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- Relationships: Can Vulnerability Lead To Deeper Relationships? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the greatest human needs is to feel connected to others and this can relate to an intimate relationship with the opposite sex or the same, depending on one’s sexual preference and to family and friends. To share who one is and to be involved in the sharing of another, plays a vital role ...
Views: 1974 - Anxiety: Can Toxic Shame Cause Anxiety? - by Submitted on May 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough feeling anxious from time to time is a normal part of life, if this is something one suffers from on a regular basis it is likely to mean that something isn’t right. Now, this is not to say that one has to be in a constant state of anxiety for there to be problem; as it could also be ...
Views: 1973 - Healing: Do We Heal When We Are Ready? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has experienced some kind of abuse as a child and this could be physical emotional, verbal or sexual, there is often the need to recover as fast as possible. To look for the answers and to find the solution or solutions that will make everything better. This is natural and must ...
Views: 1971 - Relationships: Is Your Inability To Listen Damaging Your Relationships? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to go and watch a film, not only would they watch the screen, they would also pay attention to what is being said. On one hand, they will have paid to watch it, and on the other hand, it will be something they want to see. No Consequences However, if they were to take ...
Views: 1971 - Emotional Avoidance: What Can Happen When We Avoid Our Emotions? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter how old or young someone is, where they have come from on this planet or if they are male or female, one thing is clear, and that is that they will have emotions. For this is part of the human experience, without them life wouldn’t be the same. However, one of the challenges with ...
Views: 1968 - Relationships: Do Some Men’s Childhood's Set Them Up To Fear Women? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has the desire to in a relationship with a woman, he could end up taking action. This could then be a time when he will go out to different bars and clubs, and he could even join a few dating sites. What this could show is that he has recently broken up with someone, and he now ...
Views: 1968 - Verbally Abusive Mothers: What Can Happen When Someone Is Verbally Abused By Their Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the moment someone is born, their mother has incredible power over them. She has the power to build them up or the power to tear them down. Ideally, one would have had a mother who was: loving, supportive and kind, for instance. But there are also people out there who had the complete ...
Views: 1967(1 vote) - Relationships: Is Feeling Safe An Important Part Of Forming An Emotional Connection? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf human beings were inherently independent, it wouldn’t matter if someone didn't have relationships with other people; as they would be able to just carry on with their life. But as human beings and everything else on this planet is interdependent, it means that relationships play a vital part ...
Views: 1966 - Expectations: Do Our Expectations Create Our Experiences? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn a previous article that I write on expectations, I looked at where our expectations come from. And here I want to take a closer look at how expectations are influencing our day to day life. Expectations can become part of one’s nature and how they see life or they can be expectations that ...
Views: 1961 - Reality Or Projection: What Do We See? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the questions I have been asking myself recently is; are we seeing reality based on how it is today or are we interpreting and creating it based on what happened in our past The first response to this question could be; Of course we are seeing reality for how it is today, what else is ...
Views: 1960 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Clingy In Relationships? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain behaviours that are going to cause problems in a relationship and could even sabotage one from taking place, and one of those behaviours is when someone is clingy. This can appear at the start of a relationship or it can appear as a relationship develops. For the person on ...
Views: 1959 - Control: Do Some People Use Shame To Control Other People? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a dog for a walk and they were told to keep it under control, they are unlikely to think that there is anything wrong with what they are being told. However, if they were in a relationship and one their friends told them to control their partner, this might not be the ...
Views: 1958 - Relationships: Is It Naive For Someone To Believe That Another Person Will Change? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a relationship can start off in a certain way, it doesn’t mean that it will be the same as time passes. On one hand, this can be seen as something that just happens as two people get to know each other better, and on the other hand, it can mean that one person was putting on an ...
Views: 1958 - The Media: Does The Media Promote Instant Gratification? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people want to find out about what is taking place locally and globally, they often look to the mainstream media to inform them. This could be seen as a normal part of living in the modern-day world. But while this has been the way for so long, it is it beginning to change and this is ...
Views: 1958 - Healing: What Actually Works? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to healing ones childhood pain or in healing the pain that has come about through later life experiences; there are many techniques and methods out there. And each one of these is often described as the one and only way. So based on this, if one was to use this method, it would ...
Views: 1956 - Interpretations: Do Our Interpretations Create Our Experience Of Life? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can often watch a film with an ending that is unclear and come up with an interpretation that is completely different to another person. Or perhaps there is a cloud in the sky; one sees it to be a certain shape and another person sees another shape or cannot see this shape at all. Then ...
