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- Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Trust Her Not to Do It Again? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I wanted to get your reaction to something; what would it mean to you if someone said to you "So maybe I quit on our relationship." Yes my wife said this to me right before I left on deployment and I have been having a hard time dealing with it. When I came home for ...
Views: 641(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I guess we don't separate the "math" from the "emotion!" - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw your article "How to Avoid Financial Infidelity" about couples fighting over finances: I am totally on board as I think what you share is phenomenal. The challenge is my approach I suppose as my wife is almost NEVER on board. I guess we don't ...
Views: 639(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I think she is really scared to go to therapy - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: To be honest I think she is really scared to go to therapyI have been many timesAnd I know it worksAnd I really want her and I to learn how to communicate stumped Dear Reader: she probably thinks you want to fix her, and that hurts her feelings. Ask her to go ...
Views: 638(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Give Yourself a Gift - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Want to give yourself a holiday gift that will last the rest of your life? Try giving yourself the gift of happiness. Research shows that happiness and satisfaction depend more on the inner person than on external circumstances. The secret to living a happy life is to get ...
Views: 636(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Perhaps we should have ended it sooner - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm currently going through a divorce after more than twenty years of ...
Views: 635(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My girlfriend doesn't think she can handle this relationship. - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am (or was, perhaps) in a fairly strong relationship for a few months now. Recently though, as the upcoming fall quarter approaches, my girlfriend doesn’t think she can handle a relationship. Between stress from school (she really wants her 4.0 this year), over-bearing ...
Views: 629(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Relationships 101: Do Opposites Attract? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2021 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: It seems logical that like would attract like, but in my private practice as a marriage counselor and psychotherapist, I often see people drawn to their opposite ‑‑ because it's new and exciting. However, what’s exciting in the newness of romance often becomes unbearable ...
Views: 629(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm in my late 40s and feeling very unhopeful about my future love life. - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am in a terrible funk over a failed relationship that lasted 2 years and I thought would lead to marriage. We met online and now I'm afraid if I go online again, he will see my profile and/or I will see his. I took this breakup so hard, the thought of that happening just ...
Views: 626(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on To Help An Addicted Friend - by Submitted on May 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: I’ve been talking with clients a lot recently about what to do if someone you love or care for is self-destructing through addiction, or is making it difficult to be a friend because they’re out of control. We all have had some dramatic examples on television and in ...
Views: 626 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm having trouble letting go of a guy who mistreats me - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm still having a bit of trouble letting go and cutting off communication with a guy who mistreats me. I understand in my head that this is not right, but I can't seem to get it emotionally. Yesterday was his birthday and particularly difficult to ...
Views: 625(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Throughout the years, there has been financial infidelity - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I have been married for over thirty years. Our children are ...
Views: 621(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: At first I was hurt, but now I'm irritated. - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I do not like my job, I have two more classes before I complete my masters in HR to move to a better position and recently passed the PHR certification. I was talking with my boyfriend about the environment at the company and how they are always threatening to fire people as ...
Views: 619(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am somewhat leery of another romance - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My last romantic relationship (that I thought was mutual) ended because she said one day out of the blue, "I don't love you any more." I think she never really did, but rather I was her crutch after her last breakup. I loved her wholly, with all my everything, ...
Views: 618(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel like such a damned freak. - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My entire adult life, I have gone out to all the places you're told to go to meet someone special. Nothing. I never even get asked out. It's like I'm invisible, and my life has wasted away because there's not a damn thing I can to do to 'make' someone ...
Views: 618(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I had never questioned him about other ladies - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a couple of years into my relationship with many problems. I met my guy online ...
Views: 618(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Every time we talk, I'm in tears and he's mad. - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for nearly 20 years and thought we had a great marriage. 10 years ago I got hurt and have had 6 back surgeries. At one point I would double up on meds and drink to ignore life. During this time my husband was an angel; until he discovered I ...
Views: 615 - Dear Dr. Romance: I would like to get out of this anxiety - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a 70-yr old man who has been married more than forty years. I read your article "Autonomy and Dependency" I feel like I've been in a codependency relationship the last fifteen years and have developed anxiety & depression. My wife is a strong ...
Views: 611(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Does Friends with Benefits Work? - by Submitted on May 19, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was browsing the net and came across one of your articles "From Friends to Lovers and Back" which I found very interesting as it relates to a situation I am facing currently. I am a young male and I cannot handle having sex for a while ...
