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- Compromise to Get Him Back or Bolt? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederDr. Neder: I've been dating a guy for 6 months. We were inseparable we spend loads of time together. We get along fantastic our families love each other. There is one big problem. I had to move back to the town I'm from which is where he lives. I noticed that he didn't want me in his home when ...
Views: 912 - Confused About Playing “Hard to Get” - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Doc! A few days ago I asked you about playing hard to get and you told me to read your article on your website "Dumb Games, and the Girls That Play Them". In it you said it’s a terrible idea, but I have experienced that when we get things easily we lose interest. That’s a fact right? So ...
Views: 1562 - Confusing Girl-Games - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Doc – I’m confused?! I met a nice girl, she is funny, smart and all that I'm looking for in a relationship. When I started talking to her, she told me that she was looking for new friends because the other friends she had would smother her and just try to get in her pants. I ...
Views: 831 - Conversations for a First, Second or Third Date - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Dr. Dennis NederMany people complain that they “hate to date”. Are you one of them? If so, it’s very likely that you’re afraid of just having to make “good” conversation. You don’t want it to come off as labored but you don’t want the awkward silences or misunderstandings and miscommunications either. If ...
Views: 9271 - Dating Hell - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederI've been dating the same guy on and off for 3 years and I think it’s about time for a change considering that he never does anything to make me feel special. The problem is that I can’t seem to meet a 'nice guy' in the city I live. I have considered moving however my career keeps ...
Views: 680 - Dating on Facebook - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederHello Dr. Neder: This last weekend, I bumped into an old friend that happens to be friends with my ex. She was with another friend with whom I hit it off really well. We all decided to go hang out for a while. She and I flirted quite a bit and we spent the entire evening together. She and I ...
Views: 941 - Dating Rights Verse Dating Responsibilities - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHello Dennis, You have always been very helpful to me in the past and I was wondering if you could help me out with this situation I've encountered. My girlfriend smoked cigarettes for over 10 years but stopped. When we started dating I made it clear that I cannot date a smoker as I find the ...
Views: 949 - Did My Compliment Make Him A Lost Cause? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Dennis, I like this guy. He’s one of those really hot guys that every girl likes and he knows it and he seems stuck up and conceited about it. He knows all the women want him and definitely knows he's hot stuff but all the times I have talked to him he seems nice. So today I saw him ...
Views: 677 - Do Men Respect Women? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dennis: I wonder about this from time to time, but I figure that I need an answer from an insightful man in order to get a truthful answer on this: Do men respect women in general? Do men pity women in general, because of our vulnerabilities? Or do men have a certain "hard-to-explain" ...
Views: 1201 - Do YOU Have Different Rules For Women? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHere's an interesting question I was recently asked: are there different rules for women and men when it comes to the entire dating/sex/relationship game, and if so, what standards should women enjoy that men don't? One of the reasons why women pull things like "the crying game" (NOT the movie ...
Views: 854 - Do You Think She Likes Me? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHi there, I'm 18 years old and I can't seem to get any friendly advice from anyone about this girl I like so maybe you can help me out! I met a girl over at the local community college this past week, and I can already tell that I'm developing a major crush on her! She is absolutely beautiful! ...
Views: 1102 - Falling For A (Somewhat) Older Man - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Dennis, A month ago I met an amazing man; handsome, in-shape, caring, respectful, educated, and with a thriving career. I love spending time with him, and get butterflies in my stomach whenever I think about him. My main problem is that he is 9 years older than me. I know this may not seem ...
Views: 1012 - Find What Makes You Happy - by Submitted on May 31, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHi I recently came across your article on “sabotaging relationships” through an Internet search and I really found it helpful. I’m writing to you because of my current situation. I am 31 years old and have grown up in a very religious community. Everything is judged superficially; family, ...
Views: 1621 - Friendships and False Hopes - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Doc: I was going out with this 24-year-old girl for about 3 months. We enjoyed our time together but she fell for me pretty hard. Since it was only 3 months, I believe that her feelings were mostly infatuation, but I'm not sure now. I panicked and broke up with her because I don't think ...
Views: 962 - Game-Playing Girlfriend - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Dr. Neder, I read some of your articles and your advice is great. I just recently hooked up with a girl that actually picked me up at club. She really liked me a lot and for the first few weeks, I played hard to get with her. She wanted to get me settled down and kind of coerced me into a ...
