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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Do you mind if your sugar baby is a single mother? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2021 from Jessica LawYou are a sugar daddy who wants to enjoy the youth and beauty of a charming sugar baby who is willing to please you. You are willing to give her money, gifts, luxury trips and take her to exclusive events. Best of all, there is no formal commitment between you two. You have reached an agreement ...
Views: 639(1 vote) - Do You Need Self Improvement if You Want to Have a Healthy Relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2020 from Kalyna KapurWhen it comes to love and relationships, things are never as simple as we want them to be. Both you and your partner end up having expectations with each other. Having expectations is not a bad thing, but when they are not communicated to your partner, and you keep building them up at your end, ...
Views: 484(1 vote) - Do You Think of Other People As Separate Individuals? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2014 from Peter MainThis is the sort of question that people will instinctively answer yes to, without really taking a moment to consider the real implication of what the question is asking, and why it is particularly important to any notion of personal development or self growth. At some level people think of ...
Views: 1930(1 vote) - Do's and Don'ts in Confronting Abuse | What Is Codependency? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2018 from Darlene LancerAbuse is about having power over someone. Abusers typically want to feel superior and to control and dominate. To them, communication is not about understanding. It’s a win-lose game. They use verbal abuse and/or violence to accomplish this. They’re frequently self-centered, impatient, ...
Views: 1257(3 votes) - Does My Ex Miss Me? 7 Keys On How To Make Your Ex Want You Back So Bad - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2017 from Tiemo DonaldDoes My Ex Miss Me? Relationships are always beautiful until that moment when everything falls apart, and you have to break up. When your partner left, you may have realized forever doesn’t last that long. The heartache may have almost turned your life upside down. But somehow you found a way ...
Views: 2331(1 vote) - Does True Love Really Exist? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2011 from Jennifer Elizabeth MastersWe all want to be loved. However for many achieving happiness within a healthy relationship has escaped us. Many of us have spent most of our lives in relationships that were co-dependent and needy, but did involve huge life lessons and karma. Knowing that each relationship we experience brings ...
Views: 1911(1 vote) - Does Your Anxiety Drive You to Sabotage Your Relationships? Learn to De-activate its Power - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2012 from Doron GilYOUR ANXIETY WORKS AGAINST YOU! If you have been wishing for quite some time now to have a stable, successful, satisfying relationship but are finding yourself time and again with the wrong partners and in unsatisfying relationships, what does it mean? Could it really be that “all these men” ...
Views: 1271(1 vote) - Domestic Abuse - by Submitted on May 08, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown"Never make yourself feel like nothing, to make someone else feel like everything!" Rationalizing has to be prevalent when there is Domestic Abuse because how else could you convince yourself to stay. First you have to recognize that you are being emotionally, physically and or sexually ...
Views: 1328(1 vote) - Dos to get your girlfriend back - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2011 from robin brainGirl always keeps a special corner in their heart for men's and it's not that tough to melt their heart. Right planning and its improvisation is the key to get your girlfriend back. Who knows your girlfriend better than you, if you had real good memories with her? There could be a possibility ...
Views: 506(1 vote) - Dr Romance Video: 3 Tips to Living with Someone instead of Marriage - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2012 from Tina TessinaTo watch the video, click here. It's way too easy, in the throes of a new romance, to decide to live together without considering the problems that might arise. Dr. Romance gives you some things to think about before making the leap, to guarantee success. When dating and getting to know ...
Views: 2762(1 vote) - Dr Romance: 3 Tips to Living with Someone instead of Marriage - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr Romance’s 3 tips for living with someone instead of marriage: It's way too easy, in the throes of a new romance, to decide to live together without considering the problems that might arise. Dr. Romance gives you some things to think about before making the leap, to guarantee ...
Views: 795(1 vote) - Dr Romance’s 3 tips to know it's time to let go of your relationship - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: As a counselor, I’ve helped lots of couples solve difficult relationship problems, but it isn’t always possible. If your relationship feels detrimental to your mental, emotional or physical well-being, it's time for a change. If your lover has or develops severe problems ...
Views: 1255(1 vote) - Dr. Romance : Do men have biological clocks? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance on men and biological clocks: Yes, a man can feel the need to grow up and have a family, especially when he finds a woman who inspires those feelings in him. The problem is, how can you be sure the match is a good one? You’d think the positive signs in a date would be ...
Views: 736(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Comments on The College Admission Scandal Involving Lori Loughlin and Her Husband Mossimo Giannulli - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2019 from Tina TessinaHow can you make sure your marriage doesn't fall apart when you find yourself involved in a major scandal or other disaster? First things first, don’t blame each other. When we’re under attack it’s easy to panic, and panic can lead to fighting. Stay as calm as you can, and remain a team. ...
