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- The “Un-Ex” - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederI was in a long distance relationship over the internet and it ended 5 weeks ago. Basically I screwed up in silly ways and hurt her. I quit for a day, but came back and after staying away for another day she added me again during that first week (she said she'll always love me.) Over the next ...
Views: 1365(6 votes) - Rebuilding a Sexual Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederHi! I’ve been dating this girl for a year now, and she tells me tonight through the phone (long distance relationship) that when I approach her before sex I only approach one way and that’s climbing on top of her. She says I approach her like a horny virgin and I don’t turn her on and she ...
Views: 1345(1 vote) - Have I Been Replaced? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHi I was wondering if you could give me some feedback on this situation I find myself in. I’m a 30 year old guy with 2 children, both under 10. I have been with my wife twelve years. She cheated on me when we first got together (I was 19) with an ex-boyfriend. We already had a 1-year-old ...
Views: 1344 - Open(ing) Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2013 from Dr. Dennis NederHello Dr. Dennis! My girlfriend (2 years of a wonderful relationship) and I have been talking about an “open relationship” where we both could find other sex partners but stay together as a couple. We’re both enthusiastic about it but I wanted to get your take. Is this a good idea? Will it ...
Views: 1333 - I Need Something That’ll Work – Hurry! - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dr. Neder: I’m a senior in high school and there’s this really cute girl in my psych class. I want to find a way to talk to her or get her to notice me or something but I don’t know how. Most stuff online would say to see her outside of class and just walk up and say something like, ...
Views: 1318(1 vote) - Is it Just “Clingy” or Something Else? - by Submitted on May 06, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Doc: I am 20 and the longest I have been in a relationship is 10 months, but I have noticed a pattern in all of the girls I have dated. When I first meet them, they seem to be head over heels for me, they seem to love my charm, since of humor and look and things go okay for about a month ...
Views: 1314 - That Summer Fling - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2013 from Dr. Dennis NederI’ve always loved summer. I love the hot weather, the parties, all the skin… One of the things I love most about summer is the “summer fling”; you know, that chance to hook up with someone to go enjoy the season – and sex – with you? It might be just a week (like when you’re on vacation) ...
Views: 1302 - The Anti-Valentine’s Day Valentine’s Day - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2012 from Dr. Dennis NederSo, what’s it going to be this year? Crowded, noisy restaurant with lousy service? The usually dozen red roses? Jewelry? Card? A lot of whimpering and crying? Here’s the problem with Valentine’s Day: It has become the lousiest “Hallmark Holiday” on the calendar. It’s supposed to be a day ...
Views: 1293 - Being Too Smart for “Girl Games” - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Dr. Neder! I've been reading through some of your answers and one common piece of advice you give women is to not play stupid games. Girls do it all the time and 9 times out of 10, it completely screws everything up for them and she ends up not getting what she wants out of the ...
Views: 1292 - A Plethora of Problems - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2010 from Dr. Dennis NederDoc: I have been dating my girlfriend for the past 14 months, and we have endured many situations. The one I need help with is her past. She has told me she has been with 7 guys prior to me. She originally told me 6, but I found out and not from her it was 7. She didn't tell me because I know ...
Views: 1273(5 votes) - Waiting in Line to be 100% Sure - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dennis: There’s this girl that I’ve liked since for 2 years. I've always made small talk with her but I’ve been too afraid to have a serious conversation with her. We recently did a group project together with me, her, and two other guys and she seemed to talk to me a lot more than ...
Views: 1268(3 votes) - When She Gives Too Much - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Doc: I’ve read your books and read your column every week. I can’t tell you how you’ve change my life! But, I had a question for you that I haven’t seen you write about before: what do you do when your girl gives too much? She cooks for me every chance she gets, she does my laundry, ...
Views: 1266(5 votes) - The Chase is the Game - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederDoc: I'm dating this wonderful girl, but we've been going through issues in regards to the "chase" factor. We've already professed love for each other, so it's in a deeper stage than just the chasing phase, but she says of course that she wants to feel like she's still "chasing" me, since she ...
Views: 1265(1 vote) - Should I Call to Confirm a Date? - by Submitted on May 03, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Dr. Dennis! I get this a lot - I get a phone number from a girl, call, try and set a date and the chick says something like, "Yeah Thursday sounds good. I may have a girlfriend coming into town so let's play it by ear. Give me a call Thursday." Basically, it's her way of saying... "Maybe, ...
Views: 1246 - Me, Her and the Ex - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Doc, I've liked this girl for between 3-4 months. Initially when I got to know her, she was really nice and we were really close. We used to message and talk almost every day. For example, there was once when she went overseas and I told her I would miss her. She said “awww…” and that I ...
Views: 1221 - A Matter of Height - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederDoc: I have dated girls anywhere from 5'1 to 5'5 inches tall and even had girls 5'6 or 5'8 be attracted to me. The thing is though, I am 5'8 1/2, which isn’t really considered short, but is certainly not tall either. I have a solid, muscular build, am 190lbs, and I was just wondering if ...
