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- The Four Stages Of Organizational Development - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2007 from William CottringerTHE FOUR STAGES OF ORGANIZATIONAL DEVELOPMENT by William Cottringer The human potential movement of the early seventies employed a helpful frame of reference to understand the process of interpersonal group development. This model involves four distinct stages of development: ...
Views: 19088(8 votes) - Wrong Perceptions Can Be Lethal - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2007 from William CottringerWRONG PERCEPTIONS CAN BE LETHAL By Bill Cottringer “You are only as wise as others perceive you to be” ~M. Shawn Cole It would be amusing if it weren’t for the destructiveness that wrong perceptions of people and situations can cause. What is amusing is that we are convinced of the truth ...
Views: 13504 - THE 3 C’S OF A GOOD RELATIONSHIP - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2008 from William CottringerTHE 3 C’S OF A GOOD RELATIONSHIP By Bill Cottringer We are probably all getting far too overloaded with how-to advice on being successful at things like relationships; and the last thing I want to do is contribute more to the overload. I just want to clarify a few important things I have ...
Views: 12184 - Being Happy Without Money - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2007 from William CottringerBEING HAPPY WITHOUT MONEY By Bill Cottringer “If you can’t be happy poor you can’t be happy rich.” ~ The Author. Are we all really capable of achieving great financial wealth like The Secret proponents and all the wealth books and wealth gurus profess? Are we all meant to have wealth? ...
Views: 11348 - Why Do Bullies Bully? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2008 from William CottringerWhy Do Bullies Bully? by Bill Cottringer “Courage is fire, and bullying is smoke.” ~Benjamin Disraeli. I am beginning to think that a very widespread problem today, especially with youth, is the problem of perceiving you are being bullied (by life, parents, teachers, peers, employers, ...
Views: 10651(1 vote) - BEING A GOOD EMPLOYEE - by Submitted on May 16, 2009 from William CottringerBEING A GOOD EMPLOYEE By Bill Cottringer A big part of being happy and successful, involves your approach to work. These simple requirements are a prescription for the right approach to work in being a good employee If you practice these simple suggestions you are likely to get recognized ...
Views: 9791 - HOW TO BE DEMOTED GRACEFULLY WHEN YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2008 from William CottringerHOW TO BE DEMOTED GRACEFULLY WHEN YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON By Bill Cottringer One of the realities of today’s economic downturn is a hard one to swallow, at least with any honorable degree of courage, humility and gracefulness. This is the reality that you can still be a good person, and an ...
Views: 8818(2 votes) - Putting the Common Back in Common Sense Again - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2007 from William CottringerPUTTING THE COMMON BACK IN COMMON SENSE AGAIN by Bill Cottringer Why do some people succeed and some fail in life? Why do we all sometimes fail and sometimes succeed? Can we do anything to improve our chances of success? In studying success and failure for over 40 years, I have ...
Views: 8371 - Success In The Tit For Tat Relationship Game - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2009 from William CottringerSuccess In The Tit For Tat Relationship Game By Bill Cottringer Success in relationships is based on accurate information used in the basic cooperation vs. antagonism tit for tat game we all play. The tit for tat game typically goes like this. If I choose to do this then I expect you to do ...
Views: 6729 - Dealing With A Controlling Toxic Bully - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2007 from William CottringerDEALING WITH A CONTROLLING, TOXIC BULLY By Bill Cottringer It is easy to get trapped into feeling negative about being mistreated by a controlling, toxic bully and worse over not feeling you can do anything about it. It is frustrating, humiliating and maddening. And you can get even ...
Views: 6571 - BEING OKAY WITH BEING AVERAGE - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2009 from William CottringerBEING OKAY WITH BEING AVERAGE By Bill Cottringer “Ain’t no man can avoid being born average, but there ain’t no man got to be common. ~Satchel Page. In reality, the great majority of people fall within the “average” range of the so-called Bell Curve. Most people are average in ...
Views: 6274(6 votes) - 21 EASY WAYS TO HAVE MORE PEACE OF MIND, HEART & SOUL - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2009 from William Cottringer21 EASY WAYS TO HAVE MORE PEACE OF MIND, HEART & SOUL By Bill Cottringer A worthy growth goal and improvement strategy, which builds a valuable sense of general wellness that leads to more success, is to carry out an action plan to give your mind, heart and soul more peace. Hear are 21 ...
