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- Why Can't I Stop Thinking That My Husband is Going to Leave Me? Tips and Advice That May Help - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from wives who are sometimes dangerously fixated on what they think is the eventual break up of their marriage (which they believe will start once their husband leaves them.) Sometimes, this is caused by the husband's threatening to leave or by the fact that he has left before. ...
Views: 417 - 3 Big Warning Signs Your Husband is Planning to Leave You Or File For Divorce - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often write about saving or rescuing marriages in trouble, so sometimes I'm asked to provide the warning signs for wives who suspect that their husband is planning on leaving or filing for divorce. Of course, the warning signs will be slightly different for every couple, but I've found that ...
Views: 619 - A Letter To A Husband To Convince Him Not To Leave The Marriage: What Should It Include. Can It Work? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often get requests for tips on how to write a very effective letter meant to convince a husband that the marriage is worth saving and can be rescued if both parties work together to make this happen. Many wives want to go with the letter route because they feel that their husband is just not ...
Views: 614 - Boundaries And Lines That You Shouldn't Cross During Your Marital Or Trial Separation - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2021 from Leslie CaneMany of the people who reach out to me are wives. They are wives who are reluctantly separated and who are miserable living without their husbands. Understandably, they often experiment with different strategies and behaviors to try to encourage a reconciliation. Sometimes, these experiments ...
Views: 840 - Can A Fresh Start Avoid A Marital Separation? Can You Start Fresh When You Are Separated And Want To Save Your Marriage? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2021 from Leslie CaneThere are many strategies that couples might try when it feels like they're treading water with their marriage. Often, they will first sincerely try to work through their issues. Unfortunately, this can be a tricky and/or gradual process. So couples can become impatient or frustrated. That's why ...
Views: 1097 - Can A Marriage Survive A Blended Family? My Husband Doesn't Like My Kids. I Feel Like I Have To Choose Between My Spouse And My Children. - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2020 from Leslie CaneThere's an old saying which goes: "when you marry someone, you are also marrying their family - their parents, their children, and their siblings." Of course, when you are deeply in love, you figure that you can handle any extended family that comes your way. And sometimes, families actually get ...
Views: 508 - Can My Marriage Be Saved When My Husband Wants A Separation? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from panicked wives whose husbands have just or recently told them that he wants a separation. For many wives, the "s word" is often akin to proclaiming that the marriage is most definitely over, at least in her eyes. Many people associate a separation with an eventual divorce and ...
Views: 467 - Can My Marriage Be Saved When My Husband Wants A Separation? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from panicked wives whose husbands have just or recently told them that he wants a separation. For many wives, the "s word" is often akin to proclaiming that the marriage is most definitely over, at least in her eyes. Many people associate a separation with an eventual divorce and ...
Views: 427 - Can Unhappy Marriages Become Happy Again? Yes! Here's What It Takes To Rebuild. - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2020 from Leslie CaneIt's common for me to hear from people who are dealing with an unhappy spouse or an unhappy marriage. Rebuilding contentment in your marriage is challenging enough, but the challenge can feel insurmountable when your spouse expresses doubt about your ability to be a happy couple going forward. ...
Views: 479 - Can You Save A Marriage When The Love Is Gone? Can A Marriage Survive Falling Out Of Love? - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI hear from many spouses who are sure that their spouse is no longer "in love" with them. Sometimes, their spouse has actually told them as much. Other times, their spouse is communicating this message, but they are doing so with actions and not words. In short, the spouse just isn't attentive ...
Views: 619 - Do I Need to Back Off During My Separation So That My Husband Comes Back to Me? Backing Off, Yes. Ignoring, No. - by Submitted on May 15, 2020 from Leslie CaneI recently received an email from a wife who had just begun a separation from her husband. This was a very difficult time for her and she wasn't sure how she should proceed or act in the days ahead. She missed her husband and wanted to retain regular contact with him. It was unbearable for ...
Views: 611 - Easy Tips To Prevent Your Husband From Divorcing You - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2020 from Leslie CaneMost of the people who contact me are willing to do just about anything to save their marriage and prevent a divorce. Sometimes, their spouse doesn't want a divorce either, but this isn't always the case. The situation that I most often see is that one spouse is considering a divorce, while the ...