Views: 1956 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Ignore Their Intuition? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that women are more intuitive than men, and this could be due to a number of reasons. One reason is because they are often more in touch with their feelings. Men on the other hand, are often more logical and out of touch with how they feel. This is simply a generalisation ...
Views: 1956 - Relationships: Why Does 'Treat Them Mean And Keep Them Keen' Work? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some relationships are healthy, there are others that are completely dysfunctional. And when this is the case, they no longer have the ability to transform one’s life and to assist in their personal evolution. That is unless one leaves the relationship and uses the experience to ...
Views: 1954 - Communication: Is It Important To Be Emotionally Expressive? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to connecting to other people, our facial expressions play an important role. And like one’s body language and their tone of voice, one is not always aware of how they’re coming across. Or one might be aware of their body language and their tone of choice, but their facial ...
Views: 1953 - Communication: How Can Someone Make It Easier To Talk To Strangers? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to talking to someone, how we perceive them usually makes all of the difference. If another person is seen as a friend or someone that one has spoken to before, then it is going to make it easier for one to talk to them. And this is part of being human, because although times ...
Views: 1950 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Feel Abandoned? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can have the desire to be in a relationship that is meaningful and fulfilling and yet they might find this hard to achieve. And it could be that they can’t seem to attract the right person or that when they are in a relationship with someone who they connect with, it soon ends. There ...
Views: 1950 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Fix Others? - by Submitted on May 26, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who try and fix others. This could be something they have a habit of doing or something they do once in a while. And while these people may think that they are helping others, they are generally having the opposite effect. A bit like how a mechanic may fix an engine or a ...
Views: 1950 - Communication: Does It Matter How You Greet Someone? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be times in one’s life when they meet someone for the first time, and how they greet them is likely have a big impact on what happens after they have met. This is because the other person’s first impressions are going to be heavily influenced by what takes place during this ...
Views: 1948 - Being And Doing: What Is The Difference? - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor a long time, the western world has been familiar with the word doing and the word being has been something that the people in the east were familiar with. And this has gradually changed in the west, with people becoming more aware of these eastern approaches and vice ...
Views: 1947 - Problems Or Challenges: What’s The Difference? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThese are two words that can be used to describe an occurrence or situation. One person may use the world problem and another could use the word challenge. And this is even though they are both in the same position or looking at the same thing. Meaning On Google.com the word problem is ...
Views: 1947 - Inner Voice: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Listen To Their Inner Voice? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is something called an inner voice and this is available to each one of us. But although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that one is in tune with their inner voice or even knows that they have one. The Inner voice is not the only term that is used to describe this powerful guidance ...
Views: 1946 - Anger: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are able to express every emotion on the spectrum, there are others who are stuck on one end of the spectrum. When this happens, it is not going to be possible for someone to be a whole human being. This may mean that one is always ‘positive’, and that they ...
Views: 1945 - The Matrix: What Is The Matrix? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the words ‘The Matrix’ are mentioned the first thing that comes to mind is probably the film by the same name. And this was a film that had a profound influence on many people. This was not only because of the quality of the film, but also because of the questions it made people ask and ...
Views: 1945 - Masculine And Feminine: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Embrace Both Sides? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperPhysically men and women are very different; with a woman being an example of the feminine and a man being an example the masculine. But while this much is true, on the inside they are both made of masculine and feminine traits. And for a long time, men generally behaved in ways that were ...
Views: 1943 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Abandoned When A Relationship Ends? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are able to handle break ups reasonably well, there are other people who find them to be extremely difficult. And although it could all depend on how long the relationship has lasted for or on the kind of connection that they had with the other person, these two factors are not ...
Views: 1938 - Inner Conflict: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people work together and are all on the same side, so much can be achieved. If there is disharmony amongst people, problems can appear and this can lead to things being slowed down, or stopped completely. One example that comes to mind here is a sports team. When everyone in the team ...
Views: 1936(1 vote) - Communication: Is Vulnerability An Asset? - by Submitted on May 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to creating a deeper connection and a lasting impression on others; it is often assumed that sharing ones good points is the best approach to take. To share ones vulnerable side is something that should be avoided at all costs. This means that successes and achievements should ...
Views: 1931 - False Self: Do Some People's Childhoods Cause Them To Develop A False Self? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are in touch with who they are, and then there are some people who are not. But while some people are going to be aware of the fact that they are out of touch with themselves, there are going to be other people who are not aware However, when one is in touch with ...
