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- The Colors of You - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaAs life develops, many of us have an urge to focus on the deeper issues—our dreams and goals, and our emotional and spiritual development. When this happens, life gradually becomes more about meaning and satisfaction and less about obligations and accomplishments. As you mature, you can focus on ...
Views: 1290 - Aspects of Love - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaAh, love! What rapturous, torturous words have been set down to try and capture the essence of love. Those clever Greeks, who invented the Olympics, also invented many names for love—Cupid, Eros, Venus, Aphrodite—and each name represented an aspect of love. The ancient Greeks had several words ...
Views: 1479 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm having major anxiety about the guy I'm dating - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm having major anxiety about the guy I'm dating. I wanted to talk with him, but I lost my strength when I asked about his ex and he gave me an answer like, "There are things you need to know and things you don't need to know and when things don't affect ...
Views: 1705 - The Fine Art of “Squirrel Hunting” - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaThe most frequent problem I hear from single clients is that of how and where to search for a partner. Many of them have been searching for a long time, without success; others have been afraid to go out and search at all. Most of the horror stories you have heard about dating occur when ...
Views: 1457 - Dear Dr. Romance: I do not want to have to choose between family and love. - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need some of your advice. You're the only one I could think of who would give me a sensible answer. Well, this situation might seem easy when viewed from the outside, but going through it myself really created stress for me. I DO NOT WANT TO HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN ...
Views: 1821 - New Book: Decisions After Forty: Reinventing the Rest of Your Life - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr.Romance is happy to announce my newest ebook, The Ten Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make after Forty: Reinventing the Rest of Your Life. In your lifetime, if you are forty or older, you have gone from dial telephones to smart phones, typewriters to computers, and the Internet has ...
Views: 1989 - 7 Must Do's Before Moving In - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2014 from Tina TessinaNumber Seven May Be A Little Shocking Dr. Romance’s three tips to maintaining sanity during divorce. According to results from a recent GfK Roper poll, more than 80 percent of divorced Americans still believe in marriage, but we all know more than half of marriages don’t make it, for ...
Views: 1489 - Dear Dr. Romance: I would be honored and privileged if I could end up marrying her. - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read an article that focused on interfaith couples and their impact on raising children. You were featured in the article and I wanted to reach out to you as a last resort to saving my relationship. My girlfriend and i have been together for three ...
Views: 2379(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can we find low cost counseling? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am in a same sex relationship of a year and 3 months. My girlfriend Phyllis and I have a constant communication problem that we want to address. Neither of us are currently working. I do get unemploymnet but my bills out weigh my income. Do you know how we can find low ...
Views: 1748 - Dr. Romance: Make your Marriage Work - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2014 from Tina TessinaRelationships: Three Tips to Getting your Marriage Back on Track Every relationship has its ups and downs. Is your marriage struggling right now? If you're trying to get it back on track, here are tips to help. 1. Don’t hold a grudge. Talk about what’s bothering you in a rational way. ...
Views: 1734(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: It’s a Dirty Job - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Richard and I have been married since 1982 It hasn’t always been easy, but it’s definitely been worth it. In the first year of our marriage, after a difficult struggle between us, I gave my husband a card. On the front it said, "I love you", many times, and inside ...
Views: 1379(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I stay in this relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I had a really bad ending on my last relationship we were engaged. I moved into another relationship a month after he ended it. I was very lonely and my new relationship seemed perfect. Now I'm starting to get mixed emotions about my man. We have together now 1 ...
Views: 1419 - You Can't Fall Apart Now - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2014 from Tina Tessina3 Tips to Maintaining Your Sanity During Divorce Dr. Romance’s three tips to maintaining sanity during divorce. 1. Know your rights: If you’re even considering divorce, spend the money for one consult with a reputable, good attorney (preferably, recommended by a friend who went through ...
Views: 1793 - Dr. Romance on spreading kindness - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance on spreading kindness Spreading kindness is the best way I know to be happy. If you want to spread kindness around, here are some ideas: *Kindness begins on the inside – learn to be as kind in talking to yourself as you are to others – then, keep improving. Self-talk sets the bar ...
Views: 1461 - Dr. Romance: Got a Tough Ex? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Tina TessinaRelationships: Three Tips to Dealing with a Really Difficult Ex-Spouse Dr. Romance’s three tips to dealing with a difficult ex. 1. Choose your battles. One of my clients once said “I don’t want to die on that hill.” She meant: that battle isn’t worth what it will cost me – I’ll ignore ...
Views: 1826(1 vote) - Dear Dr Romance: he said I was expecting too much from this relationship - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr.Romance: I can't get over this man, he is 61, I'm in my mid thirties, he is Europe and I'm in North America, we started corresponding and we stopped I was suffering but time healed me after a year. This year we re started talking back, by facebook, and when ...
Views: 1818 - Year of Peace - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2014 from Tina TessinaHappy New Year, everyone! This is the time when a lot of energy is spent on making resolutions, most of which we don’t manage to keep. So, this year, I propose a different kind of resolution. Will you join me in resolving to create a year of peace? Peace begins inside yourself. When you ...
