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- Live Your Life With Passion! - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraWhat does it really mean to live your life with passion or passionate living? Most people may think it is about doing, when truly, it is about being. That thing or things which best exemplify your highest self—now that is your passion. It is actually whatever you are most passionate about and ...
Views: 755(1 vote) - Finding Your Way To Blissful Marriage - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraThe dictionary version of the definition of bliss is short—“heaven, paradise, complete happiness”. This kind of bliss is short-term in duration. This day my friend and her husband marks 15 years of their blissful marriage. However, “bliss” as defined by a marriage veteran and “bliss” as defined ...
Views: 1132(2 votes) - Be The Best Receiver Ever: Master Your Appreciation Skills - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraThey say that it's better to give than to receive. But givers sometimes bemoan the lack of appreciation from the recipients. Christmas is fast approaching, surely, (or hopefully) there will be lots of presents in store for you! That's why it's not too late to brush up on your appreciation ...
Views: 583 - The Ingredients To Fulfillment - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraDuring the last five years, there has been increasing proof supporting the relation of fulfillment with life or happiness and being able to utilize and maximize your strengths. Most human beings who feel fulfilled with their life are most likely to be less stressed or harassed, do well at work, ...
Views: 647 - How To Gain More Friends For A Better Life - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraSince you only have one life to live, you might as well make the most of it and have the best life there is. Having great friends around is part of the joy in living. And have you ever dreamed of having lots and lots of friends around you in order to have a better life? It is true what they say ...
Views: 680 - The Discerning Effect Of Gladness - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraGladness is a noun…it’s the name for the condition of being glad. Therefore, the word has a certain sense of being pure about it, like the purity of driven snow. The etymology of the word gladness is ‘smooth’ and ‘shining’. It actually made me think of what it must have been like in the early ...
Views: 768 - Joy Changes Our Lives Forever! - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraJoy is what our Creator wants and intended for us—it's our right of birth. Joy is definitely what we want from life. Being joyful is a great and fantastic business. Happy and enthusiastic individuals produce more. And it does not take a lot of your time or cost a bunch of dollars. Being ...
Views: 701(2 votes) - I Like You Because You're You-- You're Unique! - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraWell now, look at you--have you forgotten that you're unique? Sometimes, it's more than your looks, your personality or even your talents. Who knows, it was your heart, your passion, your kindness, your zest for living or even your your never-say-die attitude despite your countless defeats. ...
Views: 788(1 vote) - Why Women Cheat - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2010 from Menno Spijkstra“Love is patient, love is kind…” nothing epitomizes this more than a woman’s love. Perhaps most men would agree with me when I say nothing could compare to a woman’s way of expressing affection. It’s pure, unconditional, lavish, and sacrificial. A woman would go through hell and back for the man ...
Views: 1235 - How To Make Living In Together A Breeze - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraLiving in together is one of the most exciting and huge steps a couple could take. It can make the relationship go further or it can end it in an instant. Needless, to say, living-in together is a big deal, whether you’re getting hitched or taking up the modern trend of pre-marital ...
Views: 901 - Reasons Why Single Women Go For Taken Men - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraTaken men are more prone to outside enticements, because of so many reasons. One of those reasons why men can’t keep their pants on is because some women have problems saying NO to them. One can’t help but wonder, what pathetic incident happened in a single woman’s life that made her go for ...
Views: 2694 - How To Spot A Cheater - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraCheaters, yeah, I know them so well. I had my moments with them. I thought I learned from the first one, until a better, more evolved cheater trapped me in his wiles again. After the second one, I swore I would be more careful and vigilant in looking out for cheaters. From that traumatic ...
Views: 1320 - Pure And Steadfast Bliss - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraAn individual in his or her purest and true nature is really a completely happy person. Why so—in this short article it can be suggested that each person that is now living, who has ever lived and who would ever live not just possesses that innate bliss within them, yet in fact actually is bliss ...
Views: 624(1 vote) - The 18 Characteristics Of Happy People - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraIn order to be happy, we should make happiness our ultimate goal. If attitude is truly everything, then being happy is definitely a choice. Although most people would argue against that, I could still declare that being glad and staying glad is my choice. If the truth be told, “If it was that ...
Views: 1263(1 vote) - Finding True Happiness Within - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraSo many people believe that happiness could truly be found when they find something they want or desire for the longest time. A friend opened up to me during a recent conversation that he could find happiness at last only if he could figure something out. That something, in all its mystery, was ...
Views: 696(1 vote) - The Pursuit Of Happiness Through Marriage - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraHappiness is synonymous to having a sound health and a calm mind. It is a valuable present and the pursuit of happiness should make us look at the love around us. It should also direct us to look within our hearts. Despite living in a nuclear society nowadays, man is still a social being and all ...
Views: 662 - Pursuit of Happiness: It's Within You - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraAs human beings, we want many things. We want to be rich and we also want to be happy. We all know that we need to work hard to earn wealth and we have to do a lot investment in order to be rich. But, how about happiness? How do we exactly pursue happiness? They say that it is the highest ...
