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- A Better Relationship in a Week - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2010 from William CottringerA Better Relationship in a Week By Bill Cottringer No matter how good or bad your present relationship is it can always be better with minimal planning, effort, and cost. And in this economy that is a pretty good deal! Here is a very practical and easy way to have a better ...
Views: 1968(1 vote) - Do We Have a Common Purpose Here? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2010 from William CottringerDo We Have a Common Purpose Here? By Bill Cottringer “Life is a promise; fulfill it.”~ Mother Theresa. I have been thinking about this question for a long time now during my life’s educational classes—my journey through formal schooling, interacting with a wide variety of people, ...
Views: 1774(2 votes) - How To Avoid Out-Aging Yourself Out Of A Job - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2013 from William CottringerHow To Avoid Out-Aging Yourself Out Of A Job By Bill Cottringer “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.” ~ Mark Twain. The workforce in America is becoming more skewed at both ends of the age spectrum—the younger and the older workers. Older ...
Views: 3380(1 vote) - How to keep a Job in Tough Times - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from William CottringerHow to keep a Job in Tough Times By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “The quickest way to appreciate your job is to imagine yourself without one.” ~Oscar Wilde. In tough economic times, it is not a good thing to be unemployed. And if you are lucky enough to have a job, you don’t want ...
Views: 2072(2 votes) - Little Laws 4 BIG SUCCESS - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2013 from William CottringerLittle Laws 4 BIG SUCCESS By Bill Cottringer “We don't see things as they are; we see things as we are.” ~Anais Nin. A long time ago an MIT Math professor friend introduced me to a very intriguing engineering term called perturbation point. These are the few key stress points in a ...
Views: 1791(1 vote) - Make Your Point! - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2011 from William CottringerMake Your Point! By Bill Cottringer “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~George Bernard Shaw. Consider the beginning of communication: We first invented words to stand for objects we couldn’t carry around on our shoulders to show ...
Views: 2305(2 votes) - Managing Life’s Five Great Illusions for Better Sports and Law Enforcement Performance. - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2016 from William CottringerManaging Life’s Five Great Illusions for Better Sports and Law Enforcement Performance. By Bill Cottringer As I have already mentioned in a previous article, performance in sports and law enforcement have a lot in common. For one thing, both require a healthy mixture of individuality ...
Views: 1186(1 vote) - Managing Success for a Better Destiny - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2021 from William CottringerManaging Success for a Better Destiny by Bill Cottringer “It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” ~Tony Robbins. May needless failures start with the illusion of being able to control even the uncontrollable things, and end with the frustration and ...
Views: 479(1 vote) - Some Uncommon Sense Needed today - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2019 from William CottringerSome Uncommon Sense Needed today By Bill Cottringer “You can see a lot by observing and hear a lot by listening.” ~Yogi Berra Originally back in the day, common sense was the useful knowledge, skills and abilities (KSA’s) people needed to use to survive the challenges of living day ...
Views: 961(1 vote) - The Best Way To Love - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2011 from William CottringerThe Best Way To Love By Bill Cottringer “Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.” The ...
Views: 1631(1 vote) - The Common Misalignment Problem in Organizations - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2012 from William CottringerThe Common Misalignment Problem in Organizations By Bill Cottringer “Leadership and learning are indispensable to each other.” ~John F. Kennedy. Every “group” goes through a similar progression of four stages in its development and maturity: • Stage One: Members start out interacting ...
Views: 1744(1 vote) - The Difficulties Of Selecting The Best Of The Bunch - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2010 from William CottringerThe Difficulties Of Selecting The Best Of The Bunch By Bill Cottringer “Never make predictions, especially about the future.” ~Casey Stengel. I won’t argue with Mr. Stengel’s wisdom when it comes to baseball; but in business, employers have way too much to lose without at least ...
Views: 1564(1 vote) - The Problem That All Religion, Psychology and Spirituality Are Trying To Solve - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2010 from William CottringerThe Problem That All Religion, Psychology and Spirituality Are Trying To Solve By Bill Cottringer “Should we all confess our sins to one another we would all laugh at one another for our lack of originality.” ~Kahlil Gabran. There is a very large “elephant metaphor” in life’s ...
