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- Divorce to Remarriage: What Happens When You Rush to Wed The Second Time Around - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Alyssa Johnson50% of first marriages end in divorce. 75% of those divorcees will remarry. At least 60% of those remarriages will end in a re-divorce. Sobering statistics aren't they? But why are they this high? 50% of first marriages end in divorce I'm not even going to make a guess at the reason for ...
Views: 8109(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: On Having a New Baby When You Have Stepchildren - by Submitted on May 14, 2012 from Tina Tessina(To view the video, go here: http://youtu.be/OlC24alx1Gs.) You and your new spouse are over the moon about having a baby, but the children from your previous marriage are acting strange and upset or distant. What's wrong, and how do you fix it? Tina B. Tessina, PhD, "Dr. Romance" licensed ...
Views: 3096(2 votes) - Even Step parents Need Time for Themselves - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Shirley Cress DudleyWhen you remarried and became a step parent you probably didn't realize how hard it would be to be a parent to a child that was not your own. It's tough- really tough,and you rarely receive any praise or thanks. You want to keep your spouse happy, their kids happy, your kids happy (if you have ...
Views: 2063(3 votes) - Family Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2009 from Carrie FlehartyIf we were to dissect the superficial front of families we would find, strife, jealousy, fear and hatred and no holiday within the family feels like a blessing. Love brought families together. Love that binds the family together is often taken for granted, by the parents and the siblings. ...
Views: 1896(1 vote) - Men and Depression - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2009 from Diana Weiss-WisdomDear Dr. Weiss-Wisdom, My thirty-two year old stepson has hit some hard times and has had to move in with us. He lost his job, lost his condo in foreclosure, and his girlfriend broke up with him. I’m very worried about him, but my husband thinks he has to just tough it out. My stepson stays ...
Views: 1887(1 vote) - Redefining Quality Family Time - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2011 from Tim ReynoldsThere is something truly special about a well bonded family. Some of the closest families are those where there is only a one parent household. Sometimes single parent households bring out bonds between a parent and a child that might not have existed otherwise. Unfortunately, sometimes those ...
Views: 1746(1 vote) - Signs of a Successful Blended Family - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Shirley Cress Dudley1-You and your spouse have clear house rules that apply to all family members Yes, this means that house rules don’t change when you are tired, or your spouse is out of town. Both biological children and stepchildren all follow the same rules. It really does help when the parents also follow ...
Views: 2333(4 votes) - Smoothing the Step-Parenting Transition - by Three years ago, when John and Julie Smith fell in love and decided to marry they wanted to know what they could do to ease the transition of their marriage on their children. Each had 2 biological children of their own, ranging in age from 8 to 16 and John and Julie knew that getting the ...
Views: 1687(1 vote) - Stepfamilies and Schools: Bridging The Gap - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2009 from Angie BlackwellFall is upon us and families everywhere are sending their children back to school. According to many estimates, at least half of those children are engaged in a step-relationship of some sort. Yet, educational institutions lack a clear and consistent approach to managing non-custodial parents ...
Views: 2532(3 votes) - Stepfamily Activity #1: Think of 30 Things You Have in Common - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Evelyn FieldingBeing a step-parent is a daunting task, even when you get along with the kids. My stepdaughters live three hours away from me and visit every other weekend, but I wasn't going to let that stop me from being part of their lives! I sat down with them and we brainstormed 99 ways we could keep in ...
Views: 2040(1 vote) - Stepfather's Need Help? Are You Kidding? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2011 from Gerardo CampbellWhy are men notoriously known for not seeking help? We have a reputation for not reading instructions, not going to the doctor's for health issues, not asking for directions, not accepting help when it's offered or just admitting when we're struggling with a problem. What comes to mind is the ...
Views: 2649(1 vote) - Summer and Your Stepfamily - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2009 from Angie BlackwellStepfamilies are like snowflakes, no two are exactly the same. My stepkids live with me full time, but that isn't the case for many step-mothers. Many of you are probably spending a lot more time with your stepkids than you are used to doing. This post is dedicated to those of you that might ...
Views: 2476(3 votes) - The Cure for Walking on Egg Shells - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2009 from Terri BrittI was astonished recently to discover that my 15-year-old daughter is struggling more than I had thought with living in our new home. I got re-married last summer and my daughter Kolbi had seemed to be adjusting very well. She’s always smiling and cutting up with my new hubby, Charlie, and me. ...
