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- How to Beat Perfectionism - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2017 from Darlene LancerPerfectionism can be a blessing or a curse. It can become a painful, inescapable trap. Its self-sabotaging side effects undermine our goals and creativity and spill over onto our co-workers and loved ones, damaging our relationships. At worse, it can be dehumanizing and compromise our ability to ...
Views: 1255(2 votes) - Some Facts On Parental Abduction - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2017 from KidGuard Inc.When people think of kidnapping, they often think of movies like Taken or stories in the news about children being snatched out of their beds in the middle of the night, never to be seen again. People think that kidnapping is just when strangers pick up your kid and run away while you’re not ...
Views: 973 - How To Deal With a Ransom Kidnapping - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2017 from KidGuard Inc.Though the odds of it happening are very low, but a kidnapping is terrifying for everybody involved in it. Your child has been kidnapped. You’re scared, depressed, and confused. The kidnapper demands a ransom. What is your first step? Most parents are clueless. This article will tell you ...
Views: 1195 - Is Your Partner Passive-aggressive? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2017 from Darlene LancerPassive-aggressive people act passive, but are covertly aggressive. They’re basically obstructionist, and try to block whatever it is you want. Their unconscious anger gets transferred onto you, and you become frustrated and furious. Your fury is theirs, while they may calmly ask, “Why are you ...
Views: 1693(3 votes) - Relationships: Can A Man Have A Healthy Relationship With A Woman If She Has A History Of Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to meet a woman who he had a good connection with, he might want to take things further. So, in the upcoming weeks and months, he could take the time to get to know her better. A Better Understanding Through taking this approach, it will give him the opportunity to see if ...
Views: 1450 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have One Good Parent And One Bad Parent? - by Submitted on May 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperDuring one’s early years, they may have had two parents who treated them well. As a result of this, they may look back on their childhood with fond memories. And due to how they were treated when they were younger, there is a strong chance that they will have a good relationship with them ...
Views: 1575 - Relationships: Is A Woman A Victim If She Attracts Controlling Men? - by Submitted on May 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a woman can have the desire to be with a certain type of man, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. There is then the chance that the kind of guy she ends with is completely different to the one she had in mind. Not a Problem Nevertheless, she could find that this is ...
Views: 1222 - Surviving Your Divorce when the Courts are New to Emotional Abuse! (by: Dr. Anne Brown RNCS) - by Submitted on May 19, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownPrepare to Fight When one person only wants to control and sabotage during the divorce, mediation is usually not an option and a waste of money. I have seen victims of emotional abuse in their marriage be victims of mediation because they are the only person bringing adult behavior to the ...
Views: 1370(1 vote) - Preparing for Divorce in the Face of Emotional Abuse! (by: Dr. Anne Brown RNCS) - by Submitted on May 19, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownThe History For years women and children have been considered to be property of men. There were laws enabling men to punish their wives physically. By the 1920’s all states had made “wife beating” illegal, however it has only been since the 1970’s the courts have treated it as a serious crime ...
Views: 1382(1 vote) - Relationships: Is A Woman A Victim If She Always Ends Up In An Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on May 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a woman can have the desire to be in a relationship that is healthy, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. Instead, she can end up with a man who is the complete opposite of the person she had in mind. Moving On As a result of this, this area of her life is not going to have ...
Views: 1413 - Dating: Can Being Needy Stop Someone From Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on May 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one goes on a date, they may find that they are able to be themselves, and this is going to show that they feel comfortable in their own skin. Therefore, even if they are at a point in their life where they want to be with someone, they are not going to come across as being needy. The ...
Views: 1219 - Relationships: Can Someone Put Other People Down When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on May 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time with the people they are close to, they could generally have a positive effect on them; what this can show is that they are not interested in undermining them. Even so, this is not to say that one won’t be able to speak up if they have something to say that is not ...
Views: 1207 - How to Take Back Your Life after Abuse - by Submitted on May 08, 2017 from Felicity MuscatAbuse is a tragically common experience. People who survive abuse often have a different perception on life than people who have not been abused. On the surface level, they learn to fear other people at a time when they should be learning to discover and explore. At a deeper level, their very ...
