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- Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part of Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a house or owns a piece of land, they’re going to know how important it is to have a fence or some kind of sign to mark where their property begins and where it ends. So not only will this let other people know where they shouldn’t go without permission, there will also be a ...
Views: 1580 - Humanity: Is Humanity Failing? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne doesn’t need to look very far to become aware of what is taking place in the world and this is because of how connected the world has become through technology. For instance, one only needs to turn a TV or a computer on or to look at their phone. Here, one will have the chance to consume ...
Views: 3013 - Relationships: Do You Expect Other Adults To Fulfil Your Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has the desire to be in a relationship with someone, they are going to have certain expectations. And the same can be said when one is already in a relationship. Now, there is the chance that one is completely aware of what these are and at the same time, there is the chance that they ...
Views: 2001 - Entitlement Mentality: Is It Caused By A Lack Of Emotional Growth? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many problems in today’s world and one problem is the much talked about entitlement mentality. And this is a mentality that is seen amongst people of all ages and backgrounds. Two people who have this mentality could be observed and what they believe they are entitled to may vary. ...
Views: 2086 - Expectations: Do The Expectations Of Others Define How We See Ourselves? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people like to view themselves as being independent and that other people have no affect on who they are, this is nothing more than an illusion. Human beings are interdependent and this means that one’s self image is influenced by other people. One might not be aware of this ...
Views: 1633 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part of Self Control? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile what is taking place externally is relatively easy to notice, the same can’t always be said when it comes to what is taking place internally. Here, one might not be aware of what is going on within them and yet, their actions are still going to be defined by what is taking place there. ...
Views: 1682 - Relationships: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Healthier Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhether someone is in a relationship with another person or not, they are still going to experience pain. This could relate to certain disagreements that one has with the person they are in a relationship with on one side and on the other, it could include different kinds of abuse for ...
Views: 1474 - Anger: Is Anger An Important Part Of Success? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain emotions that are often described as being negative and others that are often described as being positive. And in today’s world of positive thinking and of always needing to be happy, embracing the other side of one’s emotional spectrum is generally frowned upon. Based on ...
Views: 1789 - Bad Dreams: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Bad Dreams? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people will be familiar with their dreams, other people won’t be. When some people wake up it is going to be easy for them to remember what took place in most cases and they could keep their dreams alive by writing about what happened. And for others, they might remember what took ...
Views: 1668 - Success: Are You Doing The Same Thing And Expecting A Different Result? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile ones behaviour is not who they are, it is ultimately what defines them in the eyes of others. For people are not judged by what is going on inside their heads, they are judged by what they do. For example, when one wants to find out what another person is like they observe their ...
Views: 1565 - Bleeding Gums: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Bleeding Gums? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn todays world, ones image has become incredibly important. And there are all kinds of options for one to choose from when it comes to enhancing their image or even completely transforming it. The style of clothes that one wears can be changed, as can the style and colour of their hair. ...
Views: 4849 - Relationships: What Happens When Someone Is Always Told What To Do? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what one has achieved or how old they are, they are going to times when they need another person’s guidance. And through another person’s guidance, one will learn about what they need to do in order to move forward in life or to undertake a certain task for instance. This can take ...
Views: 1675 - Self Worth: Do You Let Your Experiences Define Your Self Worth? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be times in one’s life where their external reality mirrors back to them exactly what they want to experience and then there are going to be times when this doesn’t happen. And these experiences can end up defining not only how one feels, but also what they believe about ...
Views: 1664 - Practice: Does Practice Make Perfect? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings are often born with a certain ability or a number of abilities and these will vary from person to person. Other people may enable one to realise what they are good at or one may have to get in touch or ‘find’ what they are good at themselves. Once one realises what they are it ...
Views: 1515 - Relationships: Why Can't Some People Maintain Eye Contact? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many things that one can do to make a positive impression and this is going to include the impression one makes when they meet someone for the first time and in their existing relationships. And as human beings are not perfect, it is only natural that they are going to do things ...
Views: 3060 - Persistence: Is Persistence An Important Part Of Success? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who have the ability or the skill to do something and yet, that is as far as it goes. And this is going to mean that they end up wasting what they have and it will always be a mystery as to what they could have achieved. In other cases, there are going to be people who ...
Views: 3154 - Ignorance: Is Ignorance Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter how much someone learns in life there are always going to be things they don’t know about. That is part of life and is something that one simply has to accept. That doesn’t mean that learning is therefore futile, if anything, it could feel like a weight has been lifted from ones ...