Views: 2230(3 votes) - Throw Out Those OLD TAPES! - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2009 from Dan and Rebecca SnellTHROW OUT THOSE OLD TAPES, OLD STORIES, OLD MESSAGES! God doesn't make mistakes. YOU are not a mistake. Ask God to renew you. The past is past. Tomorrow is a fresh start! It's God's promise that His grace and mercy are new every morning! SCRIPTURE ASSURES US... 'Yet this I call to ...
Views: 2110(3 votes) - Trouble With Adopted Kids in the Teen Years - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2009 from Mark GregstonWhen an adopted child enters the adolescent years and their thinking transfers from concrete to abstract, they might begin asking that unanswerable question, “Why did my mother give me up?” At a time that most kids are trying to “find themselves” and form a concept and understanding of who they ...
Views: 1752(3 votes) - We Are All Related - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2010 from Hugh DeBurghHey Cousin! For those of you following the progress of the Road Warrior crew I am writing to you tonight from Stone Mountain, Georgia, outside of Atlanta. Today as I sat with my family in an Atlanta restaurant I couldn’t help but notice the guy who was sitting just across from us. You see, he ...
Views: 1304(2 votes) - Why Your Stepkids Hate You and What You Can Do About It - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2009 from Angie BlackwellI hear the same story time and again; “the kids liked me until I married their father.” So why is it that marriage often serves as the trigger, transforming once charming children into sullen stepkids? Many parents mistakenly believe that because the children are happy about the courtship that ...
Views: 6030(5 votes) - “My Blended Family Won’t Blend--Help!” Part I - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2009 from James Lehman“I don’t know what to do anymore,” said Jill, stepmother to two teen girls and mom to one biological son, aged 10. “My stepdaughters don’t respect me—I’m the ‘evil stepmother’ to them—and pretty much ignore whatever I say. And my son is constantly telling me that my husband isn’t fair, and that ...
Views: 2595(3 votes) - Families of the 21st Century - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2009 from Angie BlackwellFamilies of the 21st Century come in all shapes and sizes. Divorce, remarriage, parenting out-of-wedlock and a host of other variables have turned nuclear families into the exception rather than the norm. As little as a half-century ago, children were typically raised in homes with two ...
Views: 23708(5 votes) - What to Do When Your Stepkids Disrespect You, Part 2 - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2009 from James LehmanThis is part 2 of a two-part series by James Lehman, MSW on Blended Families. In this article, James discusses the importance of respectful behavior in a blended family, and how parents can achieve this from all the children in the family. Over the years, many parents in blended families have ...
Views: 3471(5 votes) - Newly Single and the Holidays - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2009 from Meghan GehanFor those going through or recently divorced, the holidays add another layer of stress and anxiety: Will I need to interact with my ex? How do I handle the questions and advice from my family? How will I cope with being alone? How do I help my children through this time? This holiday season ...
Views: 1953(2 votes) - The Kids are with Me or You - but not Her! - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2010 from Jill DarceyIt's normal, it's real, and it's understandable ... so what's the answer? We all think it - and most of us say it when we share children with an Ex who has a new partner. The phrase 'the kids are with me or you - but not her' is equally valid when read "but not him" in place of her however ...
Views: 1992(8 votes) - Top Ten Rules for Divorced Parents - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Shirley Cress Dudley1-All contact should be kept to a minimum One phone call a day is excessive, several text messages a day is extremely excessive. If you have a subject related to the kids- speak briefly and clearly about your expectations. Emails are better than phone calls, if your issue is not an ...
Views: 5165(4 votes) - Dr. Romance Video: Improving Relationships between Parents and Stepchildren - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2012 from Tina TessinaTo view video, click here. Ah, the ugly step parent, celebrated and villainized in fairy tales. Do you have to take on the role? "Dr. Romance" licensed psychotherapist and author, says you don't, and shows you how to manage to be the kind of step-parent that causes ...
Views: 2706(6 votes) - Getting Along with Family - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Deborah HillFamily members are often our greatest and most difficult ongoing teachers. A reader of my blog "Getting Along with Difficult People" (www.theawarenessinitiative.com/blog) asked how to get along with family members. I can't say that I've mastered the family conumdrum. In fact, I believe that ...
Views: 6411(3 votes) - It Takes Two to Tango - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Diana Weiss-WisdomDear Dr. Weiss-Wisdom, I’m so discouraged with my marriage that I almost don’t care anymore. I stayed in my first marriage because of the kids and now I’m remarried and doing the same thing again. I have two teenagers from my first marriage and a five year old now with my second wife. It’s ...
