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- Grief Recovery Tips For The Grieving Souls - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraThe different stages of grief recovery are never easy, and it’s entirely up to the person how long it takes someone to be on the grieving process. There are different essentials when it comes to grief recovery, and it’s a must to help you to be on your way to recover. Bear in mind that tears ...
Views: 1483 - Fans Having Death Denial Over Michael Jackson - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraAfter I turned on my pc to check my mails, the “Bad” news that I saw on Yahoo was the death of Michael Jackson who was barely 50. My initial reaction was death denial. I feel fondness to this person that has caught my attention because of his not so ordinary skill. I immediately read the ...
Views: 963 - How Long Does It Take To Get Over A Break Up? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraYou can’t plan everything, life can be pretty random. And one of the things in life that you can’t prepare is a nasty break up. You should’ve seen the break up coming, but you didn’t because your ex wait for you to get relaxed and get comfortable before he pick the ice pick down between your ...
Views: 3400 - Being Friends With An Ex- Is It Possible? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraA few weeks ago, I had an encounter with the past. At first, I didn’t know what or how to react, because its been months since I haven’t seen my former boyfriend, but as the conversation progresses, it turned out to be a good meeting. That night, I contemplated about the x- factor. During our ...
Views: 980 - 11 Important Rules In Mending Your Broken Heart - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraLife is about making choices. Some choices, like who you marry are big… while others are even bigger. Another choice is how to get over a break up. Some handle it calmly, while others jump into rebounds and some get free reign to whine to their friends. Yes, I believe that part of the breaking ...
Views: 1250 - The Importance Of Goal Setting - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraIt goes without saying that time is gold. As we all know, goal setting is one of the main characteristics of time management. It allows us to define and design our dreams in life. To know our top priority is not easy to do so. First, you should ask yourself. Am I happy and satisfied of what ...
Views: 770 - Personal Goal Setting: Live Your Life Your Own Way - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraIf you are thinking about your ideal future, goal setting is a powerful process. You must motivate yourself to make this dream into reality. Processing your goals helps you choose where you want to go in life. When you know what you desire to achieve, you have an idea where you should focus your ...
Views: 739 - Important Goal Setting Steps To Achieve Anything - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraFirst I’d like to ask, are you a goal setter? If yes, why are you setting goals in the first place? The answer should be to attain an admirable and deserving objective. There are many advantages in defining your objectives. First, like a movie, you choose to direct your own life. You get to ...
Views: 1313(2 votes) - Don't Be A Downer-- Your Friends Love You! - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraThere's a reason why you've got friends--it's because they like you! So don't try to label yourself a Loser because nobody wants to hang out with a loser. Don't try to sound like you are your own worst enemy, because your friends are there for you. Don't be a downer; if you hang out with your ...
Views: 1472(1 vote) - Understanding Men: When He Needs A Break From The Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraThe beginning of the relationship has always been the most exciting and fun part. It is full of hopeful promises. One can’t help the insatiable feeling of being in love. Yes, those flirtatious phone conversations, the naughty actuations, the first romantic dinner and of course, the first kisses, ...
Views: 4615(3 votes) - Are You Truly Happy Or Just Settling From An Unhealthy Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraTwo halves make a whole. And when two halves move- in together, it makes a lot of stuff and clutter. Some are cluttered with physical stuff, but some with emotional stuff. And when emotional stuff gets overly cluttered, that's when you begin contemplating- "Am I truly happy or just settling from ...
Views: 1691(1 vote) - Be Smart And Irresistible- Know These Excellent Conversation Topics - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraEverything begins from a simple "hello," but it could also end right there and then, if you are not armed with great conversation topics. If you want women to swarm at you like a bee to a honey, then you should arm yourself with interesting conversation topics. Believe me, guys it will give you ...
Views: 2395(3 votes) - Thinking Of Getting Married? Don't Do Anything Until You Read This - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraGetting married is such a magical feeling. It's overwhelming with love and joy. You feel so sanctified because you have finally found the person that you want to be with for the rest of your life. But the nostalgia of "getting married" is different when you are already married. When you are ...