Views: 507 - For How Long Should A Trial Separation Last? What Is The Average Time For A Separation Before Reconciliation? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from folks who are getting ready to separate from their spouse. Many never wanted the separation to begin with and they are dreading it now. So, they want to know what they are up against and how long they must endure it. Some of them are dealing with spouses who are insinuating or ...
Views: 750 - For How Long Should I Hold On To My Marriage If My Separated Husband Has Feelings For Someone Else? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who are well aware that their marriage is only hanging by a thread. Many feel as if they are barely hanging on. Sometimes, it's pretty clear that the husband's heart isn't fully in it, although perhaps he has made a commitment to you and your marriage. Sometimes, ...
Views: 428 - For How Long Should You Give Your Spouse Space During A Separation? And How Can You Be Patient For Days, Weeks, Or Months? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from people who have come to understand that it's often best to comply with their spouse's request for "space." Often, the last thing that they want is a separation or a break. But often after some time, it has become obvious that nothing else is going to satisfy their spouse. ...
Views: 615 - Getting His Love Back In Your Marriage When He Claims He's Not "In Love" With You - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2020 from Leslie CaneSince I've begun writing about returning love to marriage, I often have wives who approach me and say they want to save their marriage, but their husbands have indicated that (or act as if) they no longer love or are in love with them. These wives don't know how in the world they can save or ...
Views: 415 - He Wants a Divorce But You Don't - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2020 from Leslie CaneI can empathize with many of the emails from visitors who ask for advice on how to proceed when their husband wants a divorce, but they want to save their marriage. I was in the same situation a few years ago. This is a very tough spot to be in because you feel as if your back is against the ...
Views: 436 - He Wants His Space, But You Want Him Back? Tips For Understanding The Best Way To Play This - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2020 from Leslie CaneI get a lot of emails from wives and girlfriends who aren't sure if (or how) to give their husbands and boyfriends "space" or some time apart. The most common fear for complying with this request is that if you let him go, he's going to determine that he actually likes being apart and will not ...
Views: 413 - How Can I Be Sure That My Husband Will Stay When He's Admitted He's No Longer In Love Me? - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who have heard a very difficult truth from their husbands. He's now claiming that he is no longer in love with her. But after dropping that bit of bad news, he's assuring her that he's going to stay either because of the children or because of his sense of ...
Views: 816 - How Can I Change Myself To Re-Attract My Separated Husband? How Can I Make Him Attracted To Me Again When I Look Different Or Have Gained Weight? - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneThere are times when you are dealing with a trial or marital separation where you don't really know for sure why your husband pursued all of this. Sure, he may have given you very general descriptions about being unhappy or needing his space, but he hasn't come right out and told you EXACTLY why ...
Views: 1940 - How Can I Make My Husband Understand My Feelings? These Tips Might Help - by Submitted on May 08, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from wives who feel as if they may as well be speaking a foreign language to their husbands because he doesn't seem to understand what they are saying, especially when it comes to their feelings. It's often a struggle to make their husband listen and understand, especially when ...
Views: 709 - How Do I Apologize To My Husband Before He Files For Divorce? How Do I Get Him To Accept My Apology? - by Submitted on May 15, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who are gearing up to make a last-ditch effort to save their marriages after they've made a huge mistake. Many times, they are looking for the perfect magical words and phrases to tell their husband how sorry they are and to reassure him that things are going to ...
Views: 622 - How Do I Communicate With My Husband Without Fighting?: How To Avoid Anger, Frustration, And Shut Down - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany of the people who write to me about the problems or troubles in their marriages realize that a break down in communication is one of the major issues that they face and need to overcome. As easy as it is to identify that you have these issues, it can be more difficult to actually improve ...
Views: 527 - How Do I Convince My Husband To Go To Counseling To Save Our Marriage When He Refuses To Go? - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany wives know that something drastic must happen in order for their marriage to be saved. They often fully realize that they are dealing with a marriage that is very damaged. And some realize that they are going to need more than just good intentions to be successful in saving their marriage. ...
Views: 901 - How Do I Convince My Husband To Stay With Me? I Would Do Anything To Make My Husband Stay Married. - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who are desperate for some sort of plan to make their husbands stay with them. Often, the husband has suggested a break, separation, or divorce. This is usually the last thing that the wives who write to me want. I recently had a wife say, in part: "I would do ...
