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- Boundaries: Why Do Some Men Let Women Walk All Over Them? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t matter whether one is a man or woman, as they can both be walked over by the same or the opposite sex. And while this could relate to someone being physically walked over, in the majority of cases, it is not that extreme. But that is not to say that the damage is therefore less ...
Views: 7337 - Emotional Honesty: What Is Emotional Honesty? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperEmotions are part of being human and this means that they play a vital role in each of our lives This could be to inform one of what is going on in their immediate environment or to do with something that is being triggered from their past for example. However, no matter what their reasons ...
Views: 7319 - Self Worth: Why Do Some Men Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have a balanced sense of worth is healthy and conducive to someone realising that they deserve to receive and to achieve in life. The problem is that not everyone has this experience and this can cause them to believe that they are worthless and therefore deserve very little, if anything, ...
Views: 7232 - Dysfunctional Environments: What is A Dysfunctional Environment? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to describing a Dysfunctional Environment, it might help us to also look at what a functional environment might look like. Functional Environment A functional environment then; would be an area that is conducive to growth. Somewhere that not only supports and encourages an ...
Views: 7203 - Attention: Why Do Some People Avoid Attention? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is wide spread exposure when it comes to people who are attention seekers and these people can be labelled as having certain unhealthy narcissistic traits. One can come into contact with people who are like this in their local area and as well as in the mainstream media. It is only ...
Views: 7048 - Relationships: Is Your Ex Giving You False Hope? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, each person can go their own way, or something else might take place. As a result of this, it could only be matter of days or even weeks before they are back together. Round in Circles In fact, this could be something that will take place more than ...
Views: 6826 - True Self: Why Do Some People Hide Their True Self? - by Submitted on May 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, the true self has been used to describe ones true nature and who they really are. On the other hand, the false self represents all that is not true and is made up of illusions. And while deep down one may want to embrace their true self; it is often far from easy and the world ...
Views: 6687 - Feelings: Why Are Some People Out Of Touch With Their Feelings? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough feelings can be overlooked and seen as being unimportant, they are a vital part of who we are. They allow us to know what we need and want in each moment of our life, amongst other things. When someone is unaware of how they are feeling, they are disconnected from themselves. ...
Views: 6668 - Intimacy: What Causes The Fear Of Intimacy? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIntimacy can mean different things to different people. It is a word that has numerous meanings and interpretations. The meaning I am going to be looking at here is closeness. Although closeness is usually experienced in relationships of the opposite sex, it can be experienced in any ...
Views: 6666 - Healthy And Unhealthy Guilt: What's The Difference? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are two types of guilt that an individual can experience; one can be classed as healthy and the other as unhealthy. And like all feelings, there is usually a reason when guilt appears. Now, the reason for guilt appearing could be functional and beneficial to one’s life or it could be ...
Views: 6527 - Dysfunctional Relationships: Why Do We Attract Them? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI think to one degree or another, if we are not currently in one, we have all been in a relationship that is dysfunctional or abusive. So here, I am going to give my current understanding, based on my experiences and observations, of why I think they exist and what is going on at a deeper ...
Views: 6462 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Try To Save Women? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some men out there women are seen as people who need to be saved or rescued from what is taking place in their lives. And so it doesn’t matter how big or small these women’s challenges are, as this type of man is only too happy to get involved. So this also means that unless a woman has ...
Views: 6368 - Relationships: Why Are Some Men Attracted To Abusive women? - by Submitted on May 29, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen abuse is mentioned it is often a man that comes to mind and this is due to number of reasons. Firstly, a man is generally seen as being stronger than a woman and so this can sound right. And if one were to look back on history, there are numerous examples of men who have abused their ...
Views: 6364 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Hold Onto Past Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can let go of a relationship once it is over, there are others who are unable to do so. When someone is able let go, it will be possible for them to move on and to embrace the present moment. However, if they are unable to do this, it is not going to be possible for them to ...
Views: 6275 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Rescue Others? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough relationships are often seen as two people sharing who they are with the other each and with both of them being on the same level; this doesn’t always take place. And when this doesn’t happen, one of the reasons can be due to one person trying to rescue the other. Now, in order for ...
Views: 6256(1 vote) - Assumptions: Are Assumptions Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperChange is part of life, and what was acceptable at one point in time, is not necessarily acceptable at another. And while this can be a sign of growth, it can also be a sign that opinions have changed and therefore mean very little in terms of social evolution. The fact that women are ...
Views: 6093 - Communication: Is It Important To Acknowledge Others? - by Submitted on May 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings not only want to be noticed by others, they also want to be appreciated by them. But while these are two needs that each and every one of us would like to have fulfilled, it does mean that other people will always fulfil them. Generally, one would have ...
