Undoing The Things In The Way Of Successful Reality Repair Rx
Bill Cottringer

“What we call reality is an agreement that people have arrived at to make life more livable.” ~Louise Nevelson.

What life is all about is successful reality repair—fixing the realities we don’t like and creating new and better ones we want. This idea appears to be a no-brainer and seemingly easy to take from our minds to our hands. But implementing any positive actions involves more than just doing it or everyone would be doing it and not reading about it. But we all know that isn’t true. Why isn’t it true?

Probably the most popular and widely supported Reality Repair Rx tool today is the mega-marketed “The Secret” video and book package. But here again, no one can really disagree as to the truth of the ancient Law of Attraction, but getting it to work its magic for you is much easier said than done. This is because there are very real obstacles in between the current realities you are already part of and the different ways you want those realities to happen, or even wanting total replacement realities.

All The Secret experts devoted years to understanding the most important governing principles that run the universe and then spent more time and effort actually removing the obstacles in the way of successfully applying these discoveries in their own life and others’ to make things better. Obviously the success they achieved with own reality repair efforts showed itself through the huge success of The Secret itself, revealed on all the top talk show programs.

Here are some of the most common obstacles that make successful reality repair harder to do than say. These are the realities in the way of the ones you want or don’t want, that need fixing most. And, as Stephen Covey says, “First things first.”

1. We tend to over-focus on the irrelevant and less important things and under-focus on doing what matters most. We often get lost in the details of the realities we are trying to fix or create and forget about the really important things like our fundamental purpose, what wrong perceptions of the situation are getting in the way, or what is the best perspective to have to see things more clearly and completely.

2. We are often more concerned about appearances of how things look rather than the solid realities we are trying to fix or create. The trouble here is the reality that we have all experienced when you are certain that the appearance you are trying to communicate, communicates something else defeating our cause.

3. Nothing but very intense positive passion in thoughts, feelings and actions has the power to move mountains. This level of energy is very uncommon and quite difficult to muster up. This is because we all have the very natural tendency to have doubts about positive outcomes, especially dealing with complicated realities, all the parts of which aren’t necessarily under our control. The inevitable doubts are reinforced even by subtle negative thinking, which is probably the last thing we can get rid of in our perpetual growth and improvement process. The power of negativity is a mighty force to overcome because it is half our dualistic thinking.

4. Very few of us have the patience that is required to gain the full understanding of all the inter-connectedness of things to the degree that is necessary for effective reality repair that sticks. And here again, we are stuck with the bad habit of over-focusing on the unimportant nonsense and missing all the important sensible truths we need to see and apply in our reality repair efforts, for us to be as successful as we could be.

5. It is so easy to not stay focused on the most important priorities today. How many people consistently live their lives centered on their most important values? Why not? Why is it so easy to give into a firefighting approach to reality repair? Because life is so hectic today, we are all on overload and change is happening too quickly to keep up. That makes for a lot of priorities getting lost in the blur and dust. Becoming the dog again that wags his own tail instead of vice versa is a transformation that has usually gone past the point of no return before it can be recognized. The road back home is always the longest and most difficult.

6. The lion’s share of reality repair involves change. And change from the familiar to the unfamiliar is not something the majority of us rush into blindly or with open arms. Change readiness happens with heart softening and then requires disproving all the mental roadblocks that we are inclined to hang onto way past their utility, despite compelling proof to the contrary.

7. Sometimes a particular reality is closer to being what we want than we can see and so sometimes it is a good idea to look past what you are seeing. The times I have paused in resisting my own ADHD, I have seen clearly that I am usually three-quarters to where I was going before I knew my destination. Somehow I don’t think I am alone in needing to fine tune my perceptions of reality to get the most complete and correct picture.

So in the meantime, if you want to improve the quality of realities you aren’t enjoying enough or get rid of the ones you can’t stand, then it is time to soften your heart so you can do the rational thing that needs doing—look for the most important obstacles present in your own approach to fixing these unwanted realities from the above list, and work on them one by one! And when you pause to do a reality check, you will probably appreciate all the progress you have been making all along.

Author's Bio: 

William Cottringer, Ph.D. is President of Puget Sound Security in Bellevue, WA and also a business and personal success coach, sport psychologist, photographer and writer living in the mountains of North Bend. He is author of several business and self-development books, including, You Can Have Your Cheese & Eat It Too, The Bow-Wow Secrets, Do What Matters Most, “P” Point Management, and Reality Repair coming shortly. He can be contacted with comments or questions at 425 454-5011 or bcottringer@pssp.net