Views: 608 - Dear Dr. Romance: Everyone has been trying to reunite me with my exes. - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: EVERYONE, yes EVERYONE has been TRYING and FAILING at having me reunite with one of my exes…or Something like that. My asinine brother took out pictures of my ex-husband of 9 years and started guilt-tripping me. The funny thing is this: I remained on good terms with ALL of my ...
Views: 608(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Creating Family Acceptance - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Lately, I’ve gotten so many anguished questions from people who are being criticized and rejected by family for making relationship or career choices the families don’t like, usually for cultural or religious reasons, that I changed my mind about what I was going to write ...
Views: 607(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't think I want to be in this relationship after all - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am currently reading your book, The 10 Smartest Decisions a Woman can Make Before 40 and absolutely loving it. I have been married for a year and four months and we are going through a really tough time right now. I have suggested counseling and my husband ...
Views: 606(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: It seems to be going in a circle. - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I would like your advice in my relationship with my boyfriend. We have been living together for a year and a half and known each other for 3 years. He calls me names and puts me down when I try to communicate with him and every time i want to break it off he tells me we should ...
Views: 606(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: His Clutter Drives Me Crazy! - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I found you online when i googled "How to Live with a Slob". My husband and I are opposites in the area of how to keep a house -- i am very clean and he is, well, not at all. The clutter drives me crazy! It is just one more issue that impacts our relationship. ...
Views: 598(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am very confused and disillusioned - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a youthful and attractive woman, mid-fifties, who is so confused about online and ads for meeting men. I have been wounded by these men who, after some meetings with them and being promised by THEM that they want to take me for dinner within a few days, they set the time ...
Views: 598(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: It’s a Dirty Job - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2021 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Richard and I have been married since 1982 It hasn’t always been easy, but it’s definitely been worth it. In the first year of our marriage, after a difficult struggle between us, I gave my husband a card. On the front it said, "I love you", many times, and inside ...
Views: 597 - Dear Dr. Romance: On my death bed, I will not be in the mood to explain - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your newsletter "How to Heal a Rift with an Adult Child" with joy, how you simplify things for us. I already tried by email, but it got more complicated. I received two emails, the second one, had a picture with the message ''see what you are ...
Views: 596(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Everyone Thinks all truck drivers are perverts - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in my forties, divorced, and debt free. I have a great credit score. My favorite hobby is Amateur Radio. Other hobbies are listening to shortwave radio programs and studying maps. The down side is that I'm currently a truckdriver. Naturally, everyone thinks that ...
Views: 594(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Can't I Spark the Interest of a Woman? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your Dr. Romance Blog. I'm trying to find out why I can't find a woman, or better put: why I cant I spark the interest of a woman? I'm 40 years old I was never married nor do I have kids. Its pretty dam aggravating. I haven't even had date ...
Views: 592(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What is the right love to last a lifetime? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am writing this letter to you because I really want to know what is the right love to last a lifetime? I am frustrated right now. ...
Views: 590(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Ten Things People Don't Know about Therapy - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: I recently had a first session with a client who said, about halfway into the hour “Wow. I like you. I’m surprised.” I laughed, but I knew what the client meant. As a psychotherapist in private practice, I encounter a lot of people who waited far too long to come in for ...
Views: 588(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on spreading kindness - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance on spreading kindness Spreading kindness is the best way I know to be happy. If you want to spread kindness around, here are some ideas: *Kindness begins on the inside – learn to be as kind in talking to yourself as you are to others – then, keep improving. Self-talk sets the bar ...
Views: 587(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Holidays with Family and In-laws - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance: Marriage means relating to in-laws and extended family. This is what "cleave to each other, forsaking all others" in the old marriage vows meant: Once married, you are now each other's primary relationship, and your relationship with your original family has to change ...
Views: 585(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to keep making the same mistakes - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a 51 year old divorced Mom who recently began seeing someone. I like him and want to pursue this relationship, but I don't ...
Views: 581(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: A Year of Peace - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Happy New Year, everyone! This is the time when a lot of energy is spent on making resolutions, most of which we don’t manage to keep. So, this year, especially given recent tragic events, I propose a different kind of resolution. Will you join me in resolving ...
