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The Most Common form of Abuse Experienced by Christian Women in MarriageIs Divorce Harder for Christians than for Everyone Else?What God and the Bible Really Say About Divorce- ***The Power Of Appreciation - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2008 from Carolyn EllisIs there anything more mysterious in the world than the formula to having a successful romantic relationship? As a divorced woman, I now marvel at those who are able to create passionate, loving, long-term relationships. From my studies with books and the school of hard knocks, I believe that ...
Views: 2919 - Help To Win Child Custody Case - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2008 from Steven CarlsonOne of the most complicated issues for parents during divorce is sorting out issues related to child custody and visitation. Child custody is often provided to those parents with whom the best interests of the child are preserved. Family courts often prefer parents who can prove that they are ...
Views: 1912 - Powerful & Positive Communication For Divorced Moms - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2008 from Jeanie RuleDo you ever feel frustrated when you try to communicate with your ex? Are you intimidated or frazzled every time you have to talk to his or her new spouse? How about your attorney, your landlord or your kids’ teachers? Living a happy and sane life after divorce means learning the art of ...
Views: 1517 - ***Unplugging From Your Ex-Spouse - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2008 from Carolyn EllisHave you ever been emotionally triggered and hijacked by something your ex said or did? Have you ever been emotionally triggered and hijacked by something your ex didn't say or do? When you're "plugged in" to the actions of someone else, you typically have a strong emotional reaction. You know ...
Views: 10904(3 votes) - ***Holiday Survival Tips For Divorced Families - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2007 from Carolyn EllisFamily holidays are supposed to be relaxing and stress-free, but often they aren't. Holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas can take you back in time to when you were a family with both parents living together under one roof. Holidays that have a strong cultural tradition of "family" can ...
Views: 2660(1 vote) - Single Mothers And Security Blankets - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2007 from Mitchell MilchSingle Parents And Security Blankets Among other things, a good marriage is a salve against the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune. It is also a shelter from the storm of Murphy’s Law and, a safe haven of mutual support and security where we insulate ourselves from the impersonal and ...
Views: 1762 - Breaking Up Is Hard To Do - Especially For Men - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2007 from Pauline WallinBREAKING UP IS HARD TO DO -- ESPECIALLY FOR MEN By Pauline Wallin, Ph.D. Divorce is harder on men than on women. Surprised? After all, it's the woman who suffers financially . . .who has to juggle work and kids on her own . . . who is more apt to end up in a therapist's office. Meanwhile, ...
Views: 1443 - Forget Harmony, Settle For Peace - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2007 from Gary DirenfeldForget Harmony, Settle for Peace An oft-common mistake working with high conflict separated parents is to move them towards getting along and working cooperatively for the well-being of their children. It is a lofty and noble goal unfortunately far beyond the grasp of folks who would likely ...
Views: 924 - Chicken For Thanksgiving: Dealing With Divorce And Major Life Transitions during the Holidays - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2007 from Dr. Tolu AdeleyeImagine having a chicken dinner on Thanksgiving! What would Thanksgiving be without the turkey and the trimmings? To many people, it wouldn't be Thanksgiving. Ironically, we eat more chicken than turkey on a year-round basis. However, we have grown accustomed to eating turkey on Thanksgiving ...
Views: 3679(3 votes) - Divorce Advice: How To Get Even With Your Ex to Survive Your Divorce - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2007 from linda lipshutzNow, I know that many of you have been burned badly by your ex-spouse. You are so furious that the mere mention of this person conjures up every conceivable negative, vicious fantasy that comes to mind. You know that there will never come the day that the two of you can be in the same room, and ...
Views: 1523 - ***Learning How to Thrive after Divorce - by Divorce. Separation. Gloomy concepts for most people. Sharing the news that "I'm getting a divorce" is the kind of pronouncement that can cause a hush at even the liveliest cocktail party. About 50% of all marriages end in divorce, and one in three Americans are already part of a blended family. ...
Views: 2995 - Separating? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2007 from Gary DirenfeldSeparating? Once the decision to separate is made, there are a number of other issues to settle. If the decision has been made in isolation, there is the matter of informing one’s spouse. Thereafter comes telling the kids. From there, attention is directed towards determining the ongoing care ...