Views: 9068 - Relationships: What Does It Mean When Someone Says They Are Too Busy? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is available at one point in time, it doesn’t mean that they will continue to be available. There is the chance that they will continue to be around or everything could change, and they may be extremely hard to get hold of. However, without even going into how much ...
Views: 9090 - The Media: Does The Media Make People Believe There Is Not Enough? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the media allows people to be informed about the world they live in, they also allow them to be misinformed. And at times, it is going to be hard to know whether it is the former or the latter that is taking place. One might come to the conclusion that this is because some human beings ...
Views: 1475 - Helpless: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Helpless? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one is constantly having an effect on their environment, it doesn’t mean that they are able to accept this. Some people will be able to see that this is the case and there are going to be others who believe they have no effect whosever. And when someone experiences life in a way that ...
Views: 1653 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Can't Love Them? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people will only know what it feels like to be with someone who can love them, there are going to be other people who only know what it feels like to be with someone who can’t love them. And this is going to mean that each person has a radically different experience on this ...
Views: 1734 - Commitment: Why Do Some People Fear Commitment? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one may want to commit to a relationship, it doesn’t mean that they feel comfortable doing so. On one side they may have to have the need to be with someone and at the same time, it could be something they fear. And while this could be something that only has an impact on their ...
Views: 2223 - Relationships: Why Does 'Treat Them Mean And Keep Them Keen' Work? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some relationships are healthy, there are others that are completely dysfunctional. And when this is the case, they no longer have the ability to transform one’s life and to assist in their personal evolution. That is unless one leaves the relationship and uses the experience to ...
Views: 1946 - Relationships: What Causes Caretaking Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile relationships can be a combination of both giving and receiving, they can also end up being out of balance. It is then no longer an adult to adult relationship; it is something that takes on the characteristics of a parent-child relationship. This might create the impression that they ...
Views: 1884 - Happiness: Is Life Too Short To Be Unhappy? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had to choose between feeling happy or feeling unhappy it is clear that in most cases they would choose the first option. When one is happy, not only will their inner world change, it is also going to have an effect on their outer world. This inner change will cause their ...
Views: 1862 - Delaying Gratification: Is Delaying Gratification An Important Part Of Success? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAs time has passed, there has been a greater need for everything to happen faster. The pace of the world has rapidly increased and a lot of people no longer want to wait for things. In some cases, if someone wants something they will want it now and if they can’t have it now, then they might end ...
Views: 1710 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Abandoned When A Relationship Ends? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are able to handle break ups reasonably well, there are other people who find them to be extremely difficult. And although it could all depend on how long the relationship has lasted for or on the kind of connection that they had with the other person, these two factors are not ...
Views: 1929 - Neediness: Is Your Neediness Pushing People Away? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile having needs is part of being human, there is a big difference between having needs and being ‘needy’. When it comes to ones needs, one is going to be aware of what they are and then go about getting them met. And at times they will be met and at times they won’t be. So in this case, ...
Views: 4469 - Abandonment: Does The Fear Of Being Abandoned Control Your Life? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the ideal is for someone to live their truth, this is not always possible. And one reason why this is not possible is when they have a fear of being abandoned. Their choices and decisions in life are then going to be defined by this fear and what is actually right for them is going to be ...
Views: 2116 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Repeat Unhealthy Relationship Patterns? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because one is with someone who looks different to the person they were in a relationship with before, it doesn’t mean that their experience is going to be any different. And if ones last experience was generally healthy and functional, this is not going to be something that one is going to ...
Views: 2158 - Thinking Differently: Does Our Environment Shape Our Thinking? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperSome people might believe that their thoughts are their own and that their environment has no effect on them whatsoever. And there are going to be other people who will see how their environment does affect them; but this may only relate to certain factors that are relatively easy to notice. ...
Views: 2219 - Belief: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Believe In Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to being successful and achieving what one wants to achieve, it is important that one believes in themselves. Without this belief, one is going to find it difficult to achieve anything. So not only will it be impossible for one to thrive, it could also be a real challenge for them ...
Views: 1734 - Focus: Do You Focus On What You Can't Control? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world it is highly unlikely that one will have trouble finding something to focus on. No matter where they look or where they, there is going to be something to place their attention on. And at times this will mean that their time and energy is being used wisely and at other times, it ...
Views: 1878 - Assumptions: Are Assumptions Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperChange is part of life, and what was acceptable at one point in time, is not necessarily acceptable at another. And while this can be a sign of growth, it can also be a sign that opinions have changed and therefore mean very little in terms of social evolution. The fact that women are ...
