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- My Husband is Saying He Wants a Divorce - Does it Mean the End of the Marriage? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often receive comments and emails from wives who tell me that their husband is claiming that he wants a divorce, and the wives want to know if this means the end of the marriage. The answer to this question is going to greatly depend upon the circumstances around it, but I believe that until ...
Views: 450 - I'm Afraid Our Marital Separation Is Failing. I Worry I'll Become A Bitter, Divorced Woman Who Is All Alone - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2020 from Leslie CaneFear is probably the most common emotion that separated wives experience, at least wives who are still invested in their marriages. It's not hard to understand why. Most of us believe that we are at risk of losing what we care most about - the man we love, potentially the father of our children, ...
Views: 447 - My Husband Wants to Leave - Should I Chase Him? Why Should LURE Him, Not Chase Him - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2020 from Leslie CaneAlthough no one can really answer this question for you, I hope to give you insights on what has worked for me and others. Through my own experience and research, I've developed a theory on what will make a husband stay and what will drive him further away. It is my opinion that "chasing a ...
Views: 447 - Should I Go Back To My Husband To Try To Save My Family? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneFamily can be a huge contributing factor in whether you attempt to save your marriage or not. Many people confess to me that were it not for their children, the decision of whether or not to end their marriage would probably be a lot easier. Children can even factor into the equation once the ...
Views: 445 - My Husband Doesn't Care That Our Marriage Is Falling Apart. Can It Still Work If I'm Trying To Save It And My Husband Is Not? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from people who have a strong sense that their marriage is potentially in trouble. They can not help but notice that something has changed. Their spouse may be distant or not affectionate. It might seem as if there is nothing to really talk about anymore. There can be awkward ...
Views: 444 - Trying to Save a Marriage? Advice on What Works and What Doesn't - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2020 from Leslie CaneWhen I was trying to save my marriage a couple of years ago, I read everything I could get my hands on that would help me prevent a divorce. I blindly followed most of this advice and found it to be flawed, not only because it didn't work, but because it sets the couple on a frustrating path ...
Views: 444 - My Husband Is Very Distant And Emotionally Detached Lately. I Think He Longer Loves Me: Tips To Get Him Invested Again - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often get emails from wives who ask me to suggest ways to get their husband's love back in their marriage. Usually, with a bit of prompting, I can get them to tell me that they really fear their husbands are no longer "in love" with them. This is usually just a feeling or suspicion that they ...
Views: 442 - My Separated Husband Came Home To See If The Spark Would Come Back. He Says It Hasn't. What Now? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2020 from Leslie CaneOften, when you are separated, your greatest obstacle seems to be getting your separated husband to be willing to come back home. Many wives hope that if they can just find a way to overcome this obstacle, then things will just fall back into place once he returns home where he belongs. But what ...
Views: 440 - How To Mend A Broken Marriage Alone: Even When You Don't Know What Happened And Aren't Sure How To Fix It - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from people who, seemingly all of a sudden, are shocked at the state of their marriage. Sometimes, you seem to be kind of coasting along, and then something will happen which will jolt you to a shocking reality. Your marriage is visibly shaken or altered and you have no idea how ...
Views: 439 - My Husband Makes Me Feel Bad About Myself During Our Separation: I'm Obviously Much More Committed Than He Is. It's Lopsided. - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2020 from Leslie CaneWhen you're married but separated, it's very common to constantly evaluate what is going on with your spouse. You want to know what he's thinking, how he's feeling, and what all of this might mean in terms of what he wants moving forward. This can be especially true if you want to save your ...
Views: 438 - He Wants a Divorce But You Don't - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2020 from Leslie CaneI can empathize with many of the emails from visitors who ask for advice on how to proceed when their husband wants a divorce, but they want to save their marriage. I was in the same situation a few years ago. This is a very tough spot to be in because you feel as if your back is against the ...
Views: 436 - Is It Normal To Second Guess Yourself Or Have Second Thoughts About Separating? I Thought I Wanted The Separation, But Now I Realize I Made A Mistake And Love My Spouse - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from spouses who, during a separation or break that they themselves had asked for, had the sudden realization as to what a huge mistake they made. I often hear comments like "I'm the one who pushed for the separation. I really thought I'd fallen out of love with my spouse. But, ...
Views: 435 - The Trial Separation - Does it Work? When A Trial Separation Is Actually A Good Idea That Can Save Your Marriage. - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2020 from Leslie CaneRecent statistics show us that couples are trying trial separations in record numbers. There are potentially endless reasons for this. But, I believe that the economy is playing a large role. Maintaining and paying for two households is much more expensive than paying for one. Many couples ...
Views: 435 - My Husband Says He Wants To See Where Our Relationship Leads As Friends - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneOne thing that frustrates many wives who are newly separated or taking a husband initiated "break" from their marriage is the husband's lack of clarity about how things are going to work. The wife often wishes that he could be specific about how things are going to unfold in the days and weeks ...
