Self Improvement Site
On The Internet! Take the Self Improvement Tour
On The Internet! Take the Self Improvement Tour
Articles from Tina Tessina | Selfgrowth.com
- Dear Dr. Romance: I threw temper tantrums, broke things, yelled and demanded a divorce - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a middle eastern single mother in my late twenties. suffering from depression and stress. As a child, I always wanted extra care and attention from my parents. I was closer to my father than my mother. When I was molested by an uncle, I complained to my parents ...
Views: 1591(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am worried about marrying him - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was reading your article "When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships" and need your advice. My boyfriend of 5 years is quite selfish and literally a narcissist. He never did anything as a gesture of love except for buying calling cards to call me from ...
Views: 1646(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Spouse's Child - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2013 from Tina TessinaInfidelity: 3 Tips on Finances after your Spouse's Girlfriend Has a Child It’s not the first thing everyone thinks of, but the existence of an out-of-wedlock child will have a big economic impact, and the financial responsibility will grow with the child. 1. Unless you can settle with ...
Views: 1461(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Is your Partner too Selfish? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2013 from Tina TessinaRelationships: Tips to Recognize if your Partner is Emotionally Abusive Ever look around at who stays married, and who doesn't? Overweight people far outnumber the thin and beautiful in successful marriages. The svelte and attractive get far more dates, but don't seem as able to close the ...
Views: 1716(4 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He always calls, and we do the same thing over again. - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been with this man over thirty years back and forth. Something always seems to happen and we end up apart again. He endsup getting married and yet though living states apart he always ends up calling and we do the same thing all over again. This time we got closer ...
Views: 1590(1 vote) - What's Narcissism, What's Abuse? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2013 from Tina TessinaNarcissistic Personalities & Sociopaths Conscience is a type of judgment, that tells us what is right and wrong. It begins in early childhood, when (hopefully) parents teach a child what he can or cannot do (beginning with "no!"), then gradually how to tell right from wrong. ...
Views: 1398(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: she wanted to still be friends - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I knew a girl for a long time and had a huge crush on her. I'm in my twenties, and she is a year younger than me. I am a very shy person and would freeze up whenever I tried to tell her. We knew each other for more than a year and were good friends, so I told her, trying ...
Views: 1698(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2013 from Tina TessinaLast month, Dr. Romance received the following letter from a reader: “A topic I would like you to cover/explore is that curious phenomenon which permits otherwise independent women to be dominated...even abused...by males with whom they share some sort or relationship. Why is it that a ...
Views: 1573(1 vote) - Caring For Parents = Divorce? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2013 from Tina Tessina7 Tips To Keep Your Marriage On Track When Helping Family Members If your parents are elderly and becoming infirm, or if there are others who require special care in your family, due to disability or illness the situation you will need to figure out how to maintain a balance between your ...
Views: 1663 - How to Have Happier Holidays! - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2013 from Tina TessinaRichard and I just indulged in our favorite December tradition—we watched our favorite Christmas movie (Scrooge! the musical starring Albert Finney) which kick-starts our holiday spirit every year. No matter what you observe: Ramadan, Kwaanza, Chanukah, Solstice or Christmas, this is a ...
Views: 1369 - Creating Holiday Magic - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2013 from Tina TessinaRecently, as we were eating in an Italian restaurant, the music being played transported me back to holidays with my Italian/American family. Traditional, sentimental Italian songs were such a large part of our gatherings for the holidays. After a huge, slow, multi-course dinner, Uncle Tommy ...
Views: 1337 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother, and I feel I'm past my prime. - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a 23 year old single mother and believe me when I say my life has been crazy and very rough. I have no relationship with the father of my child. He's pretty much abandoned our four yearl old son after his 1st birthday. He doesn't help out, and blames everything ...
Views: 1783(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I love a deaf girl with all my heart - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am confused I am dating a deaf girl and I love her with all my heart. The problem is she likes to party sleeping around and in the community they have noticed it. They keep complaining about deaf gals but sometimes I want to cry coz I love that girl so ...
Views: 2183(1 vote) - Bet You Don't Know How To Apologize - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2013 from Tina TessinaThere Are Four Steps. Are You Doing All Of Them? Are you and your partner having a tough time getting over an argument? Here are some tips to help. 1. Surrender to your responsibility. When you become aware that you have made a mistake, admit it and apologize. Use it as an opportunity ...
Views: 1631(1 vote) - Dr. Romance video: Am I too old to date again? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2013 from Tina TessinaClick Here for Video In today's world, people don't often realize the importance of companionship until later in life. Staying fit and physically and socially active increases your odds of finding someone to date, and also increases your libido and your chances of successful sex. But, ...
Views: 1633 - Dear Dr. Romance: Can I have a life partner? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am living alone. I've been told I am sexually week. Can I have a life partner? How long will it take? I need care and protection, and to know what my choices are. How can I be fruitful to society and mankind? Is my life worth ...
