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- Humor & Hope - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2013 from Tina TessinaShe was an Italian immigrant in New Jersey, a hard-working, frugal, Catholic single mother who lost her husband in WWII. She spent most days of her life as a “spooler” in a thread factory, retiring just before her job was automated. Her English was good, but she didn’t always catch the finer ...
Views: 1540(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is he trying to make me jealous? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need your advice. My ex and I broke up a while ago but still talked everyday. Anyways, long story short, I decided I can't talk to him anymore because we both need to change and find out who we are and learn to treat each other better. He continues calling and ...
Views: 3572(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't know how to choose a man - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: You give good advice and I really like the articles you have here. I wish I could apply it to my life. I have married and divorced twice and i always tell myself "I don't know how to choose a man". But is it the man or me who is wrong? I ...
Views: 1566(2 votes) - WHERE IS LOVE? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2013 from Tina TessinaProbably the most prevalent question I’m asked in my counseling practice is “Where is love?” Clients want to know why they can’t find a successful life partnership, why a friend or family member won’t respond as they would like, even why they don’t love themselves. In a perfect world, love ...
Views: 1742(4 votes) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Alone on Valentine's Day? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr Romance’s Happiness Tips Alone on Valentine’s Day? There's no need to mope around. Having a plan that makes you happy is the best way to fend off the blues. Gather your best friends around you and make some special plans to have a wonderful day. Send valentines or ...
Views: 1496(3 votes) - Dr. Romance Video: Dating Advice Every Single Mom Should Know - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance asks: Are you a single mom? Wondering whether you're too old to be back on the market? Well, wonder no more. Watch the video on YourTango.com Dating Advice Every Single Mom Should Know In this video, author, therapist and YourTango ...
Views: 1944(4 votes) - Ten Things People Don’t Know about Therapy - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2013 from Tina TessinaI recently had a first session with a client who said, about halfway into the hour “Wow. I like you. I’m surprised.” I laughed, but I knew what the client meant. As a psychotherapist in private practice, I encounter a lot of people who waited far too long to come in for counseling because they ...
Views: 1843(6 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't know if this is retaliation - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read "Does First-Love ever die? How to deal with a flame that still flickers" While my situation doesn't parallel the situations you described in the article, it's very similar. About 8-9 mos ago, I ran into a highschool crush on a social ...
Views: 1677(2 votes) - Life Lessons - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2013 from Tina TessinaIn this month of giving thanks, I am grateful for the lessons of my life. Perhaps the most important lesson I’ve learned is that a meaningful life is about growing your soul, and it happens slowly, in the process of engaging life. My own soul was battered early, when all the closest people ...
Views: 1551(3 votes) - Weaving The Web - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaOprah Winfrey opened her school in South Africa in January, and was both praised and criticized. The criticism was that she was spending too much money on too few girls, because her school was lavish, free, and could only accommodate less than 200 girls. Aside from the fact that Oprah is ...
Views: 1474(3 votes) - Dr. Romance Video: How Can You Improve Your Sex Life In Marriage? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance is delighted to be interviewed by Mind Your Body TV via Huffington Post: How Can You Improve Your Sex Life In Marriage? After years together, is there a lack of sex in your marriage? Is this negatively impacting your relationship? Have no fear -- it is easy to ...
Views: 2766(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I find a good man to love me for me? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mom, of a teenage son. I was never married to his dad (if you want to call him that). I have the hardest time finding a relationship cuz I am on SS income and I am judged by that. I am a loving person, the good guys want a woman that works or is very ...
Views: 1587(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I want a man in my life that I can trust again. - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: After experiencing alot of physical and emotional abuse in my life, my last relationship was very damaging emotionally and physically. Now, many years later, I haven't had a serious relationship or even a date since. I've had two opportunities this year, but one wanted ...
Views: 1967(2 votes) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Public Politeness - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: How do you feel when you walk into a public rest room and there are papers all over the floor, unflushed toilets, and wet toilet seats? How do you feel about drivers who tailgate, zip around the roads going over the speed limit, and hog the road? Most of us don’t ...
Views: 1738(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Don't Want to be the Victim of any Jezebel - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a gentle young graduate of about 30 years. Throughout my staying on the campus, I decided not to enter into any real relationship that could eventually lead to marriage (I mean I had nothing in common with girls). Now, I need a life partner, wish must be a graduate ...
Views: 1611(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: She cannot forgive all the hurt I have caused her - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I came across your name in an article on Yahoo titled "More Couples Sleeping Apart: Is This Healthy?". My wife and I have been together since for over ten years, and have 3 children. and my wife has a daughter from a previous relationship. We ...
Views: 1867(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Stop a Stalker? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Are you familiar with men who won't leave women alone? I'm just trying to understand why someone would STALK me for well over a decade and, during that time, systematically destroy my life because I refused to be in an abusive relationship with him. He didn't seem to ...
