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- Fear: Can Someone Be Very Fearful If They Had A Traumatic Childhood? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can be very fearful, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they will be consciously aware of. Even so, through being this way, they won’t truly be able to embrace life. They can live somewhere that is relatively safe and be free to live their life, but this won’t ...
Views: 341 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be In A Boundaryless State If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on his life, he may find is that he rarely feels comfortable standing his ground and asserting himself. As a result of this, it is likely to be normal for him to be walked over by others. He could be used to saying yes when he would rather say no, ...
Views: 293 - Critical Thinking: Are Some People Having The Vaccines For Protection And Slowly Killing Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperMost likely, someone will live in a country where a vaccine is seen as the best way for them to protect themselves from the virus. Or to be more accurate, it is seen as the only way for them to do this. Also, it wouldn’t be right to say that they will just need one vaccine, as there will be a ...
Views: 281 - Critical Thinking: Can Someone Be Overly Fearful Of The Coronavirus If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are some people who have done their best to carry on as normal since the arrival of the contagion, there are others who have been unable to do so. For someone in the second position, it might not matter if the restrictions have been eased where they live. They may have ...
Views: 314 - Critical Thinking: Is The Coronavirus Allowing Some People To Mask Their Unresolved Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, what is going on has been all-consuming, with it being hard for them to function. For others, what is going on hasn’t been something that has totally consumed their mind, with it being possible for them to carry on living their life. There are then, of course, those who are ...
Views: 319 - Critical Thinking: Is It Time For Humanity To Realise That They Have An Unconscious Mind? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf the average person was asked to explain what it means to be human, they could say that it involves having a physical body and an intellect or something similar. Therefore, who they are will be a combination of what is going on in their head and what keeps this part of them in place. By ...
Views: 271 - Disconnected: Can Womb Trauma Cause Someone To Be Disconnected From Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have both a head and a body and will, therefore, experience both thoughts and feelings, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to relate to this. In general, they could live up top and only be aware of their thoughts and perhaps different sensations. They are then going ...
Views: 341 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man End Up With An Anxious Attachment Style If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man will be an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to act like one. The reason for this is that he might not be able to spend much time by himself. When he is by himself, he could soon feel very uncomfortable and end up doing whatever he can to find ...
Views: 254 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Dysfunctional View Of Love If His Mother Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf, after being brought up by an abusive mother, a man was able to realise that his early years were dysfunctional and then to reach out for support, he might not end up in a relationship with an abusive woman. He would then have been through hell but there would be no reason for him to replay ...
Views: 291 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man End Up With An Avoidant Attachment Style If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was asked to describe himself, one of the things that he could say is that he is independent. Unlike some people, then, he won’t need others and this will also mean that he won’t be ‘needy’. He can see himself as being strong and capable, whilst viewing people like this as weak and ...
Views: 338 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Invisible If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will have a physical body and, therefore, will be visible to others, it doesn’t mean that he will feel seen. In general, he could feel invisible and wonder if he even exists. As a result of this, he could often feel powerless and helpless and believe that he has very little if ...
Views: 310 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Worthless If His Mother Treated Him Like An Object? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect, is that he rarely feels good about himself and often feels down as a result. He could find that he has been this for as long as he can remember. Consequently, it is going to be a challenge for him to appreciate his time on this earth. ...
Views: 300 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Hide His Needs Around Women If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on how he behaves around women, what he may find is that he has the tendency to hide his needs. When this takes place, he will create the impression that he doesn't have any. Or, if this doesn't take place, it will be as though he only has a few ...
Views: 367 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Hide His Needs If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of the human experience, and this means that they are not bad or wrong. However, although this is the case, a man can be in a position where he has the need to hide most of his needs. This can be something that typically takes place without him even being aware of what is ...
Views: 327 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Out Of Touch With His Needs If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a man will have needs, it doesn’t mean that he will always be aware of them. Moreover, when he is in tune with his needs, he could still be out of touch with a number of them. As a result of this, he is likely to neglect most of his needs and this is going to have a negative effect on ...
Views: 342 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Reject Love If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being in a position where he has wanted to be in an intimate relationship and to be loved for a little while, a man could end up sabotaging the very thing that he has wanted for all this time. Still, this is not to say that this is something that he will be consciously aware of. The ...
Views: 261 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative Inner Model Of Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man can have the desire to deeply connect to a woman, he may also have the need to keep his distance. The experiences that he has had with them throughout his life may appear to be what has given him this need. As a result of this, it is going to be a challenge for him to fulfil ...
