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- Needs: Is It Better To Be Selfless Than To Be Selfish? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are certain behaviours that are seen as being good, there are others that are seen as being bad. When it comes it comes to the former, it can relate to having manners, being friendly and helping others. Through being this way, one is likely to find that most people will respond ...
Views: 1229 - Needs: Is It Important For Someone To Be Comfortable With Their Needs When They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the tendency to please others, it is likely to be a sign that they don’t feel comfortable with their own needs. It is then not going to matter that they are a separate human being, as their life won’t be a reflection of who they are. Point of Focus Their day-to-day life ...
Views: 1292 - Needs: What Can Happen If Someone Had To Fulfil Their Caregivers Needs As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperSomeone’s early years might not have been a stage of their life when they received what they needed to receive in order to grow and develop; this may have been a time when the roles were reversed. Consequently, it would have been up to them to fulfil their caregiver’s needs. Now, this would ...
Views: 519 - Needs: Why Are Some People Out Of Touch With Their Own Needs? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEach one of us has wants and needs and yet that doesn’t mean that everyone is in touch with their wants and needs. It is also possible for someone to have wants and needs that are second hand and have nothing to do with what actually matters to them. It could be that one actually believes ...
Views: 1978 - Needs: Why Do Some People Always Put Other People's Needs Before Their Own? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of being human and this means that they can’t be overlooked or denied without certain consequences arising. This doesn’t mean that one will always have their needs met; this is not going to be possible. But if one’s life has taken on a pattern where their needs are ...
Views: 2273 - Needs: Why Do Some People Believe That Their Needs Are Not Important? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough everyone on this planet has needs, it doesn’t mean that everyone on this planet feels comfortable with their own needs. And it could be said that when one does feel comfortable with their needs, their life is going to be a lot easier. In this case, not only is one an interdependent ...
Views: 1522 - Needs: Why Do Some People Believe That They Will Be Rejected If They Reveal Their Needs? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that everyone on this planet feels comfortable with their needs. If someone does, their life is likely to be far more fulfilling than it would be otherwise. Through being this way, it will be possible for all of them to show ...
Views: 527 - Needs: Why Do Some People Feel Ashamed Of Their Needs? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across someone who said that they can live without air, one might start laughing or they could think that there is something wrong with them. This is because human beings need air to survive; they could go against this need, but their life would soon come to an end. As ...
Views: 2988 - Needs: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Living Their Own Life? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to prepare their favourite meal, there is a strong chance that they will end up enjoying the meal once it was ready. What is unlikely to happen is that they will end up feeling as though they are doing something wrong during this time. Another way of looking at this would be to ...
Views: 1439 - Needs: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Putting Their Needs First? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to put their needs first and to be there for others when it is possible. In this case, it shows that they are comfortable with their own needs and don’t feel the need to ignore them. Just as there are going to be others who only feel comfortable when they ...
Views: 1690 - Needs: Why Do Some People Feel Selfish For Putting Their Needs First? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who feel comfortable putting their needs first, there are others who don’t. Even so, this doesn’t mean someone will be aware of this even though this is the case. Instead, they could simply have the tendency to focus on other people’s needs, and this is ...
Views: 1317 - Needs: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Get Their Needs Met? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNeeds are something each and every one of us have; they are part of the human experience. And although this may be the case, it doesn’t mean that they will always be fulfilled. At times, one will have to go without having their needs met. This may not be a problem for some and this could be ...
Views: 2102 - Needs: Why Do Some People Ignore Their Own Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can’t be denied about human beings it that they have needs and, while some of these needs can be met without reaching out to others, there are others that cant. This is why human beings have been described as interdependent, not independent or dependent. But, even though there ...
Views: 1103 - Needs: Why Do Some People Not Expect To Get Their Needs Met? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf human beings were not interdependent, it wouldn’t matter if other people were available to meet their needs. This is not to say that someone’s need’s can only be fulfilled by other people; this would be inaccurate and a sign of dependence, not interdependence. A child on the other hand, ...
Views: 2565 - Needs: Why Would A Parent Cause Their Child To Lose Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, they could typically ignore a number of their needs. But, if this is just what is normal, they might not be aware of this. If so, apart from their basic needs, most if not all of their other needs will seldom be met. To be specific, they can generally take care ...
Views: 291 - Needy: Can Trapped Emotions Make Someone Needy? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have needs is part of being human and this is something that cannot be changed. One might pretend that they don’t have any and yet this is nothing more than a facade and an act of self denial. And then there can be other people who come across as extremely needy and there is no confusion ...
