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- Going On with Someone Who You Know Isn’t for You Might be a Waste of Your Time - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction Many are driven by a host of factors which drive them to “fall in love” with the wrong person and enter unhealthy relationships. Developing Self-Awareness, understanding the factors that control them and making the necessary changes are important in order to stop such pattern ...
Views: 1287 - Have any Regrets about Your Relationships? Why not Make the Necessary Changes NOW – and Succeed? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2012 from Doron GilIntroduction The Top Five Regrets outlined here as related to a successful intimate relationship can help you consider how you “do” you own relationships. They can motivate you to think upon and reflect whether you allow yourself to be “who you are” in a relationship – or not; whether you ...
Views: 1201 - Have You Ever Thought about Making an Agreement with YOURSELF in Order to Succeed with Your Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2012 from Doron GilIt is customary these days for partners to institute a prenuptial agreement or, while dating, a “relationship agreement” - mutually agreeing on the “relationships terms and conditions”: for example, whether the partners commit to meet once or twice a week; whether they commit to spend a night or ...
Views: 1117 - Having a Partner & Being in an Intimate Relationship: Does it Bring More Happiness? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2013 from Doron GilIs there a correlation between having a partner and being happy? Some believe that the “trick” to being happy is to have a relationship, as if it will solve all problems: depression, sadness, low self-esteem and so on. Having a relationship – so they believe – will make them satisfied and ...
Views: 1536 - Healing after a Failed Relationship: Learn how Self-Awareness Enables You to Heal & to Move Forward - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2012 from Doron GilIf you have a number of failed relationships behind you, it is very likely that you feel wounded, depressed, despaired and lonely. In order to become empowered to develop a healthy and satisfying relationship you first need to heal these wounds. This is possible when you become aware of what it ...
Views: 2753 - How & Why Does Self-Awareness Enable You to Succeed with Your Relationships: Two Examples - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION It isn’t easy to change habits. But when it comes to intimate relationships, sticking-on to your habits is a sure way to fail. When you understand your habits, realize the damage they cause to your relationships and make the necessary effort to change them, you increase your ...
Views: 1400 - How do Stinginess, Jealousy & Unfaithfulness & the Need for Control Harm Your Relationships? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2012 from Doron GilDenying traits, emotions and behaviors and projecting them onto your partner sabotages your relationships. As long as you are not aware of this being the case you will continue harm your relationships time and again. Becoming aware is therefore the key to change. Here are three examples of ...
Views: 2087 - How to Change from Being Single & Alone to Having a Satisfying Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on May 17, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction If you are without a relationship for a long time now, you might consider yourself “a loneliness expert”. Indeed, such an option is always available. But before you decide to adapt such an “expertise” you can choose another option: to look inwards, find out things about yourself ...
Views: 1332 - How to Combat the Fear of Being Alone and Become Empowered to Develop a Healthy and Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2011 from Doron GilThe best way to talk about the damage that the fear of being alone causes to those “infected” by it is by bringing up a real-life-anecdote: REBECCA Every evening, instead of going home after a busy day at work, Rebecca meets men on blind dates. What would she do all alone at home anyway? ...
Views: 1441 - How to Develop Self-Awareness & Succeed with Your Relationships 1: Stages of the Process - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Doron GilIf you are sincerely motivated to develop a satisfying relationship and haven’t succeeded until now, developing your Self-Awareness is a must. It is the only means by which you can realize what made you fail in your relationships until now, change what needs change and become empowered to ...
Views: 1113 - How to Develop Self-Awareness & Succeed with Your Relationships 2: The Importance of Observing Yourself - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION Observing yourself enables you to become aware of your thoughts, feelings, attitudes, reactions and behaviors in relationships (or in staying single). You can then understand how these drive you to sabotage your relationships. This enables you to make the necessary changes and ...
Views: 2046 - How to Ensure Personal Growth and a Satisfying Relationship: Getting in Touch with Your Shadow is a Great Beginning! - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2011 from Doron GilWe all like to think we have only “good”, “nice”, “elegant”, “friendly” traits. While trying to present a nice “face” to ourselves and our partners, we repress and deny other traits of us, which we think carry “negative” connotations; which are not “socially accepted”; which might bring us ...
Views: 1409 - How to Find a Partner and Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2011 from Doron GilThe one-million dollar question is: what does it take to find a suitable partner and cultivate a truly successful relationship? My simple answer is: it takes SELF-AWARENESS: identifying and understanding what stands in your way from succeeding. You might be surprised to find out that if ...