Views: 5535 - Becoming Single-Minded - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2007 from William CottringerBECOMING SINGLE-MINDED By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Self-consciousness creates the illusion that there is a separate self from the rest of reality. That would be the funniest mistake in the world if so many people weren’t so convinced that the illusion is really true.” ~ The author. ...
Views: 5151 - SHOULD YOU LISTEN TO YOUR HEAD OR HEART? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from William Cottringer“There is no squabbling so violent as that between people who accepted an idea yesterday and those who will accept the same idea tomorrow.” ~Christopher Morley. This article title is not a rhetorical question at all. In fact it might be one of the most important questions to ask and answer ...
Views: 5118(4 votes) - Ten Things to Stop Beating Yourself Up Over - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2009 from William Cottringer“He who doesn't accept the conditions of life sells his soul.” ~Charles Baudelaire. There are ten no-cause things I have found some people needlessly beat themselves up over. It just makes more sense to accept reality as it is with these particular things and move on to greener pastures worth ...
Views: 4964(3 votes) - Every Choice Has Its Price - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from William Cottringer“There are always two choices, two paths to take. One is easy and its only reward is that it’s easy.” ~Anonymous chooser. It seems like a lifetime ago that I wrote the book “You Can Have Your Cheese & Eat It Too, with all the clever ways to crack the ancient paradox of you can’t have ...
Views: 4787(3 votes) - Mental Demons - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2007 from William CottringerMENTAL DEMONS By Bill Cottringer We humans have been given something that can be seen as a gift or a curse—the ability or the affliction of self consciousness. This is our unique characteristic that separates us from the rest of the things in our world. What are these mental demons ...
Views: 4784 - Some Things Can’t Be Understood - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2009 from William Cottringer“I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.” ~Robert McCloskey. You can’t understand some things, You may think you can, But you really can’t, Especially the why questions, Other people’s ...
Views: 4740(1 vote) - Head And Heart Battle - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2008 from William Cottringer“He has the right to criticize who has the heart to help.” ~Abraham Lincoln. For as long as I can remember, there has always been a raging war inside me between the terrible twins within—head vs. heart. That is wrong and this is right. This will work out for the best and that won’t. I can ...
Views: 4583 - What Causes Unhappiness? (And Why This Question is Important) - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2009 from William CottringerWhat Causes Unhappiness? (And Why This Question is Important) By Bill Cottringer “An unanswerable question: Are good vs. bad and fair vs. unfair dualistic, subjective judgments a human invention just to know one from the other, or do things actually have an innate positive vs. negative flavor ...
Views: 4153 - Too Much Familiarity Can Breed Contempt - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2016 from William CottringerToo Much Familiarity Can Breed Contempt By Bill Cottringer “Familiarity breeds contempt, for others at first, but then inwardly, contempt towards ourselves.” ~Oli Anderson, Synchronesia: A Depressing Existential Novel. Most relationship experts agree that contempt can creep into a ...
Views: 4089 - How Do You Get Rid Of Negative Thoughts? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2007 from William CottringerHow Do You Get Rid of Negative Thoughts? By Bill Cottringer “All negativity is an illusion created by the limited mind to protect and defend itself.” ~Ambika Wauters By now the power of “The Secret” is commonplace knowledge. Since you attract what you ask for, the real secret is ...
Views: 4052(2 votes) - The Four Cornerstones Of A Happy Marriage - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2007 from William CottringerTHE FOUR CORNERSTONES OF A HAPPY MARRIAGE By Bill Cottringer There are very good reasons why marriage failure is such a widespread epidemic. The four cornerstones of a happy marriage represent life’s toughest tests; and they are not lessons most people are skilled at learning right off ...
Views: 4005 - The Ten Most Common Causes of Unhappiness and Their Common Sense Cures - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from William Cottringer“O Lord! Unhappy is the man whom man can make unhappy.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson. I have dealt with a lot of unhappy people during my 45-year career and I have been unhappy enough myself during my own roller-coaster ride in life to have experienced the top ten reasons causing unhappiness and ...
Views: 3984(1 vote) - What You Don't Know Can Hurt You Most. - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from William CottringerWhat You Don't Know Can Hurt You Most. by Bill Cottringer “There is no shame in not knowing; the shame lies in not finding out.” ~ Russian Proverb. What you don't know about a situation is what usually results in not feeling good about things, especially about the gap between where ...