Views: 1566(3 votes) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: A Year of Peace - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Happy New Year, everyone! This is the time when a lot of energy is spent on making resolutions, most of which we don’t manage to keep. So, this year, especially given recent tragic events, I propose a different kind of resolution. Will you join me in ...
Views: 1623(4 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Let Him Go? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read "Letting Go Takes Love" and it really spoke to me. I am in a situation and I was wondering if you could give me quick advice. I feel the need to let go of someone because he basically doesn't know what he wants. We have been going back and forth with the issue over a ...
Views: 1824(4 votes) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Give Yourself a Gift - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2012 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Want to give yourself a holiday gift that will last the rest of your life? Try giving yourself the gift of happiness. Research shows that happiness and satisfaction depend more on the inner person than on external circumstances. The secret to living a happy life is ...
Views: 1616(4 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Have Strong Feelings for My Plastic Surgeon - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw you on the web and thought I would ask you about my attraction to my plastic surgeon. I am almost 50, and have been having procedures done for 6 months now. He is my age and married with 2 school-age children and a younger wife. I have very strong feelings for him and ...
Views: 3590(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My Parents Are Racists - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years with a great person whom I've known for the 5 years I've been in this country. We studied together, were genuine friends before feelings started to develop, and we decided to be together. He and I are from a different ...
Views: 1672(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Do I Always Have Sex on the First Date? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm trying to find out why I always have sex on the first date. This is not to say that I have sex with every girl I date, or even that every girl I've gone out with has even been interested in me. It is simply to say that the overwhelming majority of my "situations" have ...
Views: 1944(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: On Spreading Kindness - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Tina TessinaIf video doesn't load, click here. Kindness is the lubrication for life, love and relationships. When you spread kindness, it comes back in many ways, and it’s the foundation of happiness. "Dr. Romance" shows how kindness works and why it’s important to learn to live kindly, even in today’s ...
Views: 1658(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Don't Want to Leave without Saying Goodbye - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I have developed feelings for my co-worker and during the past several months, we have had very brief encounters that were limited to greetings. Due to the small work place, I could not go and talk comfortably to him without eliciting attentions/rumors. I will be leaving ...
Views: 2476(2 votes) - Dr. Romance Video: Guidelines for Relating with Love - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2012 from Tina TessinaClick here to view the video. A good marriage can be the most precious thing in your life, and bring you lasting comfort and joy. There's nothing better than a long-lasting, solid, loving relationship you can count on. Dr. Romance shows you how to open up the love and joy in your ...
Views: 1727(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Feel Like We Have to Sneak Around and Hide - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in a relationship with a man who twenty years younger. He is black, and I am white. We are very much in love. The problem is that my parents are very much against my dating a black man. They do not like the age difference either, but the being black is worse. This is ...
Views: 1953(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Do I Make Him Understand? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How do I make him understand? So my soon-to-be-ex is still in the house as well as myself! This is not working! He keeps trying to make things better, but I don't feel anything for him anymore. He has been better to me but is still very rude to our son and says hurtful ...
Views: 1876(2 votes) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Your Inner Mentor Can Create New Meaning - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2012 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Sooner or later all of us question the meaning of life. The sooner we get to it, the better chance we have of finding a satisfactory answer. As a therapist I watch many of my clients pass through stages of personal growth. Once they work through the issues that have held ...
Views: 1898(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: 3 Ways to Ruin Your Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2012 from Tina TessinaTo view the video, click here.) Relationships can be devastated by simple, thoughtless things. Bad behavior will ruin your marriage faster than any temptation from the outside. Tina B. Tessina, PhD, "Dr. Romance" licensed psychotherapist and author points out the worst mistakes to ...
Views: 2393(6 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Overwhelmed to the Point I Want Out - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read some of the things you stated about marriage and why people divorce. I am feeling overwhelmed lately to the point I just want out. I have been married for over 17 years. We have 2 school-age children together. I am in school full time and work full time and still have a ...
Views: 1756(3 votes) - Dear Dr Romance: My Girlfriend Doesn't Like Phone Sex - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My girlfriend does not like phone sex. When ever I bring up the topic, she is always mad at me. I don't know; maybe it's the way her ex treated her. Please help. Dear Reader: You can't have phone sex with your girl if she doesn't like it, and you can't force her to ...
Views: 3501(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: On Dating in the Workplace - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2012 from Tina TessinaTo view the video, click here. Work can be the ideal environment for falling in love: you are in close proximity for a long period of time, you may have developed a good working partnership, and from there it is a short step to romance. However, workplace romance can present big problems. Dr. ...
Views: 2191 - Dear Dr. Romance: I Believe He's a Good Man at Heart - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband left to be with a much younger women. The problem became obvious in our marriage three years ago. I thought It would be something we would surpass. I was confused and did not act until one Friday night he did not come home to sleep. He came back that Saturday ...
Views: 2007 - Dear Dr. Romance: On Dating at Work - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2012 from Tina TessinaClick here to view the video. Work can be the ideal environment for falling in love: you are in close proximity for a long period of time, you may have developed a good working partnership, and from there it is a short step to romance. However, workplace romance can present big problems. Dr. ...