Views: 581(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: Staying Strong in Crisis - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: As I write this, we have all been asked to shelter in place, staying home as much as possible, because of the pandemic. This puts pressure on both individuals, who may be very alone now, and couples, who may be struggling with needing alone time and space. Everyone is ...
Views: 579(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I rescued my mother from the big bad wolf, my father - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your article about RESCUING: "Avoiding the Drama Triangle".I have been rescuing my mother from the big bad wolf my father. He would beat my mother, beat me, and beat my sister. I decided to rescue her. She decided for me to rescue her from her ...
Views: 578(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sexually as attracted to him as I'd like to be - by Submitted on May 07, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was hoping for a little advice on my relationship now that is truly wonderful and appears to be the best relationship of my life. Things are souring from my end, which I could not understand why, until this morning when it dawned on me. I have never been as happy as I am now ...
Views: 573 - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel terrible about not keeping the promises I made - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My story will probably sound like a thousand others you've heard, but I am in desperate need of some answers. I am in my fifties, my wife is a few years younger. My wife had a hysterectomy about 15 years ago, so menopause is not likely part of this equation. As you are ...
Views: 568(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: Why does my partner insist on being right? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2021 from Tina TessinaWhen your partner refuses to help solve the problem, you have no choice but to focus on your own need until you get cooperation. As long as you offer every opportunity to cooperate and you extend an invitation to your partner to join you whenever he or she wishes, you are free to focus your ...
Views: 567(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am a substance abuse counselor - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I work at an Indian health clinic in northern California. I am a substance abuse counselor, or Certified Addiction Treatment Counselor . After scanning a book I found on a colleague's bookshelf called The Real Thirteenth Step I felt compelled to seek it out, and I ...
Views: 563 - Dear Dr. Romance: I need to forgive myself. - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I need to forgive myself for continuing in the care of a dentist whom I had lost confidence in and didn't trust anymore. He put a crown in and messed up my bite so now I bite and scratch my cheeks. I have had anxiety and a brief hospital stay over this. I will ...
Views: 563 - Dear Dr. Romance: is it natural for a man to masturbate? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am single man, I have question for you, is it natural for a man to masturbate? I normally, do it everyday, sometimes 4 times a day. Tell me if its wrong or normal to fantasize my cousin and she is a woman? Is it that wrong thing to do? I love to masturbate and to me ...
Views: 562(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Bad Marital habits - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2021 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance sees many clients who are having marital problems because of the following bad habits. If you find yourself doing any of these things, consider changing your behavior or getting counseling. 1) You place social media above real communication; This can be a big problem, ...
Views: 554 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have never put up with any crap until this one came along - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I met a girl about three years ago at work. We both saw a connection, but neither one of us followed up on it. We were both in relationships, she was married. Several months later she told me things weren't good at home and we had started talking. She and I became ...
Views: 540 - Dear Dr. Romance: It's as if something turned out bad - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a friend who's asking for an advice and accidentally, I saw in the Internet your advices to some heart problems. So I told myself to try ask help from you also. This lady friend of mine is well, kind of in love with a man who's also in love with her. However, a ...
Views: 536(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have a traumatic brain injury - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: A lot has happened in recent weeks that has wreaked havoc on my life. A friend of twenty years, Told me he did not consider me a real friend, although I've been spending many hours helping him with gaming for years. My sweetie pet hamster died. It was his time, as ...
Views: 533(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I want to get married - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : I already know my heart's desire; it reminds me daily. I want to get married. I want a mate. I want children. My problem is, this is not happening now. I have been single for a very, very long time. I don't need to get to "know myself" because ...
Views: 532 - Dear Dr. Romance: Can short guys date? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : I'm a 5'4" 34yr old male. I've searched online dating sites for a few years now and read thousands of women's profiles. In doing so, I recognized a peculiar trend in women's descriptions of their ideal mate. It's exhilarating to read ...
Views: 530 - Dear Dr. Romance: I was always wrong - by Submitted on May 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: THANK YOU so much for this dating tip! My girlfriend sent me your article "You Be The Judge" yesterday. I needed this. I dated this African guy for 4 months, 3 weeks in which we were actually together, and I was always upset and let-downed. Always, his way, his ...
Views: 528 - Dear Dr. Romance: Which one should he choose? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : A man loves woman #1 but he was unhappy with the relationship for some reason. He was stressed financially. He was supporting his family. He has 2 children with woman #1 all he wants is the best for them and them to be happy and have a family. He has been going ...
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