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New View, New You, New Life - by Rob White5 Primal Principles of Communication - by Rob White- Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their True Self If Their Parents Lacked Empathy? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life is that they don’t have a good connection with how they feel or their needs. They could then see that their life is largely driven by their need to please others and what is ‘right’. Consequently, their life is not ...
Views: 1 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Stop Him From Breaking Away? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNot only can a man be focused on his mother but she can also expect him to be there for her and meet certain needs. From this, it will be clear that she can’t accept that he has his own needs and life to lead. Based on how she treats him, it will be as if he is her possession and thus, she ...
Views: 2 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Stop Him From Breaking Away? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man acts like an extension of his mother and is not living his own life, it is likely to show that something is not right. As he is separate from her and has his own needs and life to lead, he shouldn’t be behaving in this way. One way of looking at this would be to say that he needs to ...
Views: 3 - Emotional Birth: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Experiencing An Emotional Birth? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will have had a physical birth, it doesn’t mean that they had an emotional birth. When it comes to the former, this is something that would have taken place automatically. However, when it comes to the latter, this would have largely depended on how emotionally available ...
Views: 4 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Wouldn’t A Mother Enmeshed Man Realise That His Mother Lacks Empathy? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly focused on his mother and he is fed up with behaving in this way, he could talk to a friend or his girlfriend about what is going on. This can be a time when he will talk about how frustrated and drained he feels. After this, the person he talks to can be understanding and ...
Views: 5 - Label Yourself For The Good - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2024 from Noelle NelsonThe mind-body connection is real. It’s not just a cute phrase, the brain actually releases certain hormones and other chemicals in direct response to our thoughts: endorphins, for example, when we’re happy, cortisol when we’re stressed. These hormones and chemicals impact how we function, how we ...
Views: 6 - Mother Wounds: What Can Happen If A Man Had A Mother Who Lacked Empathy? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was brought up by a mother who lacked empathy, he might not be consciously aware of this. Even so, it doesn’t mean that he will have truly moved on from this stage of his life. Therefore, if he were to remember some of the things that took place and how this impacted him, he might ...
Views: 8 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative Inner Model Of Women If He Had A Mother Who lacked Empathy? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to think about the experiences that he has had with women over the years, he might soon experience a number of ‘negative’ feelings. This is because he may have been with a number of women who were not very loving. So, these women might not have typically been interested in his ...
Views: 9 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Lack Empathy? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is overly focused on his mother’s needs, he may need to start putting himself first. Along with this, he may need to talk to his mother about what is going on. Nonetheless, if he were to talk to her about how he is neglecting himself and no longer wants to do ...
Views: 9 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have To Develop A Needless False Self? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is typically focused on a number of his mother’s needs and typically overlooks a number of his own, it can be hard for someone on the outside to understand why he is this way. To them, it can be clear that he is living in the wrong way. However, if they were ...
Views: 11 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Lack A Felt Sense Of Belonging If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has the right to be here and have their needs met, it doesn’t mean that they will know this at the core of their being. Instead, deep down, they can have the sense that they don’t deserve to be here or have their needs met. Now, although this is something that they can be ...
Views: 11 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be An Unfeeling Human Being? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have a mental and an emotional self, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with both of these selves. What can be normal is for them to be connected to their mental self but disconnected from their emotional self. But, due to how normal this is, they might not be ...
Views: 11 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Unconsciously Look For His Fathers Support If He Had An Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man missed out on the support that he needed from his father throughout his formative years, it doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. Furthermore, he might seldom if ever even think about this stage of his life. But, when it does come to this stage of his life, he could think about ...
Views: 13 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Believe That She Is Entitled To His Attention? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly focused on his mother and neglects himself, it doesn’t mean that his mother will feel uncomfortable with what is going on. Instead, she can believe that he is behaving in the right way. What this can show is that she doesn’t realise that he has his own needs and is here to ...
Views: 15 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Make Him Into Her Parent? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperBased on how a man is behaving, that’s if he is overly focused on his mother’s needs, is that he is more like her parent than her son. He will then have been born after her but will be as though he was born before her. However, although he will be playing a parental role, he might not be ...
Views: 16 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Have A Narcissistic Defence? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is neglecting himself because he is too focused on his mother, he might need to talk to her about what is going on. He might want to explain to her that behaving in this way is not serving him and he no longer wants to do as much for her. Unsurprisingly, as he ...
