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- Relationships: Why Do Some People Repeat Unhealthy Relationship Patterns? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because one is with someone who looks different to the person they were in a relationship with before, it doesn’t mean that their experience is going to be any different. And if ones last experience was generally healthy and functional, this is not going to be something that one is going to ...
Views: 2158 - Child Abuse: What Happens When A Child Is Invalidated? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to raising a child that is mentally and emotionally healthy and has a strong sense of self, it is imperative that they are validated. This is not to say that they have to be validated at all times in order to become a functional adult, but in most cases, it is vital that this ...
Views: 2157(2 votes) - Family: Are Family A Gift Or A Curse? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some families in the world that are filled with love and connection. These families’ work together, to support and assist each other and not because they have to; but because they want to. To them, family means much more than just a word or the DNA that may connect them to each ...
Views: 2157 - Relationships: Is It Important To Understand The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperQuestions such as: what does it take to keep a woman happy and what does it take to please a man, have been around for many years. And sometimes people come up with answers and sometimes people give up trying to find answers. The great psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud even pondered this question ...
Views: 2152 - Thoughts: Do Our Thoughts Create Our Feelings? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent times, people have become more aware of how powerful their thoughts are and while the power of one’s thoughts is nothing new, it was not something that was as well known in the past. And the reason more people are aware of the power of their thoughts is partly down to the internet. ...
Views: 2146 - Abused Children: Why Do They Have Boundary Problems? - by Submitted on May 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis article has the description abused children and therefore gives the impression that it is going to be all about children. However, this will be about adults who were abused as children and as a result of this now have a real challenge with boundaries. When it comes to child abuse, there ...
Views: 2143 - Child Abuse: Is Anger An Important Part Of Healing From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some emotions that are seen as ‘bad’ or ‘negative’ and while this might be the case if they are shown in certain situations, this is not going to apply in others. Every emotion has purpose and a reason for appearing; this not to say that one should act upon every emotion that arises ...
Views: 2140 - Purpose: Do Only Some People Have A Purpose? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people in this world, doing what they love is a normal part of life. And for others this is nothing more than an idea that sounds good and is far from there day to day experience. To do what ones loves and enjoys might have not even been considered by this person. Life can be seen as ...
Views: 2140 - Success: What Does It Mean To Be Successful? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word success is widely used in today’s world and it is something that is sought after by many people. People from all backgrounds and walks of life are driven to attain success. And through the media and other means, we are constantly exposed to people who are successful in certain ...
Views: 2137 - Relationships: Should Relationships Be Easy? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are all kinds of ideas in the world as to how a relationship should be. These ideas are often shaped by popular culture, from influences such as Disney or Hollywood films. And by taking on board these perspectives, some people can come to expect relationships to be easy and straight ...
Views: 2136 - Rejection: Why Do Some People Fear Rejection? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many fears that human beings can have and some of these are classed as real and parts of one’s ability to survive and others are seen as self made and have very little to do with ones survival. And the fear of rejection is often classed as a fear that is irrational and not based in ...
Views: 2135 - Defence Mechanism: Repression - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperRepression, as I see it, is denying a situation of any expression or exposure, until it has gone from our awareness or rarely takes up too much of our attention. This can be brought about in two ways, which depend on the subjective severity of the experience. The first one is by the use of ...
Views: 2134 - Dependency: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Dependency? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn the area of self development and recovery the term co-dependency have been used for many years. And this generally describes someone who is not interdependent or independent; they are completely dependent on others or on certain substances. This is something that can relate to every need ...
Views: 2127 - The Media: Creating The Illusion Of Perfection - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAbusive behaviour can include all that makes one feel compromised, undermined and taken advantage of. It can be in the relationships one has with: friends, family, colleagues and in intimate relationships. The type of environment it is, or whether one is male or female, the race or the ...
Views: 2126 - Victim Mentality: Why Do Some People Have A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is nothing like a good victim story to get people’s attention. The media routinely covers a certain event or situation where one person or a group of people are labelled as victims. And based on what happens in these situations, it is often very difficult to disagree with the ...
Views: 2126 - Man Up: Is Saying 'Man Up' Sexist? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there is far less pressure on men and women to conform to certain roles, and this has made it easier for them to be themselves. However, change doesn’t happen overnight, and while so much has been archived, there is still work to be done. In the past, men had to be ‘strong’ ...
Views: 2125 - Healing: How Does Healing Work? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMy current outlook to healing and processing is that, along with the individual's willingness to process their past, the other important element to releasing our patterns is to be assisted by someone who has achieved a certain level of presence. And that the processing (healing) technique alone ...