Views: 1431(1 vote) - THE REAL ENTRY POINT TO WHOLE-GRAIN HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS - by Submitted on May 05, 2009 from William CottringerTHE REAL ENTRY POINT TO WHOLE-GRAIN HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS By Bill Cottringer “For those who believe, no proof is necessary. For those who don't believe, no proof is possible.” ~Stuart Chase. Several years ago my youngest daughter Abby was given an unusual final exam in her high school ...
Views: 1015(1 vote) - The True Master Of The Clock & Calendar Has Neither! - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2011 from William CottringerThe True Master Of The Clock & Calendar Has Neither! By Bill Cottringer “Time is our most important resource which is equally distributed to all, but unequally used by most.” ~The author. Wasted Time— Some on past memories, More on future hopes, Most on not being here, Now and in ...
Views: 1330(1 vote) - The World’s Worst War: The Bullies vs. The Bullied - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from William CottringerThe World’s Worst War: The Bullies vs. The Bullied by Bill Cottringer “Courage is fire, and bullying is smoke.” `Benjamin Disraeli. The Problem: Today we are witnessing a major showdown between two failure extremes—the strong vs. the weak, or more in today’s terms, the bullies ...
Views: 2084(1 vote) - Whole-Brained Thinking - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2021 from William CottringerWhole-Brained Thinking © 2021 William Cottringer “A wise person uses intelligence to find reasons to support intuition.” ~The author. Navigating the tricky minefields of adversity and solving the ornery problems and conflicts facing us in life today, requires whole-brained thinking ...
Views: 621(1 vote) - Slowing Down to Understand the Real Purpose of Life - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2012 from William CottringerSlowing Down to Understand the Real Purpose of Life By Bill Cottringer “The purpose of life is not to be happy, successful and have peace of mind; but rather to learn how to be happy doing the few things that will result in a sense of progress at having greater happiness, success and peace ...
Views: 1875(2 votes) - Why Some Religions Are Dying While Others Are Thriving - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2010 from William CottringerWhy Some Religions Are Dying While Others Are Thriving By Bill Cottringer “Religion is to do right. It is to love, it is to serve, it is to think, it is to be humble.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson. If you want to know a real secret worth knowing about success, look at the religions today ...
Views: 2172(2 votes) - Do You Know Who You Really Are? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2012 from William CottringerDo You Know Who You Really Are? “Most of the things you think you know may not be so.” ~The author. From the beginning days of Philosophy and Psychology to the billions of sources of information we have today trying to answer this question, it may be time to pause and reflect upon the ...
Views: 2589(1 vote) - Five Pillars of Happiness - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2013 from William CottringerFIVE PILLARS OF HAPPINESS by Bill Cottringer “Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.” ~Dalai Lama. Happiness is the end game goal of living. Whatever it is you are doing, it is to secure happiness. In a paradoxical way, how you define happiness ...
Views: 2549(1 vote) - Going From The “What To Do” To “How To Do It” Level Of Self Growth - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2010 from William CottringerGoing From The “What To Do” To “How To Do It” Level Of Self Growth By Bill Cottringer “Patience is waiting. Not passively waiting. That is laziness. But to keep going when the going is hard and slow - that is patience.” ~anonymous. The common purpose of life for us all seems to be ...
Views: 1532(2 votes) - Growing Old Gracefully - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2011 from William CottringerGrowing Old Gracefully By Bill Cottringer “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.” ~Mark Twain. It has been said before that “growing old isn’t for sissies.” The truth be known, growing old doesn’t always have to be a losing struggle against, ...
Views: 2505(1 vote) - Heroes, Villains, Victims & Bystanders - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2007 from William CottringerHEROES, VILLAINS, VICTIMS & BYSTANDERS by William Cottringer In the game of life there are four main roles we can choose to play. These roles are Hero, Villain, Victim or Bystander. Which of these roles are you playing? HERO Heroes dream big, translate their dreams into ...
Views: 2782(1 vote) - How Do You Get Rid Of Negative Thoughts? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2007 from William CottringerHow Do You Get Rid of Negative Thoughts? By Bill Cottringer “All negativity is an illusion created by the limited mind to protect and defend itself.” ~Ambika Wauters By now the power of “The Secret” is commonplace knowledge. Since you attract what you ask for, the real secret is ...
Views: 4052(2 votes) - How To Not Be Controlled By Fear, Failure, Turmoil & Unhappiness - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2010 from William CottringerHow To Not Be Controlled By Fear, Failure, Turmoil & Unhappiness By Bill Cottringer “A life of all positives would be very negative and probably very boring.” ~The author. A true but unpopular reality is that you really can’t live a life free of fear, failure, turmoil and ...