Views: 1123 - Book Review: Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2007 from Debbie MolisThis book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Divorce. Divorce is a judicial declaration dissolving a marriage and releasing the husband and wife from all matrimonial obligations. Carolyn Ellis is the Official Guide to Divorce. Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the ...
Views: 1995 - Book Review: Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, 3rd ed - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2007 from Debbie MolisThis book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Divorce. Divorce is a judicial declaration dissolving a marriage and releasing the husband and wife from all matrimonial obligations. Carolyn Ellis is the Official Guide to Divorce. Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, 3rd ed, ...
Views: 1825 - Book Review: Happily Ever After: Walking with Peace and Courage Through a Year of Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2007 from Debbie MolisThis book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Divorce. Divorce is a judicial declaration dissolving a marriage and releasing the husband and wife from all matrimonial obligations. Carolyn Ellis is the Official Guide to Divorce. Happily Ever After: Walking with Peace and Courage ...
Views: 845 - Book Review: The Complete Guide to Protecting Your Financial Security When Getting a Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2007 from Debbie MolisThis book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Divorce. Divorce is a judicial declaration dissolving a marriage and releasing the husband and wife from all matrimonial obligations. Carolyn Ellis is the Official Guide to Divorce. The Complete Guide to Protecting Your Financial ...
Views: 975 - Book Review: The Divorce Organizer & Planner - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2007 from Debbie MolisThis book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Divorce. Divorce is a judicial declaration dissolving a marriage and releasing the husband and wife from all matrimonial obligations. Carolyn Ellis is the Official Guide to Divorce. The Divorce Organizer & Planner, by Brette ...
Views: 968 - Definition: Divorce Counseling - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2007 from Debbie MolisA positive trend becoming noticeable in marriage counseling and therapy is that more couples are going in for counseling before seeking a divorce. However, there are more useless and incompetent marriage counselors and marriage therapists than ever. So it's best to check out and look for the ...
Views: 3139 - Definition: Divorce Mediation - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2007 from Debbie MolisOne of you wants out, or maybe both of you. The disappointment, rage, anger or fear you may be feeling is understandable but it isn't going to help you. It is easy to give in to the "dark side" and veg out in front of the TV, feeling sorry for yourself while you eat half a gallon of ice cream. ...
Views: 1602 - Definition: Children and Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2007 from Debbie MolisDealing with a divorce is difficult for everyone, including the kids. It is a life altering event that can take a toll emotionally and physically . This is especially true for children. Children need additional support during this tough time. They need to know and understand that it is not their ...
Views: 1190 - Definition: Life After Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2007 from Debbie MolisThousands of people have gone through divorce, so you are not the only one. Divorce is not the end of your life, it is just the end of a marriage. You have other things that you need to focus on, rather than you marriage. If you have children for example, this is a great time to start focusing ...
Views: 1062 - Definition: Divorce Advice - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2007 from Debbie MolisYou are likely to get different divorce advice when you ask for it, depending on who you ask. Before you ask anyone for advice you should clarify in your own mind why you are seeking such advice. You will then know what questions to ask. Do NOT make the common mistake of not differentiating all ...
Views: 947 - Protecting Your Credit During Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2007 from Jay DaceyWhen a marriage ends in divorce, the lives of those involved are changed forever. During this time of upheaval, one thing that shouldn’t have to change is the credit status you’ve worked so hard to achieve. Unfortunately, for many, the experience is the exact opposite. Unfulfilled ...
Views: 637 - Divorce Survival: Seven Surefire Ways To Ensure that Your Friends Get Caller I.D. And Block Your Calls! - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2007 from linda lipshutzDivorce Survival: Seven Surefire Ways to Ensure that Your Friends Get Caller I.D. and Block Your Calls Now, let's be clear about one thing. If you are going through a divorce, I absolutely understand that this is a very trying time in your life. You deserve to have a huge amount of sympathy ...
Views: 1326 - ***Why We Choose Anger (And How To Take Another Road) - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2007 from Brenda ShoshannaAnger has turned into an epidemic in our world today. It is crucial to take a step back and realize the enormity of the danger we are facing, not only from external expressions of anger, but from the anger we each carry within. The time has come to face the truth about anger, learn what it truly ...