Views: 988 - Relationships: Does Someone Just Need To Stay Positive If They Attract The Wrong People? - by Submitted on May 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the ideal will be for one to end up with someone who they get on with, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. Instead, one could have the tendency to end up with people who are not right for them. A One-Off If this was something that one had only experienced once, it might ...
Views: 1050 - Sex and Codependents: What Could Possibly Go Wrong? - by Submitted on May 01, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownSo many women I interviewed when writing my book reported saying yes to sex just to get the sex over with and have the person go away. Others reported saying yes to sex to have the person like them. Others reported gaining weight so they wouldn’t have to say no to dating and sex. Many reported ...
Views: 1448(1 vote) - Control: Can You Control People By Telling Them That Nothing Is Their Fault? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people on this planet who want other people to do well, there are others who don’t. Along with this, it could be said that there are people who couldn’t care less how well other people do. This could be a sign that they are caught up with their own life and don’t really think ...
Views: 1361 - Relationships: Can Someone Put Up With Verbal Abuse When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time with people who treat them well, it is going to be easier for them to feel good about themselves. This is then no different to how it will be easier for their body and brain to function in the right way when they eat well. Close Relationships It could be said that the ...
Views: 1131 - Celebrities: Is It A Surprise For Celebrities To Have Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, a lot of people are obsessed with celebrities, and there are a number of reasons as to why this is. For some people, this can simply be a way for them to avoid their own life. This is likely to show that their life is not going as they would like it to go, and focusing on ...
Views: 1376 - 5 Cool Gadgets to Improve Home Safety - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2017 from Rachael MurpheyTechnology has influenced the way that products are made in the security industry. Now, you have smart devices that automatically turn on security lights, lock doors and more. Homeowners can monitor their homes from thousands of miles away. Know about 5 cool gadgets designed to enhance safety at ...
Views: 1405 - Relationships: Do People Say That All Men/Women Are The Same To Avoid Taking Responsibility? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that although some people have relationships that are fulfilling, there are others who don’t. And while this can mean that they end up with people who are not right for them, it could also mean that they end up with people who are abusive. Two Experiences If one has the ...
Views: 1130 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With People Who’re Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who typically eat food that is unhealthy, there are others who typically eat food that is healthy. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. A Big Effect When one can relate to the former, it could mean that they have the tendency to eat a ...
Views: 1672 - Relationships: Are Some People Destined To Attract People Who Are Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to take a step back and to think about the people they have been with throughout their life, they might think about the different moments that they have shared with them. This could then be a time when they will see that they have had more good than bad moments in this area of their ...
Views: 1262 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up Feel Comfortable Around People Who Are Self-Centred? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one ends up with people who are not right for them, it can be a sign that they end up with people who are self-centred. This is then not going to be something that has taken place on one occasion; it will be a regular occurrence. So when they end up in a relationship like this, it is not ...
Views: 1492 - Relationships: Can Being Needy Cause Someone To Be Attracted To The Wrong People? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that it is not a good idea for one to be needy if they want to find someone to be with. In fact, it could be said that this is the kind of advice that one is most likely to hear from other people. Another Part Along with this, one might have heard about how important it ...
Views: 1243 - Relationships: Is Someone Unlucky If They Always End Up In Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that although someone can have the desire to attract a certain type of person, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. When it comes to the kind of person one has ended up with, they could be completely different. Now, this could mean that one has been with people who ...
Views: 1090 - Relationships: How Can Someone Experience The Desire To Be In A Relationship When They Have Had So Many Bad Experiences? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has a history of bad relationships, the last thing on their mind can be to have another one. However, regardless of what they have been through, the need to be with someone is not going to completely disappear. What can happen is that one can end up disconnecting from this need and ...