Views: 1212(2 votes) - Maybe He’ll Be Mine if I Get Pregnant? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Doc! Here is my situation: I am dating a guy who I am in love with. We started seeing each other in November 2008 but in February he told me we should break it off because he's not ready for anything serious as he is going through a divorce. He said he needs time to find himself. After that ...
Views: 1209 - Do Men Respect Women? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dennis: I wonder about this from time to time, but I figure that I need an answer from an insightful man in order to get a truthful answer on this: Do men respect women in general? Do men pity women in general, because of our vulnerabilities? Or do men have a certain "hard-to-explain" ...
Views: 1201 - Making a Move? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2010 from Dr. Dennis NederDr. Neder, My good friend has asked you a few questions and spoke very highly of the advice you've given him and the results he's received. I’ll take his word for it, and try to keep this brief, but I do want to give you the some background. I’m 23 and have a good degree and career. Two ...
Views: 1196(4 votes) - The Six “R’s” to Getting your Ex Back - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederHello Dr. Dennis: I know there are lots of books out on the ‘net claiming that you can get your ex back. Do any of these books really work? What if your ex has moved on and is dating someone else? I was dumped out of the blue. I knew in my heart that it wouldn’t work out because he is very ...
Views: 1179(2 votes) - Sexual Stigma, Labels and Morality - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dr. Neder, How come in the old days women were considered sluts and freaks if they enjoyed having sex or watching porn? How come the girl had to stay a virgin until marriage but no one cared about the guy? Is it because men needed to know their wife was pregnant with their baby and no one ...
Views: 1175 - Seth Rogan – Male Role Model? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederMaybe you’d be surprised at the number of letter I get from women that begin, “I recently met this really cute guy…” and end with “How do I get him to ask me out?” And then again, maybe you wouldn’t; particularly if you’re a woman. It seems that today’s man is all but devoid of basic manly ...
Views: 1172 - How to Move On - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederHave you been having trouble moving on after breaking up with an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend? This can be very difficult to do! I’m going to show you an incredibly powerful technique to help you get healed quickly and permanently and to move on so that you can find that next great love and ...
Views: 1167 - Her Gay Friend - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederOk Dr., here is the background for this question: -She and I are both in our early 20s. -We went to high school together. -We didn’t know each other well in high school, but were acquaintances with mutual friends. -I started talking to her about two months ago on a whim. -She lives far ...
Views: 1162 - Three Years of Tears - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2010 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dr. Neder I am hopelessly in love with a girl I met 3 years ago at a concert. She means the world to me! I’d give up the rest of my life to spend one night with her on a more than friend level. She has a Boyfriend but I truly care for her. I've tried to move on to different girls but ...
Views: 1156(3 votes) - I’m a Snoop! - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederHello – This is questions requires some background information. My ex-boyfriend and I just broke up about a month ago after a two-year relationship because he got into medical school 7 hours from home, and I can’t move because I had accepted a really great job. We decided that long distance ...
Views: 1144 - How Do I Start Dating? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2010 from Dr. Dennis NederDoc, you gotta help me! I’m a 19 year old male, single and I haven't dated much. I’ve only been in one relationship and am now looking for a woman to be with and I just don't know where to look or even how to approach someone. My female cousins say to go to the movies, the mall, etc. but that ...
Views: 1122 - Time for a Change? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2010 from Dr. Dennis NederSo here's the thing, I've been dating this girl for a while now. She's the type that seems like crave attention from other men, so she likes going out to clubs, parties etc. She also likes interacting with men online, flirting and things like that. I can't say I like the way she interacts and ...
Views: 1121(1 vote) - All or Nothing in Common? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederHi! I was wondering if you have to have stuff in common with the person you're dating? I was told that it doesn't matter how different you are, as long as you're happy when you're with the other person. I'm 18 and I recently dated a guy who only cared about finding stuff we have in common. ...
Views: 1106 - Do You Think She Likes Me? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHi there, I'm 18 years old and I can't seem to get any friendly advice from anyone about this girl I like so maybe you can help me out! I met a girl over at the local community college this past week, and I can already tell that I'm developing a major crush on her! She is absolutely beautiful! ...
Views: 1102 - How Can I Get Him to Never Leave Me? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederDr. Neder, I've been dating a man for almost 3 months now. I've very much been the short-lived relationship kind of gal in the past. Typically at 3 months, I'll find some reason to end the relationship. Whether it's not feeling a physical connection, or not feeling an emotional connection, or, ...
Views: 1089 - Sexless Relationship, Missing Boyfriend - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dennis, I met this incredible guy 6 months ago. He and I have much in common; we both work two jobs and I have two small children. Needless to say, our time is limited. We have not had sex yet because, (mostly by his request), we wanted to really get to know each other first instead of ...
Views: 1035 - Would Setting Him Up Be Wrong? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederA few months ago my boyfriend cheated on me. I stayed with him because I saw he was truly sorry. I look back now, and honestly regret not giving him time without me, to see how life would be without me even for a few days. He is starting to act like he doesn’t care as much again. I wish he would ...
