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- Sense Of Self: What Is A Sense Of Self? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that a sense of self is an illusion and that it is simply an idea. Regardless of this viewpoint and any other point of view that is similar; it is clear that having a sense of self makes a big difference and that ideas are powerful. I wouldn’t describe a sense of self as ...
Views: 2029 - The People Who Have Influenced Me: Vincenzo Santiglia - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to my journey of self awareness, there are some people who stand out when I look back on where I have come from. And one of those people is Vincenzo Santiglia. This is someone who is based in Italy and teaches around the world and offers one to one consultations. The ...
Views: 2028 - Fifty Shades Of Grey: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThis was a film that I had already heard about due to the book being so popular, and although I did plan to read the book, I didn’t get round to it in the end. However, from what people had said about the book, it sounded like something that I would enjoy writing about. Now that I have ...
Views: 2027 - Letting Go: What Does Letting Go Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to living life in the present moment and being free from attachments to the past and to specific outcomes in the future; letting go is often spoken about as the ideal. And through letting go, one can then allow life to flow. Also, as a result of this, a lot of the stress that can ...
Views: 2027(1 vote) - Perfection: Are We Perfect As We Are? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI recently had a dream and in that dream there was a situation where I paid 60 pounds for this diamond shaped stone. I was then told how it would be worth more if I got it valued. So once I had bought it I went to a jeweller to see if it was actually worth more or if I had just been taken for a ...
Views: 2026 - Appearance: Do Some People Focus On Their Appearance In Order To Receive Approval? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone spent a lot of time on their appearance in the past, there is the chance that it wouldn’t have been possible for them to go out without looking a certain way. And while they might have been able to let go when they were at home, this might not have been the case. As a result of ...
Views: 2025 - Customer Service: Is Being Present Important? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was going to meet a friend, there is a strong chance that they would expect them to show up not only physically, but also mentally and emotionally. Another way of looking at this would be to say that they expect them to be present. However, if this wasn’t the case, it could be because ...
Views: 2024 - True Self: Why Is It Hard To Find The True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a quote by Carl Jung that says “Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” So based on this quote, it would be right to say that one’s true nature exists within and is not found without. To look within would then be the appropriate way of going about finding oneself. ...
Views: 2021(2 votes) - Black And White Thinking: Is It good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can think in ways that will enhance their life or at the very least not cause any harm, they can also think in a ways that will limit their quality of life. And the mind is like any other kind of tool out there; with one needing to know how to use it, in order to utilize its ...
Views: 2020(2 votes) - Communication: Is It Important To Smile? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who always seem to have a smile on their face and then there are other people who are not as expressive. They will smile from time to time, but it won’t be as often as someone who smiles freely; it could be said that they like to hold back. However, when it comes to ...
Views: 2020 - Needy: Can Unmet Childhood Needs Cause Someone To Be Needy? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo have needs is part of being human and this means it is not possible for one to remove their needs. But regardless of this fact, it doesn’t mean that one feels comfortable with their needs or that they’re able to get their needs met. Some people are going to view their needs with disdain ...
Views: 2019 - Busyness: Do Some People Stay Busy To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to say they are busy, and while this could be how their life is during certain times, it could be a way of life. In this case, it won’t matter what time it is or what day it is, as they will have things to do. This could be how they have been for most of their ...
Views: 2018 - Relationships: Do Some People Shut Down Emotionally After A Breakup? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that can cause someone to experience incredible pain, and a breakup is one of those things. When someone experiences a break up, it can feel as though their whole has come to end. It won’t matter if they had been with the other person for matter of months or ...
Views: 2018 - Needs: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Get Their Needs Met? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNeeds are something each and every one of us have; they are part of the human experience. And although this may be the case, it doesn’t mean that they will always be fulfilled. At times, one will have to go without having their needs met. This may not be a problem for some and this could be ...
Views: 2012 - Communication: Are You Approachable? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone might want to be approached by others, it doesn’t mean that this actually happens. And if it does happen, it could be something that doesn’t happen enough or in the right situations. This is going to relate to all kinds of scenarios and the primary areas are often to do with ones ...
Views: 2010 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Hate Men? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperCertain emotions are often seen as positive and others are often seen as negative, and this can cause people to embrace some and to deny others. But regardless of the label they’re given, they all have a purpose. What matters is: how one responds to how they feel and not how they feel. If ...
Views: 2008 - Human Contact: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear Human Contact? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some needs that human beings will need to have fulfilled in order to survive, there are other needs that can go unfulfilled without leading to someone’s death. This is not to say that it won’t have an effect on someone’s wellbeing though. For example: if one doesn’t receive ...