Views: 1384(1 vote) - Do You Respect The EX? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2013 from Tina TessinaYou're divorced, but you still see your ex. How do you handle it? Here are three tips to help. 1. Treat your ex as politely as you treat your friends or co-workers. Don’t be as familiar as you used to be. A little less familiarity will generate a little more respect. Say “Hello”, ...
Views: 1791(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Am I Strange? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a university student majoring in English Translation in a Mid Eastern country. I find it difficult to attract other people's attention and it makes friendship nearly impossible. I love loneliness in a way that most of my friends don't ...
Views: 1778(1 vote) - Looking For Love After Divorce? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaDon't Repeat Past Mistakes. Follow These Three Tips Looking for love after divorce? Here are three tips to help as you begin dating after your divorce. 1. Be suspicious if it all seems “too good to be true” – it probably is. If your subconscious, neurotic needs are running the show, it’s ...
Views: 1663(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: Finding your Next Spouse - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2013 from Tina TessinaYou're divorced and ready to look for a new love. Here are three tips to help you as you search for a new partner in life. 1. Know the difference between fooling around and building a real relationship. You can mess around with anyone (if you’re careful and have safe sex) but before you ...
Views: 1495(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Ten Things People Don't Know about Therapy - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: I recently had a first session with a client who said, about halfway into the hour “Wow. I like you. I’m surprised.” I laughed, but I knew what the client meant. As a psychotherapist in private practice, I encounter a lot of people who waited far too long to come in for ...
Views: 1531(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I just miss her a lot - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I found your article about women dating younger men. So, here I'm in a middle of a crisis... hope you can read it and hope you can give some advise. I'm 30, with a promising carreer and a stable job. A year ago, I met a woman, who's seven years older and ...
Views: 1568(1 vote) - Dr Romance: 3 Tips to Living Together - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Tina TessinaIn the throes of a new romance, when dating and getting to know each other are going well, it’s easy to make a big decision from all the energy, or for the wrong reasons. Moving in together for the wrong reasons, or without advance planning, can jeopardize the whole relationship; so do it ...
Views: 1536(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sure there's any turning back - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My wife and I have been married for 5 years. We got married quickly - after only 9 months due to a couple of reasons. We have been fighting fairly regularly for several years -- and I think it comes down to us not having much in common - which I ultimately resent her ...
Views: 1507(4 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should he rent a room in his ex's house? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, Should a man expect a woman to want to become involved with him when he is still best friends with is ex-lover--and he is a renter in her house? He claims it is all over between them, but I don't see how he or the ex-lover should expect a woman to feel comfortable ...
Views: 1624(2 votes) - Treat Your Marriage Like A Client? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2013 from Tina TessinaHow Your Work Skills Can Help Save Your Marriage If you and your partner tend to think the business end of a relationship is not a romantic topic for courtship, you may not discuss it until you can’t avoid it, and then you fight. You may not think of your marriage as a business deal, but a ...
Views: 1548(2 votes) - Dr Romance Video: Should you stay in your marriage? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2013 from Tina TessinaClick here for video. Dr Romance: Should you stay in your marriage? Marriage can be frustrating and disappointing, especially if you don't have the skills to fix it. But giving in to the frustration and leaving may turn out to be the worst thing you ever did. Consider these ...
Views: 1656(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Can you program the subconscious? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw the articles on your site and I would like to know if you can ´´program´´ the subconscious mind to win a X salary per month, even if the subconscious mind is programmed to attract money. Dear Reader: We have a brain mechanism psychologists call ...
Views: 1551(1 vote) - Could He/She Be A Control Freak? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2013 from Tina Tessina3 ways to Stay Sane and Stay Married Is your spouse a control freak? It is driving you to distraction? Here are three tips to keep your relationship on track, keep you sane and stop you from going to divorce court. 1. Control freaks can be very successful. If yours is, give credit where ...
Views: 1984(5 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: My baby momma is a lesbian and wants me to marry her. - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have had baby with this girl and we are planning to marry this year. Just last we were talking about things we do not like and the things that we like. I said she was unfaithful before we had the baby and she said that not true but that she was lesbian was ...
Views: 2616(1 vote) - Are You Sex-Starved? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2013 from Tina TessinaIf You're In A Sexless Marriage, You Need These Tips Now Sexless marriage is a complaint I get often from clients. While sometimes, in case of illness or injury, a complete sexual experience is not possible in marriage, it is always best to have whatever sexual experience is available to the ...
Views: 4130(3 votes) - Wanted: Older Men - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2013 from Tina TessinaSeniors today are still of a generation that doesn't want to seem to plan for sex. And there's no need for birth control, so that motivation for condom use doesn't exist. Also, senior men may not have as inevitable erections as they did when younge, so that may make them reluctant to use ...
Views: 1428(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel my sister's life is in danger - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently stumbled upon your article "Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence." The information you provided resounded heartily with me. Last fall my brother in law discharged a weapon DIRECTLY NEXT to my sisters head. She was 8 months pregnant at the ...
Views: 1452(3 votes) - Dr. Romance on Using Social Media to Find Dates - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: I find that more of my clients are reporting meeting someone new via Social Media sites like Twitter, LInkedIn and Facebook. They are discovering that they can find a good "match" by beginning in an arena where like-minded people already hang out. ...