Views: 6093 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With Abuse? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people feel comfortable with relationships that are healthy and functional, there are other people who feel comfortable with relationships that are unhealthy and dysfunctional. There are going to be people who have relationships that are unhealthy and they are aware of this. And ...
Views: 1589 - Gratitude: Is Gratitude Dangerous? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one does something for another and they are grateful, it is going to create a better impression than if they were ungrateful. This response if likely to endear them to the giver and it could mean that the other person is only too happy to offer their hand in the future. And the same ...
Views: 1729 - Grounded: Is Human Touch An Important Part Of Feeling Grounded? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon to hear people say that they feel ungrounded and while this may be a term that is more commonly used amongst people who are into self development, it is something that anyone can experience. It therefore won’t matter if they are into self development or not, as they can still ...
Views: 1815 - Invisible: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Invisible? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHaving the desire to be seen is part of being human and as human beings are interdependent, it is a vital part of not only being able to survive, but to thrive. If human beings were inherently independent, then it wouldn’t matter if they were seen by others or not. One’s ability to survive ...
Views: 1622 - Self Awareness: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Greater Self Awareness? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has no awareness of themselves it is going to lead to problems in their life. They could end up constantly blaming other people for what is or what is not happening to them and be oblivious to the part that they are playing. Pointing the finger towards other people may lead to ...
Views: 1396 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Get Back With Their Ex? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end it can be an incredibly painful experience. And this doesn’t even need to be a relationship was fulfilling or healthy; as it can be painful no matter how ‘good’ or ‘bad’ it was. So this means that someone can have the desire to get back with their ex and ...
Views: 1540 - Relationships: Does Our Childhood Define Our Expectations Of The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that people shouldn’t have expectations and this is partly because it will cause them to be disappointed or let down. And while this can’t be denied, having expectations is part of life in many ways. For example: when someone expects more from life, they are likely to ...
Views: 1810 - Human Contact: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear Human Contact? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some needs that human beings will need to have fulfilled in order to survive, there are other needs that can go unfulfilled without leading to someone’s death. This is not to say that it won’t have an effect on someone’s wellbeing though. For example: if one doesn’t receive ...
Views: 2007 - Purpose: Can Having A Purpose Stop Someone From Being Distracted? - by Submitted on May 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are now more ways than ever before for people to be distracted. For example, one no longer needs to sit down and watch TV or to turn the radio on, as they can simply look at their phone and become completely consumed; no matter where they are or what they are doing. So based on this, ...
Views: 1440 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on May 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the opposite sex can do things that will cause one to feel fear and to want to keep their distance, there is also the chance that one will feel this way no matter what they do. It is then not something that depends on how another person behaves; it is something that one experiences as a ...
Views: 1786 - Attention Seeking Behaviour: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Attention Seeking Behaviour? - by Submitted on May 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo be seen and recognised is something that most human beings want to experience. And while this is part of being human and nothing to feel ashamed of, these needs are going to vary from person to person. For some people, receiving a moderate amount of attention will be enough to enhance ...
Views: 4056 - The Media: Does The Media Create Division? - by Submitted on May 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile people often believe that the media is there to simply inform them about what is going on in the world, this is not always the case. Instead, there is often a hidden agenda and what the media focuses on is therefore intended to create a certain reaction. At times, it can be relatively ...
Views: 1917 - Success: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Being Successful? - by Submitted on May 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people are asked what they want in life they will often say success. And while this can be the case, it doesn’t mean that everyone has the same meaning of what that actually means. There are going to be other people who are already successful and they are probably going to say that they ...
Views: 8662 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Try To Impress The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on May 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to hear that they should just be themselves around the opposite sex or the same sex, depending on their sexual preference. And while this sounds accurate and exactly what one should be doing, it doesn’t mean that this is what always happens. There will be some ...
Views: 2620 - The People Who Have Influenced Me: Jenny Jones - by Submitted on May 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to my journey of self awareness, there are some people who stand out when I look back on where I have come from. And one of those people is Jenny Jones. This is someone who is based in England and she is a healer/therapist. The Next Stage After having experienced ...
Views: 1890 - Interviews With Successful People - Daniel Kandi - Producer, DJ & Label Owner - by Submitted on May 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the first songs I heard from Daniel Kandi was ‘’Make Me Believe’’, and at the time of its release, I was blown away. Although this song is now over five years old, it is still one of my favourite songs. Since then, I have heard many other productions and remixes from Daniel. What ...
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