Views: 18 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Make “The Unconscious Conscious”? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man can see that he is out of balance, due to how caught up he is with his mother’s needs, two things can cross his mind. First, he can wonder why he is this way and, second, if there is anything that he can do to change his life. Now, he might soon see that he has been this way for as ...
Views: 19 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother See Him As Her Saviour? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to see that he is overly focused on his mother, he can wonder why he is this way. But, if he is behaving more like her parent than her son, it is to be expected he would be confused. He can spend a lot of time doing things for her and listening to her problems and providing ...
Views: 19 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man An Extension Of His Mother? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man behaves as though he is merely an extension of his mother, it is going to be clear that he needs to change his behaviour. Ultimately, he is not here to be his mother’s slave; he is here to live his own life. However, even though he will need to change his behaviour, it doesn’t mean ...
Views: 21 - Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Make Him Into Her Parent? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, he may see that he is more like his mothers parent than her son. The reason for this is that he could spend a lot of time doing things for her. Yet, even when he is not doing anything for her, he could still spend a lot of time ...
Views: 21 - Romance Scammers: Why Wouldn’t Someone Be Able To Accept That They Are Talking To A Romance Scammer? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter one has spoken to a friend or family member on a number of occasions about the person who they are in a relationship with, they could soon come to the conclusion that something isn’t right. This could be because they are with someone who is physically and/or verbally abusive, but, this ...
Views: 20 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Have Narcissistic Tendencies? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is overly focused on his mother and ignores himself, he can struggle to understand why he is this way. What could be clear is that it doesn’t make any sense for him to be this way. He could believe that he should be focused on his own life, not focused on his ...
Views: 22 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Fear That They Are Going To Die If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone fears that they are going to die, it doesn’t mean that they will generally be aware of this. Now, there will be a time when their life will come to an end; of course, death is part of life. However, the difference here is that when it comes to the former, this will be ...
Views: 26 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Have A Disembodied Sense Of Self If He Was Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to generally live in his head and thus, be out of touch with his feelings and instincts. He is then going to look like a whole human being but he typically won’t operate as one. But, if this is just what is normal, he might not be aware of how alienated he is ...
Views: 25 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Empty If His Mother Was Unable To Love Him? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man feels as if something is missing, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. One reason for this is that he could live in a way that allows him to avoid how he feels. So, he could spend a lot of time in doing mode, which will stop him from having to be with how ...
Views: 27 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone Believe That Their True Self Is Bad? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they tend to hide their needs and how they feel. Along with this, there might also be parts of themselves and interests that they keep hidden. Due to this, most, if not all, of the people in their life are not ...
Views: 27 - Be A Champion in Your Own Life - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2024 from Noelle NelsonThe Paris Olympics were superb. The opportunity to watch the very best of the best athletes at the top of their game was phenomenal. Yet as I was enjoying yet another spectacular gymnastic move or shot-put, I realized how much we can all learn from these amazing individuals. No, not how to be a ...
Views: 33 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Too Traumatised To Separate From His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that if a man’s life revolves around his mother, he is not going to be able to live his own life. To use an analogy, it will be as though he is driving a car and instead of driving where he needs to go, he continually follows another car. But, even though he will be ...
Views: 27 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A Midlife Crisis? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is in their forties or fifties, they could have a deep sense that something is missing. This can mean that certain parts of their life are no longer satisfying, or this could relate to their whole life. Along with the sense that they are living in the wrong way, they can ...
Views: 31 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Being Controlled By His Inner Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, a man is free to do what is right for him and live his own life. However, if he spends most of his life focused on and doing things for his mother, he is unlikely to realise this. In fact, he might not even realise that he is overly focused on his mother let alone that he has the ...
Views: 29 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Suffer From Depression? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time now, someone might have suffered from depression. As a result of this, they can typically have a low mode, not be able to experience pleasure or be interested in doing a great deal. Due to this, days, weeks, months and even years might have passed by but they won’t have ...
Views: 32 - Early Deprivation: Why Would Someone’s Parent Have Made Them Into Their Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, they may find that they have the inclination to ignore their own needs and be there for others. After this, they might see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Naturally, by being this way, a number ...
Views: 32 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone’s Parent Made Them Into Their Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will have actually had a childhood. Of course, there will have been a stage of their life when they were a child but this might have been a stage when they were rarely able to be a child. If so, throughout this stage of their life, they ...
Views: 34 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Fear Intimacy If They Had An Intrusive Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will want to experience deeper connections with others, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to do so. So, they could find that other people are out of reach and they are unable to get close to them. As a result, they might not have any close friends and they might not have ...