Views: 1533 - ****The Subtle Devaluation in a Narcissistic Relationship - When Jekyll Meets Hyde - Laney Zukerman, Relationship & Empowerment Coach, author, Lessons for an Urban Goddess & The Urban Goddess Lesson - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachA romantic relationship with a Narcissist can be an exciting, whirlwind experience. They are often charming and the life of the party. If they are interested in you, nothing will stop them from winning you over. They will flirt, entice, persuade and pursue until you give them a chance. ...
Views: 3135(1 vote) - Relationship Killers: Anger and Resentment - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2017 from Darlene LancerAnger hurts. It’s a reaction to not getting what we want or need. Anger escalates to rage when we feel assaulted or threatened. It could be physical, emotional, or abstract, such as an attack on our reputation. When we react disproportionately to our present circumstance, it’s because we’re ...
Views: 1556(2 votes) - ***Expert List for Narcissistic Survivors - Youtube Video - Laney Zukerman Empowerment & Relationship Coach, Best-Selling Author ~ Lessons for an Urban Goddess & The Urban Goddess Lesson - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachHi Selfgrowth Friends, Since I have been receiving a high volume of readers who are interested in more information on Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and Surviving Relationships with Narcissists, I have created a brief Youtube Video. I have spent many hours reviewing experts on Narcissism and ...
Views: 3917(1 vote) - The Importance of Maintaining a Healthy Distance in Relationships that Matter the Most - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2017 from Suzanne St. John SmithAs a psychotherapist, I often meet individuals, couples and families who at first describe the relationships that matter the most in their lives as ‘very close’, ‘tight’, and supportive. But later, after understanding the issues that brought them to my office, I view them more as insular systems ...
Views: 1310 - ANGER and our DARK SIDE ~ Do Not Fear It ~ Embrace It - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachAnger and Our Dark Side ~ A force to be Reckoned With In my first book, Lessons for an Urban Goddess, I describe the importance of being in touch with both the light and dark sides of our nature. In order to live your life authentically and mindfully, it is imperative to regulate the ...
Views: 2214(1 vote) - What to Do if Your Child is Being Bullied - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2017 from Bella ThorneEvery day kids across the country are subjected to name-calling, physical bullying, cruel taunts and cyber bullying. At some point, your child will be picked on or have his/her feelings hurt by others. Bullying can turn out to be a real problem and leave deep emotional scars if not handled in ...
Views: 950 - 6 Strong Signs You Have Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2017 from Kim SaeedLike many people who’ve endured Narcissistic and emotional abuse, you probably didn’t realize what was happening to you until you reached a point of near insanity and began searching desperately for reasons why your fairytale romance took a grievous turn for the worse. Further, the person you ...
Views: 2434 - The Love Within - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2017 from Renee L Richardson, M.Ed.Renee L Richardson, M.Ed. Knowing the "Love" Within: 1/6/2017 So many times, we find ourselves sitting on the wayside of love, extremely disappointed, hurt and totally exhausted; simply because we failed to receive the love of which we have given. Were our expectations too high? Did we ...
Views: 1388 - Sexual Abuse, Marriage and Parenting - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2017 from Gary DirenfeldWhen we talk about sexual abuse, we differentiate between intra-familial (from within the family) and extra-familial (from outside the family). When from within, it teaches the target of abuse to not trust people who are closest to them. When from outside the family, it teaches the target of ...
Views: 1196 - ARE YOU DEALING WITH A NARCISSIST? RED FLAGS & HOW TO COPE... - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachAre you dealing with a Narcissist? RED FLAGS & HOW TO COPE From the books: The Urban Goddess Lesson~How to Spot the Bad Boys and Lessons for an Urban Goddess Are you dealing with a true Narcissist? If you believe that you may have a Narcissist in your life, there are specific traits ...
Views: 2173(1 vote) - Are you in a Toxic Relationship? Should you Stay or Go? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachAre you in a TOXIC Relationship? Are you questioning if you should stay or go? Empowerment Coaching can help. Breaking away from a toxic relationship is very difficult. You may be suffering from emotional abuse, or you may be addicted to an unhealthy love relationship ...