Views: 2007 - Attraction: Can Trapped Emotions Define Who We Are Attracted To? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to who one is attracted to and attracts, it can appear to be a random process. And that one has no control over who they attract or are attracted to. Certain physical traits are often cited as being the reason why one is or was attracted to someone. And physical characteristics ...
Views: 2005 - Masculinity: Do Some Men Need To Embrace Their Masculine Nature? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is into self-development or if they simply stay up to date with what its taking place in the mainstream media, they may have heard people talk about how men need to embrace their feminine side/nature. This is because they are out of touch with this side of themselves, and unless this ...
Views: 2005 - Social Media: Does Social Media Create Impossible Standards Of Beauty? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years now, the mainstream media has been criticised for editing pictures, and this is because of the effect this has on women. When they see these images, they are often unaware of what has been done, and they can come to believe that what they see is normal. If they were able to ...
Views: 2005 - Relationships: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Feel Unlovable? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings are interdependent and this means that relationships are a vital part of their ability to survive and to thrive. And while they need to have relationships with others, they also need to be in relationships that are fulfilling. For instance, one could be in a relationship and ...
Views: 2004 - Relationships: Do You Expect Other Adults To Fulfil Your Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has the desire to be in a relationship with someone, they are going to have certain expectations. And the same can be said when one is already in a relationship. Now, there is the chance that one is completely aware of what these are and at the same time, there is the chance that they ...
Views: 2001 - Blame: When Someone Blames Others Can It Make Them Blind To Their Own Faults? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something goes wrong, one can look into why it has gone wrong or they can find someone to blame. If one was to take the first option, it could be said that there is a greater chance of them being able to find a solution. Whereas if they were to find someone to blame for what has taken ...
Views: 2000 - The Mainstream Media: Where Perspectives Become Truths - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the challenges I have with the mainstream media, is that what is shown is largely portrayed as the truth. It could be said, that all forms of critical thinking are gradually eroded by exposing ourselves to it. Of course, it could be argued that it is down to the individual to use their ...
Views: 2000 - The Environment: Is Our Dissociation Destroying It? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe live in a time where there is intense focus and even an obsession when it comes to our environment. In many ways, I believe that this is a good thing. The questions that arise for me are; what causes us to act in ways that are so destructive to the environment? And at the same time, why is it ...
Views: 1995 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Shame Others For Being Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who embrace their inherent vulnerability, there are others who do everything they can to come across as invulnerable. This is not to say that these are the only options available, as there are likely to be people who alternate between the two. There will then be ...
Views: 1994 - Self Realisation: Running And The Journey - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt occurred to me how running is a great metaphor when it comes to the journey of removing the images and projections we have of reality and seeing reality for what it truly is. Something that can also seem to be, two steps forward and one step back at times. When we first start running it ...
Views: 1993 - Intimacy: Can Emotional Repression Sabotage Intimacy? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough the need to experience intimacy is one of the strongest needs that someone can have, it doesn’t mean that this is a need that will always be fulfilled. For some people in the world, intimacy will be part of life and something that is simply taken for granted. And as long as they can ...
Views: 1992(2 votes) - The People Who Have Influenced Me: Simon Rose - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to my journey of self awareness, there are some people who stand out when I look back on where I have come from. And one of those people is Simon Rose. This is someone who originates from Australia and now travels the world teaching courses with his wife Evette. The Blog In ...
Views: 1990 - Emotional Expression: What Can Happen When We Don't Express Our Emotions? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to stop eating and drinking it wouldn’t be long before they would start to experience problems. And if this went on for too long, they would soon die. But while one is likely to be aware of their physical needs in most cases, what they might not be aware of is what is going on for ...
Views: 1988 - Our Story: Is Our Story Who We Are? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe all have a story to tell, no matter who we are or where we’re from; a story that reminds us of a past that can never be forgotten. This is a story can define one’s life; one that contains the potential to create a life that is a reaction to the story or a life inspired and motivated by ...
Views: 1988 - This Technique Actually Heals Trauma! - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAround the middle of last year, there was a day when I felt like trying yoga again, and this was partly due to the fact that I felt lighter. What also gave me a boost was that I had just spent the afternoon with a friend. I had thought about doing this before, but I hadn’t taken the next ...
Views: 1988 - Offended: Does The Fear Of Offending Others Stop Some People From Sharing Their Views? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who generally think before they speak, there are others who don’t. As a result of this, they are likely to come across as being radically different human beings. Holding Back When it comes to the former, it could be said that they are typically not going to say ...