Views: 2122 - People Pleasing: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Please Others? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is into self-development, they may have heard about how important it is for them to live their own life and not to please other people. As if they were to do what they can to please others, it is going to stop them from being able to fulfil their own needs. Therefore, instead of their ...
Views: 2120 - Closing Westgate Hall: The Psychological Consequences - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThe fact that the Westgate Hall in Canterbury is under threat, is not news to me. I have known this to be the case for over 6 months or more, and I will admit that I didn’t think much of it at first. So, you may be wondering at this point, what has made me finally take notice and reflect on the ...
Views: 2118 - Abandonment: Does The Fear Of Being Abandoned Control Your Life? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the ideal is for someone to live their truth, this is not always possible. And one reason why this is not possible is when they have a fear of being abandoned. Their choices and decisions in life are then going to be defined by this fear and what is actually right for them is going to be ...
Views: 2116 - Forgiveness: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Forgiving? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to be told that they should just forgive and forget and simply move on from someone who has wronged them. This can seem to be the most logical thing that one can do; to put it behind them and carry on with their life. One could be told that they are bigger than ...
Views: 2111(2 votes) - Chronicle: My Interpretation of the Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAfter hearing about this film through a friend, I thought it sounded similar to a number of other films that have been released in recent years. The films Push and Jumper came to mind. Now that I have seen the film I believe that it is a metaphor for intention and how intention is what ...
Views: 2109 - Emotional Eating: What Is Emotional Eating? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn Today’s world there is an intense focus on what we eat and on the importance of exercise. If one eats the right foods and eats them at the right time, along with the right amount of exercise; then one is likely to end up in physical shape. Now, for some this may work and for others this will ...
Views: 2102 - Self Image: Is Our Self Image Secondhand? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years I have been focusing on and asking myself about my own identity. Is the way we see ourselves the true expression of who we really are or is it the result of something else. And will we be comfortable with the same Identity our whole lives. Most of us have heard how the way we ...
Views: 2098 - Communication: Is It Good To Be Curious? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMost people have heard the saying ‘’curiosity killed the cat’’ and this has lead to all kinds of meanings being constructed. For some people it will have been interpreted to mean that being curious is dangerous and others may simply dismiss it as just an old saying. But regardless of this ...
Views: 2094 - Child Abuse: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Healing From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have grown into an adult and therefore left their childhood behind them, it doesn’t mean that they have completely moved on from those early years. Ones childhood influences them in ways that are obvious and in ways that are more or less oblivious. It is a time that plays a ...
Views: 2092(1 vote) - Abusive Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Create A Tolerance For Abuse? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences some kind of abuse in their adult relationships, there is often the chance that they will identify with one of two outlooks. They can either see that this abuse is a reflection of what took place during their childhood or they can come to the conclusion that their ...
Views: 2091 - Attraction: What Do People Find Attractive? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe definition of what it means to be attractive is not always the same for one person as it is for another. There are general things that are recognised as being attractive in women and attractive in a man. Science often comes up with what these qualities are. However, what is found to be ...
Views: 2089 - Entitlement Mentality: Is It Caused By A Lack Of Emotional Growth? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many problems in today’s world and one problem is the much talked about entitlement mentality. And this is a mentality that is seen amongst people of all ages and backgrounds. Two people who have this mentality could be observed and what they believe they are entitled to may vary. ...
Views: 2086 - Responsibility: The Taboo Of Responsibility - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe title of this article might seem out of place and even slightly unnecessary. You might be wondering how a word of such meaning, can be used to describe something as normal as responsibility. There might also be the chance of your thoughts being along the same lines as what I am about to ...
Views: 2084 - Loss: Why Can Loss Hurt So Much? - by Submitted on May 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is something that can affect someone in many ways and as a result of many things. Some losses can simply be ignored and forgotten about and then there are others can are harder to forget. One can also lose something and never forget the loss; regardless of how much times goes by or what ...
Views: 2081(1 vote) - Emotional Neglect: From One Generation To Another - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what one generation passes onto the next, genetics are at the forefront. Some experts say that whatever one generation has, the next are certain to have the same. However, others, through their understanding of epigenetics, have said that their needs to be a trigger in order for ...
Views: 2079 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear Being Alone? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can be by themselves, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they will feel lonely. To be on their own and away from others could be something that they enjoy; with one feeling energised by it. However, there are other people who can be by themselves and this makes them feel ...