Views: 2094(1 vote) - Warning! Bad Boys may be dangerous to your emotional health! - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship Coach(Note: Bad Boys is a metaphor for toxic partners. Just flip the pronoun to female depending on your relationship). Bad Boys are everywhere. The corporate office, the gym, your neighborhood, a charity gala or the backyard bbq. Before they end up in your heart and in your bed, it will be in ...
Views: 1572(1 vote) - Child Abuse: Can Someone Suffer If They Don’t Face What Happened When They Were Younger? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for something to develop in the right way, it will need it to receive the right things. If this doesn’t take place, it might still grow but it is not going to grow in the same way as it would otherwise. Nature For example, if a tree was planted in the shade, it is not going to ...
Views: 1597 - Relationships: Do Our Younger Years Define How We See Men/Women? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf man/woman was asked what they think about the opposite sex, they could say that they are all the same. As a result of this, this is likely to mean that they haven’t got a positive view of them. But if this wasn’t the case and they say that every man/woman is wonderful, it could be said ...
Views: 1444 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Emotionally Unstable If They Are Not In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who can handle life regardless of whether they are with someone, there are others who are unable to do so. As a result of this, they are going to have a radically different experience when they are not with someone. Two Experiences When one is able to handle ...
Views: 1378 - Relationships: Can Someone Make Other People Feel Worthless To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there can be people who one enjoys spending time with, there can be others who they don’t. What this will come down to is that they won’t feel the same around everyone, and this will be the result of how these people behave around them. A Drain When it comes to the people who they ...
Views: 1568 - Relationships: Is It Normal For Someone To Have Low Self-Esteem After They Have Left An Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are going to be used to having relationships that are fulfilling, there are going to be others who are not. In this case, someone could find that they have the tendency to end up with people who are not right for them. A Mismatch This is not to say that they will treat ...
Views: 1614 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract Friends Who Are Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone could be in a position where their friendships are generally fulfilling, they could also have people around them who make their life harder than it needs to be. This is then going to be similar to how one can eat food that is good for them or they can eat food that ...
Views: 1634 - JBL 002: We Broke Up But I Still Love Him - Why Is It So Hard For Him To Let Me Back In - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2016 from Michael Uadiale"I still love my ex boyfriend" is a phrase that may be on your heart and mind if you've just gone though an emotional break up. Right now you're probably feeling depressed and in pain. That's ok, those are normal feelings for a woman to have as they remember all the special moments and memories ...
Views: 1329 - JBL 001: What To Say To Your Ex After No Contact - How To Contact A Past Lover - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2016 from Michael UadialeI feel that this will be one of the most important posts that I will create about how you can get your ex girlfriend back. It is vital that you actually completed the 30 day no contact phase otherwise this information is meaningless. Knowing exactly what to say or more importantly how to say it ...
Views: 1250 - 205 When To Give Up On An Ex - When To Stop Trying To Get An Ex Back - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2016 from Michael UadialeI suppose you might be wondering how long things can last without getting back together with your spouse, especially when you are hoping for reconciliation. There is no definite time frame when all hope of reconciling is cut-off, and I know this from personal experience. Some people can be apart ...
Views: 1327 - SOCIOPATH OR NARCISSIST? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2016 from Darlene LancerIf you’re in an abusive relationship, you may wonder if your partner is a narcissist or sociopath and whether or not the relationship will improve. If so, or if you recently ended such a relationship, it can undermine your self-esteem and ability to trust yourself and others. The labels ...
Views: 1684(1 vote) - Relationships: Should Someone Look At Their Childhood If They End Up In Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something works, there is generally going to be no reason for someone to take a closer look at it. One example of this is that when one has a car that works, they won’t need to take a look under the bonnet, for instance. Yet, this would change if their car was to no longer run as it ...
Views: 1358(1 vote) - Relationships: Does Someone Need To Warn Others If They Have Been With Someone Who Is Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone’s relationship comes to an end, they can have to the need to carry on with their life. There is then going to be no reason for them to spend time talking about the person they were with. The Reason If this is because it ended badly, it will be normal for them to want to put ...
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