Views: 994(1 vote) - How To Motivate Your Husband Find A Job - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraGroucho Marx once said- “Behind every successful man is a woman." I don’t know if this still holds true today, because personally, I have always believed that a person is responsible for his or her own success. But in cases where your man lost his job and morale, a little push from you is ...
Views: 5478 - What Not To Say When Your Husband Got Laid Off From Work - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraLife is as unreliable as the weather forecast. Just when you thought that it’s going to be a sun-shiny day, thunderstorms with rain showers turned up. There are some things that you just can’t prepare for. And when these unexpected things happen, you better hold on and try to rise above the ...
Views: 1908 - Things To Say To Set Your Personal Boundaries - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraSetting your own personal boundaries is important so that you'll avoid becoming a doormat, keeping your self-esteem intact, and saying no without feeling guilty. After all, you are taking care of your personal needs, as each of us do, so, why feel guilty saying no to some things you can't commit ...
Views: 812 - Go Ahead: Set Those Dream Goals Now! - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraLife indeed is just too short to let it pass by and success in its most phenomenal state is just around the corner if you simply apply a few of these theories and principles. 1.) Focus, focus and focus. By concentrating and focusing on your dream goals and steps for at least one hour per week, ...
Views: 1440 - Ready And Aim First Before You Fire - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraAiming is a process in planning which takes time and should be done before you could fire your way into into a successful career, organization, relationships, and life in general. I have seen a similar thing in some people’s professional and personal lives most of the time. Several individuals ...
Views: 982 - Getting What You Want By Setting Smart Goals - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraDo not wait for another day because the future is now. Perhaps you have heard some of the techniques and strategies for accomplishing goals before but oftentimes we have to hear them again. A simple and easy acronym to recall is “smart” goals. These smart goals actually stand for specific, ...
Views: 1082 - You Can Conquer Your Feelings Of Hopelessness - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraHave you ever felt hopeless in your life? Feelings of hopelessness arises when you start entertaining thoughts like saying these: "What's the use of trying?" "I'll never be happy in my life.", "Nothing will ever work out.", "The whole world is against me, it's hopeless." These feelings of ...
Views: 2261 - How Much Does A Father Figure Figures? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraI have a friend. His name is Ben, 30 years old and separated to his wife. Also, he just recently broke up with his 18 year old girlfriend. The reason? “I cannot breathe! She is too possessive!” my friend Ben exclaimed. I know it’s not a taboo to see younger women with older men but in this case ...
Views: 2144(4 votes) - Breaking Free From The Emotional Cage Of Jealousy - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraJealousy can be sweet when it’s done in a minimum level. It can make you feel secure, or even attractive. But when jealousy hits the top of the scale, you better hold on tight for a chaotic and emotional roller coaster ride. It’s because dealing with a jealous partner can be emotionally and ...
Views: 1157(5 votes) - Feel The Magic Of Deep Penetration - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraLovers have different opinions about deep penetration intercourse position. Some women are uncomfortable with the idea but most women yearn for it when they make love. Women who love deep penetration say that it gives them the emotional rewarding sensation- a sense of satisfaction that goes ...
Views: 12018(1 vote) - Innocent Mistakes Men Make That Pisses Women Off - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Menno Spijkstra“She is driving me crazy, I’m dying here! What the heck did I do to you now?!” Ronnie is just so frustrated and feels like going bald about her girlfriend Angel. “One time she’s as sweet as an angel and suddenly without warning she’s into her bitch mode!” What you did may be unintentional, so ...
Views: 1243(4 votes) - Attention: Types Of Women To Avoid - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraWhen you are between the ages of 19-40, then you are in the Stage 6, intimacy vs. isolation of Erickson’s psychosocial development stage.This is where love relationships becomes the highlight of your life. It is very normal that your yearning to be with someone is just so strong. So strong that ...
