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- A Very Annoying Habit - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2020 from William CottringerA VERY ANNOYING HABIT by Bill Cottringer “I personally believe we developed language because of our deep inner need to complain.” ~Jane Wagner. What could anyone complain about regarding this beautiful day? Oh, I imagine we can find something: The inconvenient travel and other ...
Views: 844 - Various Versions of Happiness - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2020 from William CottringerVarious Versions of Happiness By Bill Cottringer “Happiness is what you do to stumble upon it.” ~The Author. The pursuit of happiness is something we all engage in, to some degree or another. And the last I heard, it is still an inalienable constitutional right of Americans and ...
Views: 844 - Finding Your Own Underlying Mental Health Within - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2009 from William CottringerFinding Your Own Underlying Mental Health Within By Bill Cottringer “The obscure takes awhile to see, but the obvious even longer.” ~Unknown author. Just about the time I finally think I have the main purpose of life figured out, up pops something else with a slightly different flavor and ...
Views: 841 - CAREFULLY CRAFTING CHANGE - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2008 from William Cottringer“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” ~Maria Robinson. As managers today, we are being challenged to use and teach one skill more than all the others in our toolbox—adapting to and teaching change successfully. Just pause a moment ...
Views: 833 - Give In & Win - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2008 from William CottringerGIVE IN AND WIN By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Conscience is what hurts when everything else feels so good.” ~ Unknown author. It was a rainy night in August of 1964 when this naïve 19-year old kid was assigned guard duty at the make-shift rear gate of Tan Son Nhut AB in Saigon, Vietnam. ...
Views: 822 - The Terrible Twins Within: Our Psychological vs. Moral Consciences - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2008 from William CottringerThe Terrible Twins Within: Our Psychological vs. Moral Consciences By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “The human voice can never reach the distance that is covered by the still small voice of conscience.” ~Mahatma Gandhi. We start out and end up at the same place in finding and knowing ...
Views: 819 - ANY RELATIONSHIP CAN GO SOUTH QUICKLY - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2008 from William CottringerANY RELATIONSHIP CAN GO SOUTH QUICKLY By Bill Cottringer “Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” ~Henry Winkler. Great, good or ghastly relationships can go South in a New York second if they are not prepared ahead of time for the Big “S”—the inevitable stress that challenges ...
Views: 818 - Personal "P" Points - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2008 from William CottringerBeing successful and winning in life takes much talent, effort, determination, cleverness, good timing, and patience. However you can shorten the learning curve by understanding and practicing certain “P” points. These psychological power points are the little things you can do, with strategic ...
Views: 818 - The least Applied Solution to Relationship Conflicts Worth Considering - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2009 from William CottringerThe least Applied Solution to Relationship Conflicts Worth Considering By Bill Cottringer “The only way to mange the destructive affects of anger and hatred are to cultivate the positive antidotes of patience and tolerance.” ~The Dalai Lama. In any intensely close personal or work ...
Views: 816 - What Is It That Matters Most? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2008 from William Cottringer“It’s not what you do, but how much love you put into it that matters.” ~Mother Teresa. One very interesting research study I came across a few years ago was done with very senior citizens who were all over 95-years of age. What interested me most were the top regrets these people had with ...
Views: 815 - How Do You Know What To Do For Sure? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from William CottringerHow Do You Know What To Do For Sure? By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Good judgment comes from experience and experience comes from bad judgment.” ~ Anonymous. How do you know what to do for sure? That is a very good question to which we should all want to know the answer, especially ...
Views: 813 - Undoing The Things In The Way Of Successful Reality Repair Rx - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2008 from William CottringerUndoing The Things In The Way Of Successful Reality Repair Rx By Bill Cottringer “What we call reality is an agreement that people have arrived at to make life more livable.” ~Louise Nevelson. What life is all about is successful reality repair—fixing the realities we don’t like and ...
