Finding Your Way To Blissful Marriage

The dictionary version of the definition of bliss is short—“heaven, paradise, complete happiness”. This kind of bliss is short-term in duration. This day my friend and her husband marks 15 years of their blissful marriage. However, “bliss” as defined by a marriage veteran and “bliss” as defined by Merriam Webster will be defined in so many various ways.

So 15 years of blissful married life will seem like a conflict in terms. Nevertheless, let us consider the “veteran” part of the standpoint. So whenever my friend will think of an armed service veteran she thinks of a person who is brave, determined to win, committed, puts the needs of their country over their own personal needs, trustworthy and willing to sacrifice for the greater good of humanity.

A marriage veteran will possess the same traits and qualities. Their happiness will involve merging and entwining into one that is better through the challenge, but not losing the individuality of either of their lives. Truly Committed and Fulfilling Marriage. So why does marriage sometimes doesn’t feel like bliss? When questioned regarding troubled marriages, Dr.

Phil replied, “...in general, people in America quit too soon. There are just so many people who are divorcing these days after around 2 years saying that being married was not what they expected it to be and they’re worn out.” Worn out—several couples do not even know the definition of being worn out until they have gotten a minimum of 2 kids through their toddler years! Marital bliss means knowing and experiencing joy, sorrow, love and pain—and they would be an integral part of the whole process.

And being in a blissful marriage means you are all in it all throughout the long haul. So What Really is True Bliss? Blissful experiences will consist of walking in the woods, enjoying the sunset, late night laughters and snuggling early in the morning. Being in a state of wedded bliss does not mean a perfect marriage, but the perfecting of two people who are better as one.

Being blissful will involve a lot of give and take, but might seem like there is more giving than taking, but that is fine. It would also include the courage in letting the evolution of the person and the entire partnership. However, blissful experiences will also include some journeys which are difficult such as working together to insure that income is adequate to cover outflow, and trusting your beloved spouse to choose you over other distractions in the universe.

It’s oftentimes when these journeys or challenges are completed and concluded that the blissful moment comes in. When children enters the picture, marriage bliss now takes on an entire new meaning. It is much widened to extend a heart expanding love that you did not know you possessed, and new veteran opportunities that could smell, cry, leak and hug.

(This description involves both toddlers and babies!) How about you—where are you in your journey to marriage bliss? Whether you are just adjusting in your honeymoon stage or welcoming your first grandchild, bliss is whatever you choose to make it.