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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Boundaries: Why Do Some People See Others As Extensions Of Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to take a look at their fellow human beings, it would be clear that they are all separate. They each have their own body and this then goes onto to cover their individual preferences, wants and needs. And as well as this, each person has their own personal reality and an ...
Views: 7413 - Instant Gratification Culture: What Created It? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe term ‘instant gratification’ is widely known and widely used in today’s society. Having something tomorrow or having to wait any longer than now, is often far too long in today’s culture. Instant gratification can be observed throughout all ages and in numerous situations, it is not ...
Views: 7402 - Emotional Honesty: What Is Emotional Honesty? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperEmotions are part of being human and this means that they play a vital role in each of our lives This could be to inform one of what is going on in their immediate environment or to do with something that is being triggered from their past for example. However, no matter what their reasons ...
Views: 7387 - An Introduction To Love - What Kind Of Love Are You In? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Diane BabcockWhat kind of love are you talking about? There are many forms of love that English has only has one word for which is 'love' and it gets bantered about indiscriminately. Greek has five, which are more descriptive: Desire – Attraction (epithumia) Longing – Romance (eros) ...
Views: 7386 - ***Are You Ready to be Exceptional and Fill the Leadership Gap? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2013 from Reldan Nadler40% of organizations say they don’t have enough qualified leaders. Plus, the recent recession has lost thousands of jobs including leadership positions. Add to that the retiring of Baby Boomers and you can see the opportunity awaiting for people like you. Finally the economy is ...
Views: 7164 - True Self: Why Do Some People Hide Their True Self? - by Submitted on May 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, the true self has been used to describe ones true nature and who they really are. On the other hand, the false self represents all that is not true and is made up of illusions. And while deep down one may want to embrace their true self; it is often far from easy and the world ...
Views: 6732 - Feelings: Why Are Some People Out Of Touch With Their Feelings? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough feelings can be overlooked and seen as being unimportant, they are a vital part of who we are. They allow us to know what we need and want in each moment of our life, amongst other things. When someone is unaware of how they are feeling, they are disconnected from themselves. ...
Views: 6702 - Emotional Intelligence and Anger Management - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2009 from Gregory KylesWe are all emotional beings. We may experience emotions in varying levels of intensity but nobody can deny having emotions. Recognizing and understanding emotions is of paramount importance in our personal lives and interactions with others. Emotional Intelligence is a relatively new concept in ...
Views: 6656(3 votes) - The # 1 Reason You Lose Control of Your Subconscious Mind - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2009 from Victtor Da PonteMost experts have been focusing their teachings on the great power of the subconscious mind to assimilate 1000 times more information than the conscious mind. The typical idea is that in order to have full access to the subconscious mind, you must be in a meditative state. Only then can you ...
Views: 6602(2 votes) - Healthy And Unhealthy Guilt: What's The Difference? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are two types of guilt that an individual can experience; one can be classed as healthy and the other as unhealthy. And like all feelings, there is usually a reason when guilt appears. Now, the reason for guilt appearing could be functional and beneficial to one’s life or it could be ...
Views: 6561 - How to Listen to Your Dreams For Guidance - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2011 from Lisa EspichAre you taking advantage of the incredible insight of your dreams? If not, you should be. Your dreams are full of wisdom. It is one of the ways that your inner guide speaks to you. Some people don't think that they dream, but everybody does. Many times, dreams are just forgotten within moments ...
Views: 6361 - Color Personality Test - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2012 from Thomas M TurnerThe whole point of a color personality test is to measure your personality. By doing something as straightforward as picking your favorite colors, it is possible to actually determine not only your present state of emotions, but so much more. For instance, a color personality test is said to be ...
Views: 6238(1 vote) - The Four “R”s for a PROductive Relationship: Be Respectful, Real, Responsible and Responsive - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2009 from Mark GorkinThe Stress Doc presents a four step, “Four 'R'” communicational guide for building successful “give and take” professional relationships. The Four “R”s are dramatically illustrated in his recent encounter with an ENT surgeon. Many of us “Boomers” grew up with an alliterative academic ...