Views: 1476 - Dr. Romance: Ending your Marriage - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2013 from Tina TessinaRelationships: 3 Tips to Know when to Get Out of your Marriage and File For Divorce As a counselor, I’ve helped lots of couples solve difficult relationship problems, but it isn’t always possible. Here are three reasons to know it’s time to let it go: 1. Your partner keeps going out of ...
Views: 1709(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother suffering in depression and stress - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother suffering in depression and stress. I met my ex husband online, we fall in love and got married. He was a Middle Eastern guy. We had a daughter, the marriage didn't last long and we got a divorce. I was aggressive, i used to break things, yell at ...
Views: 1540 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am the one who becomes unbalanced - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am married 19 years and my husband and I have two children. We have a good marriage in so many ways yet we continuously cycle to a low point every couple of months primarily due to my change in mood and feelings about the relationship. A bad case of ambivalence on my part. ...
Views: 1328(1 vote) - But My Parents Divorced...Will I? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2013 from Tina Tessina3 Must Do's If You Want To Break The Cycle If you're the adult child of a divorce or simply trying to improve your marriage, here are three tips to help you cultivate a good relationship with your partner. 1. Weekly State of the Union discussion. This is not an argument or complaint ...
Views: 1980(1 vote) - Dr. Romance video: Ask Dr. Romance: Should I Start a Family? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2013 from Tina TessinaClick here for video Many men think it's exciting to be a "serial single guy" but at a certain point, life begins to feel empty. That means it's time to grow up emotionally, and consider making a commitment and building a life with more real satisfaction. The ...
Views: 1436(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am on MAJOR pain pills. - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a 49 year old disabed vet, chest injury in pain 24/7. I am on MAJOR pain pills. Have not had sex with wife since one day I pulled her pants down and found a river of a substance that looked like human ejaculate but smelt like beer. Six months later she said it was ...
Views: 1627(4 votes) - 4 Tips for a Cheater: Get Your Marriage Back on Track - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2013 from Tina TessinaTo recover from infidelity and save your marriage: 1. Tell the Truth. Assuming your spouse found out, you didn't confess—this is the time to tell the whole truth. It's probably best done with a therapist present, to keep a lid on the emotional reactions. 2. Give your Spouse the ...
Views: 1723(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I handle jealousy? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Just read a fine article of your from a link off the internet, and was wondering your best recommendation of the books you've wrote for jealousy and suspicious minds in a marriage with no real proof? Dear Reader: "Handling the Green-Eyed ...
Views: 1632(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I just got my girlfriend pregnant and I might be gay. - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've just gotten my girlfriend pregnant and still have doubts about my sexuality, whether I'm gay or bisexual. She wants me to get some clarity before she decides to keep the baby or not. Can you help? Dear Reader: Your girlfriend is right to want you to know what ...
Views: 1612(4 votes) - Are You CEO Of Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2013 from Tina TessinaIf You're Fighting About Money, Read These Five Tips In our society, money represents power, success, and often even your value as a person. We say (misquoting the Bible,) “Money is the root of all evil," or “money is power;” or “he who has the gold, makes the rules.” We consider it ...
Views: 1459(2 votes) - Dr. Romance’s 3 tips to finding true love - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance’s 3 tips to finding true love: 1. Know the difference between fooling around and building a real relationship. You can mess around with anyone (if you’re careful and have safe sex) but before you bring someone into your life, or share money or living space, remember they’re ...
Views: 1510(1 vote) - Don't Make The Same Mistake Twice! - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaDating Again? Use These Five Tips On Every Date! You’re fresh out of a disaster, and you are terrified of the thought of dating again, but you’re going to try anyway. Good for you! Here are some guidelines to help you avoid repeating old mistakes: 1. Pay Attention! You Have Things to ...
Views: 1646(1 vote) - Can You Really Find Love The 2nd Time Around? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2013 from Tina TessinaIf You're Searching And Can't Find Love, Try This Probably the most prevalent question I'm asked in my counseling practice is “Where is love?” Clients want to know why they can't find a successful life partnership, why a friend or family member won't respond as they would like, even why ...
Views: 1601(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Every time I think about him it just hurts - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm hoping you can offer some advice. I recently fell in love with a guy going through a divorce. We weren't together for ages but I feel like it was. He was separated About 10 months when we started dating and he had confessed to having a crush on me for a really ...
Views: 1537(1 vote) - How Not To Be A Wicked Stepparent - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Tina Tessina4 Real Ways To Make It Work Are you a stepparent? Are you struggling to make the right decisions for your newly created family? If so, here are four tips to help. 1. Give your blended family a chance to bond. Don’t worry if everyone doesn’t settle in right away; bonding takes time. ...
Views: 1502(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My wife is reading romance novels - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance For many many years, i have been the income earner for our 4 kids and my wife while she was home raising the kids. Day in day out I was working sometimes three jobs. I got into a career that took 10-15 hrs per day for the first three years - the money was great and I ...