Views: 1931 - Energy: Can Emotional Repression Lead To Low Energy? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn one way or another, life is all about energy; it is what creates and supports life and it also leads to movement and motion. Without it, nothing would exist or survive and nothing would ever happen or change. And as human beings, we are no different. Whether it involves: getting out of ...
Views: 1928 - Nice Guys: Why Are Some Men 'Nice Guys'? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the modern day descriptions of men, there are two that are often mentioned. One is the bad boy and the other is the nice guy. And while on paper and in person these men can come across as being radically different, in many ways, they are simply two sides of the same coin. ...
Views: 1924 - Behaviour: Do We Teach People How To Treat Us? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperHow we respond to others and how others respond to us can appear to be random and without reason at times. And at others times, it can be patently obvious as to why we have behaved as we have towards another or why they behaved as they have towards us. But whether one is aware of their ...
Views: 1923 - The Media: Does The Media Create Division? - by Submitted on May 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile people often believe that the media is there to simply inform them about what is going on in the world, this is not always the case. Instead, there is often a hidden agenda and what the media focuses on is therefore intended to create a certain reaction. At times, it can be relatively ...
Views: 1923 - Addiction: Can Toxic Shame Lead To Addiction? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to hear the word ‘addiction’, there is a strong chance they would start to think about an alcoholic or a drug addict. This is not because it is impossible to be addicted to anything else; it is because of how addiction is often portrayed in today’s world. As a result of this, it ...
Views: 1921 - Fear Of Failure: Can Toxic Shame Cause The Fear Of Failure? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone has the desire to do something, it doesn’t mean they will take action. Instead of doing what they need to do to fulfil their desire, they might end up doing nothing. In this case, it is not going to be possible for one to move forward; they are going to stay where they ...
Views: 1921 - Relationships: Where Does A Man’s Idea Of A Woman Come From? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what women are like, there are numerous ideas that men can have. And while the world is made up of all types of women, there are certain ideas that a man will have formed. These are not just going to be disconnected descriptions, but descriptions that carry emotional ...
Views: 1919 - Empathy: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Having Empathy? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many different things that make someone human and therefore allow them to have a human experience and one of these things is empathy. This is something one can have for themselves and something that can extend outwards and towards other human beings. It enables one to mirror ...
Views: 1917 - Feeling Safe: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Feeling Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough each one of us has a body, it doesn’t mean that everyone feels that it is safe to be in their body. It might even sound confusing as to how this could be; especially as one’s body is a big part of who they are. Instead of one being in their body, what they can end up doing is living ...
Views: 1916 - The Mind: Is Our Mind Always Right? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough change is part of life and is something that can’t be stopped, our minds don’t always embrace change. At times it is going to be necessary for one to hold onto what they believe and know and at others, it will be important for them to change what they believe and to learn something ...
Views: 1914 - Abandonment: Does The Fear Of Being Abandoned Cause You To Please Others? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to pleasing others, ideally, this will be a choice and not something one feels they have no control over. If one feels that they always need to please others, it is going to interfere with their ability to listen to their own needs and emotions. And when one feels the need to ...
Views: 1909 - Incremental Action: Is Incremental Action An Important Part Of Success? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one comes across someone who is successful, it can be easy for them to come to the conclusion that they have always been this way. And this is partly because one is not going to be aware of what they had to go through to get to where they are. One could assume that this person has ...
Views: 1908 - Emotional Growth: Is Emotional Growth Important? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world it is not uncommon for someone to hear that exercise is vital when it comes to leading a happier, healthier and even a longer life. So if one takes part in some form of exercise a few times a week, then their life will change for the better. And it doesn’t take a genius to ...
Views: 1907 - Relationships: What Does Love Mean To You? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s relationships love is often used to describe how someone feels about another person and as a description of what one is looking for. The world is made up all of kinds of relationships and although there are general meanings when it comes to love; there are also radically different ...
Views: 1907 - Success: Why Do Some People Fear Success? - by Submitted on May 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt might seem strange to some people that success could be something to fear; especially as we live in a world where success has become an obsession for so many people. What is often heard about is the fear of failure and how people don’t want to fail. However, success is generally perceived ...
Views: 1906 - Relationships: Can We Ever Truly Know Anyone? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThroughout one’s life, they are naturally going to meet people they feel close to and people they don’t. And the people who they don’t feel close to are going to be in the majority. Special connections are going to be rare and this is because one won’t meet people like this all of the time. ...
Views: 1905(1 vote) - Rage: What Causes Rage? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt has recently been reported that rage could be the result of what is going on for someone at a biological level. And while this has been said, they have also wondered if it’s the other way around; with rage causing ones biology to change and not ones biology causing the rage. However, ...
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