Views: 1985 - Self-Punishment: Why Do Some People Feel As Though They Deserve To Be Punished? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, one can punish themselves, and on the other side, they can be punished by others. And while this is the case, it is often easier to see when one is punished by others. If one ends up being treated badly by someone, for instance, there is a strong chance that they will be looked ...
Views: 1985 - Child Abuse: Is Feeling Safe An Important Part Of Healing From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on May 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is abused as a child, it is highly likely that they are going to have trouble feeling safe in life. This would have been something that they first experienced when they were growing up and something that has stayed with them throughout their adult years. So for some people, it ...
Views: 1984 - Abuse: Have You Gone From Being A Victim To Being A Perpetrator? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that abuse is passed down from one generation to another and it can be hard for people to understand why this happens. However, the next generation are not the only ones who can end up being abused; it is also something that can affect the people who the abuser comes into ...
Views: 1981 - Emotional Regulation: What Is Emotional Regulation? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough emotions and feelings are something each one of us has, it doesn’t mean that they are easy to handle or manage. For some people, they generally don’t cause too many problems, unless there is a major challenge in their life. And then there are other people who find it incredibly ...
Views: 1980 - Repressed Emotions: How Can Someone Know If They Have Repressed Emotions? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough emotions are meant to flow, this is not something that always happens. This is not to say that one should always express how they feel; as this is not always going to be appropriate. What it will involve, is for one to accept how they feel and then to contain their emotional ...
Views: 1979 - Inner Conflict: Is Inner Conflict Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on May 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is free from inner conflict, they are going to be able to experience inner peace. Not only this, but they will also experience a sense of clarity and this is going to make their life a lot easier. One could find that it is relatively easy for them to make decisions and for them to ...
Views: 1975 - Communication: How Do You Make People Feel? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to communicating and connecting with others it is rarely what one says that is important. This means that the words that are used are only a very small part of the equation. How something is said will make a bigger difference than what is said. But this is not the focus of this ...
Views: 1974(2 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear That Their Partner Will Cheat? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous challenges that can arise in a relationship and while some of these are fairly insignificant and can be overlooked, others are far more significant and can’t be ignored. And while there is going to be external challenges, there is also going to be internal challenges. So ...
Views: 1974 - Bullying: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Bullied? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many forms of bullying around today and some of these are more overt than others. At times, this is done in a way that is so subtle, that it can take place without anyone even noticing. And while bullying has taken place for many, many years, and is nothing new, the internet has ...
Views: 1973 - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause People To Create A False-Self? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in touch with their true-self, it is likely to mean that they are in touch with their true needs and feelings, among others things. These inner aspects will then go onto shape their behaviour, and the idea people have of them can then match up with who they are. However, this ...
Views: 1973 - The People Who Have Influenced Me: Vijay Rana - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to my journey of self-awareness, there are some people who stand out when I look back on where I have come from, and one of those people is Vijay Rana. This is someone who is based in England and he is a healer/therapist. Emotional Build-up Towards the end of 2014, I was ...
Views: 1973 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Find It Hard To Say No? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for women to be in positions of great power and responsibility. They often have more control in their career and relationships and are not as limited as previous generations were. This is not to say that this sense of inner empowerment has become the norm for ...
Views: 1971 - Listening: Do You Listen With Your Head Or Heart? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is an essential human need to be listened to and truly heard by others. This leads to a sense of validation and the experience of being mirrored. From the moment one is born this need is there and it will stay there until the moment they pass. Although this need is essential to ones ...
Views: 1971 - Selfies: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Selfies? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThrough the introduction of social media, people have been able to express themselves in ways that were not available in the past. People can share how they feel, where they are and where they are going, amongst others things. But one is not limited to words when comes to what is taking ...
Views: 1970 - Change: Do Some People Try To Change The World In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are the changes that one can make in their own life and then there are the changes they can make in the world. And as one is part of the world, what takes place in their life can end up affecting the world. The internet has given individuals the power to make more of a difference than ...
Views: 1969 - Anxiety: Can Toxic Shame Cause Anxiety? - by Submitted on May 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough feeling anxious from time to time is a normal part of life, if this is something one suffers from on a regular basis it is likely to mean that something isn’t right. Now, this is not to say that one has to be in a constant state of anxiety for there to be problem; as it could also be ...
Views: 1968 - Relationships: Is Needing Someone The Same As Loving Them? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about what it means to love someone or for someone else to love them, they are likely to have an idea in mind. This idea could also be backed up by a certain feeling or a combination of feelings. What it means to one person is not necessarily going to be the same as what it ...
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