Views: 904(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: 11 Things Married Women Want - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2020 from Tina TessinaFor you men who ask, "What Do Women Want?" Here are Dr. Romance's 10 Things Married Women Want: Women value intimacy, safety for themselves and their children, and emotional connection. Therefore, they long for the following qualities in a man: 1. Good Judgment Good ...
Views: 698(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Creating Connections: Draw Them In - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2012 from Tina TessinaMany years ago an Edwin Markham poem inspired me, and I’ve tried to live by it: "Outwitted" He drew a circle that shut me out —Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout.But Love and I had the wit to win:We drew a circle that took him in! As Markham says, we could see people who are distant or ...
Views: 3147(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Creating Connections: Draw Them In - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Many years ago, an Edwin Markham poem inspired me, and I’ve tried to live by it: Outwitted He drew a circle that shut me out —Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout.But Love and I had the wit to win:We drew a circle that took him in! As Markham says, we could see people ...
Views: 763(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Gentle Persistence - by Submitted on May 28, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Have you noticed that nagging, whining, complaining, sternly directing, yelling, criticizing and freaking out don’t seem to get you what you want from a partner, family member, friend, colleague or child? In a previous article, “Asking for What You Want” I explained how ...
Views: 861(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: The Magic of Reassurance - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2012 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: There are a few simple communication techniques that work like magic in relationships, whether with committed partners, friends, co-workers or relatives. One of the most effective is reassurance, which is simple to do , and calms both of you down, which allows your ...
Views: 2000(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: What Is A Dysfunctional Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Unless you're completely out of touch with any media, written, audio or video, you have been bombarded with words like "dysfunctional relationship", "codependency" and "toxic family system". You may have noticed that there's a lot of information available about these ...
Views: 1243(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Asking for What you Want - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: In my counseling office, I see a lot of damaged relationships because people don’t know how to ask for what they want, or don’t think it’s OK. Whether it's your couple relationship, family connections, friends or work colleagues, not asking for what you want means you’ll ...
Views: 1064(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Creating Holiday Magic - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Recently, as we were eating in an Italian restaurant, the music being played transported me back to holidays with my Italian/American family. Traditional, sentimental Italian songs were such a large part of our gatherings for the holidays. After a huge, slow, multi-course ...
Views: 1240(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Creating Peace - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr . Romance wishes you a Happy New Year, everyone! This is the time when a lot of energy is spent on making resolutions, most of which we don’t manage to keep. So, in the face of all the violence we have experienced this year, I would like to propose a different kind of resolution. Will ...
Views: 1293(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Creating Unconditional Love - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Love, commitment and relationships seem to be in disfavor these days. I'm seeing a lot of articles and TV shows saying love doesn't last, so why bother. No matter what the media is saying, I believe that all of us want to be loved, and I know from experience that a ...
Views: 794(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Dating as a Single Parent - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaAs a single parent, you probably have so little free time that dating seems an impossible task. Yet, single parents are dating in unprecedented numbers, so if you’re looking for another “head of household” to date, you can find one. As a responsible parent, you’ll want to be very cautious about ...
Views: 877(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Dating: The Fine Art of "Squirrel Hunting" - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: The most frequent problem I hear from single clients is that of how and where to search for a partner. Other clients are searching for friends. Many of them have been searching for a long time, without success; others have been afraid to go out and search at all. Most ...
Views: 1020(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Emotional Hygiene - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Life is frequently not easy, and we often encounter problems and difficulties that require us to pay attention to our own feelings. Relationships, whether with family, spouses and partners, friends or even colleagues, can create emotional fallout that we need to take care ...
Views: 732(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Finding Love During Quarantine - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2021 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Normally, I recommend getting face to face as soon as possible, because you get so many clues, including pheromones, that you don’t get over phone, texting, email or video. However, these are not normal times, and we’re sheltering in place, so face to face is out, unless you ...
Views: 768(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2013 from Tina TessinaLast month, Dr. Romance received the following letter from a reader: “A topic I would like you to cover/explore is that curious phenomenon which permits otherwise independent women to be dominated...even abused...by males with whom they share some sort or relationship. Why is it that a ...
Views: 1574(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Getting Out of Your Own Way - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2016 from Tina TessinaRecently, Dr. Romance has been asked a lot about how people can overcome paralysis and self-sabotage, so I thought I’d pass on my ideas on the subject. Getting in your own way is all about how you relate your yourself. In addition to not managing your time effectively, ...