Views: 434 - How to Reconcile Your Marriage: Tips On Where To Place Your Focus - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2020 from Leslie CaneIf you've found this article, I know that there is one person in your marriage who is at least willing to consider reconciling. This is good news because I am living proof that repairing a marriage only takes one person who wants to, at least initially. This article is based on my personal ...
Views: 433 - My Separated Husband Says It's Over Between Us. He Wants To Know Why I Won't Accept It. - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who want to believe in their hearts that there is still a chance for their separated marriage. However, their husband isn't nearly as optimistic and he will sometimes try to convince the wife that she should just accept that there may not be a reconciliation. Often, ...
Views: 430 - When is it Time to End a Marriage? Here's A Much Better Question To Ask - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2020 from Leslie CaneHere's fair disclosure right upfront. I am a big proponent of saving marriages and preventing divorce. I know first hand that even problem marriages which seem to be at the end can be saved. Still, I am often contacted by people who ask me "how do I know it is really the end of my marriage?" ...
Views: 429 - For How Long Should I Hold On To My Marriage If My Separated Husband Has Feelings For Someone Else? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who are well aware that their marriage is only hanging by a thread. Many feel as if they are barely hanging on. Sometimes, it's pretty clear that the husband's heart isn't fully in it, although perhaps he has made a commitment to you and your marriage. Sometimes, ...
Views: 428 - How Long Before My Husband Comes Home So We Can Try To Work Things Out And Save Our Marriage? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from wives who are practically pacing a trail on their floors as they are waiting for their husbands to decide to come back home and work things out. Sometimes, their husband is gone for much longer than they thought or would have hoped. Many times, he won't give them a straight ...
Views: 428 - Can My Marriage Be Saved When My Husband Wants A Separation? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from panicked wives whose husbands have just or recently told them that he wants a separation. For many wives, the "s word" is often akin to proclaiming that the marriage is most definitely over, at least in her eyes. Many people associate a separation with an eventual divorce and ...
Views: 427 - I'm Not Sure If I Can Tolerate My Husband Or Marriage Anymore. Should I Try To Save It Or Just Leave? Which Would Be Easier Or Healthier? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from folks who know that they are at a crossroads in their marriages. They are well aware that neither themselves nor their spouse is happy. They look around and they perceive that their marriage is "less than" that of friends, family members, or associates. So they start to ...
Views: 424 - My Husband Will Not Even Talk About Saving Our Marriage. And He Won't Listen Either - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from wives who want to know how to broach the conversation about saving their marriage. And, they want to make sure that when they are having this discussion, their husband is agreeable to what they are saying. No one wants to feel as though they're speaking to a brick wall. Some ...
Views: 424 - I Don't Want To Give Up But My Husband Says Our Marriage Isn't Working: How To Work Around This - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2020 from Leslie CaneI recently heard from a wife whose husband had been constantly telling her that their marriage "just wasn't working" for him anymore and that he was thinking about exploring other options. Needless to say, this wasn't what she wanted to hear. He'd been talking about separating, staying with ...
Views: 421 - How To Save A Marriage When The Trust Is Gone. Rebuilding The Trust In A Troubled Or Separated Marriage - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from people who are very clear (and remorseful) about the fact that the big contributing factor to them separating from their spouse is a lack of trust. Often, one spouse has done something unfortunate and significant enough for the other to lose trust in them, which has led to ...
Views: 420 - Why Can't I Stop Thinking That My Husband is Going to Leave Me? Tips and Advice That May Help - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from wives who are sometimes dangerously fixated on what they think is the eventual break up of their marriage (which they believe will start once their husband leaves them.) Sometimes, this is caused by the husband's threatening to leave or by the fact that he has left before. ...
Views: 417 - Getting His Love Back In Your Marriage When He Claims He's Not "In Love" With You - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2020 from Leslie CaneSince I've begun writing about returning love to marriage, I often have wives who approach me and say they want to save their marriage, but their husbands have indicated that (or act as if) they no longer love or are in love with them. These wives don't know how in the world they can save or ...
Views: 415 - Husband Wants Out of the Marriage? Advice For Anxious Wives On How To React When He Suddenly Wants Space, A Break, Separation, Or Divorce. - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2020 from Leslie CaneProbably one of the most common requests or emails that I get is a request for advice when a husband "wants out" of the marriage. Now, these emails run the gauntlet. Sometimes, the husband hasn't really said anything, but has hinted around, or is acting in such a way that the wife has a pretty ...
Views: 415 - My Husband Has Checked Out Of Our Marriage: Can Our Marriage Be Saved If the Husband Wants Out? Yes, Here's How. - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2020 from Leslie CaneI get a lot of emails from women who feel like they are fighting a losing battle. For whatever reason, their husband has indicated that he wants out. Or, he hasn't spoken but it's obvious that he has completely checked out. Of course, the wives don't want a divorce, but the harder they try to ...