Views: 321 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Realise That He Has Rights? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time focusing on his mother’s needs and neglects his own, it can be clear to the outsider that something is not right. After all, he will be an individual with his own life to lead; he won’t be here to act as an extension of his mother or anyone ...
Views: 255 - Mother Wounds: What Can Happen If A Man Was Treated Like An Object By His Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of a man’s life, so his formative years, he may have been treated more like an object than a being that had his own needs, feelings and rights and had inherent value. Once, he was born then, his mother and perhaps father may have created the impression that they were happy but, ...
Views: 245 - Mother Wounds: What Can Happen If A Man Was Treated Like An Object By His Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of a man’s life, so his formative years, he may have been treated more like an object than a being that had his own needs, feelings and rights and had inherent value. Once, he was born then, his mother and perhaps father may have created the impression that they were happy but, ...
Views: 269 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Trust A Woman If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHaving the ability to trust will not only allow someone to go about their day-to-day life it will also allow them to live a fulfilling life. The reason for this is that, on one side, without it, they wouldn’t even leave their bed, let alone their home. And on the other, it wouldn’t be ...
Views: 366 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Experience Conflict With Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that, in general, his relationships with women have been anything but harmonious. Therefore, when the ‘battle of the sexes’ is mentioned, he probably won’t find it hard to relate to what is being spoken about. When it ...
Views: 350 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Disconnected From His Need For Human Connection If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperUnsurprisingly, human beings need human connection in order to be at their best. This is something that will have an effect on someone’s mental, emotional and physical health. The reason why it is not a surprise is that human beings are interdependent; they are not independent. This, however, ...
Views: 798 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That It Isn’t Safe Enough For Them To Exist? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, feeling safe is just going to be part of life and this is likely to allow them to embrace life. However, for others, this is going to be something that they seldom experience and, due to this, it will be a challenge for them to embrace life. What this illustrates is how ...
Views: 262 - Being Seen: Can Being Seen Be Painful If Someone Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to hide who they truly are. They may even say to themselves that they often wear a mask around others. What this is going to mean is that even if they are aware of their needs and ...
Views: 348 - Shamed-Based Identity: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Shame-Based? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, shame is something that they experience every now and then and, when they do, it typically doesn’t hang around for very long. For others, shame is something that they experience on a regular basis and, when they do, it can typically hang around for a very long time. When it ...
Views: 443 - Critical Thinking: Can Repression Allow A Society To Appear More Evolved Than It Is? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn many society’s around the world that are seen as being ‘civilised’, there are things that take place that make some people question this view. This includes how animals are often treated, how people in power often behave and how people often treat each other. In addition to this, the kind ...
Views: 346 - I Met A Special A Dog - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out walking the other day, I ended up seeing someone who I usually talk to. Usually, I speak to him outside his house while he is working in his garden but this time he was out walking his dog. The last time I remember seeing the dog was when he was running around a field, ...
Views: 336 - Critical Thinking: What Would A Repression-Informed Society Look Like? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for the average person, and even for those who are working in the area of ‘mental health’, to believe that they, along with their fellow human beings, only have one mind. They are then going to have a conscious mind and a physical body and that will be all they are. As a ...
Views: 461 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Fear Leaving His Mothers World? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is emotionally entangled with his mother, it is likely to stop him from living his own life. Instead of being aware of his own needs and doing what he can to meet them, he is likely to be focused on his mother's needs and do what he can to meet them. As a ...
Views: 348 - I Ran A Half Marathon - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of September, whilst I was out I came across a sign that said there would be a half marathon taking place soon and, on this day, the road would be closed. When I saw the sign, it was just under three days until the race. This event pulled me in and I instantly started to think ...
Views: 345 - Human Doing: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Just Be? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperMany societies around the world are full of people who are more or less always on the go. This is how it has been for many, many decades and it is unlikely to change any time soon. When someone lives in this way, they are unlikely to believe that they are living in a way that is not ...
Views: 345 - Critical Thinking: Does Humanity Need To Become More Introverted To Change The World? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn many societies around the world, especially in the west, the focus is generally on what is taking place externally. Consequently, what is going on “out there” is the focus and what is going on internally is largely overlooked. When it comes to making changes at both an individual and ...
Views: 467 - Human Contact: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Fear Human Contact? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDue to what has been taking place in recent years, it has meant that a lot of people have been starved of human contact. However, there are those who were in this position before all this was going on. For someone like this, spending time alone and away from others will just be what is ...