Views: 6216(3 votes) - Assumptions: Are Assumptions Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperChange is part of life, and what was acceptable at one point in time, is not necessarily acceptable at another. And while this can be a sign of growth, it can also be a sign that opinions have changed and therefore mean very little in terms of social evolution. The fact that women are ...
Views: 6134 - Communication: Is It Important To Acknowledge Others? - by Submitted on May 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings not only want to be noticed by others, they also want to be appreciated by them. But while these are two needs that each and every one of us would like to have fulfilled, it does mean that other people will always fulfil them. Generally, one would have ...
Views: 6132 - Throwaway Society: What Created The Throwaway Society? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something is new or different it is often seen as better than what one has and as something that one can look forward to owning or experiencing. Once something has become ‘old’ and one is familiar with it, its effects usually lessen. So what was engaging and interesting at one point in ...
Views: 6061 - Emotional Intelligence Awareness Month - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2010 from Sandra HughesOctober is Emotional Intelligence Awareness Month! This month-long campaign provides an excellent opportunity to discuss the helpful and harmful reactions to emotions and other related topics. For those unfamiliar, emotional intelligence is a self-governing initiative to make healthy ...
Views: 6023(1 vote) - Emotional Repression: What Happens When Men Repress Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOn a physical level, men and women are clearly very different; with men having features that relate to the masculine and women having features that relate to the feminine. And while this much is obvious and easily recognisable, what they are like within is not as easy to describe. But as a ...
Views: 6005 - Why Symphony Conductors live longer - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2010 from Hal WechslerWhy Symphony Conductors Live Longer. If you read the obituaries for fun and as social history, the #1 occupation producing healthy, long living folks – I mean into their 90s – are musical conductors making ridiculous arm gestures. Can their secret of healthy, long lives, work for ...
Views: 6003(4 votes) - ***Failed Focus: Crushing Consequences to Your Credibility - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2017 from Reldan NadlerHow the Shiny Light Destroys Relationship and Our Leadership Credibility What percent of time do you think you operate on automatic from your habits? Research tells us that it is 95% of the time. What are you missing out on when you are doing things on autopilot every day? Often what this ...
Views: 5828(1 vote) - The Surprising Relationship Between Emotions And Brainwaves - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2011 from Greg FrostMany people are prone to marveling whether emotions and brainwaves have a relationship with each other. The answer to this is yes! This is because the brain is the central point for all the emotional communication with the body. It is the main producer of most of the current in the basic neural ...
Views: 5828 - Muscle: Why Are some People Obsessed With Gaining Muscle? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe popularity of muscle building has grown significantly in recent years. Gym memberships have soared and this is not only for men. Women are just as likely to be a member of a gym as men are. And then there is a whole range of supplements to assist with building muscle for men and this has ...
Views: 5776 - ***The 10 Reasons Why You Need Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on May 05, 2016 from Reldan NadlerManagers account for 70% variance in employee engagement surveys. What are the top reasons you need to develop and enhance your Emotional Intelligence (EI)? After working with thousands of executives and leaders and focusing on helping them raise their Emotional Intelligence for the last 20 ...
Views: 5769 - Emotional Containment: What Is Emotional Containment? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThe mainstream media covers many areas of life and one of the areas they cover is what one needs to do in order to be happy and healthy. Here, one will be told what they need to do and what they need to avoid. There will be what one needs to eat and avoid, and what they will need to have in ...
Views: 5726 - ***Five Emotional Intelligence Strategies to Develop Others - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2016 from Reldan NadlerMaster the moment with others: consciously mastering your input and output Your success or underperforming all happens in the moment. What is your response in each situation? Is it emotionally intelligent or exceptional or just average? The key is consciously mastering your input and output. ...