Views: 2077(6 votes) - 7 Critical Questions Stepdating Couples Must Ask - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2016 from Dianne Martin7 Thorny Questions to Consider You have enjoyed the romance and the commitment between yourself and your companion is steadily deepening. You have now reached the point where the two of you begin talking about how you will introduce your children to your companion. Are you single parent ...
Views: 2635(4 votes) - Celebrate National Adoption Awareness Month with the Perfect Personalized Gift - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2009 from Diana EnnenNovember is National Adoption Awareness Month, a time to be thankful for the joys adoption has brought to countless families and mindful of the many foster children in this country still waiting for families to call their own. If you or someone you know has been fortunate enough to build a ...
Views: 2595(1 vote) - Handling a Sensitive Situation - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2009 from Diana Weiss-WisdomThe Birds, the Bees, and Blended Families Handling a Sensitive Situation Dear Dr. Weiss-Wisdom, My father has been married numerous times and he consistently has terrible taste in women. Most recently, I ran into my current “stepmother” at a restaurant having a romantic dinner with ...
Views: 2446(2 votes) - Second Marriage Jitters - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2009 from Diana Weiss-WisdomThe Birds, the Bees, and Blended Families Dear Dr. Weiss-Wisdom My boyfriend and I are both divorced with children. We want to get married but we’re nervous about how to make it work. We both had terrible marriages the first go around. Now things will be even more challenging with the ...
Views: 4435(2 votes) - Stepfamilies: The Difficult Ex and the Issue of Badmouthing - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2009 from Joan SarinThe “difficult ex” - I think every divorced couple goes through at least a stage of complaining about this. I hear it in nearly every couple I work with, and I had my share of this pain too. It seemed to me for years that my husband’s ex-wife looked right through me as if I didn’t exist, and ...
Views: 2326(1 vote) - The Birds, the Bees, and Blended Families - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2009 from Diana Weiss-WisdomDear Dr. Weiss-Wisdom, I’m living with my boyfriend who has two kids under eleven years old. What do I do if I don’t like his kids? They are lazy and watch a lot of T.V.-even during the daytime. They don’t pick up after themselves or have any chores. I feel like I’m the maid! When I talk ...
Views: 2119(1 vote) - The Oil of Life - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2009 from Gerald AnthonyOne day while taking a visit to the grocery store, I heard a customer in front of me say, “????? (phonetic- yo may yo yo? Pinyin- you mei you you?)” As I waited in line, I watched as the cashier understood this complex logic of using the same words of pronunciation to form a question and also ...
Views: 2247(3 votes) - Beyond Split & Broken - Complex Instead - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2010 from Jill DarceyStatistically, the effects of divorce on our society are difficult to prove although there are figures bandied around. What we do know is that some people go on and have far better lives and some don't. For majority however, we can say divorce carved its mark on our life and we live with it for ...
Views: 2304(6 votes) - Children Adjusting When They're Home From The Ex's Place - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Jill DarceyDo you find it takes time for your children to settle in when they come back from your Ex's place? If you're like me, sometimes I wonder what goes on there that means they have to change so much. I mean, they've only been away a weekend and yet it feels like I get completely different children ...
Views: 1479(4 votes) - Loving Blended Families - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2010 from Diane and Lewis DenbaumWhen we met, we each had one teen living at home, and three adult children from previous marriages living in other parts of America. One former spouse lived locally and the other in a different state. We wanted everything to go smoothly. Before we planned our wedding, we did as much ...
Views: 1523(4 votes) - Everyone Bleeds Red - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2011 from Womens Recreation, Inc.As your walking around a crowded busy street, stop and take a look around. Every single person has at least one thing in common; everyone, no matter what sex, age, race, or what your belief system might be. The common link, the common tie, the common factor is the color of blood. The color of ...
Views: 2992(6 votes) - Co-Parenting weekend off? My House is Quiet ... Too Quiet! - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Jill DarceyDo you dream of the moment when you can have a bath undisturbed, or go out somewhere (anywhere, you're not fussy!) without taking an hour to get everyone into the car? That time has come ... you've got a weekend to yourself and ... Instead, you can't decide what to do!You want to make the most ...
