he can be easy-going, needless and have a strong need to please. By being this way, it is likely to be ... Views: 126
In general, a man could be easy-going, needless and do his best to please others. He is then rarely if ever going to assert himself, express his needs or disagree with what another person says.
But, although how he comes across won’t be a reflection of who he really is; he could believe that ... Views: 125
If a man was to look back on his life, he may see that he has often been drawn to women who are not available. In fact, he could find that he is primarily drawn to women like this and is rarely if ever is drawn to women who are available.
When it comes to the relationships that he’s had, ... Views: 363
In general, a man can be out of touch with how he feels and a number of his needs. He is then going to look like a whole human being, but he typically won’t operate like one.
As a result of this, it is going to be normal for him to ignore how he feels and overlook a number of his needs. But, ... Views: 60
Unsurprisingly, human beings need human connection in order to be at their best. This is something that will have an effect on someone’s mental, emotional and physical health.
The reason why it is not a surprise is that human beings are interdependent; they are not independent. This, however, ... Views: 558
Over the years, a man may have been with a number of women who were anything but loving. When he was with these women, he might have often been verbally put down, emotionally deprived and even physically harmed.
Thanks to this, he might not have a strong desire to be in another relationship. ... Views: 162
Even though a man can have the desire to be with a woman who is available, he might not believe that this is possible. The reason for this is that he may have been with a number of women who were not available.
In fact, he might have only been with women who were not available. Thanks to the ... Views: 77
What can be normal is for a man to only have the desire to share his body with a woman, nothing more nothing less. Then again, he might have the need to share his mind with her, but that could be about it.
Either way, this is likely to mean that he will only have casual encounters and will, ... Views: 71
Even though a man will be made up of both the masculine and the feminine, it doesn’t mean that this will stand out. He can typically come across as though he is only made up of one part.
This can mean that he will generally come across as easy-going, do what he can to please others, put up ... Views: 72
While a man will have needs, it doesn’t mean that he will always be aware of them. Moreover, when he is in tune with his needs, he could still be out of touch with a number of them.
As a result of this, he is likely to neglect most of his needs and this is going to have a negative effect on ... Views: 272
What a man may find, if he was to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he has the tendency to keep women at bay. Not only this, but when he is around them, he may find that he is usually anxious.
And, if he is not on edge, he could see that he loses touch with what is going on ... Views: 208
If a man was to step back and reflect on how he typically behaves when he is around a woman, what he may find is that he rarely shows up. Instead, this can be a time when he will come across as passive and easy-going.
Therefore, he won’t act as though he is an individual that has his own ... Views: 178
If a man is seeing or is in a relationship with a woman, he might not feel at ease and be able to let his guard down. This might not be because she has done something to make him question whether or not he can trust her, though.
No, he could just expect her to do something that will validate ... Views: 157
A man could often spend time thinking about what it would be like to be in a relationship, with this being a time when he feels good. This is not to say that he hasn’t been in one before, though.
If he has, he could see that when he has been in a relationship, he has felt whole and complete. ... Views: 276
If a man was to take a step back and reflect on how he behaves, he could find that he spends a lot of time doing things so that he can be enough. He could find that this doesn’t relate to being enough in general, it relates to being enough for a woman.
He could then spend a lot of time trying ... Views: 119
What a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that he doesn’t believe that he is enough for a woman. As a result of this, he might not have ever been in a relationship and, if he has, it might not have lasted for very long.
However, even if he is aware of this, it ... Views: 163
Although a man may have been treated like he was nothing and not given the love that he needed during his early years, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this now that he is an adult. Even so, how he was treated will have had a big impact on him.
The seeds that were planted will have grown ... Views: 288