Views: 809 - Threading Life's Rope With Your Needle - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2007 from William CottringerTHREADING YOUR NEEDLE WITH LIFE’S ROPE By Bill Cottringer A great challenge and opportunity we all have in life is to be successful in threading our needle with life’s rope. This is our main success quest behind all that we do. The keys to this quest are in understanding the rope, ...
Views: 807 - Success Is Easier Done Than Said - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2007 from William CottringerSUCCESS IS EASIER DONE THAN SAID By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “People love chopping wood. In this activity one immediately sees results.” ~Albert Einstein. All the libraries of current success clues are making success harder said than done. We are all buried in the success overload and ...
Views: 806 - Walking to Success - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2008 from William CottringerWalking to Success by Bill Cottringer “Slow down you’re doing fine. You can’t be everything you want to be before your time.” ~Billy Joel. There is too much hype about thriving to success and way too many hits about that “race” on the I-net (only 360 million!). Even the most simple, ...
Views: 806 - The Will To Grow - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2007 from William CottringerTHE WILL TO GROW By Bill Cottringer There is one particular motivation that has a significant impact on the quality of your life; it can result in varying degrees of happiness and unhappiness, success and failure, peace and turmoil and good health and ill health. This single motivation ...
Views: 804 - Reality Repair Starts With Alignment To Purpose - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2008 from William CottringerTwo of my favorite words lately are alignment and purpose. When these two words are in sync with each other you can access unlimited success and abundance and all the positive feelings that come with those things. But when these two words are out of sync with each other, that is when you get ...
Views: 803 - Healing the Divide: A Few Partial Solutions Worth Considering. - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2020 from William CottringerHealing the Divide: A Few Partial Solutions Worth Considering. By Bill Cottringer “Until we can reconcile mind and matter as just being different sides of the same coin, dualistic thinking will continue to take things apart rather than put them back together where they belong. ~ The ...
Views: 801 - Reconciliation of You - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2007 from William CottringerSigmund Freud was certainly right about one thing. Human beings do have a ‘personality trinity’ that actually reflects many such equivalent three-part government and social systems. However, I think the three concepts originally used may not convey the relevant story today. Three was ...
Views: 801 - The One Belief That Matters Most - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2009 from William Cottringer“For those who believe, no proof is necessary. For those who don't believe, no proof is possible.” ~Stuart Chase. There is one huge belief that has a humongous influence on all others because it represents and touches everything else. This one belief that matters most is the one we each ...
Views: 801 - Beating the COVD Holiday Blues - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2020 from William CottringerBeating the COVD Holiday Blues By Bill Cottringer “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart. Wishing you happiness during this holiday season.” ~Helen Keller This year the normal holiday spirit may be dampened by ...
Views: 797 - HELP FOR REALTY REPAIR Rx? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2008 from William CottringerHELP FOR REALTY REPAIR Rx? By Bill Cottringer I am currently writing a book called "Reality Repair Rx: Making Things Better," which I feel is very important today given the extent and scope of the problems we are all currently facing (total overload). I recently published “Do What Matters ...
Views: 794 - The Only Two Ways to Heal the Divide - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2020 from William CottringerThe Only Two Ways to Heal the Divide By Bill Cottringer “Divide and rule, the politician cries; unite and lead, is watchword of the wise.” ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe. There is no denying that we have a great Divide going on in our country, that has reached the point of begging ...
Views: 788 - TRUE BALANCE: WHEN TO BE EVEN-HANDED AND WHEN TO GO FOR IT WITH ALL FOURS - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2008 from William CottringerTRUE BALANCE: WHEN TO BE EVEN-HANDED AND WHEN TO GO FOR IT WITH ALL FOURS by Bill Cottringer “Genuine happiness and true peace of mind only come about when you begin to make progress at knowing when to be even-handed and when to close your eyes, hold your breath and jump in with all fours.” ...
Views: 788 - The Secret In The Way of The secret - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2008 from William CottringerThe Secret In The Way of The Secret by Bill Cottringer I have to admit I am both a fan and a skeptic with all the hype this past year or so about “The Secret.” My “fan” perspective is a feeling one. I feel the fundamental truth of the Law of Attraction and power of positive thinking is ...