Views: 423 - Resilience: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Handle Setbacks? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that no matter who someone is, there are going to be moments in their life when something won’t go to plan. So, instead of being able to go from A to B, they will end up going from A to A. For whatever reason, they will have come up against a hurdle and it won’t be possible ...
Views: 387 - Emotionally Disconnected: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Emotional Self? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that different tools serve a different function, different parts of someone's being are the same. When it comes to their physical body, this part will give them the ability to move and to get things done. Their emotional body/self will be what brings their life to life and ...
Views: 309 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That Men Are Worthless If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is a man and no longer a boy, it could be said that his childhood will be behind him. This stage of his life will be well and truly over, so it won’t matter what took place during this time. However, while this may appear to be the case, it doesn’t mean that this stage of his ...
Views: 279 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Carry A Sense Of Violation If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on his life, he may see that he is often walked over and treated badly by others. There may have been moments when he thinks that the world is against him. Now, this could be something that he only experiences when he is in the company of other ...
Views: 427 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Feel Safe If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man could live in a country that is relatively safe, it doesn’t mean that he will feel safe enough to be in his body and to feel at ease. Consequently, he could spend a fair amount of time feeling anxious and on edge. Along with this, there could be moments when he is in a shut ...
Views: 492 - Critical Thinking: Do “Conspiracy Theorists” Need To Understand That They Are Not Just Observers Of Reality? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter coming to the conclusion that the mainstream media, along with other sources, is not there to actually inform, someone can end up looking towards alternative sources for information. Fortunately, there is far more information available than there was in the past and so it is far easier for ...
Views: 348 - Fear Of Death: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have A Fear Of Death? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a woman comes to see that she has ended up with a man who is overly preoccupied with his mother and is neglecting his own needs, it is to be expected that she would want him to change. Not only will the above be taking place but she will also be being neglected. Consequently, she will ...
Views: 492 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Try To Rescue A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a woman comes to see that she has ended up with a man who is overly preoccupied with his mother and is neglecting his own needs, it is to be expected that she would want him to change. Not only will the above be taking place but she will also be being neglected. Consequently, she will ...
Views: 440 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Mother An Energy Vampire? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will look like an adult, if his mother used him to meet some of her adult and unmet childhood needs during his early years, he is unlikely to feel like one. Instead, he is likely to feel like a boy. However, he is unlikely to feel like a boy who has been treated well; he is ...
Views: 332 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Would A Woman Be Happy If A Mother Enmeshed Man Changed? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is in a relationship with a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, she is naturally going to have a strong need for him to change. This is partly because he will spend a lot of time being there for his mother and very little, if any, time being there for his ...
Views: 341 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Waste Her Life Trying To Understand A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a woman has been in a relationship with a mother-enmeshed man, she is unlikely to be in a very good way. Not only can she be in a lot of pain but she can also have a number of questions. Perhaps she was with a man like this for a number of months or maybe her time with him lasted even ...
Views: 292 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Wounded Inner Child Cause Him To Be Attracted To The Wrong Women? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could find, if he was able to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he has the tendency to end up with women who are unhealthy. There is the chance that he is currently with a woman who is like this. If he isn’t, it might be easier for him to realise what it was about ...
Views: 335 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Unconsciously Trying To Fulfil His Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperTo the outside observer, it can make no sense whatsoever as to why a man would neglect his own life and focus on his mother’s life. Clearly, by behaving in this way, he won’t be able to meet most of his needs. For him to do this, he will need to take a step back from his mother and spend ...
Views: 338 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Wasting Her Time With A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a woman may want to be with a man who is available, she may find that she has ended up with one who is anything but available. This will be a man who is super focused on his mother and does what he can to meet her needs. As a result of this, he is likely to be emotionally unavailable ...
Views: 282 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Find It Hard To Activate Himself? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly preoccupied with his mother’s needs and just about his whole life revolves around her, he is going to be more like her parent than her son. But, although he will be neglecting himself, he can believe that he is doing the right thing. Along with this, there will be the ...
Views: 338 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Are All Mother-Enmeshed Men The Same? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a certain term is used to describe someone, then it can mean that they fit a certain criterion. In this case, the term that has been used will be appropriate and it won’t be a sign that they have been mislabelled. When it comes to a man who has been described as a mother-enmeshed man, ...
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