Can Your Relationships Make You Sick? Part deux

“I can’t help losing my temper, everyone in my family is that way, deal with it!”
“You’ve tried everything under the sun, but you’re still fat!”
“I hate when you do that, you make me sick!”
“I’m just sick and tired of your nonsense!”
“Every time I see her, I get angry”
Does any of this sound familiar? Such statements are typical of the things we say and hear everyday in our relationships with others, and the people closeness to us will feel it the most. How many times have you said one or all of the above to your partner? What ever your reply you certainly can’t say “never.” Most of us do it, and we’re all guilty of making our partner’s sick, either from annoying habits or verbal abuse of some kind, each of us have made our contributions. For years now it has been stated that constructiveness of positive thinking as oppose to the misery and destructiveness of negative thinking, is that you are what you think you are, and that life is not good or bad, just what you make it. The same could be said about your relationships.

The general message is that all achievements in life, from a better paying job to greater family harmony in our relationships, comes to those capable of thinking optimistically. Some physicians estimate that as many as 90 percent of all diseases have an emotional basis. Could this be the reason your relationship makes you sick? Not hardly! Dr. Flanders Dunbar, author of Mind and Body, says: It is not a question of whether an illness is physical or emotional, but how much of each.

Emotions such as fear, sorrow, jealousy, resentment and hatred can cause high blood pressure, hyperthyroidism, migraines, arthritis, strokes, heart disorders and ulcers. Doctors can prescribe drugs to counteract the symptoms of these conditions, but they cannot do much against their underlying emotional causes.

Crippling arthritis, for example, is now accepted by many to be an illness of psychosomatic origin, resulting from an unconscious build-up of anger. Now there’s growing evidence that long-standing emotions, such as repressed resentment and grief, can open the door to cancer. Can’t you see that the main causes of sickness in our relationships are what we do to ourselves? The grief and anguish we release into our body’s cripples us to levels never before explored.

You cannot begin to imagine the healing that awaits you if you would dwell on the Duty of Happiness as well as on the Happiness of Duty. When you are cheerful yourself that in and of itself, is the most effectual contribution to the happiness of others, beginning with your relationship with your partner, and yourself.

Why the big deal about being happy? (pourquoi) Because Happiness has always been regarded as an antidote against disease. Laughter whether you believe it or not is the best medicine, and it always has been, and it always will be.

You create happiness when you relinquish selfishness, which creates mood-changes and at the same time promotes health. Happy feelings release brain chemicals that soothe the nerves and increase immunity against disease, which lends itself well to physical expression.

It also lends itself well to sexual vitality, which is another index of health. Whether you have good health or not, a low sex drive has no boundaries because its also prevalent in younger people, and it all comes down to one thing…”poor nutrition.”

For example, there are lots of people in their prime of life passing the excuse for their lack of sex drive to the tune of “being tired” or “too busy.” While I would love to say that I’ve got the magic solution, and you can get it when you click on the Pay pal button at the end of this article, the real truth is proper nutrition will not necessarily turn you into a sexual super star, but it will certainly help you to stay sexy, healthy and interested in that hip-grinding sweat-inducing sex I mentioned in part one of this article, well into a ripe old age.

There are many factors which contribute to our sickness in relationships, sometimes it’s because of a cheating partner, bad eating habits which you both share, other times its because you’ve out grown your partner. It can also be due to behaviors in public by your partner, and or things that he or she says which really quite frankly makes you sick. And finally sometimes, it’s just a partner who is really bad in bed.

In another article I’m going to share 25 Reasons we get sick in our relationships. In the meantime, here are my final thoughts.

“To a nutritionist, health is a positive state of well-being, a composite of good intellectual and physical functioning, good appetite, digestion and elimination, good muscle tone, resistance to infection and fatigue, and that wonderful feeling of buoyancy which makes each day a new adventure, and that is exactly the meaning it should be for you regarding your relationships. Feeling a little better now?”