Views: 3171(2 votes) - Live, Love & Laugh - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2010 from William CottringerLive, Love & Laugh By Bill Cottringer “When done correctly by individuals, living, loving and laughing greatly improve the quality of life for humanity.” ~The author. The more you do these three things, the more successful and happier you and others will be. But first you have to ...
Views: 2327(4 votes) - Maintaining More Ups Than Downs - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2016 from William CottringerMaintaining More Ups Than Downs By Bill Cottringer “Let it rain on some days, let yourself shiver on some cold nights, so when it's Spring you'll know why it was all worth going through.” ~Sanhita Baruah. We all have different score-keeping methods about memories of past ups ...
Views: 1445(1 vote) - The Best Way To Thrive Is To help Others Survive - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from William CottringerThe Best Way To Thrive Is To help Others Survive By Bill Cottringer “We do not live to think, but, on the contrary, we think in order that we may succeed in surviving.” ~Jose Ortega y Gasset. The best way to thrive is to help others survive…but first you have to master surviving ...
Views: 2043(1 vote) - THREE GOOD RELATIONSHIPS TO HAVE - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2014 from William CottringerTHREE GOOD RELATIONSHIPS TO HAVE By Bill Cottringer “We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to really look after it ...
Views: 1259(1 vote) - SUCCESSFUL SUPERVISION: SEVEN SURE SOLUTIONS - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2011 from William CottringerSUCCESSFUL SUPERVISION: SEVEN SURE SOLUTIONS By Bill Cottringer “You cannot teach a man anything. You can only help him discover it within himself.” ~Galileo Galilei. There is no shortage of information about being a successful supervisor. But, that is a problem in itself—there is ...
Views: 2101(9 votes) - TEN SURE WAYS TO SUCCEED IN THE WORKPLACE - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2011 from William CottringerTEN SURE WAYS TO SUCCEED IN THE WORKPLACE By Bill Cottringer “The best way to appreciate your job is to imagine yourself without one.” ~Oscar Wilde. It doesn’t matter whether you are engaged in your dream career or just working at a job; not trying your best to succeed at the ...
Views: 2322(7 votes) - Building Common Sense - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2010 from William Cottringer“Success is what you get from using common sense; failure is what you get from using everything else.” ~The author. Success is built on a firm foundation of good old common sense (which unfortunately isn’t so common these days); failure follows the crumbling of a weak foundation built on ...
Views: 2752(2 votes) - REALITY REPAIR: TIME, SWEAT, TEARS & NO PROMISES OF SOMETHING FOR NOTHING - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2009 from William CottringerREALITY REPAIR: TIME, SWEAT, TEARS & NO PROMISES OF SOMETHING FOR NOTHING By Bill Cottringer “You don't get something for nothing; You can't have freedom for free; You won't get wise With the sleep still in your eyes No matter what your dreams might be.” ~Neil Peart. Shame ...
Views: 1597(6 votes) - SHOULD YOU LISTEN TO YOUR HEAD OR HEART? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from William Cottringer“There is no squabbling so violent as that between people who accepted an idea yesterday and those who will accept the same idea tomorrow.” ~Christopher Morley. This article title is not a rhetorical question at all. In fact it might be one of the most important questions to ask and answer ...
Views: 5118(4 votes) - SHRINKING FROWNS AND EXPANDING SMILES - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2009 from William CottringerSHRINKING FROWNS AND EXPANDING SMILES By Bill Cottringer “A smile cures the wounding of a frown.” ~William Shakespeare. Here are ten practical ways to reduce your unhappy failures and boost your happy successes, curing your frowns with smiles: 1. Follow the reality principle. ...
Views: 1594(6 votes) - STAYING HAPPY IN HOPELESS SITUATIONS - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2011 from William CottringerSTAYING HAPPY IN HOPELESS SITUATIONS By Bill Cottringer “No situation is completely devoid of all hope; hope is always there waiting patiently for patience to see it.” ~The author. Staying reasonably happy in hopeless situations is certainly one of life’s greatest challenge. ...
Views: 1314(2 votes) - Uncommon Sense for Work & Play - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2010 from William CottringerUncommon Sense for Work & Play By Bill Cottringer “Success and happiness are a result of using uncommon sense, while failure and unhappiness are the consequence of using everything else.” ~The author. Success and happiness in life are most often tied to your efforts in reaching a ...
