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- Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That Women Are A Threat To His Survival If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man wants to develop a loving and harmonious relationship with a woman, it doesn’t mean that he has been able to make much progress. He could be in a position where he hasn’t been able to find a woman who is suitable. Alternatively, he might have dated at least one woman but for ...
Views: 206 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Need To Love If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it is part of the human experience to want to not only be loved but to also love. But, although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that someone will be in touch with both of these needs. If they aren’t, these needs will be repressed and will, therefore, be outside of ...
Views: 205 - Grieving: Is Grieving An Important Part Of Being Able To Embrace Life? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperExperiencing loss is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that someone will grieve after they have experienced a loss. As a result of this, they can do their best to carry on as normal. Still, this is not to say that they will consciously avoid how they feel as this can be ...
Views: 205 - Mother Wounds: Can A Mother Emasculate Her Son If She Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to think about how his mother treated him during his formative years, he could be filled with gratitude. The reason for this is that this is likely to have been a time when he was loved and cherished by her. However, if another man was to think about how his mother treated him ...
Views: 205 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Focus On His Mother To Stay Loyal To His Father? - by Submitted on May 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is likely to stand out, if a man is focused on his mother and is neglecting himself, is that he has a strong need to please her. Due to how strong this need is, a number of his needs will end up being overlooked. From this, it will be clear that he needs to spend less time being there ...
Views: 205 - Psychic Protection: Does Someone Need To Protect Themselves From ‘Negative’ Energy? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous articles, videos and books available that go into how important it is for someone to protect themselves from ‘negative’ energy. Furthermore, there is a lot of information that goes into how this can be done. When someone does this, they will create a strong energetic ...
Views: 205 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Be Out Of Touch With His Sensitive Side If He Was Abused During His Early Years? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperBased on how a man typically comes across, it can be as if he only has a masculine aspect. In other words, he can come across as emotionless, hard and as though nothing fazes him. And, if he was to come across a man who is emotionally expressive and sensitive, he could criticise him. This ...
Views: 204 - Heart-Centred: Does Someone Need To Open Their Heart If It Is Closed? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to living a fulfilling life, one thing that is often mentioned is having an open heart. Or, perhaps to be more accurate, this is what is often mentioned in the world of self-development and spirituality. What this typically relates to is someone being connected to how they feel ...
Views: 204 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Disconnected From Himself If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man can be out of touch with how he feels and a number of his needs. He is then going to look like a whole human being, but he typically won’t operate like one. As a result of this, it is going to be normal for him to ignore how he feels and overlook a number of his needs. But, ...
Views: 204 - Mother Wounds: Can A Woman Reject Her Feminine Side If She Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a man won’t just have a masculine element, a woman also won’t just have a feminine element. Just as with a man then, her appearance will be an expression of one element but when it comes to her inner world, she will contain both elements. Nonetheless, although this will ...
Views: 204 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Father Abandon Himself? - by Submitted on May 02, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAt first, a man who is entangled with his mother might have focused on the impact that she is having and had on him. The reason for this is that it would have been clear that she is having and did have a big effect on him. But, as time has passed, it might have become clear that there is the ...
Views: 204 - True Self: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone’s True Self To Be Murdered? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves, it might generally be a reflection of their true self. Then again, it might generally be a reflection of their false self. If it is generally a reflection of their true self, it will mean that they will have a strong connection with their body. By having ...
Views: 204 - Child Abuse: Will A Narcissistic Parent Ever Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they could have a strong need to talk to their parent or parents about what happened. Now, it might seem strange as to how they have only just come to see that this was the case. However, what needs to be ...
Views: 203 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Disconnected From Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to be out of touch with how they feel and a number of their needs. By being this way, they are going to neglect themselves and this can mean that they will often feel drained. So, their need to relax and connect deeply with others can typically be overlooked. ...
Views: 203 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Needs If They Had A Self-Absorbed Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperBased on how someone behaves, it could be as if they are here to meet other people’s needs and don’t have any of their own. The reason for this is that they could act like an extension of others. Apart from taking care of their basic needs, then, such as their need to eat and sleep, they ...
Views: 203 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Carry Narcissistic Wounds? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, someone may have spent a fair amount of time around people who always wanted to be the centre of attention, to always be admired, had a strong sense of entitlement and were self-centred, for instance. Unlike these people, they could come across in a very different way. So, ...
Views: 202 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have The Need To Keep Women At A Distance If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man can need to keep women at bay, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. As a result, it can seem as though someone or something ‘out there’ is simply holding him back. If he is in this position, this area of his life is not going to be very fulfilling. So, ...