Views: 948 - How Do I Convince My Separated Husband To Communicate With Me? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany wives are very upset during their marital separation because their worst fear is literally coming true. Although their husband may have reassured them that they would stay in constant contact, once the separation begins, he can go silent. Many of the wives intuitively realize the inherent ...
Views: 599 - How Do I Give My Husband What He Needs To Save Our Marriage? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany wives who feel as if their marriage is in trouble suspect that they aren't giving their husband what he needs to feel completely happy in the marriage. Sometimes, these unsatisfied husbands will tell their wives exactly why they are so unhappy with complaints like: “I just don't feel like ...
Views: 548 - How Do I Know When To Leave My Marriage? My Husband Just Told Me If I'm So Unhappy, Then I Should Leave. Should I? - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneI don't think that anyone enjoys being unsatisfied with their marriage. I don't think that anyone strives to be unhappy. In fact, many of us don't admit, even to ourselves, that we are not content with our marriage until things have gotten pretty bad. And sometimes, once we admit this ...
Views: 586 - How Do I Make My Husband Love Me Again During Our Separation? How To Pull Him Closer When You Feel Him Pulling Away. - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneIf the martial or trial separation was never your choice, then the chances are good that you are looking for any way to end it and to carry on with your marriage. Many people suspect that one very efficient and effective way to end the separation is for their spouse to come to the realization ...
Views: 1054 - How Do I Make My Husband Love Me Back? These Advice and Tips May Help You Figure Out The Best Approach - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2020 from Leslie CaneIt's hard to ignore the signs that your husband has checked out of the marriage or is pulling away from you. I get many emails from wives who outline several different behaviors - lack of physical affection, spending less time at home, distancing themselves from the family, being overly critical ...
Views: 379 - How Do I Make My Husband Value And Respect Me More? How Do I Make Him Realize My Worth? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from people who don't feel completely appreciated by their spouse. And, this complaint can come from both a husband and a wife. It is not limited to one particular sex or gender. However, I find that women tend to feel unappreciated a bit more since household and child-rearing ...
Views: 476 - How Do I Make My Husband Want To Stay Married To Me When He Has One Foot Out The Door? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2020 from Leslie CaneThe emails that I get are often from the spouse who wants to remain married and who wants advice on how to get their husband, wife, or partner back on board. Typically, one spouse will say, hint at, or act like they don't want to be married anymore, but this is not at all the way that the still ...
Views: 508 - How Do I Make Things Right With My Husband? He Says I Don't Make An Effort For Him Anymore - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who feel quite criticized and unaccepted by their husbands. One of the common complaints is that the wife "no longer makes an effort" or "has let herself go." I fully admit that I often side with the wives on this topic. Because I've been on the receiving end of this ...
Views: 481 - How Do I Reconcile With My Husband After A Separation When He Says He's Not Ready For A Reconciliation? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany wives are crushed that their husband will not agree to a reconciliation. Sometimes, they are separated. And other times, they are just living separate lives within the same house. Often, the wives aren't sure how to best address this, especially when the two seem so far apart, with no ...
Views: 478 - How Do I Reconnect With My Separated Husband? Steps To Follow When He's Moving Back Home After A Trial Separation. - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2020 from Leslie CaneHaving your spouse move back in after a trial separation is a goal that most of us are hoping for more than anything else. That is the day that is marked in red on your calendar. That is the day that is going to seem like Christmas morning and your birthday all rolled into one. But as the ...
Views: 562 - How Do I Save My Marriage When He Doesn't Want To? My Husband Doesn't Want To Be Married Anymore But I Do. - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from people who are trying to decide their next course of action after their spouse has announced that they no longer want to be married. Recently, I heard from a wife who said, in part: "Out of the blue, my husband sat me down and told me that he doesn't want to be married anymore. ...
Views: 487 - How Do I Save My Marriage When I Feel Hopeless? I'm Feeling Helpless About My Husband Not Wanting Our Marriage Anymore - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2020 from Leslie CaneWhen your spouse tells you that he is no longer invested in your marriage, it can become very easy to get down on the whole situation and to begin to feel somewhat helpless. One reason for this is that you can feel a lack of control. It can feel as if no matter what you do or say, this is all ...
Views: 649 - How Do You Cope When Your Husband Leaves You and You Still Love Him? - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneI get a lot of emails asking for tips on coping when your husband has left but you still love him and want him back. It can be very painful and just feel odd when you're on your own and feel like part of you is missing. It can also be worse when there is an unknown of how it is going to turn ...