Views: 1430 - How to Find Out What Prevents You from Having a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Doron GilHas it happened to you that in spite of your desire to have a partner with whom to develop an intimate relationship you found yourself, time and again, with partners that were wrong for you; having the same conflicts and arguments that you’ve had in the past; dissatisfied and alienated? Have ...
Views: 728 - How to Release Yourself from Your Inner-Prison and Make Conscious Decisions about Your Life and Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2011 from Doron GilBradley Manning, a 23 year old American soldier is in prison for leaking “SECRET INFORMATION” (250 thousand documents) to WikiLeaks. Some say he is a courageous man and call him a hero; others say he is a traitor. While Bradley Manning is in jail awaiting trial, many others who walk around ...
Views: 2156 - How to Survive a Relationship When You and Your Partner Have Different Points of View of How Things “Should Be” - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Doron GilWhen you cling on to your belief that you are right and your partner is wrong you often find yourself involved in power struggles and conflicts about “who's right”. Unintentionally, you make “being right” your first priority instead of your relationship. You neither listen to your partner nor ...
Views: 1202 - How to Turn a Failed Relationship into a Successful One: Self-Awareness is the Answer - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION It isn’t easy to change habits. But when it comes to intimate relationships, sticking-on to your habits is a sure way to fail. When you understand your habits, realize the damage they cause to your relationships and make the necessary effort to change them, you increase your ...
Views: 2773 - If You Are Single and Dating Looking for a Satisfying Intimate Relationship, You Should Learn the Healing Power of Self-Reflection - by Submitted on May 27, 2013 from Doron GilIf you are among those who dream about finding “the one and only”; “the perfect match”; “the knight on the white horse” - you probably have developed a host of fantasies and hopes about how this person will look like; will be like; will behave like, love and treat you. And you probably have ...
Views: 1188 - If You Are Still Single Hoping to Have a Relationship, Use the Holidays to Figure Out How to Succeed in Developing Intimacy - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2013 from Doron GilThe Holidays are approaching! Isn’t it time to celebrate? Not for everybody. If you are single fearing being alone during the holidays, your might want the festivities to pass as quickly as possible. “No time of the year might be so dark, uncomfortable and annoying”, you tell yourself”; “If ...
Views: 1085 - If You Are Unhappy About Your Relationship (or Lack of) - Learn How to Develop a Satisfying One! - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2012 from Doron GilARE YOU UNHAPPY WITH YOUR INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP? If you are unhappy in your relationship – or with your failed attempts at finding a partner – “use” it to figure out what it takes to develop a successful relationship. Your unhappiness, as much as it is an awful feeling, can serve as a turning ...
Views: 856 - If You Fail with Your Relationships Time and Again, Isn’t It Time to Develop Your Self-Awareness? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2011 from Doron GilAt times, when you find yourself failing – once again! - to develop a successful intimate relationship, you may think about developing your Self-Awareness and get a hold on the ways in which you sabotage your relationships. But then, do you feel motivated to doing so out of belief in the merit ...
Views: 1295 - If You Perceive Yourself to be a “Quality Single” and are Enrolled with “Quality Dating-Sites” – Why don’t You Already Have a Successful Intimacy? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2012 from Doron GilAmong the many dating-sites that have flourished during the last couple of years there are some which advertise themselves as designed for “Quality Singles”. These are tailored, apparently, for a “select” group of singles who perceive themselves to be highly intelligent, well-educated, ...
Views: 1146 - If You Wish to Succeed Having a Satisfying Intimate Relationship with Another, You First Need to Develop a Relationship with YOURSELF - by Submitted on May 03, 2013 from Doron GilIf you have been trying for quite some time now to develop an intimate relationship but are not successful, in most likelihood you keep trying, keep dating others, hoping and praying that one day, eventually, you will succeed. But would you? Is there truly a reason to believe that if you ...
Views: 1224 - Is there a Correlation between Being a Successful Professional Woman to Having a Successful Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2013 from Doron GilWomen seem to be more emancipated than ever before. Many of them have well-paying jobs, highly-respected positions and credentials, and can support themselves financially. All these empower them to go on dates feeling good about themselves and acquire the “expertise” necessary to determine which ...
Views: 1312 - Letting Go of an Unsatisfying Intimate Relationship: Why Many Don’t Have the Courage for & why it is Healthy and Important - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2013 from Doron GilAt times, letting go is very healthy. Yet there are many who don’t have the courage to let go, and they resort to various reasons and justifications to explain – to themselves and to others – why they stay stuck in a bad relationship. While staying they might be “obsessed” about their partner, ...