Views: 1932 - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Is There No Support Line for Men? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for writing "Lighten Up - Cures for Marital Boredom." Please allow me to give my opinion as to my priorities. I always had the idea to start from the bottom of your list and go upwards. Work together to create a partnership. Sex is important in life, but not number ...
Views: 2005(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: Guidelines for Co-Parenting after Divorce - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2012 from Tina Tessina(To view video, click here.) No matter how angry or hurt you may be after a divorce, if you have children, you’ll still share a lifetime with their other parent, your ex. Dr. Romance offers guidelines for moving past the anger and hurt, and finding a way to co-parent your children that is ...
Views: 2368 - Dear Dr. Romance: I Do My Best to Stay in My Loving Heart - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Quite honestly, all the info in "Lighten Up - Cures for Marital Boredom" is great. But if your list of reccomendations were a test, we have failed everyone or most of them. I am walking lightly around here, just knowing, somehow, somewhere in time, we will find our way back ...
Views: 1881(1 vote) - Dear Dr Romance: How Do You Dump Someone without Hurting Them? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in a bit of a weird situation... Im 16 and I am engaged to a guy I only met 2 months ago. I thought he was joking so I just went along with it, and it was only when he gave me a ring and started talking about venues and dates that I realised he was serious. I only ...
Views: 1737 - Dear Dr. Romance: I Think I'll Be Eternally Grateful - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Tina TessinaThank you, Dear Dr Romance: I've stumbled across your website, and think I'm going to be eternally grateful for having done so. Your advice is a pleasure to read, with helpful action-plans for effecting change. I love your articles on relationships with parents/children, being one's own best ...
Views: 1960 - How Not to Fight: Myths about Fighting In Relationships (And What to Do about Them) - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2012 from Tina TessinaIn my counseling practice, couples are often surprised to learn they can communicate and solve problems effectively without fighting; but sometimes you may find it’s not so easy to give up your struggles. You may have trouble letting go of the fighting habit because of two factors: social ...
Views: 2675(2 votes) - Handling the Green-Eyed Monster - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2012 from Tina TessinaI can’t escape it, it’s in the news every day, and it fills my counseling office. Yesterday, the news told of a four-year-old who was shot to death by his own father, because the father was jealous of his divorced wife’s new relationship. "O, beware... of jealousy; it is the green-eyed monster" ...
Views: 2206(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: 7 Things to Consider before Moving in Together or Making Financial Commitments - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2012 from Tina Tessina(To view video, click here.) Moving in together is a financial commitment, and so is marriage, so it’s important to consider the tough issues you’ll face as a cohabiting or married couple. Dr. Romance presents seven things you should consider before entwining yourselves financially as well as ...
Views: 1401(1 vote) - Handling Anxiety Effectively - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2012 from Tina TessinaHandling Anxiety Effectively We are all in a time of high stress, and national disasters often bring up fear. If these fears are not dealt with, they can lead to “acting out” behavior, such as drinking too much or creating relationship, work or money problems as a distraction. To avoid these ...
Views: 2031(3 votes) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Creating Connections: Draw Them In - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2012 from Tina TessinaMany years ago an Edwin Markham poem inspired me, and I’ve tried to live by it: "Outwitted" He drew a circle that shut me out —Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout.But Love and I had the wit to win:We drew a circle that took him in! As Markham says, we could see people who are distant or ...
Views: 3145(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My Best Friend Is Leading Me On. What Do I Do? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My best friend is leading me on. What do I do? My best friend has been leading me on for quite a while. We flirt a lot but we still aren't dating. A month ago, we confessed that we liked each other, except he wasn't ready for a relationship. I was okay with that. But now ...
Views: 4132(1 vote) - Getting to Yes - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2012 from Tina TessinaThe average person pays more attention to what she's saying or thinking about than what she is hearing, or how her words are "landing" on the other person. This self-involvement gets worse during an argument. You can become a much more effective communicator by using "attentive speaking" a ...
Views: 2978(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is This Unhealthy? What Should I Do? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Do I have an unhealthy celebrity obsession? I really need answers and help! I feel this is still unresolved? Does anyone else have an obsession with a particular celebrity to the degree that you wanna look, act, talk, dress and live like them. I do, I wanna look like ...
Views: 1717 - Dr. Romance Video: 5 Tips to Move on Emotionally after Divorce - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2012 from Tina Tessina(To view the video, go here: http://youtu.be/98RZAsK9c6c) Going through a divorce is devastating. You not only lose the marriage and break up your family; you also lose all the hopes and dreams you had for happiness here. Dr. Romance helps you to pick yourself up from the rubble and move on ...
Views: 3312(1 vote) - Getting Out of Your Way - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2012 from Tina TessinaRecently, I wrote here about making the most of time. This month, I have been asked a lot about how people can overcome paralysis and self-sabotage, so I thought I’d pass on my ideas on the subject. Getting in your own way is all about how you relate your yourself. In addition to not managing ...
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