Views: 842 - How Long Before My Husband Comes Home So We Can Try To Work Things Out And Save Our Marriage? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from wives who are practically pacing a trail on their floors as they are waiting for their husbands to decide to come back home and work things out. Sometimes, their husband is gone for much longer than they thought or would have hoped. Many times, he won't give them a straight ...
Views: 428 - How To Approach A Marital Separation So That You Make It Work For You And Your Marriage. - by Submitted on May 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany of the inquiries that I get are questions like "how to survive a trial separation." Or "how to overcome a separated marriage." It is very clear that most wives see the separation as something which must be endured. I completely understand this because this is how I viewed it during my own ...
Views: 764 - How To Avoid A Separation In Your Marriage (Without Trying To Talk, Pressure, Or Scare Your Spouse Out Of It.) - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from people whose spouse has announced that he wants to separate or divorce. Most of the people I hear from do not agree to this. But of course, there are two people in any marriage. So just one person wanting to remain together does not necessarily mean that it is going to ...
Views: 1018 - How To Bring Your Marriage Back To Life: How To Get Back You've Lost In A Lifeless Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2020 from Leslie CaneSome wives have finally convinced their husbands to commit to saving or reviving their marriage. But often once they have reached this milestone, they aren't sure what to do next. A wife might explain: "for the last couple of years, my husband and I have drifted further and further apart. ...
Views: 560 - How To Convince A Separated Husband To Communicate When You Always Have To Call Him And He Never Wants To Meet Face-To-Face. - by Submitted on May 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany wives are very upset during their marital separation because their worst fear is literally coming true. Although their husband may have reassured them that they would stay in constant contact, once the separation begins, he can go silent. Many of the wives intuitively realize the inherent ...
Views: 2215 - How To Deal With An Arrogant Husband During Your Separation: My Husband Says I Can't Let Go Of Him. - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany husbands who initiate a separation are fairly confident about their wives' level of commitment during it. After all, it is the husband who wanted to separate in the first place. Since many wives don't want any marital break, we often assume that the wife will cling to her marriage for dear ...
Views: 549 - How To Fight For Your Marriage Without Fighting With Your Husband: Hint. You Don't "Fight" At All - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often write articles about saving marriages. Perhaps it's because wives research this topic more than men, or perhaps it's because women are more proactive in their marriages, but I'm most often contacted by wives (and a few husbands too) who tell me something like: "Our relationship is in ...
Views: 500 - How to Get My Husband to Love Me Again: Tips On Evaluating The Situation So You Can Show Him How - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often write about how I was able to save my own marriage when it was on its last legs, so I am sometimes approached my wives in a similar situation. Recently, I've been asked for advice or tips on topics like "how can I get my husband to love me again," or "my husband detaches from me," or "my ...
Views: 505 - How To Get Your Husband Back When He Separates From You By Understanding Deliberate Display And Prioritizing The Positive - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2020 from Leslie CaneIf you've found this article and are looking for ways and tactics to get your husband back, I want you to understand one thing right up front: a separation does not necessarily mean a divorce. I say this because I see so many wives bracing themselves to throw in the towel when in fact this is ...
Views: 412 - How to Have Meaningful Conversations With Your Separated Spouse - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2020 from Leslie CaneWhen you are reluctantly separated and want to save your marriage, you often intuitively know that communication is vitally important. Saving your marriage means that you are going to eventually need to overcome what drove you apart in the first place and then re-create the intimacy that will ...
Views: 554 - How To Know If Your Husband Stopped Loving You: Signs of a Husband Who is Falling Out of Love - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2020 from Leslie CaneI get a lot of emails and correspondence from women who are afraid that their husband is "falling out of love" with them. People often ask me for signs, signals, or clues to look for which might indicate that this is true. They are trying to match the behavior that they are seeing with behaviors ...
Views: 723 - How To Mend A Broken Marriage Alone: Even When You Don't Know What Happened And Aren't Sure How To Fix It - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from people who, seemingly all of a sudden, are shocked at the state of their marriage. Sometimes, you seem to be kind of coasting along, and then something will happen which will jolt you to a shocking reality. Your marriage is visibly shaken or altered and you have no idea how ...
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