Views: 5710 - Approval: Why Do Some People Need Approval? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo gain the approval from others is the ultimate achievement for some people. It’s as if this is the primary purpose that they have on this earth. And should they actually achieve this; their life will then be complete. This will mean that this person’s focus is more or less external. I say ...
Views: 5647 - Responsibility: Why Do Some People Say 'You' Instead Of 'I'? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone talks about something they have been going through or how they currently feel, there is the chance that they will use the world ‘you’. This means that the word ‘I’ is unlikely to be used. So even though one is talking about themselves, it can come across as if they are talking ...
Views: 5637 - Happiness: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Being Happy? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that everybody wants to be happy and yet this doesn’t mean that one will be comfortable when they are happy. For some people, being happy is a wonderful experience and for others, it is something that leads to incredible guilt. And the very thing that one wants is then casing ...
Views: 5615 - Perfection: Why Do Some People Try To Be Perfect? - by Submitted on May 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be seen as perfect is very much a part of the of the modern day world. And this doesn’t only relate to one’s ability in life; it also plays a part in how one looks and in how one feels. Clear examples of this can be found in the media and the fairly recent introduction of anti aging ...
Views: 5575 - Food Phobias and Picky Eating Habits in Adults - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2012 from Debbie WilliamsAdult food phobias are exactly that - adults who are either terrified of eating certain types of food or who are fussy and picky around food. This prevents a balanced diet and therefore has enormous future health implications. Selective eating is common in children and adolescents who are ...
Views: 5553 - 10 Ways to Increase your Personal Power in the Work Place - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Dr Ana Garcia1. Are you attractive to yourself? This is the first step to become attractive to others: What can you do to become more attractive to yourself? We are looking not just at areas such as new clothes or an upgraded make up but things that make you feel good about yourself and raise your energy, ...
Views: 5518(1 vote) - Emotions: Can We Become Emotionally Stuck At A Certain Age? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that one’s emotional age is not always the same as their chronological age. And this can be known through how one feels and seen through certain behaviours and reactions that people have. One may even try to deny that they haven’t grown up and justly their behaviour in some ...
Views: 5488 - Running Away From Reality - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2011 from Roseanna LeatonHow does one run away from reality? You might say that you can turn a blind eye or deaf ear and simply neither see nor hear what is going on. Alternatively you might perhaps see what is happening but not allow yourself to feel any emotional response to the situation. You could see something ...
Views: 5486(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Worship Women? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the idea of worshipping a woman is mentioned it can trigger all kinds of meanings in one’s mind. And what these meanings are can depend on is where one was brought up. To worship the feminine, which is what women physically represent, can be seen as sacred. The earth itself is often ...
Views: 5479 - Shame, Narcissism, And A Meaningful Life - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2008 from Sam VakninWe all have a scenario of our life. We invent, adopt, are led by and measure ourselves against our personal narratives. These are, normally, commensurate with our personal histories, our predilections, our abilities, limitations, and our skills. We are not likely to invent a narrative which is ...
Views: 5473 - Expectations: Where Do Our Expectations Come From? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how one experiences life, expectations play an incredibly important role. Not only are they influencing how one perceives every part of life, they’re also affecting ones emotional and mental well being. This means that what one attracts into their life and what one sees in ...
Views: 5439 - It is not about winning or losing - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2010 from Isabel KirkWow…the Winter Olympics are gone but the idea of how many good lessons we could learn from them keeps gravitating in my head. The most important is the idea of persistence and trying again vs the typical win or loose model, not only when pursuing an Olympic medal but in life. Stop for a second ...
Views: 5420(12 votes) - *** The Illusion of Self-Awareness: We are more Unaware than Aware - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2016 from Reldan NadlerMichael received his 360 degree assessment feedback and looked at the summary page. What quickly jumped out to him on almost every competency was that his own self-scoring for his leadership were higher than his team's scores for him. He embarrassingly laughed and said, “I guess they don’t see ...