Views: 786 - Choices, Choices, Choices - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2007 from William CottringerCHOICES, CHOICES, CHOICES By Bill Cottringer Probably the one thing we think about and do more than anything else in life is making choices. Many times we even have to choose to make a choice or not. We generally make choices from either our heads or our hearts, but usually somewhere in ...
Views: 785 - A Mother of a Problem For Reality Repair - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2008 from William CottringerA Mother of a Problem For Reality Repair By Bill Cottringer A central challenge in life is for us to learn how to become experts at reality repair. We frequently find ourselves as part of undesirable realities we need to fix or create new and better replacement ones we think we want. ...
Views: 782 - The Terrible Twins Within - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2007 from William CottringerTHE TERRIBLE TWINS WITHIN (ANY RELATIONSHIP) By William Cottringer, Ph.D. There are two terrible twins that can rear their ugly head in any relationship and take it South in a New York second, if not managed properly. The two terrible twins within are expectations and control. Although ...
Views: 782 - Understanding The Violence of Rape - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2008 from William CottringerUnderstanding The Violence of Rape By Bill Cottringer “Liberty without love is destruction; love without liberty is despair.” ~Thomas Troward. Earlier in my career as a prison administrator, when I was just beginning my learning curve on understanding the hard core problems of life in ...
Views: 781 - The Trouble with Beliefs - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2020 from William CottringerThe Trouble with Beliefs By Bill Cottringer “Man is what he believes. ~ Anton Chekhov. The main trouble with beliefs is that people take them, along with themselves and the certainty of their beliefs being true, too seriously. The other half of that problem is that it is a belief ...
Views: 773 - An Idea Who's Time Has Come - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2007 from William CottringerAN IDEA WHO’S TIME HAS COME By Bill Cottringer Thanks to the relatively recent science of neuromarketing, brain research has begun to identify the central role of the reptilian part of the human brain (old brain)—below the thinking and emotional semi-conscious mental activities we ...
Views: 770 - Becoming Your Best Self - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2020 from William CottringerBECOMING YOUR BEST SELF by Bill Cottringer “Knowing others is intelligence. Knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true strength.” ~Lao Tzu. An earlier Psychologist, Abraham Maslow, proposed a hierarchy of needs that all people had a ...
Views: 763 - Soulful Satisfaction - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2007 from William CottringerSOULFUL SATISFACTION By Bill Cottringer “It is not the things in life that bother us but rather our opinions about these things.” ~ Epictetus Without a doubt, the above quote is my all time favorite, because day by day it keeps growing in meaning and value in my own life and adding ...
Views: 759 - Looking for Greener Pastures - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2021 from William CottringerLooking for Greener Pastures By Bill Cottringer “The grass on the other side of the fence isn’t always greener. Sometimes it is just a different shade of brown and other times it comes with unwanted weeds and underground pests. ~The Author. Having played fierce musical chairs for ...
Views: 745 - Our Common Denominator - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2019 from William CottringerOur Common Denominator By Bill Cottringer “Men go to far greater lengths to avoid what they fear than to obtain what they desire.” ~Dan Brown, The Da Vinci Code. One of the more important common denominators people have is: (a) being unique and different on the one hand with personal ...
Views: 735 - Having Enough Hope in Motion for Success - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2019 from William CottringerHaving Enough Hope in Motion for Success By Bill Cottringer “You may not always have a comfortable life and you will not always be able to solve all of the world's problems at once but don't ever underestimate the importance you can have because history has shown us that courage can be ...
Views: 733 - Reality Repair: Mostly Mind Over Matter? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2008 from William Cottringer“Reality is hard to see, harder to talk about and hardest to agree upon.” ~The author. It has taken me awhile, but I think I have finally figured out something very important. We all spend a great deal of time trying to repair broken realities we don’t like and trying to create new and ...