Views: 3775(6 votes) - The Only Relationship Article You Will Ever Have To Read (Really) - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2010 from William CottringerThe Only Relationship Article You Will Ever Have To Read (Really) By Bill Cottringer “Good relationships are when your head, heart and hands agree most of the time and besides it doesn’t matter quite that much.” ~The author. Centuries of research would agree that relationships fail ...
Views: 3722(3 votes) - Finding Your Way Out of the Swamp When you Are Shoulder-Deep in Alligators - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2009 from William CottringerFinding Your Way Out of the Swamp When you Are Shoulder-Deep in Alligators By Bill Cottringer “No problem can stand the assault of sustained thinking.” ~Voltaire. Scene. Picture this: A Cold, foggy, and damp early morning when you find yourself under-dressed and shoulder-deep in a ...
Views: 3511(3 votes) - How To Avoid Out-Aging Yourself Out Of A Job - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2013 from William CottringerHow To Avoid Out-Aging Yourself Out Of A Job By Bill Cottringer “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.” ~ Mark Twain. The workforce in America is becoming more skewed at both ends of the age spectrum—the younger and the older workers. Older ...
Views: 3380(1 vote) - STAYING AHEAD OF THE PAPERWORK OVERLOAD - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2009 from William CottringerSTAYING AHEAD OF THE PAPERWORK OVERLOAD By Bill Cottringer “Keeping up with the information overload is like trying to sip water from a fire hose.” ~ Anonymous. So you think you are overloaded with paperwork at your job? My very first professional job was a counselor at a ...
Views: 3185(3 votes) - How To Not Be Controlled By Fear, Failure, Turmoil & Unhappiness - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2010 from William CottringerHow To Not Be Controlled By Fear, Failure, Turmoil & Unhappiness By Bill Cottringer “A life of all positives would be very negative and probably very boring.” ~The author. A true but unpopular reality is that you really can’t live a life free of fear, failure, turmoil and ...
Views: 3171(2 votes) - The Tricks Of Positive Thinking - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2007 from William CottringerTHE TRICKS OF POSITIVE THINKING By Bill Cottringer “A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” ~Winston Churchill. Gee, we have all heard enough about the power of positive thinking, right? You only get about 4 ...
Views: 3166 - Winning Principles - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2007 from William CottringerWINNING PRINCIPLES By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Winning and success are what you get from doing what you do to get them.” ~The Author. I have been an avid student of the psychology of winning/success for four decades now—learning all the knowledge and skills that bring about ...
Views: 3149 - Divorce Survival Kit - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2007 from William CottringerDIVORCE SURVIVAL KIT By William Cottringer, Ph.D. A pending divorce can be a scary and devastating experience for a married couple. For every divorcing person, the future is nothing but uncertainty, anxiety and confusion. Such an emotional state is not good for focusing on priorities or ...
Views: 3086 - Principles of Successful Conflict Resolution - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2007 from William CottringerTruth = The absolute way things could be in a perfect world, where we are trying to go. Reality = The relative way things are in the real world, where we are at now. Conflicts occur when people have differing opinions as to the causes of and solutions to particular truths and ...
Views: 3055 - BREAKING THE NEAR-IMPOSSIBLE CYCLE OF ADDICTION - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2009 from William CottringerBREAKING THE NEAR-IMPOSSIBLE CYCLE OF ADDICTION by Bill Cottringer “In the course of history many more people have died for their drink and their dope than have died for their religion or their country.” ~Aldous Huxley. A drop dead handsome, smart young man gets a good education and ...
Views: 2991 - Communication Is As Smooth As Glue - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2010 from William Cottringer"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~Dr. Seuss. Just like glue appearing to be very smooth until you touch it, communication can seem to be that way too, at least until you actually try to undue miscommunication ...
Views: 2971(10 votes) - Seven Things Relationship Counselors Usually Won't Tell You - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2007 from William CottringerSEVEN THINGS RELATIONSHIP COUNSELORS USUALLY WON’T TELL YOU By Bill Cottringer Now I realize that this article is going to rile a few people in the relationship counseling profession, but I will at least try to speak the truth gently and kindly. I have been there, done that and paid my ...
Views: 2955 - The Plus Side of ADHD - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2007 from William CottringerTHE PLUS SIDE OF ADHD By Bill Cottringer I have studied ADHD for nearly 60 years now and am ready to share the results of one very in-depth, classic case study—myself. As a child I would have gotten double “X’s” on every symptom checklist available. I ran and climbed constantly ...