Views: 1697(2 votes) - Co-Parenting? What To Do with Lateness or No-Shows with Your Ex - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Jill DarceyAlbert Einstein when asked of "Relativity" answered with this. "Relativity: An hour sitting with a pretty girl on a park bench passes like a minute, but a minute sitting on a hot stove seems like an hour." So what does this have to do with your Ex showing up late? Don't we all know how long 10 ...
Views: 1571(2 votes) - Do I have to share my kids with my Ex? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Jill DarceyWhy do you want to spend less time with your children when growing up happens so quickly these days? Don't you look back on how many years have gone already and wonder how it's passed so fast?! And to think you've got to spend less time with your children because your Ex wants them, is ...
Views: 1877(2 votes) - Getting Married: Building Healthy Step-families - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2010 from Peggy FergusonIf your family is a "remarried family" or a "step-family" then you're in good company. The experience of building a remarried or stepfamily is a common experience, not only for recovering people, but for the general population as well. There are lots of difficulties involved in putting together ...
Views: 1807(4 votes) - Shared Parenting? How to handle your Handovers - Drop Offs & Pick Ups - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Jill DarceyIf you dread handovers - you're not alone. If you are frustrated because you've managed to get your kids to tidy up the house before the Ex comes to collect them, and before you know it, they're sick of waiting so it's once again transformed into the bomb-site it was only half an hour ago ... ...
Views: 4480(2 votes) - Working out Shared-Parenting Routine Biggies - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Jill DarceyMany questions have been coming in about the biggies. So what are the biggies? It's the problems that people are having with their Ex's over issues like geographical differences. The emotional differences between the two houses and what you're meant to do about it. And, of course, money ... ...
Views: 1766(2 votes) - Blended Family Wedding Vows! - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2009 from Jody MaleyWe went to a beautiful wedding a few weeks ago for a couple we have been friends with for quite awhile. My girlfriend had two children from a previous marriage (one boy, one girl) & had told us to feel free to bring our own children if we came. This was a nice change for us since we have six ...
Views: 7816(1 vote) - Mahjong game - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2016 from shafat aliMahjong game Mahjong is a very famous game. It is also known as mahjong, majiang and so many other names. This game was originally invented in China in the period of Qing Dynasty. Mostly this game is designed for 4 players but in some places like Japan and South Korea it is designed with some ...
Views: 1725(1 vote) - Don't Like Your Step Kids? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2008 from Emily BouchardOne challenge that many step parents face but few will admit is that they do not like one or more of their stepchildren. They love their partner, they love their kids, and they find themselves particularly challenged by the behaviors of their step kids. When a stepmom presents this problem to ...
Views: 2568 - Experience easy and enjoyable gifting to Brothers & Sisters - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2010 from Alice SimonGift Ideas for Brother and Gift Ideas for Sisters Naughtiest, most stubborn, most nagging, most irritating yet the sweetest and most adorable! Yes, you got it right! It’s our loving brothers and sisters. They are the most loved and pampered ones in the entire family. It is extremely ...
Views: 1067 - Get Busy To Keep Your Mind Off getting your ex back - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2011 from Chad JanesWhen you have usually thought about getting your ex back, publish break up, you're not alone. Majority of folks proceed through this emotion. A break up isn't easy to handle. After working a couple of solitary days or even weeks, you begin to feel that every romantic relationship has its own ...
Views: 2326 - "La Ciudad Condal"에서 바르셀로나 익스트림 스포츠 축제 시작 - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2020 from Wajahat Ali도시 스포츠는 패션과 바르셀로나에 있으며 최신 트렌드를 수용하는 아이콘 도시로 바르셀로나 익스트림 스포츠 페스티벌은 10 월 11 일과 12 일에 데뷔합니다. 이것은 스페인에서 전례없는 축제입니다. 이 행사는 바르셀로나의 파크 델 포럼 (Parc Del Forum)에서 열릴 예정이며 최고의 아마추어 및 국제 선수들과 젊은 아마추어들을 모을 것입니다. 인클로저는 5,000 평방 미터이며 스케이트 보드, 자전거 프리 스타일 (BMX), 인라인, 모토 크로스 프리 스타일 (FMX), 웨이크 보드, 스키 및 스노 보드 등 7 개의 ...
Views: 649 - "The Cosmic Mass: Risking to Follow Inner Promptings" - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2016 from Barry and Joyce Vissell“Our minds map out a neat, perfect little road for life and we hate to have it changed in any way. Yet that perfect little road may completely by-pass our goal of God-realization.” –Barry and Joyce Vissell, The Shared Heart Joyce and I have written before about the importance of taking ...
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