Views: 5419 - Stuck In Your Feelings? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2007 from Mark Ivar MyhreOne of the biggest problems we all experience with our emotions involves getting 'stuck' in them. Meaning, we keep feeling the same exact feelings, over and over; day after day. If you seem stuck in your feelings - it's almost guaranteed to be painful. Or at least unpleasant. Sadly, we end up ...
Views: 5402 - ***Why Leaders Underperform: The Leadership Default is to Find Fault - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2016 from Reldan NadlerI was coaching James a new leader who had three direct reports. After about 6 months he was given another team of four to supervise. I talked to James about meeting with them individually and getting to know them, their work challenges and strengths. Then encouraged him to have a team meeting to ...
Views: 5399 - Secret To Success – The 7 Life Domains You Must Understand - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2010 from Aleks SrbinoskiWhat is the secret to success? There are so many people talking about how to become successful, but there is a problem. They are telling you how to become successful based on what they believe success means. For you to be truly successful, you must first define what success means to you. So ...
Views: 5384 - Negative People: Why Are Some People Always Negative? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear that is that life is not always a bed of roses: there are ups and downs and sometimes, there can be more downs than ups. For some people, there will be more ups than there are downs, but for others, the downs will outweigh the ups. One might then come to the conclusion that one ...
Views: 5323 - ***Five Steps to Improve Your Listening and Empowerment - by Submitted on May 25, 2016 from Reldan NadlerThe Manager Misstep is explained and the VIVID Tool is highlighted. Are you guilty of the Manager Misstep? When your direct reports or team come to you do you step in too soon without fully hearing what they want? Do you step in the wrong direction, suggesting something they already ...
Views: 5321 - Trust: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Trust? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperBeing able to trust is an important part of life. And this not only relates to trusting other people, it also relates to trusting oneself. Having trust in life, is another expression of this. This could be trusting in some kind of god for some and for others it could simply be a sense of trust ...
Views: 5288(1 vote) - Responsibility: Why Do Some People Feel Responsible For Others? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who seem to carry the weight of the world on their shoulders. In some shape or form, they are always there for others. And whether they truly want to be there for others is not always irrelevant; it often appears as though they have no choice in the matter. For some ...
Views: 5287 - Projection: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Project Their Issues Onto Others? - by Submitted on May 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone doesn’t face what is within them, there is the chance that it will end up being projected onto others. This is not bad per se, as this is a way for someone to realise what they need to work on. Another way of looking at this would be to imagine other people as the white screen ...
Views: 5284 - ***Five Strategies to Raise Emotional Intelligence: For Self - by Submitted on May 05, 2016 from Reldan NadlerMastering the Moment for Exceptional Performance: Part One Self-Development In the last blog I wrote about why you need Emotional Intelligence. In this multi part series we will look at the main strategies and actions to raise your Emotional Intelligence and propel you to be a top ...
Views: 5267 - ***Six Ways We are Tapped Out and not Tuned In - by Submitted on May 26, 2016 from Reldan NadlerHow to get your energy, focus and performance back when tapped out? This is the second in a series of exploring the main diversions and distractions that keep us from being our best leaders. How are we captured and detained from being our best leaders, truly developing others and having ...
Views: 5261 - Trust Your Knowing - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2012 from Anastacia BriceBe honest. When was the last time you leaped out of bed, threw open the window and said, "Thank god I'm alive! This is the most glorious day, and today I'm going to do something so fabulous it will change my entire life?" -- Kathleen Neville Over the last several days, people have ...
Views: 5242(1 vote) - The Royal Family: Why Are Some People Obsessed With The Royal Family? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOver the ages the purpose of the royal family has changed. Today they are not only an attraction for people from all over the world and for people in Britain: they are also idolised and worshiped by thousands of people. The royal family are the modern day celebrities and this is of course a ...
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