Views: 6075 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Attracted To People Who Are Self-Centered? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people think of a relationship, they often think about not only receiving, but also giving. These two parts come together to form a relationship and while it is not always possible to give and receive in each moment, this doesn’t mean that one of these aspects will then be ignored ...
Views: 6045(3 votes) - Throwaway Society: What Created The Throwaway Society? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something is new or different it is often seen as better than what one has and as something that one can look forward to owning or experiencing. Once something has become ‘old’ and one is familiar with it, its effects usually lessen. So what was engaging and interesting at one point in ...
Views: 6020 - Emotional Repression: What Happens When Men Repress Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOn a physical level, men and women are clearly very different; with men having features that relate to the masculine and women having features that relate to the feminine. And while this much is obvious and easily recognisable, what they are like within is not as easy to describe. But as a ...
Views: 5951 - Abuse: From One Generation To Another - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years there has been an understanding that child abuse is very often passed from one generation to another. And as to how far back some of these cycles of abuse go is anyone's guess. It is then not surprising for one to be left confused and astounded, at how something so pernicious, ...
Views: 5878(1 vote) - Relationships: What Is Emotional Cut-Off? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one made a mess somewhere, they could either clean it up or they could leave it where it was. If they were to take the first option, it might take them a while, and this may mean they have to put something else on hold. However, if they were to take the second option, it might allow them ...
Views: 5872 - Muscle: Why Are some People Obsessed With Gaining Muscle? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe popularity of muscle building has grown significantly in recent years. Gym memberships have soared and this is not only for men. Women are just as likely to be a member of a gym as men are. And then there is a whole range of supplements to assist with building muscle for men and this has ...
Views: 5730 - Dysfunctional Love: What Is Dysfunctional Love? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is clear to see that in the world we live in, what is often classed as love is anything but love and could be classed as dysfunctional and in some cases abusive. So this is going to be my perspectives on some of the things that are not love. We come to understand what something is, by ...
Views: 5729 - Emotional Containment: What Is Emotional Containment? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThe mainstream media covers many areas of life and one of the areas they cover is what one needs to do in order to be happy and healthy. Here, one will be told what they need to do and what they need to avoid. There will be what one needs to eat and avoid, and what they will need to have in ...
Views: 5678 - Abusive Parents: Why Do They Deny What Happened? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperParents that are abusive often deny that the abuse has ever taken place. And if it is not denied, then it may even be minimized. Both of these actions can have devastating consequences on the lives of those that were abused. So here I want to take a closer look at why parents deny or minimize ...
Views: 5662 - Customer Service: Is Eye Contact Important? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperSomeone could enter a store and not receive eye contact from anyone who works there, and it might not bother them. The same thing could take place when they go and pay for what they have come to buy, and once again, this might not faze them. This could be because they are in a rush and want ...
Views: 5613 - Approval: Why Do Some People Need Approval? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo gain the approval from others is the ultimate achievement for some people. It’s as if this is the primary purpose that they have on this earth. And should they actually achieve this; their life will then be complete. This will mean that this person’s focus is more or less external. I say ...
Views: 5605 - Responsibility: Why Do Some People Say 'You' Instead Of 'I'? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone talks about something they have been going through or how they currently feel, there is the chance that they will use the world ‘you’. This means that the word ‘I’ is unlikely to be used. So even though one is talking about themselves, it can come across as if they are talking ...
Views: 5584 - Happiness: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Being Happy? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that everybody wants to be happy and yet this doesn’t mean that one will be comfortable when they are happy. For some people, being happy is a wonderful experience and for others, it is something that leads to incredible guilt. And the very thing that one wants is then casing ...
Views: 5574 - Perfection: Why Do Some People Try To Be Perfect? - by Submitted on May 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be seen as perfect is very much a part of the of the modern day world. And this doesn’t only relate to one’s ability in life; it also plays a part in how one looks and in how one feels. Clear examples of this can be found in the media and the fairly recent introduction of anti aging ...
Views: 5517 - Relationships: What Causes One Sided Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperLife is made up of what are often described as opposites and giving and receiving is part of this dynamic. When one of these is done and not the other, it will lead to an imbalance being created. One may receive from another and be unable to give in that situation. Or one may give in one ...
Views: 5456 - Emotions: Can We Become Emotionally Stuck At A Certain Age? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that one’s emotional age is not always the same as their chronological age. And this can be known through how one feels and seen through certain behaviours and reactions that people have. One may even try to deny that they haven’t grown up and justly their behaviour in some ...