Views: 202 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman’s Unmet Developmental Need To Be Loved Causing Her To End Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a woman is likely to be aware of, if she is with a man who is overly focused on his mother and is not available, is that a number of her needs are not being met. In fact, she could struggle to think of one need that is being met. But, as he will rarely be around and when he is around he ...
Views: 202 - Relationships: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Attach To The Wrong People? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat might soon stand out, if someone were to step back and reflect, is that they have the tendency to end up with people who are not right for them. This could be something that has happened so often that they question if they want to be with another person. But, as fed up as they can be, ...
Views: 202 - Anger: Can Someone Carry Lot of Anger If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they often feel angry and even enraged. At times, due to how worked up they become, they could lose the ability to think clearly and do things that they later regret. This could be how they have been for as long ...
Views: 201 - Child Abuse: Did An Abusive Parent Consciously Choose To Harm Their Child? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone can believe, if they were mistreated during their early years, is that their parent or parents did this on purpose. They then did what they could to undermine their child as opposed to doing what they could to build them up. Assuming that it was one parent who did this; they ...
Views: 201 - Enmeshment: Can Someone Learn About Enmeshment By Watching Yellowstone? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was on a plane at the end of last year, I started watching a few episodes of a series called Yellowstone. I think I may have heard about it before or I might have just been curious about it after I saw the cover and read the description. Anyway, I was soon engrossed in the series and I ...
Views: 201 - Needs: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Needs If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an interdependent human being who has needs, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. In general, they could act as though they are completely independent and don’t have any needs. However, this doesn’t mean that they will be consciously denying their true nature. ...
Views: 201 - Child Abuse: Is It A Form Of Indirect Revenge When A Parent Abuses Their Child? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they could find it hard to get their head around what happened. But, as their own parent or parents will have been the ones who didn’t treat them well, this is not going to be much of a surprise. This person ...
Views: 200 - Early Deprivation: Someone Feel Invisible If They Had A Parent Who Was Emotionally Blind? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter feeling lonely for many years and becoming aware of this, someone could find that they have the tendency to feel invisible. They are then going to exist and be able to be seen by others but they generally won’t feel as though they exist or are seen by others. Naturally, experiencing ...
Views: 200 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have The Need To Hide His Feelings If He Had A Critical Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to hide how he feels and to make out that he is fine. It could go further than this, though, as he could typically be unaware of how he feels and not have a strong connection with his part of him. Assuming that this is the case, he will look like a whole human ...
Views: 200 - Mother Wounds: Can Women Take On A Symbolic Meaning If A Man Had A Mother Who Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a man can be in a position where he more or less goes from one woman to another. When it comes to how long he spends with each woman, it can depend on a number of factors. His time with a woman can then last a number of weeks or months. But, no matter how long it lasts, ...
Views: 200 - Mother Wounds: Is A Narcissistic Mother Developmentally Stunted? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has been able to get to the stage where they can see that how their mother behaved during their formative years was anything but healthy, they could wonder why she was this way. But that might not be all there is to it, though, as their mother might not be much different now that they ...
Views: 200 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Want A Daughter? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is focused on and often does things for his mother, he is going to be like a caretaker. Along with what he does for her, he might create the impression that he is happy to be there for her. Based on how he behaves, it will be as though his sole purpose is to be there for his mother ...
Views: 200 - Self-knowledge: Why Would Someone Be Drawn To The Darkness That Is ‘Out There’? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to spend a lot of time looking into what the elites are doing. In their eyes, these can be seen as the people who are creating most if not all of the problems in the world. If so, this is likely to mean that they will watch a lot of videos and read a lot of ...
Views: 200 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need to Emotionally Separate From His Mother In Order To Have Boundaries? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man is a separate human being with his own needs and feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that he will act like one. Instead, what can be normal is for him to act as if he is an extension of his mother. He is then not going to be the main actor in his own life; he will be ...
Views: 199 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Sacrificed By His Parents? - by Submitted on May 14, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, it will be clear that something is not right if a man is focused on his mother and is not there for himself. He will be a separate human being, who has his own needs and life to lead, and yet, he won’t act like one. Thus, he will have put his own life to one side and his main ...
Views: 199 - Needs: Why Would A Parent Cause Their Child To Lose Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, they could typically ignore a number of their needs. But, if this is just what is normal, they might not be aware of this. If so, apart from their basic needs, most if not all of their other needs will seldom be met. To be specific, they can generally take care ...