Views: 1616(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Divorce-Proof your Marriage - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2013 from Tina TessinaFor Adult Children of Divorce, 3 Tips for a Better Marriage than your Parents Had If you're an adult child of divorce in a marriage that's been struggling, you can learn good marriage-building skills to keep your relationship from going the divorce route. Here are three tips to help: 1. ...
Views: 1788(6 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Can you make your wife fall in love again? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I would like to know if it's possible to make your wike fall in love with you again? She just recently announced to me that she wanted to go our seperate ways. I am devestaded we have 2 kids together and she told me that she just grew appart from me. I'm madly in love ...
Views: 1670(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm struggling with dismissing bad behavior - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: You state in the Yahoo article "Signs You Must Move On": "Women often have a very hard time ending relationships, even if deep down they know they're unhealthy. They fear change, they fear being single or they think they won't ...
Views: 1793(1 vote) - Want To Stay Married? 4 Must Do's - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2013 from Tina TessinaNumber Four Is A Must In Any Relationship 1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other. You should talk about frustrations, sex, anger, disappointment, about your appreciation of each other, about the meaning of life, about everything. No topic should be off limits. Learn to listen and ...
Views: 1328(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel like such a fool - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I read your article, Gentle Persistence, followed the instrudtions, and got the truth. You were right. You were sooooo right! I've finally come to the realization that the married man I've been having an affair with for almost two years now has been using me. ...
Views: 2490(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Emotional Hygiene - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: A couple of years ago, I had some difficult dental work. It was very painful, and while I recovered physically pretty quickly, I had some post -traumatic stress reactions – bad dreams, flashbacks, and upset – after my recovery. I had to acknowledge my upset and feelings, ...
Views: 1587 - Stop! The Don't Do Dating List - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2013 from Tina TessinaDating Again? Five Things You Must Not Do Dating someone new is not easy for anyone. Expectations can be high, and it’s very easy to make a wrong move. Knowing what not to do on your earliest dates can help you to avoid future problems. Here are Dr. Romance’s reminders of what not to do on a ...
Views: 1588(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I need to forgive myself. - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I need to forgive myself for continuing in the care of a dentist whom I had lost confidence in and didn't trust anymore. He put a crown in and messed up my bite so now I bite and scratch my cheeks. I have had anxiety and a brief hospital stay over this. I ...
Views: 2475 - Dear Dr. Romance: I recently discovered numerous women he text messages - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have just read your article "Keys to a Happy Relationship" and would be greatful for some advice. I havn't been with my partner long. We are both in our twenties and we met a few months ago and already live together because it's the only way we could see ...
Views: 1488(1 vote) - Will Your Relationship Last? 7 Must Read Questions. - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2013 from Tina TessinaNumber 7 Might Shock You The way to know if your romance will last is to observe your partner's past and present behavior, especially in group settings, and to learn the proven skills to make marriage work. Because I see so much of the damage caused by people blindly connecting, rushing ...
Views: 1504(1 vote) - Relationships: Tips to Help Overcome your Negative Reaction to your Spouse - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2013 from Tina TessinaEXERCISE: MIRRORS AND TEACHERS 1. List problem people: Make a list of people with whom you have had problems in the recent past. You can use the list from the exercise for reviewing your family map in the last chapter, choose the family members who are still presenting problems, and add to ...
Views: 1548(3 votes) - Dr. Romance Video: Is it normal to argue with your spouse about your kids? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2013 from Tina Tessinaclick here for video It is not necessary to argue about parenting your kids. Couples usually argue about how their parents raised them, and they want to do the same (or the opposite) of what hteir parents did. How Not to Pass Your Family Dysfunction on to your kids: 1. Don't do ...
Views: 1634(3 votes) - Dr. Romance: 5 Common Mistakes in Relationships - 5 Common Mistakes when Asking your Spouse for What You Want - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2013 from Tina TessinaThere are some common mistakes couples make when asking for what they want in a relationship. Here are some things that may be keeping you from achieving success with your spouse. They are the most common mistakes you can make when trying to ask for what you want when you're struggling to make ...
Views: 1514(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: We Still Love Each Other, but I don't know - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: i need some relationship advise really bad bad. Can you help?? I really need help, See, I cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years And he found out and forgave me! And he went out And slept with 3 girls that night is it possible for us to still work? We love each other but I ...
Views: 1687 - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Trust Her Not to Do It Again? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I wanted to get your reaction to something; what would it mean to you if someone said to you "So maybe I quit on our relationship." Yes my wife said this to me right before I left on deployment and I have been having a hard time dealing with it. When I came home ...
Views: 1591(3 votes) - Dr. Romance: Boundaries with your Ex - Tips to Help if your Ex is Doing Things that Make You Feel Used, Resentful - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2013 from Tina TessinaPersonal space and respect are to the smoothness of a relationship. All personal relationships require boundaries. Boundaries are the limits you place on how much others can ask of you, verbally or otherwise. If a friendship or relationship is between two people who both have solid boundaries, ...
Views: 2174(3 votes)