Views: 2076(2 votes) - Hoarding: What Causes Hoarding? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is something that has surely been around for many, many years. In the very beginning of human evolution it was probably only food that was hoarded for those moments when it would be in short supply. However, in the modern day world, this can relate to just about everything on this ...
Views: 2072 - Coaching: How Can Someone Start A Blog For A Coaching Business? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are number of ways for someone to promote themselves in today’s world, and one way they can do this is through having their own blog. This will also make it easier for other people to get a deeper understanding of what they have to offer. If someone doesn’t have their own blog, they ...
Views: 2069 - True Self: Why Is It Hard To Reveal Our True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperRevealing who one is to others is not always easy and I believe that this can be due to two reasons. Firstly this can come about through not knowing who one is and secondly through the feeling that it is not safe for one to reveal who one is. Both of these reasons can be the result of ones ...
Views: 2066 - The Heart: Is It More Than A Muscle? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis article will look at the different aspects of the heart; this will include empathy, emotions and feelings. I will also explain my current understanding of what leads to an absence of empathy and an ability to feel. Inspiration I was also inspired to write this after seeing the Alfa ...
Views: 2065 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Attract People That Lack Boundaries? - by Submitted on May 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that will make it easier to have fulfilling relationships with others, and having boundaries is one of them. The primary reason for this is that they will allow someone to maintain their sense of self. As when one is unable to do this, it is going to be a ...
Views: 2063 - Female Celebrities: Are Female Celebrities Good Role Models For Women? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to ideas on how to act and in what one should or shouldn’t wear, celebrities play a pivotal role. And this applies to both men and women; neither gender is exempt from their influence. Their influence will be stronger for some people than it is for others and this can depend on ...
Views: 2060 - Interviews With Successful People: Harry Gregson-Williams – Composer - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperI was watching a film called The Equalizer and soon after, I started to listen to the soundtrack. I had appreciated the music while I was watching the film, but it was only upon listening to the soundtrack that I felt truly touched by it. I began thinking about what it would be like to ...
Views: 2060 - Child Abuse: Can Validation Allow Someone To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone has experienced some kind of abuse or has had to endure some other kind of pain, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to move on from it. Because although one could be innocent and have nothing to do with what happened, as in the case of child abuse, it doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 2054 - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause People To Have An Entitlement Mentality? - by Submitted on May 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone wants to achieve something, there is the chance that they will have a number of people who inspire them. These could be people who they know personally or it may relate to people they know from a distance. However, regardless of whether they know them or not, they will be having ...
Views: 2053 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Look For love In All The Wrong Places? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to finding or attracting someone to be in a relationship with, the need is going to be there to meet someone who will treat one as they want to be treated. And through another behaving in certain ways, one will end up feeling loved. However, just because someone is in love, it ...
Views: 2050 - Critical Thinking: Do Some Men’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Feminists? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to go into a certain environment, such as a university, they may come across a number of men who describe themselves as ‘feminists’. Yet, one won’t have to go somewhere like this is if they want to find men like this, as they can just use social media instead. A Number of ...
Views: 2047 - Love: Where Does Love Come From? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people say money makes the world go round, other people say that it is love that makes the world go round. Each outlook deserves to be heard and the outlook that one has is likely to depend on what they’re like as a person. If one was an idealist they might say it is love and yet ...
Views: 2046 - Abuse: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Abusive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what area of life one looks at, there will be examples of abuse. And this can be abuse that is easy to spot and abuse that is more subtle in nature. There are some things that stand out more than others, but this doesn’t mean that what is not seen or recognised as abuse is any less ...
Views: 2045(2 votes) - The People Who Have Influenced Me: Susan Winter - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to my journey of self-awareness, there are some people who stand out when I look back on where I have come from. And one of those people is Susan Winter. This is someone who is a professional love and life mentor who is based in New York. Searching In the beginning of 2013, ...
Views: 2039 - The Healing Paradox - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, I remember reading something that said that the more we want to change, the harder it is to change. This was the last thing I wanted to hear as I wasn’t in a good way; it also didn’t make sense. I desperately wanted my life to change; this was something that felt like ...
Views: 2038 - Relationships: Is It Important To Grieve The End Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, it can often lead to pain. For some people the end of a relationship will be experienced solely as a loss and for others, although there is a sense of loss, it will also be coupled with a sense of freedom and that the time had come. This will of course ...
Views: 2031(1 vote) - Boundaries: Can Anxiety Be Caused By A Lack Of Boundaries? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to have anxiety problems in today’s world, and while it may still be possible for them to carry on with the rest of their life, there is also the chance that their whole life could end up being affected. In this case, it is going to be challenge for them to enjoy ...
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