Views: 1981 - Listen to Your Partner’s Feedback: It Will Help You Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION Your partners might often see in you characteristics and traits you don’t acknowledge and accept in yourself. The reason being – you reject and depress these in you if you feel they don’t correlate with the person that you want to believe you are. Listening to what your partners ...
Views: 1235 - Longing: Who Do You Long For After Separation? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Doron GilLonging for your partner can fill you with joy, good thoughts and anticipation. There is someone to long for; to write poems to; to dream about at night. But if your partner is no longer there, longing can make you sad and melancholic, arousing the feeling of loneliness. But who are you ...
Views: 2193 - Making the Right New Year Resolution Will Enable You to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION No matter how smart, intelligent, good-looking and “in-demand” you are, as long as you are not successful in developing the relationship you desire it means that there is something you do wrong. Why not make a New-Year Resolution to understand what this “something” is and become ...
Views: 1281 - Mindfulness, Self-Awareness & Intimacy: How to Become Empowered to Develop a Successful Relationship - by Submitted on May 05, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction When you get up the courage and the motivation to go through the process of mindfulness, observe, pay attention, become aware and accept what you see, the more self-understanding and personal-growth you gain, and the more empowered you become to develop a successful intimate ...
Views: 1398 - Needing Love & Being Desperate and Dependent Might Kill Your Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2012 from Doron GilIntroduction If you are driven by neediness and dependency you might be “pushed” into unhealthy, even abusive relationships. These might bring uncomfortable, terrible consequences in terms of depression, feelings of worthlessness and of loneliness. Becoming aware of your needs and conquering ...
Views: 2156 - Needs You Are Not Aware of Might Harm Your Relationships! How to Identify Them and De-activate Their Power - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2011 from Doron GilThere are many needs of which you are NOT aware that control you and harm your interactions with your partner. It is only when you develop Self-Awareness and get a grip of these needs that you can de-activate the power they exert over you and stop harming your relationships. KATE’S ...
Views: 1161 - Not Being Connected to Your Will Harms Your Relationships: Get to Know What You Want and Learn to Express it! - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2012 from Doron GilOne of the “surest” ways to fail in your relationships is by not being connected to your will; by compromising yourself at the altar of the relationship and by not being true to yourself. It is important that you understand why you’ve chosen these ways and realize how by doing so you sabotage ...
Views: 1241 - Observation and Awareness: The Keys to Understanding Why Your Relationships Fail - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2011 from Doron GilAre you fed up from blind-dates which lead you nowhere? Meeting the wrong people on dating sites? Experiencing disappointing relationships? If so, the time may have come for you to sit back and contemplate what’s going on and what to do next. The best way for you to use this time is to ...
Views: 1022 - Predict Your Success or Failure with Relationships – and Make the Best to Succeed! - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Doron GilSerious researchers are looking for ways to predict and identify future criminals. Research has shown that criminals serving time for violent acts have already shown violent tendencies in elementary school. By the same token, studies comparing introverts and extroverts have found that such ...
Views: 1409 - Relationships Advice: Cultivating an Intimate Relationship is like Taking Care of Precious Plants - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2011 from Doron GilThere are those who are so talented at taking care of plants that whichever plant they care for will grow and live forever. But when it comes to cultivating a relationship with a partner, the story is different. Is there anything they can do to change this situation? I've always been ...
Views: 1472 - Research Shows that Couples Are Usually Happier than Singles. If You Are Single Wanting a Relationship, Why Are You Still Alone? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2012 from Doron GilYou may have heard experts saying that couples usually feel happier in their life then singles. Indeed, studies show that in spite of the escalating number of divorces and separations, 80% of young adults still say they are looking forward to a good marriage (or living together), a satisfying ...
Views: 1376 - Rushing to Find a Partner by Christmas Might Mislead You. Be Careful Not to Shoot Yourself in the Foot! - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION As long as you run the dating-marathon in order to have a relationship by Christmas rather than taking the time to contemplate you past failures and learn what to change, you might fail once again! DON’T SHOOT YOURSELF IN THE FOOT! Is it possible that due to so many dates ...
Views: 1436 - Saying YES When You Rather Say NO Harms the Relationship. Make a Change and Stop Sabotaging Your Intimacy - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2013 from Doron GilLearning to say “No” is an important step forward in improving your quality of life and relationships. Often, those who can’t say “No” within a relationship (or, for that matter, with new dates even before a relationship has been formalized) are often those who can’t say “No” in other situations ...