Views: 663 - Signs Of Happiness: Do You Have Them? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraHow can you define happiness? Almost everything you've done in your life has a purpose. And the top on the list is bliss. But why do so many people rarely do something to find it? Why does it seem so difficult to find happiness most of the time? Have you ever tried to find blissfulness just to ...
Views: 667(1 vote) - Get A Load Of These Beauty Tips For Glowing Skin - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraCan't get enough of beauty tips for glowing skin? Of course, we all want to have that despite the changing seasons and the weather. No matter how attractive you look if you've got a dull and flaky skin, you'll still be less of a skin to soul beauty that you desire! *First is exfoliation. No ...
Views: 922 - Finding Happiness - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraHow can we define the word “happiness”, really? Each one of us has their own definition in finding it. Whether you're rich or poor and powerful or powerless, you want to be happy. Everybody wants to be happy, that's for sure. Some of the most common ways that people do to find it is through ...
Views: 630 - Another Aspect Of Grief And Loss - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraThere is always a reason why somebody grieves. We should not try to fight with our grief because it can lead to frustration and having a negative behavior. Grief and loss are a natural and practical process in our lives. However, dealing with grief and loss is not only practical but also ...
Views: 981 - Fighting with Grief and Moving On - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraLoss, grief and death are a normal process that happen to us during our lifetime. As we face the reality of life, we go through many types of grief that are unavoidable. It's unreal to think that we cannot suffer any loss in our lives. Being prepared for is the hardest part. Sadness is the ...
Views: 1298 - How Can You Support Someone Who Is In Grief And Loss - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraEach one of us has an individual style of coping grief and loss. A person who is grieving often feels so isolated or lonely in their grief. It may decrease their self esteem and after that they lose social activities and support from others. If they will do this kind of thing, their shock will ...
Views: 885 - Drop Your Great Expectations And Live Lightly - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraLife is complicated, so as they say. But let me tell you something; it only becomes so when you got some great expectations. It's just a tiny thing to change: stop expecting. I know it takes practice to do so. If you can see things as they are without having great expectations, then life will be ...
Views: 928(2 votes) - Six Wonderful Reasons To Make Love Now - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraIt’s normal that after spending years as a couple, your sex life becomes a little stale. The urge to do it with your lover has reached its plateau. Sex has become a part of the chores. Those sizzling, sweltering, tantric, sex has somehow become the thing of the past. Although there is no ...
Views: 898(1 vote) - Relationship Guide For New Lovers - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraThe start of a relationship can be a slippery road to navigate. Young lovers can be overwhelmed with their anxiousness and excitement. They tend to over think their new relationship, and sometimes depend on guessing games on what their partner thinks or wants. Since new lovers are taking the ...
Views: 1174(1 vote) - When You’re Torn Between Your Marriage, Kids And Yourself - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraPerhaps every woman dreams of having a wonderful husband, adorable children, and white picket fence house in the suburb. A life so ideal and simple, but is it really that simple? When a woman marries, and decides to have children, it is anything but simple. Marriage is far from easy. It is ...
Views: 854 - Going Desperate: Signs Of A Desperate Woman - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraI have a friend once who is a classic example of a desperate woman. She has been putting up with a married, middle- aged, going bald, stout lawyer for over 6 years! This man neglected and cheated on her several times, but she's still with him. One time, when this married lawyer decided to ...
Views: 12622(4 votes) - Helping Those In Grief - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraThere are times in our lives that inevitably we will become face-to-face with grief. Or somebody and anybody in grief for that matter. Friends and family are there ready to support and help loved ones, and helpers often alleviate those who are grieving. There are some practical suggestions on ...
Views: 934 - Cheating- If She Thinks You Are, She Might - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraToday’s women are competitive, aggressive, assertive, and will not take crap from anybody. They speak out to get what is due to them. They work as hard as men do, and can earn as much, some even more. Relationship wise, they refuse to be ignored and be taken for granted, by all means they should ...
Views: 1082 - Grief And Loss Counselling: How To Cope With The Death Of A Loved One - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraHave you ever experienced grief so unyielding and persistent that there seem to be no end? The most familiar feeling mourners experience is being unable to find the confidence to face change, not enough dependable information to help cope with their loss and more importantly, not able to find a ...
Views: 1269 - The Perfect Food For A Perfect Date - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraAhhh... dating, nothing can be more exciting than dating! The combination of excitement and anxiousness are just too amazing to describe. That is why we have exhausted every possible information that can make a perfect and worthy of a relationship date. So far, we tackled the do’s and don’ts of ...
Views: 875(3 votes) - What To Do When There’s No More Trust In The Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraThere’s a saying that trust is like a mirror, once it’s broken, you might get hurt trying to put it back, and when you get it back, you can never look at it the same way again. Trust is a very delicate, profound and essential thing to have in a companionship. That’s why when trust is gone, the ...
Views: 25661 - What To Do When There Is Friction Between Your Family And Spouse - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraWe all dream of having a perfect life, where people we love get along and help each other out. But unfortunately, life doesn’t work that way. As much as we wanted to bring harmony and balance in our life, some people just can’t get along. Now, we really don’t mind when other people around us ...