Views: 199 - People Pleasing: Can Someone Have The Need To Please Others If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is an individual, with their own needs and feelings, it doesn’t mean that they generally act like one. In general, they could do what they can to please others. As a result of this, it will be as if they are here to serve the needs of others, not to have their own life. ...
Views: 199 - Brands: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Worship A Brand? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor many, many years, someone may have spent a fair amount of their money on certain or several clothes brands. Assuming that it is one brand, this is then going to be a brand that they greatly value. Therefore, the money that they have spent over the years will be seen as an investment. So, ...
Views: 198 - Fight Instinct: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Fight Instinct If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt times, it will be necessary for someone to relax and recharge, and, at other times, it will be necessary for them to take action and get things done. The fire that is inside them won’t be activated when they are relaxed and it will be when they are not. However, to say that this fire will ...
Views: 198 - Helplessness: Can Someone Embody A Sense Of Helplessness If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to be passive and lack motivation. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. Due to this, they might typically only do what they have to do. Based on how they live their life, it will be as though they have given up on life and don’t ...
Views: 198 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Embody A Sense Of Helplessness? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to see that he is out of balance, after focusing on his mother and not having much of a life for however long, he can look into what he can do to change his life. He can then be angry and fed up with how his life is but he can be relieved that he can now do something about ...
Views: 198 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Woman Need To Look Into The Law Of Resonance If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having been with a number of men who were overly focused on their mother’s needs and were not available, a woman could believe that she is unlucky. This can partly be because of how different she is likely to be from these men. Unlike these men, she is unlikely to be focused on one of ...
Views: 198 - Critical Thinking: Is Humanity Being Victimised By Their Shadow? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf the average person was asked to share their opinion in regards to why the world is the way that it is, they might say that it’s because of the people that are in power. Therefore, if these people were dealt with in one way or another, the world would be different. This can be someone who ...
Views: 197 - Father Wounds: Can A Woman Hate Men If She Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman hates men, this can be something that is very much part of her personality or it might not be. When it comes to the former, she could spend a lot of time thinking about how bad men are and having numerous conversations with other women about it. This could go even further, though, ...
Views: 197 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Women If He Had An Emotionally Unstable Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could see, if he was to reflect on his life, is that he has the tendency to keep women at a distance. He could find that this is something that typically just happens, without him consciously choosing to be this way. This can mean he has been single for most of his life and has ...
Views: 197 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative View Of Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on how he sees women, he might find that he doesn’t have a positive view of them. He could see them as cold, critical, cruel and emotionally unstable and unpredictable, among other things. As to why he sees them in this way, it is likely to be a sign that ...
Views: 197 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That He Would Die If He separated From His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that a man can only have one life; he can’t have two or more lives. Therefore, if he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother, it is naturally going to have a negative impact on his ability to have a life that is fulfilling. In fact, due to how caught up he is in his ...
Views: 197 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can Repression Stop A Woman From Being Able To See Why She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother and is not available, and she has been in this position before, she could be well and truly fed up. But, as this won’t be the first time that she has been in this position, it is to be expected. There will be the type of man that ...
Views: 197 - Self-Worth: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Carry A Sense Of Unworthiness? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor someone to meet their needs, they are going to need to know that they are worthy of having them met and to take action. Another way of looking at this is to say that there is the being element and the doing element. However, although both of these elements are important, someone can be in ...
Views: 197 - Sleep Problems: Why Would Someone Have Trouble Sleeping? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to have difficulty falling asleep. Furthermore, they could know at least one person who has the same challenge. And, even if there isn’t anyone in their life who has spoken about this, it doesn’t mean that there is not someone in their life who is in ...
Views: 197 - Emotional Regulation: Does Someone Need To Develop The Ability To Regulate Their Emotions If They Are Out Of Control? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could see, if they were to reflect on their life, is that their inability to handle their emotions is having a negative on their life. They could also see that this is nothing new as they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Due to this, they might not need to ...
Views: 196 - Mother Wounds: Why Would A Man Have Had A Mother Who Wasn’t Nurturing? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may have come to realise, as the years have passed, is that his mother wasn’t very warm when he was growing up. She would then have been his mother but she wouldn’t have been very motherly. However, he could wonder why it has taken him so long to see his mother clearly. For most of ...
Views: 196 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Mother Too Enmeshed To Allow Him To Separate From Her? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can plague a man’s mind, if he has come to see that he was unable to attach to his mother, develop a strong sense of self and then break away from her, is why this process didn’t take place. He can feel angry, enraged and deeply betrayed. But, as the person who he came through ...
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