Views: 5452 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Worship Women? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the idea of worshipping a woman is mentioned it can trigger all kinds of meanings in one’s mind. And what these meanings are can depend on is where one was brought up. To worship the feminine, which is what women physically represent, can be seen as sacred. The earth itself is often ...
Views: 5423 - Expectations: Where Do Our Expectations Come From? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how one experiences life, expectations play an incredibly important role. Not only are they influencing how one perceives every part of life, they’re also affecting ones emotional and mental well being. This means that what one attracts into their life and what one sees in ...
Views: 5403 - Negative People: Why Are Some People Always Negative? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear that is that life is not always a bed of roses: there are ups and downs and sometimes, there can be more downs than ups. For some people, there will be more ups than there are downs, but for others, the downs will outweigh the ups. One might then come to the conclusion that one ...
Views: 5276 - Psychological Boundaries: What Are Psychological Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word boundary can bring many ideas to mind and this is partly because boundaries can reflect something physical and also something that is not physical or visible to the eye. This could be a wall around a house or marker at the end of a territory for example. And a psychological boundary ...
Views: 5261 - Projection: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Project Their Issues Onto Others? - by Submitted on May 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone doesn’t face what is within them, there is the chance that it will end up being projected onto others. This is not bad per se, as this is a way for someone to realise what they need to work on. Another way of looking at this would be to imagine other people as the white screen ...
Views: 5255 - Responsibility: Why Do Some People Feel Responsible For Others? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who seem to carry the weight of the world on their shoulders. In some shape or form, they are always there for others. And whether they truly want to be there for others is not always irrelevant; it often appears as though they have no choice in the matter. For some ...
Views: 5246 - Trust: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Trust? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperBeing able to trust is an important part of life. And this not only relates to trusting other people, it also relates to trusting oneself. Having trust in life, is another expression of this. This could be trusting in some kind of god for some and for others it could simply be a sense of trust ...
Views: 5236(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Try To Rescue Men? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a relationship between a man and woman is meant to be based on giving and receiving, this is not always the case. For some women, this will be exactly how it is for them and this is going to enhance their life. And yet for others, this will be far from what they can relate to. When ...
Views: 5224 - Conditional Love: What Is Conditional Love? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is love that is not given freely; love that is only given based on certain requirements being fulfilled and met. It is during our childhood that we have our first experience of love and our meaning or model of love is also created as a child. And to be more specific here, the love I ...
Views: 5195 - The Royal Family: Why Are Some People Obsessed With The Royal Family? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOver the ages the purpose of the royal family has changed. Today they are not only an attraction for people from all over the world and for people in Britain: they are also idolised and worshiped by thousands of people. The royal family are the modern day celebrities and this is of course a ...
Views: 5096 - Emotional Needs: Do Our Unmet Emotional Needs Control Our Lives? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be human means that one has needs and these cover a wide range of different areas. For instance, one has: physical, mental and emotional needs. And although each of these are important when it comes to experiencing a level of wellbeing and a sense of fulfilment, it doesn’t mean that one will ...
Views: 5069 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Attract Controlling Men? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a woman can want to experience a relationship with a man that is healthy and functional, there are numerous things that can get in the way if this actually taking place. And one of these things is when a man is controlling. To a one degree or another, both men and women are ...
Views: 5065 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Become Obsessed With Their Ex? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end some people come to conclude that it was no longer working and that its time had come. And then there are others who experience an end to a relationship and find it extremely difficult to let go and move on. This could have been a relationship that was ...
Views: 5013 - Religion: Why Are People Attracted To Religion? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous religions in the world today; some of these have been around for thousands of years and some could be described as new in comparison. And as well as the religions that are clearly definable as religions, there are also other figures and establishments that are serving a very ...
Views: 5011 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Do Everything By Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go for a walk in nature, they would soon see that everything relies on something else in order to survive. One is not going to come across anything that is independent of its environment; what they will see is interdependence. When it comes to a tree for example, it could be ...
Views: 4981 - Disappointment: Do You Always End Up Feeling Disappointed When You Get Your Hopes Up? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne is going to have moments in their life where having something to look forward to enables them to get through their day, and this could be something that lasts for quite some time. This could be because what they’re doing is something they would rather not be doing or perhaps one is going ...
Views: 4959 - Bleeding Gums: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Bleeding Gums? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn todays world, ones image has become incredibly important. And there are all kinds of options for one to choose from when it comes to enhancing their image or even completely transforming it. The style of clothes that one wears can be changed, as can the style and colour of their hair. ...
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