Views: 927 - Essential Life And Relationship Lessons We Can All Learn From Avatar - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraOne of the shows that I have been borderline- obsessed with lately is the animated series of Nickelodeon’s Avatar: The Lastairbender. I discovered this when my 7 year-old nephew asked me to watch it with him, I was instantly drawn to the story and the characters. For a “kid’s” show, it has the ...
Views: 711 - Grieving Children: How To Help Youngsters Cope With Loss - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraEven as adults, coping with grief and loss is never easy--how much more for grieving children? While we talk about how we mourn for the death of our loved ones, so often we overlook how our youngsters grieve and they usually don't know how to cope with loss and it can affect their sense of ...
Views: 931 - Helping The Bereaved Work Through Their Loss - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraThere will come a time in your life that you might be given the chance or opportunity to help or comfort somebody who has lost a loved one or even a beloved pet, work through their grief and loss. Treat the person who is experiencing grief and loss as you would also want to be treated if you ...
Views: 1156 - All About Bereavement Grief - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraBereavement is defined as a state of sadness or loneliness. An individual is in a state of bereavement when that person experiences loss of another person. The loss could be due to relationship breakups, death, loss of pets, someone moving away forever, divorce for instance, loss of employment, ...
Views: 1022 - Writing And Delivering A Eulogy - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraA eulogy is typically delivered as a speech at a funeral ceremony. It’s at once something personal and a method of involving all of those present in reminiscing some of the good things about the life of someone who has already passed away. Maybe the best and the most effective way to begin ...
Views: 1086 - Writing A Death Notice Or Obituary - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraA loved one’s demise is a very painful experience. An obituary or death notice is one significant way of honoring his or her life. The word “obituary” generally applies to the notice in a newspaper announcing a person’s demise. When the time comes in writing obituaries, it won’t be an easy ...
Views: 1706 - Funeral Poems To Remember Our Departed Loved Ones - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraMost people are concerned regarding the destiny or fate of their departed loved one. Oftentimes, fear and apprehension arise regarding what will happen after death and what might happen to our dear loved ones. Is he safe---or is she happy at last? Will we ever see or meet or be with each other ...
Views: 3346 - Are You Scared Of Others? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraWe all get nervous from time to time. Have you ever felt intimidated or scared of others? Good news: Most of them are also like you--scared as a puppy. For example, you see a glamorous actress on screen, and you gushed, "wow, I wish I can be like her, admired, popular, successful, with lots ...
Views: 718 - Apologizing- How To Make It Right Again - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraAs human beings, we are all prone to mistakes, as a matter of fact; it is synonymous to making mistakes. But as human beings, we are also given a choice to redeem ourselves from the mistakes we did through apologizing. For some, it is an arduous task, because their pride gets in the way. But if ...
Views: 1940(1 vote) - Comforting Someone Dealing With Anticipatory Grief - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraDealing with anticipatory grief is tough to deal with, may it be after death or before, it is acceptable that there’s no topic more difficult to deal with than grieving. And this is where the beauty of friendship comes. More than sharing all those happy and fun times, all those sharing secrets ...
Views: 1981 - Forgiving- How To Do It Gracefully - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraOne of the most difficult things we humans have to encounter is to respond to evil with kindness, hatred with love, or compassion with cruelty- forgiving the unforgivable. We can’t help but admire people who are capable of these exalted acts, but when that very thing is required of us ...
Views: 2341 - 4 Communication Techniques To Remember When Talking To Your Man - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraA lot of women find themselves getting frustrated over the fact that it’s hard to get their message across to their man. She says one thing, and he does another. Do men and women actually speak the same language? Can they really communicate? The answer is yes, here are 4 simple communication ...
Views: 1151 - Decoding And Understanding Men And Their Hormones - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraUnderstanding men is an unending quest for us women. It seems as if, no matter how we try, the world is still divided with, “us” on one side and, “them” on the other. The needing and wanting to dissect the opposite sex becomes a mission for life. We squeeze our brains out with all these dilemmas ...
Views: 2961 - The X-files: What To Do When You Meet Your Former Boyfriend - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraEveryone has a worst nightmare. For some, its bathing suit season, for others, its knowing that their birth certificate can never be legally destroyed, and for the rest, it’s meeting THE FORMER BOYFRIEND and making a total fool of themselves. For those who can relate, I believe that each and ...
Views: 735 - Effective Tips To Grief Recovery - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraGrief and loss recovery requires no method or order. It really depends on the individual, their social background or environment, their emotional strength at the time of their loved one’s passing and it also depends on how they died or what kind of grief. So here we have some sensible ideas of ...
Views: 1107(2 votes) - Some Helpful Tips On Planning Funeral Arrangements - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraPlanning funeral arrangements are never easy, as it involves pain, mourning after the loss and the discomfort of preparing for the family and loved ones left behind. In this article, I will share some tips regarding funeral arrangements and some facts, too. 1. As death takes place in the family, ...
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