Views: 1466(4 votes) - Communication Is As Smooth As Glue - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2010 from William Cottringer"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~Dr. Seuss. Just like glue appearing to be very smooth until you touch it, communication can seem to be that way too, at least until you actually try to undue miscommunication ...
Views: 2971(10 votes) - BEING OKAY WITH BEING AVERAGE - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2009 from William CottringerBEING OKAY WITH BEING AVERAGE By Bill Cottringer “Ain’t no man can avoid being born average, but there ain’t no man got to be common. ~Satchel Page. In reality, the great majority of people fall within the “average” range of the so-called Bell Curve. Most people are average in ...
Views: 6274(6 votes) - Finding Your Way Out of the Swamp When you Are Shoulder-Deep in Alligators - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2009 from William CottringerFinding Your Way Out of the Swamp When you Are Shoulder-Deep in Alligators By Bill Cottringer “No problem can stand the assault of sustained thinking.” ~Voltaire. Scene. Picture this: A Cold, foggy, and damp early morning when you find yourself under-dressed and shoulder-deep in a ...
Views: 3511(3 votes) - Resurrect Your Dreams - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2011 from William CottringerResurrect Your Dreams By Bill Cottringer “Deep down, nobody is ever quite satisfied with the amount of their childhood dreams they have actually realized and we are all disappointed with the amount that slipped away.” ~The author. I consider myself having lived about half my early ...
Views: 2008(4 votes) - Top Ten Happiness Robbers - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2009 from William CottringerTop Ten Happiness Robbers By Bill Cottringer “You can never make another person happy, only unhappy. ~The author. Are you happy enough with your happiness bank account balance? Knowing that a happiness bank account balance can never be high enough, here are a few bank robbers you ...
Views: 1950(4 votes) - The Four Stages Of Organizational Development - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2007 from William CottringerTHE FOUR STAGES OF ORGANIZATIONAL DEVELOPMENT by William Cottringer The human potential movement of the early seventies employed a helpful frame of reference to understand the process of interpersonal group development. This model involves four distinct stages of development: ...
Views: 19088(8 votes) - Facts of Life That Get In The Way Of Living - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2013 from William CottringerFacts of Life That Get In The Way Of Living By Bill Cottringer “It is nothing to die. It is frightful not to live.” ~Victor Hugo, Les Misérables. If we didn’t think and feel so much about living, believe certain things to be true and others not, expect certain outcomes, and try to ...
Views: 1625(1 vote) - FIVE “HELPING” THINGS WE ALL WANT FOR OURSELVES AND NEED TO LEARN HOW TO GIVE TO OTHERS - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2009 from William CottringerFIVE “HELPING” THINGS WE ALL WANT FOR OURSELVES AND NEED TO LEARN HOW TO GIVE TO OTHERS By Bill Cottringer “Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It's not.” ~Dr. Seuss I have been involved in the helping business on both ends of giving ...
Views: 1907(3 votes) - How Successful Are You? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2009 from William Cottringer“Success is the progress we each make in our private, lifelong journey of learning, growing and improving into our best selves.” ~The author. There are currently as many “tests” to measure success as there are personal definitions of it or criteria for defining it. Where do you go to ...
Views: 1544(1 vote) - MANAGING METAPHORS ABOUT LIVING AND DYING FOR EVERYDAY LIFE - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2009 from William CottringerMANAGING METAPHORS ABOUT LIVING AND DYING FOR EVERYDAY LIFE By Bill Cottringer “Key metaphors help determine what and how we perceive and how we think about our perceptions.” ~M.H. Abrams. Metaphors: Creative communication of words that magically simplify huge, complex realities into ...
Views: 2334(1 vote) - Relationship Facts That Get In The Way of Relating - by Submitted on May 26, 2013 from William CottringerRelationship Facts That Get In The Way of Relating By Bill Cottringer “Relationships are the real test to find out if you are as good as you think you are.” ~The author. Relationships are the real test in life to see if you can be successful in applying all you have learned ...
Views: 1421(1 vote) - STAYING AHEAD OF THE PAPERWORK OVERLOAD - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2009 from William CottringerSTAYING AHEAD OF THE PAPERWORK OVERLOAD By Bill Cottringer “Keeping up with the information overload is like trying to sip water from a fire hose.” ~ Anonymous. So you think you are overloaded with paperwork at your job? My very first professional job was a counselor at a ...
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