Views: 1767 - Needy: Can Unmet Childhood Needs Cause Someone To Be Needy? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo have needs is part of being human and this means it is not possible for one to remove their needs. But regardless of this fact, it doesn’t mean that one feels comfortable with their needs or that they’re able to get their needs met. Some people are going to view their needs with disdain ...
Views: 2085 - Needy: Why Are Some People Needy? - by Submitted on May 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part is part of being human and this means they are nothing to be ashamed or something that one should try to remove. If each and every one of us was inherently independent, then we wouldn’t have needs. But as we are all interdependent, it means that we all have needs. ...
Views: 2895 - Negative Feelings: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Attached To ‘Negative’ Feelings? - by Submitted on May 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were able to step back and reflect on how they usually feel, is that they have the tendency to experience ‘negative’ feelings. So, they could often feel rejected, worthless, unloved, hopeless, helpless and abandoned. That’s not to say that these feelings will ...
Views: 335 - Negative Feelings: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Attached To ‘Negative’ Feelings? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take the time to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may find that they rarely feel good. Along with how they feel, there is going to be what takes place. At this point in time, they could believe that what takes place causes them to feel as they do. ...
Views: 663 - Negative Feelings: Why Would Someone Have ‘Negative’ Feelings? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIrrespective of whether someone is into self-development, they will probably be familiar with the term ‘negative’ feelings. In fact, they may even describe some of their own feelings in this way. If this is the case, it will mean that some of their feelings will be seen as ‘positive’ and ...
Views: 526 - Negative Mindset: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Develop A Negative Mindset? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow, if someone was to take a step back and to reflect on how they see themselves and their life, they may come to the conclusion that they have a ‘negative mindset’. If they were to open about to someone else, this person could also say the same thing. If they were to make a note of how they ...
Views: 563 - Negative People: Why Are Some People Always Negative? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear that is that life is not always a bed of roses: there are ups and downs and sometimes, there can be more downs than ups. For some people, there will be more ups than there are downs, but for others, the downs will outweigh the ups. One might then come to the conclusion that one ...
Views: 5392 - Negative Thoughts: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Negative Thoughts? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe term ‘negative thoughts’ has become very well known in today’s world and this is true for people who are into self development and people who are not. Thoughts are generally the primary focus in the area of change and personal transformation. These are said to control how one behaves, ...
Views: 1737 - Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Be Developmentally Stunted? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone becomes an adult, it will be clear that they are no longer a child. This stage of their life will be over and this will mean that their needs will be different from what they once were. As a child, they would have been dependent on others; whereas now that they are an adult, this ...
Views: 579 - Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Anger? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may find that it is more or less impossible for them to get angry. Or, if they can get angry, they may find that they don’t get angry when they need to. Either way, through not being able to get angry when they need to, ...
Views: 523 - Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people on this planet that have a sense of their own value and then there are those that don’t. It can be as though some people were born with this in place, while others weren’t. Still, even though it might seem as though this is something that someone is born with, there is far ...
Views: 937 - Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To See Themselves As An Extension Others? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor around the first two or three years of someone’s life, they will see themselves as an extension of their mother. During this time, they won’t be able to realise that they are physically separate from this person. Through being this way, their mother is going to more or less define their ...
Views: 531 - Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Stop Someone From Being Able To Express Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s early years, the ideal will be for them to receive what they need so that they can live their own life as an adult. This will then be a time, then, when they will grow on the outside and grow on the inside. Therefore, the first birth will have taken place, the physical birth, ...
Views: 476 - Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Take Away Someone’s Will To Live? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have been given life and will have the rest of their life ahead of them, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to make the most of the life that they have been given or appreciate that they have more years to live. Instead, they could generally see life as a burden and be ...
Views: 350 - Neglect: Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Emotional Pain If They Were Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was a neglected as a child, there will have been the pain that they went through for many years while they were younger and, now that they are an adult, there can be all the pain that they experience. What took place will have happened a long time go, that much is clear, but time ...
Views: 766 - Neglect: What Beliefs Can Someone Have If They Were Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might not realise that they were neglected as a child, it doesn’t mean that what took place will be firmly behind them. Their physical appearance will have changed and they might even live in a totally different environment, but their adult life could have a lot in common with ...
Views: 776 - Neglect: What Can Happen If Someone Was Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, it might be possible for them to see that their childhood was anything but nurturing. However, if they were neglected during this stage of their life, this might not be possible. The reason for this is that when it comes to abuse, someone might be able to see ...