Views: 15993 - Divorce Survival: Seven Surefire Ways To Ensure that Your Friends Get Caller I.D. And Block Your Calls! - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2007 from linda lipshutzDivorce Survival: Seven Surefire Ways to Ensure that Your Friends Get Caller I.D. and Block Your Calls Now, let's be clear about one thing. If you are going through a divorce, I absolutely understand that this is a very trying time in your life. You deserve to have a huge amount of sympathy, ...
Views: 913 - Divorce Support While Your Children Are In School - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2007 from Dr. Tolu AdeleyeA number of things can shake up a person's life, but divorce is definitely one of the biggest. Whether you initiated it or not, dealing with the aftermath takes a great deal of emotional fortitude. Most people start to identify themselves in conjunction with their spouse, especially after ...
Views: 2207 - Divorce Survival: How To Take Care Of Yourself Emotionally To Get Through Your Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2007 from linda lipshutzGoing through a divorce is probably one of the most gut-wrenching experiences a person can go through. This article focuses on strategies that should ease some of the pain, and should make it possible to see that there is light at the end of the tunnel! One of the hardest realizations that ...
Views: 12904 - The Relief of Being Abandoned - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2007 from Sam VakninThe dissolution of the abuser's marriage or other meaningful (romantic, business, or other) relationships constitutes a major life crisis and a scathing narcissistic injury. To soothe and salve the pain of disillusionment, he administers to his aching soul a mixture of lies, distortions, ...
Views: 974 - “Who Am I And Where Did I Go?” - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2007 from Patti HandyI remember it vividly. It was shortly after my divorce was final and the highly emotional state had calmed a bit. Although it did not happen suddenly, the realization hit me like a slap in the face. I didn’t know who I was. The I that I was looking for had been pushed aside for years, by me. ...
Views: 1460(1 vote) - ***Measuring Self-Worth After Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2007 from Carolyn EllisDivorce can really knock your self-esteem for a loop. When you’re in an intimate relationship with another human being, a huge sense of who you are and your self-worth is tied up in the relationship. When that committed relationship ends, the degree to which you’re reliant on someone ...
Views: 4975(1 vote) - What To Do To End A Relationship Successfully - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2007 from Hollis PolkWhat to do to end a relationship successfully Sometimes, things really do happen in threes. And my rule is that when something happens three times, I should have a serious look at whatever the issue is. Yesterday, I had three people call me about their divorces. One is just beginning a ...
Views: 3299 - What Is Mediation? An Invitation To An Extraordinary Process - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2007 from Thuy-Nhien VuongHe would meet me at the door and lead me into his study. . . After sitting down there was always a silence—not a tense silence, uneasy as between two people who were not sure of each other, but a silence of expectation. This was not consciously agreed between us. It was a flow of peace and ...
Views: 941 - ***Men And Depression After Divorce - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2007 from Carolyn EllisA new study by Statistics Canada shows that men are more likely to suffer depression than women in the two years after a marriage or common-law relationship breaks up. The longitudinal data from the National Population Health Survey showed that men, aged 20-64, were six times more likely to ...
Views: 7400 - *** Dealing With Divorce Lawyers - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2007 from Carolyn EllisPicking the right divorce attorney is a critical decision. Divorce lawyers are your guides through the legal system. They are your teachers about your legal rights and obligations. At a time when you’re not in your peak decision-making form, you have many important questions to answer when ...
Views: 2939 - Divorce Survival Kit - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2007 from William CottringerDIVORCE SURVIVAL KIT By William Cottringer, Ph.D. A pending divorce can be a scary and devastating experience for a married couple. For every divorcing person, the future is nothing but uncertainty, anxiety and confusion. Such an emotional state is not good for focusing on priorities or ...
Views: 3087 - Good Credit Can Save Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2007 from Frank Carrasco"For better or for worse, for richer or for poorer..." The vows that fuse a man and a woman together are very seldom referred back to for reference. "For richer or for poorer" are the words that can overcome the financial burdens that plague our homesteads. If the marriage consists of frequent ...