Views: 1035(2 votes) - How to Attract Women - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHow do I attract a woman for a relationship? During high school I tried to ask out 5 different girls over 5 years. I thought I was in love with each of them and told them this, but was turned down each time with a corresponding blow to my self-confidence. I finally just gave up on finding a ...
Views: 1020 - Falling For A (Somewhat) Older Man - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Dennis, A month ago I met an amazing man; handsome, in-shape, caring, respectful, educated, and with a thriving career. I love spending time with him, and get butterflies in my stomach whenever I think about him. My main problem is that he is 9 years older than me. I know this may not seem ...
Views: 1012 - Physically Close, Emotionally Distant - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dr. Neder, I read your answer on 'Trust' on the Internet and I hope you can help me. I am engaged to be married this December. The problem is I feel that my fiancé is not emotionally available to me during love making. I know she has been emotionally hurt by her past boyfriend seven ...
Views: 993 - Ex-Wife In The Way - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederDoctor: I am what I thought was the best-possible relationship but now wonder what happened. I have been with this man for 1 1/2 years. He has been separated from the mother of his two children (never married to her) now for 2 years, yet she continues to be very present in our relationship. ...
Views: 985(1 vote) - Getting the Ex Back - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Dennis! I read one of your replies to a question and thought your response was excellent. Could you please could you help with this one? I was in a relationship with my ex for just over a year, when we first started dating. I was finding it very hard to get her out on dates. She is a very ...
Views: 967 - You Better Know How to Handle “The Test”! - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Doc! I met this girl a couple of months ago and we started to hang out. At first she said she only wanted to be friends when I made a move so I just blew it off but she continued to call me all the time wanting to see me. One night we went out, and she kept on flirting with me and getting ...
Views: 963 - Friendships and False Hopes - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Doc: I was going out with this 24-year-old girl for about 3 months. We enjoyed our time together but she fell for me pretty hard. Since it was only 3 months, I believe that her feelings were mostly infatuation, but I'm not sure now. I panicked and broke up with her because I don't think ...
Views: 962 - Grow Yourself, Grow Your Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederDr. Neder, Hi, I am very interested in your help on this. I met my girlfriend freshman year in high school for the first time. We are currently in our junior year of high school and we have been going out for almost four months. We talk about how we will always be together and how we are ...
Views: 959 - Dating Rights Verse Dating Responsibilities - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHello Dennis, You have always been very helpful to me in the past and I was wondering if you could help me out with this situation I've encountered. My girlfriend smoked cigarettes for over 10 years but stopped. When we started dating I made it clear that I cannot date a smoker as I find the ...
Views: 949 - Sexually Frustrated - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Dennis, I am a college sophomore and diabetic and I'm in a relationship with a freshman. I am a virgin but my girlfriend is not. I've told her that I'm not bothered by what happened in her past. We've tried to have sex on two occasions. The first time I was extremely drunk and we both ...
Views: 944 - Dating on Facebook - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederHello Dr. Neder: This last weekend, I bumped into an old friend that happens to be friends with my ex. She was with another friend with whom I hit it off really well. We all decided to go hang out for a while. She and I flirted quite a bit and we spent the entire evening together. She and I ...
Views: 941 - All About Lying - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Doc: About a year ago, I was unemployed, and my girlfriend's mother told her that if I didn't get a job, that she wouldn't allow her to see me anymore. She then called and told me this. Right then and there I made a terrible decision – I lied. I lied telling her that I had just gotten a ...
Views: 934 - His Libido - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederI have a problem with my boyfriend of 7 months - I want sex more than he does. We have sex about 2 or 3 times a week, but I want it more. I’m told a lot that I’m very attractive and I've never had this problem with other men. At first he was very eager, but then it faded. I often ...
Views: 925 - Hot Women Get Dumped For Someone Else - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Dennis, From your experience, what causes a man to leave his wife for another woman? Such as Tom Cruise leaving Nicole Kidman for Penelope, and Brad Pitt leaving Jennifer Aniston for Angelina. What do you think was the primary reason? The "other" woman being more beautiful, sexier and more ...
Views: 925 - Air-Sick Bag, Please! - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederDoc: I met a young lady on a matrimonial website and we hit it off very well. She had a prior relationship 3 years ago that she ended and admits to feeling guilty about as she sorta "strung the guy along" and did not verbalize her concerns regarding their relationship that she felt wasn't ...
Views: 923 - Compromise to Get Him Back or Bolt? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederDr. Neder: I've been dating a guy for 6 months. We were inseparable we spend loads of time together. We get along fantastic our families love each other. There is one big problem. I had to move back to the town I'm from which is where he lives. I noticed that he didn't want me in his home when ...
Views: 912 - It’s the Choices You Make Now - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Dr. Neder! I am 18 years old and just about to graduate high school. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 14 months now and I am not sure what to do after high school. My parents are going to provide us with an apartment but should I move in with her? I was reading your 10 ways ...
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