Views: 414 - He Wants His Space, But You Want Him Back? Tips For Understanding The Best Way To Play This - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2020 from Leslie CaneI get a lot of emails from wives and girlfriends who aren't sure if (or how) to give their husbands and boyfriends "space" or some time apart. The most common fear for complying with this request is that if you let him go, he's going to determine that he actually likes being apart and will not ...
Views: 413 - How To Get Your Husband Back When He Separates From You By Understanding Deliberate Display And Prioritizing The Positive - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2020 from Leslie CaneIf you've found this article and are looking for ways and tactics to get your husband back, I want you to understand one thing right up front: a separation does not necessarily mean a divorce. I say this because I see so many wives bracing themselves to throw in the towel when in fact this is ...
Views: 412 - My Husband Wants Me Out Of The House. Sometimes I Feel Like My Husband Acts Rude To Get Me To Leave Him. But I Don't Want To Leave My Home. - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2020 from Leslie CaneOften, there's a period of time in your marriage where you know that a separation could be just around the corner. During this time period, you and your husband can kind of circle one another. Both parties can feel that one of them is going to make the move to leave. The question is WHO it is ...
Views: 411 - Our Marriage Is Loveless But I Can't Leave: Finding Happiness In An Unhappy Marriage - Tips and Advice That May Help - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2020 from Leslie CaneI recently received an email from a wife who described her marriage as "loveless." However, she told me that she had two children whom she would never dream of putting through a divorce. She could not stand the thought of forcing her kids to grow up in a single-parent home. So, she knew that ...
Views: 405 - Life After The Separation. Is It Like A Divorce? What Happens With Loneliness, The Kids, And Dating. - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from people whose spouse is insisting on a marital separation. The folks reaching out are understandably very reluctant about the separation because they don't know what to expect. Most people haven't been separated before, so they can't anticipate what their life might look ...
Views: 403 - The Most Effective Ways To Save Your Marriage Despite A Trial Separation - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI find that very few people go into a separation thinking that it is going to improve their marriage. Very few people are excited about it. But many feel that it might be their only hope if they want to avoid a divorce. And, since its natural to try to look on the bright side, many of us hope ...
Views: 401 - Should I Leave My Marriage If I'm Unhappy And My Husband Is Defensive? My Husband Just Told Me If I'm So Unhappy With My Marriage, Then I Should Leave - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2020 from Leslie CaneI don't think that anyone enjoys being unsatisfied with their marriage. I don't think that anyone strives to be unhappy. In fact, many of us don't admit, even to ourselves, that we are not content with our marriage until things have gotten pretty bad. And sometimes, once we admit this ...
Views: 399 - My Husband Is Unhappy With Family Life: He No Longer Wants The Responsibility Of A Wife, Marriage, And Family - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who honestly believe that they are losing their husbands due to a situation that is very difficult to change. Many people believe that if you know why your spouse isn't happy, then the logical thing to do would be to fix the problem causing the unhappiness and then to ...
Views: 398 - Saving Your Marriage by Understanding and Correctly Addressing the True Causes of Divorce - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2020 from Leslie CaneAsk any five random people "what causes a divorce?" and you may hear a few different answers, but most people will likely answer with either "money," "infidelity," or "sex." These factors are indeed thought to be the most common causes of divorce, but they're only precursors to the number one ...
Views: 395 - How Do I Make My Husband Love Me Back? These Advice and Tips May Help You Figure Out The Best Approach - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2020 from Leslie CaneIt's hard to ignore the signs that your husband has checked out of the marriage or is pulling away from you. I get many emails from wives who outline several different behaviors - lack of physical affection, spending less time at home, distancing themselves from the family, being overly critical ...
Views: 379 - We’re Trying To Save Our Marriage, But Things Feel Forced - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from people who are trying to save their marriages, but who aren't sure if things are going as well as they had hoped. Many people tell me that things feel very awkward or “forced” and they are worried that this means that they are just not going to make it. A wife might say, ...
Views: 379 - Saving Your Marriage And Preventing A Divorce Single-Handedly When Your Husband Does Not Want To Participate. Tips and Advice That May Help - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from Leslie CaneI heard from a wife who told me that no matter what she did or said, she couldn't get her husband on board when it came to their marriage. Specifically, she said: "I can't convince my husband to work with me to improve our marriage. I'm not sure that I will able to do this by myself. How can ...
Views: 375 - Ways To Get The Spark Back In Your Marriage When All the Love Has Been Lost And The Chemistry Is Gone - by Submitted on May 04, 2020 from Leslie CaneI get this question quite often from folks who feel that their marriage has reached the point of no return. They feel as if they and their spouse have become strangers and while they may not be actively fighting, they are not actively loving either. The spark is gone. The chemistry is off. The ...
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