Views: 769 - *** Peaceful Blended-Family Events Can Happen! - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2007 from Carolyn EllisBlended families are becoming more and more the norm. One in three Americans is a member of a blended family. I’m sure Canada’s statistics are very similar. Looking at my own family of four, 75% of my family is blended because my children have step-siblings. Bringing divorced parents ...
Views: 2757 - *** Control Your Mindset: You Are What You Think - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2007 from Carolyn EllisAfter you separate or divorce, the most important tool you have at your disposal is your mindset. What are you thinking? What are you telling yourself? Is your goal to "survive" your divorce? Do you feel like you're a failure or "damaged goods"? Your thoughts have a powerful impact on your ...
Views: 3672 - Karma, Fate, Destiny, Spirituality & Relationships - Stay Married or Divorce? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2007 from Scott & Stephen PetulloWhether to stay or leave an unhappy relationship can be a very difficult decision, especially when children and other factors are involved. Will you create negative karma if you leave your marriage? Some may say that you have an obligation to stay married for your children. We disagree ...
Views: 4484 - ***Procrastination: The Dream Stealer - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2007 from Carolyn EllisProcrastination is a dream stealer. It's insidious and has the potential to snuff out our vitality and diminish how we feel about ourselves. According to the American Heritage Dictionary, to procrastinate means "to put off doing something, especially out of habitual carelessness or laziness". ...
Views: 3289 - ***Gifting Yourself Strategies - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2007 from Carolyn EllisSometimes society causes people to buy into the hype and commercialism of how to be good to your spouse, partner, or significant other. Valentine's Day is a huge example. Suggested gifts like roses appear on every street corner. Advertising promoting lingerie and jewelry appear everywhere you ...
Views: 2125 - *** When Divorced Parents Act Like Kids - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2007 from Carolyn EllisDivorce can definitely bring out the worst in people. Often adults will revert to behavior worthy of the schoolyard bully. Witness the recent public outing of actor Alec Baldwin, who unleashed the fury of his anger and despair of his divorce at his 11-year old daughter. Baldwin has been ...
Views: 4264(1 vote) - *** Law of Attraction: Allow and Receive Your Desires - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2007 from Carolyn EllisSeparation and divorce are two of the biggest roller coaster rides you’ll ever find emotionally. The Law of Attraction can give you some traction so you can regain your footing and see your way forward in your divorce journey. Our thoughts create feelings, which in turn create vibrations ...
Views: 3286(2 votes) - Dealing with Friends And Family During Divorce - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2007 from Christina RoweIn a divorce it is not just mom, dad, and the kids who are affected. Your parents, siblings, in-laws, uncles, aunts, and friends are all drawn into the conflict. As you begin the divorce process, your tendency will be to think only of your most immediate world: home, children, and property. This ...
Views: 1625 - *** Viewing Divorced Life As An Adventure - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2007 from Carolyn EllisLiving life as a separated or divorced person is like wandering into uncharted territory. Like a traveler in a foreign country, so much of what you will experience is new or unfamiliar. There's the legal process, your changing social network, the emotional roller coaster rides, creating new ...
Views: 2967 - Talking To Children About Divorce - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2007 from Thalia FerencThe Elephant in the Living Room is a concept drawn from alcoholic family system treatment that sometimes applies in divorcing families as well. The idea is that everyone in the family sees the elephant that has come to live in the home but no one talks about it. They just walk around it, ...
Views: 1623 - Minimize The Waves Of Divorce - by Divorce drops into our private pond and creates waves that last beyond our lifetime.
We must make ripples instead.
Divorce is never envisioned when we give birth to our children. They were conceived in love. We had full intentions of keeping that love strong always. As pre-divorced parents ...
Views: 982 - *** Law of Attraction: Activating Your Desire and Attention - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2007 from Carolyn EllisThe Law of Attraction states that “like attracts like” and that what you focus your attention on will expand. It is in operation whether we hold a positive or a negative thought. People working their way through the divorce process are often flooded with thoughts and feelings they ...
Views: 4732 - *** Law of Attraction: What is it and Why Should We Care? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2007 from Carolyn EllisWhat is the Law of Attraction? The Law of Attraction states that “like attracts like.” What you focus your attention on expands. Your thoughts are energy, and create a vibration which can be either positive or negative. Let’s look at an example. Think of a day when you woke ...
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