Views: 1100(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Grief: From Surviving to Thriving - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance has had many clients who are grieving, and wrote this to help. None of us wants to think about it, but the standard definition of a totally successful relationship is the old, traditional "til death do us part." Any time we love, whether it’s a life partner, a dear ...
Views: 1366(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Grief: From Surviving to Thriving - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance has had many clients who are grieving, and wrote this to help. None of us wants to think about it, but the standard definition of a totally successful relationship is the old, traditional "til death do us part." Any time we love, whether it’s a life partner, a dear ...
Views: 1345(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Guidelines for Relating with Love - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2020 from Tina TessinaIf you're lucky enough to be living with someone else while you're isolating to avoid this virus, you may be having some difficulty with being alone together for more time than you're used to. The following guidelines will help you get along better and perhaps even improve your ...
Views: 728(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Handling The Green-eyed Monster - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance says: I can’t escape it, it’s in the news every day, and it fills my counseling office. Recently, the news told of a four-year-old who was shot to death by his own father, because the father was jealous of his divorced wife’s new relationship. "O, beware... of jealousy; ...
Views: 1200(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Handling The Green-eyed Monster - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance says: I can’t escape it, it’s in the news every day, and it fills my counseling office. Recently, the news told of a four-year-old who was shot to death by his own father, because the father was jealous of his divorced wife’s new relationship. "O, beware... of jealousy; ...
Views: 996(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on How Can You Improve Your Sex Life In Marriage? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2020 from Tina TessinaAfter years together, is there a lack of sex in your marriage? Is this negatively impacting your relationship? Have no fear -- it is easy to reboot your sex life at any age. I recommend that couples follow five easy steps to get things going again: First of all, you have to find out what’s going ...
Views: 714(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on how Couples Can Cooperate for Success - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: You have probably entered relationships madly in love, convinced that your feelings for each other were so strong your dream would carry you through the tough times, but wound up feeling more like you were living in a nightmare than a dream, struggling with conflicting ...
Views: 889(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on how to keep your marriage safe from infidelity - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaInfidelity can be devastating to a marriage. While couples can recover, it is far better to never have cheating in the first place. Here's how to "cheat-proof" your marriage, and head off problems before they begin. Dr. Romance on how to keep your marriage safe from ...
Views: 889(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on How to Stretch Time - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Would you like to stretch time – to make the time you have go farther, and use it more for what you really want to do? Stretching time is not difficult if you have the prerequisites: self-awareness, a sense of purpose, thoughtful action, and a playful ...
Views: 1551(1 vote) - Dr. Romance On Infidelity -- Stay or Go? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2019 from Tina TessinaDiscovering your partner has been unfaithful is a shock. Your first instinct may be to run, but if you have a shared history, children and finances, you may wonder – should you stay or go? Dr. Romance shows you how to decide. When you get the devastating news that your spouse has had an ...
Views: 955(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Learning Forgiveness - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance on Learning Forgiveness Dr. Romance writes: Learning to forgive those who hurt us is an essential life skill, because it helps develop inner maturity, frees us from emotional bondage to the other person, and helps us develop the ...
Views: 1801(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Relationships 101: Do Opposites Attract? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2021 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: It seems logical that like would attract like, but in my private practice as a marriage counselor and psychotherapist, I often see people drawn to their opposite ‑‑ because it's new and exciting. However, what’s exciting in the newness of romance often becomes unbearable ...
Views: 635(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Setting Boundaries and Saying No - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Knowing how to set appropriate boundaries can make the difference in whether your relationship succeeds or not. The topic frequently comes up in my counseling office, and most people think boundaries are set by telling other people what the limits are. But boundaries are ...
Views: 1303(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on shared laughter - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: A lighthearted approach to serious matters often is the most productive one. Imagine what your days would be like if you focused on having fun and making yourself and your partner laugh. Fun is also good for your health: Telling your partner the cute thing your kid said (or ...
Views: 1502(1 vote) - Dr. Romance On Spreading Kindness - by Submitted on May 08, 2020 from Tina TessinaKindness is the lubrication for life, love and relationships. When you spread kindness, it comes back in many ways, and it’s the foundation of happiness. "Dr. Romance" shows how kindness works and why it’s important to learn to live kindly, even in today’s cynical ...
Views: 689(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on The Colors of You - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr Romance writes: As life develops, many of us have an urge to focus on the deeper issues -- our dreams and goals, and our emotional and spiritual development. When this happens, life gradually becomes more about meaning and satisfaction and less about obligations and ...
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