Views: 966(4 votes) - How To Move On From A Bad Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraIt has to end... No matter how painful it is, that time is now. Breaking up is never easy. Deciding to end a relationship, no matter how imperfect it is, will always be emotionally and mentally traumatic. In spite of the imperfections, you did share wonderful and intimate times together. Like ...
Views: 1617 - Surviving A Break Up - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraYou’ll find that the hardest part about surviving break up is getting over this painful predicament to accept that there is someone else out there for you. As you ponder the thought “what if there’s no one?!” Then panic creeps up on you which make one think that surviving break up would be ...
Views: 1119 - How To Keep Your Woman Happy - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraThere are so many things that puzzle a man, and one of those things is keeping his woman happy. I believe that every man will agree with me that if they know how to keep their woman happy, they would do it. So, here you are gentlemen, how to make a woman happy. Listen to her. I suggested this ...
Views: 1238(4 votes) - Why Men Dump Women - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraFor a woman being dump by a man can be a total bummer not to mention embarrassing. We can’t exactly pinpoint why men dump women because there can be several factors involved like incompatibility, beliefs, culture and many others. And these factors are given; you cannot force yourself into ...
Views: 1184(6 votes) - Do You Know That Our Imperfections Are What Makes Us Beautiful? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraAngelina Jolie's bulging veins in her arms, Lindsay Lohan's freckles, and Megan Fox's thumb. Yes, guys--some of the most heavenly creatures you considered beautiful are not all...perfect. If you think about what makes us beautiful, it can be our imperfections--those same things which makes ...
Views: 2367(3 votes) - For Parents: How To Deal With Sibling Rivalry - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraSibling rivalry is almost common to parents with more than one child. Not only exclusive to young children, sibling rivalry even extends even to children's adulthood. For the parents, if you hear the fighting and bickering happening, let each child ask what their problem is, and ask each of ...
Views: 871 - Putting A Stop To Jealousy Problems - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraThe problem with jealousy problems is that it can eat you up inside until it paralyzes you and destroy your relationship. I remember my classmate in college, Hannah, she would call me at 1 am in the morning just to pass by her boyfriends house to check if his really in and if the light in his ...
Views: 952(1 vote) - Financially Taking Care Of Post Divorce Issues - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraDivorce is what married couple dreads. It’s traumatic, it’s unpleasant and it’s impractical. But no matter how couples try to work things out in their marriage sometimes it’s impossible to have any other solution. Everybody who has gone through it will tell you that it doesn’t end when you get ...
Views: 864 - Getting Through The First Year Death Anniversary Of A Loved One - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraDeath of a loved one is the worst thing that can happen to anyone. It is synonymous with devastation. No matter what the cause of is you will never be ready for it. If you are one of those people who have experienced this then you know what I mean that each day the pain of grief and bereavement ...
Views: 3119(1 vote) - Understanding Your Pre School Child - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraIf your child is in the pre school stage this only means one thing- you are done with the terrible 2’s and 3’s. Now, comes a new world for parenting, the pre school age. This is now a whole new different ball game. This is the time when your precious ones are starting to explore. Pre school ...
Views: 1446(3 votes) - Living After Death: Loss Of A Spouse - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraWhen the angel of death arrives in your family, there is no way of stopping it. When it comes and takes the life of your spouse, you have no choice but to cope with it. Easier said than done because part of you went to the grave with your spouse. The pain is excruciatingly paralyzing, you ...
Views: 1358(1 vote) - Career Goal Setting Tips To Jumpstart Your Career - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraAre you already decided on what you really want to do with your life? If yes, are you prepared now to venture into another new job or just about to jumpstart into your first job or career ever? Okay, so you might haven’t precisely set your heart into something definite yet, but whatever that is, ...