Views: 719 - The Central Conflict That Spills Over Into Everything Else - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2008 from William CottringerThe Central Conflict That Spills Over Into Everything Else By Bill Cottringer After decades of studying and experiencing personal conflicts in a variety of work and domestic relationships, there is one that is more bothersome and difficult to talk about than any other. The strong ...
Views: 709 - Good Sense About Getting Along with Others During Troubled Times - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2020 from William CottringerGood Sense About Getting Along with Others During Troubled Times by Bill Cottringer “The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.” ~Theodore Roosevelt. Despite the physical 6-foot rule of social distancing keeping us apart, ...
Views: 705 - The Trouble With Self-Help - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2008 from William Cottringer“If you want to know where you are going, stop; look at where your feet are pointing and look behind you to see where the footprints are that got you here.” ~The Author. I have been a part of the positive psychology, human potential and self-help movements since the late sixties. At this ...
Views: 697 - Developing a Winning Success Style - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2020 from William CottringerDeveloping a Winning Success Style by Bill Cottringer “When you win, say nothing. When you lose, say less.” ~ Paul Brown. A person can generally be a winner with a big dream, solid game plan on translating the dream into reality, a good character with which to do that, a lot of hard ...
Views: 693 - The Three Main Highways to Success - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2020 from William CottringerThe Three Main Highways to Success By Bill Cottringer “Knowing how to succeed is the easy part. The hard part is in translating your desire into hard work and maintaining perseverance through inevitable setbacks.” ~ The Author. If you do a Google search on “success” there are ...
Views: 687 - We Are Alike & We Are Different - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2021 from William CottringerWe Are Alike & We Are Different By Bill Cottringer “It is a darn shame that we spend so much time arguing and being annoyed with our differences, and not enough time understanding and celebrating them.” ~The Author. An important insight to apply for success is knowing the ...
Views: 676 - Taming Our Terrible Twin Within - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2019 from William CottringerTaming Our Terrible Twin Within By Bill Cottringer “I have noticed that even people who claim that everything is predetermined and that we can do nothing to change it, look before they cross the road.” ~Stephen Hawking. We are all on a mission to become our best selves and to help ...
Views: 673 - Small Thinking Can’t Solve Big Problems - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2021 from William CottringerSmall Thinking Can’t Solve Big Problems By Bill Cottringer “Logical, intellectual thinking can prove or disprove relative beliefs and at best most of these turn out to be half-truths which are not worth clinging to. But only whole-brained rational and spiritual intelligence combined can ...
Views: 668 - Reality Repair Rx 4 Normal Folks - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2007 from William CottringerA big challenge in life is to fix the broken realities you don’t like and to create newer and better ones you want. Unfortunately this is much easier thought about in our heads than done with our hands. Most of us are still stuck trying to deal with undesirable realities that are getting in the ...
Views: 665 - Psychology for Dummies (Like Me & You) - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2021 from William CottringerPsychology for Dummies (Like Me & You) By Bill Cottringer “Common sense is the simple knack of seeing things the way they are and doing things the way they need to be done.” ~ Mark Twain. 1. Most of what we think we know really isn’t so, whether we like that reality or not because it ...
Views: 658 - Accidental vs. Intentional Careers - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2020 from William CottringerAccidental vs. Intentional Careers By Bill Cottringer “Our strongest gifts are usually those we are barely aware of possessing. They are a part of our God-given nature, with us from the moment we drew first breath, and we are no more conscious of having them than we are of breathing.” ...
Views: 654 - Job-Getting Reminder Tips - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2021 from William CottringerJob-Getting Reminder Tips By Bill Cottringer Although the post-pandemic job market is starting to lean toward favoring employees over employers, it is still a difficult challenge to find the right job today. Success requires some serious preparatory work in the following three areas, ...
Views: 651 - The Three Core Conflcits - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2021 from William CottringerThe Three Core Conflicts by Bill Cottringer “Unresolved conflicts usually return as noisier versions with more intensity, vengeance and difficulty.” ~The author. There are three core conflicts for humans: (1) Us vs. life (2) Us vs. others, and (3) Us vs. ourselves. We all ...
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