Views: 34 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Fear That He Would Lose Himself If He Left His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to see that he is overly focused on his mother and is neglecting himself, he might soon feel the need to spend less time being there for her and more time being there for himself. However, this doesn’t mean that he will just be able to draw the line with her and start living his ...
Views: 38 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their True Self If They Had A Parent Who Was Emotionally Blind? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone can find is that they have trouble knowing how they feel and what their needs are. They might see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. After this, they could think about how being this way makes it hard for them to know what to do. But, as they will have ...
Views: 38 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Trying To Be Seen And Heard By His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man generally wasn’t seen and heard by his mother during his formative years, it doesn’t mean that he no longer has these needs. He can then be in a position where just about his whole life revolves around his mother and his need to be seen and heard by her. However, if behaving in this ...
Views: 39 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Hate Himself If He Had A Mother Who Hated Him? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to experience ‘negative’ thoughts and to feel bad about himself. Thanks to this, he can spend a lot of time feeling low and depressed. Also, he might seldom take action and do what he can to achieve his goals. Taking this into account, he is unlikely to live a ...
Views: 44 - Mother Wounds: Can A Mother’s Fear Of The Masculine Cause Her To Emasculate Her Son? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man could be passive, easy-going, not stand up for himself or be assertive. Consequently, he is seldom going to take action, express his opinion, stand his ground or assert himself. Most likely, this is going to stop him from being able to live a fulfilling life. For example, he ...
Views: 45 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Comfortable Being Treated Badly By Women If His Mother Hated Him? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a man could be with a woman who doesn’t treat him very well. So, what can be normal is for him to be put down, humiliated, ignored, rejected and there may even be times when he is hit. He might have been with her for a number of months or he might have been with her for a number of ...
Views: 46 - Mother Wounds: Is A Man Wasting His Time If He Tries To Find Out Why His Mother Hated Him? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has come to see that his mother didn’t treat him very well during his formative years, he can have the need to talk to her about what took place. Based on what he experienced, he might have come to the conclusion that she hated him. Or, if he might have concluded that there were ...
Views: 44 - Mother Wounds: Why Would A Mother Have Hated Her Son? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his early years, he might see that his mother often treated him like he was nothing. So, he might have frequently been criticised, humiliated, hit, rejected, and even left by her. Now, if he were to imagine that he has a child, assuming that he ...
Views: 48 - Mother Wounds: What Can Happen If A Man Was Brought Up By A Mother Who Hated Him? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was brought up by a mother who, in general, wasn’t very nurturing, it doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. So, when he thinks about this stage of his life, he could think about how his mother did love him but that she didn’t always show it. The view that he has of her is then ...
Views: 49 - Self-Destructive: Can Someone Sabotage Their Life If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that just about whenever they take a step forward, they soon end up taking a step back. There can also be times when they end up taking more than one step back. Thanks to this, they could be extremely frustrated and angry about not being able to move forward in life. ...
Views: 47 - Self-Destructive: Can Someone Engage In Self-Destructive Behaviour If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, they may find that they have the tendency to behave in ways that don’t serve them. This can take place in both big and small ways. So, they might have been in at least one relationship that was going well and then, they ended up ...
Views: 50 - Symbolic Fears: Can Someone’s Fears Be Symbolic If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there are numerous phobias that someone can have, and some of these are more well-known than others. Furthermore, while some of these phobias can stop them from being able to live a full and rich life, others can typically be put to one side and not trouble them. If, then, they were ...
Views: 47 - Invisible Child: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Being Seen If They Were An ‘Invisible Child’? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can be used to being physically seen by others, it doesn’t mean that they will feel seen. In general, they can feel as though they are not seen and even question if they exist. It could seem strange as to how they could be seen by others and at the same time, not feel seen. ...
Views: 51 - Be Here, Now! - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2024 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve undoubtedly heard the phrase “Be here, now.” It’s a way to remind ourselves that life is lived in the present moment, and it’s well worth enjoying whatever we can in the present. But “Be here, now” is also a wonderful way to soothe ourselves when confronted by something anxiety-provoking ...
Views: 52 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have To Abandon Himself? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is focused on his mother’s needs and does what he can to please her, she is likely to wonder what is going on. She can struggle to understand why he is behaving in this way. It could be clear to her that he is not there for himself and this is causing him to ...
Views: 52 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That He Is Worthless If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to reflect on how a man behaves, they could soon come to the conclusion that he doesn’t value himself. The reason for this is that he could have a job that he can’t stand and be in a relationship where he is walked over. Then again, he could have a job that he enjoys but he ...
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