Views: 968 - Weight Loss Goals Within Your Reach - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2010 from Menno Spijkstrao you want to lose weight--you’ve set your own weight loss goals. The question is, do you have realistic weight loss goals? It’s easy enough to set your own targets and objectives, especially most people out there who are fat, chubby, or those…obese (ugh!) really and seriously make this as their ...
Views: 697 - Getting To Know The Real You In Achieving Your Career Goals - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraDo you know what your career goals are? This is perhaps the most often asked question and the most imperative. You’ll be surprised that even though this is just a simple question, very few can really answer it with conviction. Interestingly, several career individuals in the workforce actually ...
Views: 763 - The Abc’s Of Marriage: Not A Child’s Play - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraCommunication - if handled well it can give a lifetime’s worth of happiness. Needless to say it is essential to any kind of relationship. It can strengthen any bond, maintain a loving companionship and reconcile tarnished partnerships. It can also bridge long lost amity. On the other hand, if ...
Views: 729(2 votes) - The Debilitating World Of Emotional Abuse- Are You In One? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraAre you happy? You can’t point your finger why or what exactly, but you are just sad. You don’t know what’s wrong but it is so hard for you to make any decisions by yourself now. How can this be- you use to be so self- sufficient, independent and decisive. You are so confused, can’t ...
Views: 1522 - The Effortless Guide To Setting Personal Goals - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraOf course, it’s only human nature to think and aspire the best for themselves. Setting personal goals is good and makes us more disciplined so that we can identify and zero in on what we really aim for. Well, it’s not only at the beginning of a year (creating New Year’s Resolutions—only to break ...
Views: 794 - Know The Secrets To Achieve Effective Goals - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraSetting effective goals—how do you go about in achieving them? Perhaps you hoped to eat healthily from now on, start going back to the gym or be more patient with other people. But these are just wishes, not goals. Yes, the aspiration to improve ourselves for the better is there and it’s ...
Views: 701 - Set A Goal To Attain Success - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraYou want to be successful who doesn't? why don't you start to set a goal for it?. Of course, almost all of us wanted to progress in life. It’s the main target of many. But the big question here is how, right? People look in various ways on how to be an achiever and get what they really want like ...
Views: 737 - The Fast Action Plan For An Effective Goal Planning - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraEven you’re not the very goal-oriented type, I’m sure you’ve got your own goals or anything you want to be in the near future, or whatever you want in life. That’s why it’s still important to have your own goal setting planning. It’s true that it’s all in the attitude if you want to have a good ...
Views: 813 - Platonic Friendship- Does It Still Exist? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraThe answer is definitely YES! But we were made to believe that male- female friendship cannot be and will not be done. It is impossible. Well, we can’t blame them- we were made and brought up to believe that man and woman coexist in the bounds of sex and romance alone. It is written in the ...
Views: 1673(8 votes) - Stop, Look And Listen: Checklist Before Ending Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraYou wake up one morning looking at your partner and you don’t see him the way you see him before. You don’t understand- you don’t feel a thing for him. Not love, not care… not even hate.“This is bad” you thought- the love making is not as magical like it used to be and most of the time you can’t ...
Views: 3041(1 vote) - Overcoming Insecurity:stop Being Needy And Start Being Happy - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraWhen you look at the mirror, do you like what you’re seeing? How often do you smile in a day, do you even remember to smile? Is it your hobby to gossip and talk about someone else’s flaws and imperfections? Does talking about the misery of other people makes you feel better about yourself? Are ...
Views: 5467(1 vote) - Children- The True Victim Of Divorce - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraThe family is the basic unit of society and every care should be taken to preserve it by the state, church and the family itself. However, if counseling and reconciliation cannot solve the conflict within the family, divorce maybe seen as the best solution. To couples with kids however the ...
Views: 753(1 vote) - Marriage And Depression: Falling Into The Abyss - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraAs if marriage is not hard enough to deal with, you are faced with a new challenge, coping with your spouses’ depression. When depression sets in the marriage, it takes everything down with it. Sexual intimacy, emotional binding and closeness disappear. You are weighed down with all the ...
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