Views: 1144 - Self-Awareness is at the Core of Self-Growth, Self-Improvement and Self-Empowerment - by Submitted on May 15, 2011 from Doron GilSelf-Growth, Self-Improvement and Self-Empowerment are three concepts which go hand in hand. When you embark on any one of them, you’re actually embarking on all three simultaneously. You are then on the path to having a much better personal and professional life and relationships. It says ...
Views: 2570 - Self-Awareness: the Key to Understanding How You Sabotage Your Relationships and How to Change - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2011 from Doron GilTrying to develop an intimate relationship but failing time after time is a hint that something you do harms your attempts. Taking a careful look at what this “something” is will enable you to (finally) stop harming your relationships and develop the bond you desire. SELF-AWARENESS IS THE ...
Views: 1634 - Self-manipulations, Justifications and Explanations Singles Use to Justify their Failed Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Doron GilDuring my many years of experience with Self-Awareness and Relationships I’ve witnessed often how many people use self-manipulations to justify to themselves why they AREN’T successful in developing an intimate relationship. These justifications apparently help them feel “good” about themselves. ...
Views: 1368 - Self-Observation, Acceptance of What You Notice and Motivation to Change Place You on the Road to a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2011 from Doron GilIt is safe to assume that no one has ever taught you the importance of SELF-OBSERVATION: how to look inwards, contemplate your thoughts, feelings, reactions and behaviors. Observation will help you pay attention to your reactions and behaviors with your partners and become aware of the ways in ...
Views: 1427 - Single & Dating? Give Yourself the Perfect Christmas Gift & Succeed in Having an Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2011 from Doron GilCHRISTMAS IS A TIME TO GIVE AND RECEIVE PRESENTS As Christmas approaches you probably wonder what presents to give. If you have a partner you want to show how much you love him/her. You are also curious what gift they’ll give you. But if you don’t have a partner, here’s an idea for a great ...
Views: 1220 - Single & Dating? Note that People Who Are Separated or “In the Process” Might Not Be “Available” for a Serious Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2012 from Doron GilIf you are taking part in the dating scene you have probably met many who claim to be in the process of divorce/separation or declare that they have just recently separated. Agreeing to go out with them under the assumption that a satisfying relationship might develop is, in most likelihood, a ...
Views: 1384 - Spying on Your Partner OR Learning about Yourself: Which one is Better in the Long Run? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2012 from Doron GilPartners’ spying on each other is not a new phenomenon. What is new is the “James Bond” techniques they use. In different stores in Manhattan you can find, these days, various devises to spy on your “loved one”: a pen, glasses, a key-chain, a tie, a watch, a clock, even a teddy bear - all of ...
Views: 1391 - Still Single? Stop Justifying Your Failures! Gain Self-Awareness and Develop a Successful Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION If you have been failing in your relationships time and again, you might have resorted to self-manipulations to justify to yourself why you fail. Instead of doing so, become aware of the true reasons behind your failures – and learn how to succeed! JUSTIFICATION YOU USE If ...
Views: 1577 - Still Single? You Don’t Have to Be! 10 Factors Which Stand in Your Way from Finding and Cultivating the Relationship You Desire! - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2011 from Doron GilIF BY NOW YOU: 1) Have enrolled with numerous on-line dating sites, shaped your profile, chatted with others, went on many dates, but was never able to develop a satisfying relationship; and 2) Have always blamed your partners (or dates) for the failure of a possible relationship; and 3) ...
Views: 1082 - Stop Deceiving Yourself about Intimacy: Facing Reality will Lead You to a Successful Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction There are those who, regardless of how many relationships they have attempted to develop, are failing time and again. Waking-up to face reality is not easy. But it is only when they become willing to look inwards; acknowledge that something must be wrong with the way they ...
Views: 1619 - Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships! Learn How and Develop a Successful Intimacy - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2012 from Doron GilIf you desire to have a satisfying intimate relationship but haven’t been successful until now, you can probably “predict”, your chances at success next time around based on your past experiences. In all likelihood, if you have failed until now, there is no reason to believe you will succeed ...
Views: 2424 - Survive the Holidays’ Blues: Learn about Yourself and Become Empowered to Develop a Successful Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION Are you afraid from being infected with the “holidays’ blues”? From feeling depressed and lonely? The best you can do for yourself is be determined to “use” the holidays’ time to find out why you’re still single and what you need to “work on” and change in order to find a partner ...
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