Views: 2862 - 30 Questions To Help You Find Your Best Self - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2012 from William Cottringer30 Questions To Help You Find Your Best Self By Bill Cottringer "You were not born a winner, and you were not born a loser. You are what you make yourself be." ~ Lou Holtz. The self-growth movement is all about people finding ways to help themselves and each other become their ...
Views: 2816 - Heroes, Villains, Victims & Bystanders - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2007 from William CottringerHEROES, VILLAINS, VICTIMS & BYSTANDERS by William Cottringer In the game of life there are four main roles we can choose to play. These roles are Hero, Villain, Victim or Bystander. Which of these roles are you playing? HERO Heroes dream big, translate their dreams into ...
Views: 2782(1 vote) - Building Common Sense - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2010 from William Cottringer“Success is what you get from using common sense; failure is what you get from using everything else.” ~The author. Success is built on a firm foundation of good old common sense (which unfortunately isn’t so common these days); failure follows the crumbling of a weak foundation built on ...
Views: 2752(2 votes) - FROM KNOWING TO DOING - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2012 from William CottringerFROM KNOWING TO DOING By Bill Cottringer “What the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” ~Napoleon Hill. But will I actually do it—go from knowing to doing—is the dangling question after Napoleon Hill’s quote above. Great self-development and self-help sources of ...
Views: 2739(1 vote) - WHY PARENTING TODAY IS SO DIFFICULT - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2013 from William CottringerWHY PARENTING TODAY IS SO DIFFICULT By Bill Cottringer Why is parenting today so difficult (besides being so expensive and all of us being so busy doing other things)? The answer to this question involves the main parenting role—teaching our children the basic skills that are necessary to ...
Views: 2717(1 vote) - WHAT REALLY HAPPENED IN THE GARDEN OF EDEN? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2008 from William CottringerWHAT REALLY HAPPENED IN THE GARDEN OF EDEN? By Bill Cottringer “Adam and Eve are like an imaginary number, like the square root of minus one... If you include it in your equation, you can calculate all manners of things, which cannot be imagined without it.” ~Philip Pullman. I have been ...
Views: 2648 - Do You Know Who You Really Are? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2012 from William CottringerDo You Know Who You Really Are? “Most of the things you think you know may not be so.” ~The author. From the beginning days of Philosophy and Psychology to the billions of sources of information we have today trying to answer this question, it may be time to pause and reflect upon the ...
Views: 2589(1 vote) - Five Pillars of Happiness - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2013 from William CottringerFIVE PILLARS OF HAPPINESS by Bill Cottringer “Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.” ~Dalai Lama. Happiness is the end game goal of living. Whatever it is you are doing, it is to secure happiness. In a paradoxical way, how you define happiness ...
Views: 2549(1 vote) - Growing Old Gracefully - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2011 from William CottringerGrowing Old Gracefully By Bill Cottringer “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.” ~Mark Twain. It has been said before that “growing old isn’t for sissies.” The truth be known, growing old doesn’t always have to be a losing struggle against, ...
Views: 2505(1 vote) - From Falling In Love, To Being In Love, To Loving - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2007 from William CottringerFrom Falling in Love, to Being in Love, to Loving By Bill Cottringer Over four decades of trial and error in relationships have taught me a valuable lesson. This lesson is to slow down and learn to listen to the lesson. The main purpose of a relationship is to get you to do something to ...
Views: 2497 - PUTTING THE POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY MOVEMENT IN PROPER PERSPECTIVE - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2009 from William CottringerPUTTING THE POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY MOVEMENT IN PROPER PERSPECTIVE “Happiness is not a goal, but rather it’s a byproduct.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt. This quote by Eleanor Roosevelt puts a lot of things in proper perspective, especially the popular movements for change driven by the mass media ...
Views: 2476(4 votes) - When Ability, Intelligence, Effort, Creativity, Perseverance & Luck Aren’t Enough - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2011 from William CottringerWhen Ability, Intelligence, Effort, Creativity, Perseverance & Luck Aren’t Enough By Bill Cottringer “Man may have been made in God’s image, but he has been trying to return the favor ever since.” ~Unknown humorous lay philosopher. Now what? When the above sure-cure success ...
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