Views: 823 - Nervous System: Can Childhood Trauma Overwhelm Someone’s Nervous System? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they are often all at sea and find it hard to feel at peace, their life is going to be far more difficult than it needs to be. With so much going in within them, they are not going to need to live a stressful life in order to feel stressed. They could then ...
Views: 531 - News: Is It Important For Someone To Limit Their Exposure To The News When They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it is easier than ever before for people to stay up to date with what is taking place in the world. This is partly because they no longer need to go and buy a paper or to turn on a TV, for instance. A Device As long as they have a Smartphone or something similar, ...
Views: 1149 - News: Should Someone Always Pay Attention To The Same News Source? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the urge to find out about what is taking place in the world, there is a strong chance that they will have a certain news source that they go to. This could be a source of information that they have followed for most of their life. Since the beginning of their life, they may ...
Views: 1316 - Nice Guys: Why Are Some Men 'Nice Guys'? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the modern day descriptions of men, there are two that are often mentioned. One is the bad boy and the other is the nice guy. And while on paper and in person these men can come across as being radically different, in many ways, they are simply two sides of the same coin. ...
Views: 2023 - Nihilism: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Nihilistic? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about what someone would be like if they are nihilistic, the main thing that could come to mind is that this person will believe that life has no meaning and nothing matters. They are then not going to be full of life and they might be happy to destroy things. Through ...
Views: 671 - Normal: What Does Normal Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word normal can trigger all kinds of meanings and what can come to mind are the judgements that are made around people. How someone looks, dresses or behaves is often part of this judgement. However, this article is not going to be about what is classed as normal or abnormal about people. ...
Views: 3154 - Objectification: Why Do Some People Objectify Others? - by Submitted on May 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo objectify someone is often described as what happens when they are seen as an object. And when this takes a place, they are not seen as a human being who has feelings or their own cognitions for example, they are just a physical body. Here another person may well be seen as an object that ...
Views: 3806 - Objectification: Why Do Some Women Say That Women Need To Stop Being Objectified? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for people to be part of some kind of movement, and it could be said that this is a partly down to the internet. Through being able to go online, one can connect to people who have the same views as them. As a result of this, the next step can be for them to ...
Views: 1364 - Observer Ego: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Develop A Strong Observer Ego? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are those who lack the ability to observe themselves and need to take the time to develop this ability, there are those that don’t. When someone has this ability, it could show that they have spent a fair amount of time meditating. Then again, this could be something that they ...
Views: 537 - Obsession: Is Obsession A Bad Thing? - by Submitted on May 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe words addiction and obsession can appear to describe the same thing. And yet there is a clear distinction between the two. An obsession is something that is usually in the mind and can relate to people, things and ideas; so all that is abstract and all that is concrete. On the other hand, ...
Views: 4099 - Offended: Can Being Offended Be An Opportunity To Grow? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon to hear about someone who has been offended by something. And while this could due to what another person has said to them, it could also be the result of something else. In this case, one might have been watching TV or overheard a conversation that other ...
Views: 1190 - Offended: Can Being Offended Stop Someone From Growing? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile something can take place at one moment in time, it doesn’t mean that this will be the case at another. As a result of this, what one generation spent a lot of time doing another generation might have no interest in doing it. When this relates to something that is destructive, it could ...
Views: 1178 - Offended: Can Being Sensitive Set Someone Up To Be Offended By Just About Everything? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn the one hand, there are people who are rarely, if ever, offended, and on the other, there are people who are offended by just about everything. This is something that is going to have a big effect on how they experience life. One Side When one can relate to the former, it is going to ...
Views: 1026 - Offended: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Offended By Others? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it could be said that there are a lot of sensitive people, and through being this way, they can find it hard to handle day-to-day life. However, this is not to say that everyone who is sensitive responds to life in the same way. Two Types What this comes down to is that ...
Views: 1733 - Offended: Does Being Offended Make Someone Right? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time around people there are likely to be moments when they agree with what they hear. Along with this, there are also likely to be moments when this isn’t the case. It could be said that this is part of life, and this is partly because they will have their own views. If they ...
Views: 1821 - Offended: Does Someone Have The Right To Silence Others If They Are Offended? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to grow and to develop, it is going to be vital for them to be exposed to new information. This will allow them to expand on what they are already aware of and it will enable them to see life differently. Therefore, unless this was to take place, it would stop them from ...
Views: 1267 - Offended: Does Someone's Life Lack Meaning If They Are Always Offended? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOne way of looking at today’s world would be to say that it is the age of being offended, and this is due to how a lot of people behave. While there are some people who are offended from time to time, there are others who are offended practically all the time. When it comes to the former, it ...
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