Views: 7020(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: Holidays with Family and In-laws - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2013 from Tina TessinaClick Here for Video Dr. Romance on Holidays with Family and In-laws Marriage means relating to in-laws and extended family. This is what "cleave to each other, forsaking all others" in the old marriage vows meant: Once married, you are now each other's primary ...
Views: 1838(1 vote) - 3 Tips Single Parents Need To Know - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2013 from Tina TessinaHow To Be a Happier -- and More Successful -- Single Parent Are you a single parent struggling with how to make it all work? Dr. Romance offers three tips to happier single parenting. 1. Be a Grownup. I know you’ve probably had a tough time, but you’re a parent, and your child’s ...
Views: 1631(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I find her volatile and aggressive - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I came across your name and contact details on a web it whilst trying to find info' to help my relationship. I wonder if you might be able to offer me any advice please ? My girlfriend always wants to take control and the way she speaks to me at times is though ...
Views: 1660 - Dr. Romance on Dealing with Disappointment or failure - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: OK, so you're disappointed. Your dream has ended in the trashbin. So, after you get finished with laying on the floor, kicking your heels, and screaming; or going on a drunken binge, or beating someone up, you find you're still disappointed, and all that acting out ...
Views: 2734(1 vote) - Are You Remarried? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2013 from Tina TessinaDon't Let Divorce Muddy Your Marriage - 3 Tips Are you remarried? Are you trying to make this new relationship work. Dr. Romance offers three tips to help this new marriage work better than the first one. 1. Understand your baggage. You both have leftovers from earlier ...
Views: 1612(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have a traumatic brain injury - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: A lot has happened in recent weeks that has wreaked havoc on my life. A friend of twenty years, Told me he did not consider me a real friend, although I've been spending many hours helping him with gaming for years. My sweetie pet hamster died. It was his time, ...
Views: 1827 - Four Secrets To A Happy Marriage - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2013 from Tina TessinaSave Your Relationship With 4 Easy Steps Dr. Romance’s four simple steps to create a successful marriage. 1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other. Share your ideas and issues about sex, about anger, about disappointment, about your appreciation of each other, about the meaning of ...
Views: 1545(1 vote) - Zen + Sex = Starting Over? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2013 from Tina TessinaReady To Get Back Out There? 3 Must Knows Men and women have to redefine themselves after a relationship ends, and reinvent their lives. If they do it well, it can lead to the most satisfying and successful years they've had. Dating successfully after divorce or a breakup require several ...
Views: 1576(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My ex is violent, abusive and obsessed with me - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your post on line about 5 signs he isn't over his ex, and it answered a lot of questions that I have about my ex husband. We were married for 10 years. He's violent, abusive and obsessed with me. I have dealt with him for the almost 3 years ...
Views: 3939 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm in my seventies and he's 25 years younger - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I'm in my seventies, and he is 25 years younger.we met on a senior dating site almost two years ago, and have been living together for over a year. He and my daughter went to the same high school, and he says he was attracted to me then and always compared his other ...
Views: 1451(1 vote) - Are You The One Who Wanted It To Work? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2013 from Tina Tessina3 Must Do's + 2 Don'ts That Can Help You Today Are you about to be dumped? Your mate/date is losing interest? The signs are: lack of attention in conversation and being together; irritability -- refusal to talk about it, no sex or less interest. Here's what to do if you ARE dumped. 1. DO ...
Views: 1676(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on To Help An Addicted Friend - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: I’ve been talking with clients a lot recently about what to do if someone you love or care for is self-destructing through addiction, or is making it difficult to be a friend because they’re out of control. We all have had some dramatic examples on television and in ...
Views: 2052 - Dear Dr. Romance: My husband is curious about sex with men. - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I have been happily married for 9 years, and we have a good sex life. We love each other very much,and want to grow old together. He served two wars in Iraq. About two years ago, I started being concerned about his sexual behavior relating to men. He used to ...
Views: 2196(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: Bored with your Sex Life? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2013 from Tina TessinaPut Spice Back into your Marriage with Tips to Help when the Sex Gets Boring Are you bored with your marital sex life? What can you do about it? Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D, psychotherapist and author of "Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage (Adams ...
Views: 1633(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to resent my wife - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your article "Attitude Adjustment" and some of the things you said really resonated. In recent years, I have found myself developing more and more resentment toward my wife (who thinks very differently than I do). I want to dissolve ...
Views: 1848(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: Resolving Couple Fights over Finances - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2013 from Tina TessinaClick Here for Video Dr. Romance on MONEY TALKS Money talks need to be a part of scheduling weekly meetings - not just for money, but also for catching up with one another. Bills, social planning, long-term goals and working on your relationship are just some of the issues you'll ...
Views: 1690(1 vote) - Baby Boomer? Getting Divorced? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2013 from Tina TessinaTwo Must Know Tips If You're A Boomer Facing Divorce Divorce is a shock to anyone, but especially older marrieds, who may have been together for a long time. You are likely to be in shock for quite a while, feel numb and lost, and then have delayed grief. Here are two tips to help if you're a ...
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