Views: 797 - Getting a Girl To Date Me - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederI’ve been friends with this girl all through high school but since December we have been best friends. The past 2 months we have brought our friendship to a new level - friends with benefits you could say. She has been going out with another guy for about 2 years but they were on a "break" ...
Views: 656 - Getting My Man To Commit - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederLast year, I met a 36 year-old man (I am 45) and when we instantly connected. We met through a dating site. He picked me up at home and the rest is history. He knew I was falling for him and began to retreat. He travels a lot with his job but I wasn't used to how to handle a long distance ...
Views: 712 - Getting Past Your Past - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederDr. Neder, I came across your articles on the Internet and thought I’d write for some advice. The short story is this: I was sexually abused throughout most of my younger years. Now, as I start to cope with this as a 32 year old man, I have found a 22 year old woman with whom I share many ...
Views: 819 - Getting the Ex Back - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Dennis! I read one of your replies to a question and thought your response was excellent. Could you please could you help with this one? I was in a relationship with my ex for just over a year, when we first started dating. I was finding it very hard to get her out on dates. She is a very ...
Views: 967 - Girlfriend Travels With Ex-Boyfriend - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederI am in a serious relationship with this girl, and we are seriously contemplating getting engaged in the future. However, we often get stuck on one issue: her ex-boyfriends. She keeps in touch with several. She has always been very honest with me about them, but it is obvious that she is very ...
Views: 3369 - Giving it the Old College Try - by Submitted on May 05, 2010 from Dr. Dennis NederI'm a 19 year old guy studying at college in the UK and there is a girl who I've seen around, mainly in the library. I would like to approach her but have no clue what to say and I'm afraid she might laugh at me for trying to speak to her. I have no confidence and I'm afraid the girl has noticed ...
Views: 1595 - Going Through Hell - by Submitted on May 16, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Doc: My fiancé just left me about a week ago she says she needs to find her self and figure out what she wants. We were together for just over 3 years and have our problems like any relationship. I have a hard time expressing my deep feelings and at times I am independent and distant I ...
Views: 617 - Going Through Hell - by Submitted on May 25, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Doc: My fiancé just left me about a week ago she says she needs to find her self and figure out what she wants. We were together for just over 3 years and have our problems like any relationship. I have a hard time expressing my deep feelings and at times I am independent and distant I ...
Views: 839 - Grow Yourself, Grow Your Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederDr. Neder, Hi, I am very interested in your help on this. I met my girlfriend freshman year in high school for the first time. We are currently in our junior year of high school and we have been going out for almost four months. We talk about how we will always be together and how we are ...
Views: 959 - Guy’s Girl Wants To Get Back With Her Ex - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederDoc: There’s the girl that I’ve been getting to know. We aren’t really together, but we’ve been moving that way. A few days ago she and I were talking and she said that she wanted to get back with her ex-boyfriend! At first, I didn’t think much of this, but I was wondering, is there any way to ...
Views: 844 - Handling The “Hard-to-Get” Game - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Dennis! I’ve read your website and I think you might be able to help me. I’ve had numerous relationships and have no trouble getting girls. I’m approaching 30 now and trying to find the girl of my dreams. There is this girl I have known for about a year or so that has always not only ...
Views: 804 - Have I Been Replaced? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHi I was wondering if you could give me some feedback on this situation I find myself in. I’m a 30 year old guy with 2 children, both under 10. I have been with my wife twelve years. She cheated on me when we first got together (I was 19) with an ex-boyfriend. We already had a 1-year-old ...
Views: 1344 - Help! My World is Crumbling! - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederDoc: I met a girl that has been hurt by a lot of guys in her past and I asked her out but I got turned down because she said she wanted to face her studies squarely. She came back home on Christmas break and I asked her again and we were so close to getting together, but then, she found out I ...
Views: 1750 - Her Gay Friend - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederOk Dr., here is the background for this question: -She and I are both in our early 20s. -We went to high school together. -We didn’t know each other well in high school, but were acquaintances with mutual friends. -I started talking to her about two months ago on a whim. -She lives far ...
Views: 1162 - His Libido - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederI have a problem with my boyfriend of 7 months - I want sex more than he does. We have sex about 2 or 3 times a week, but I want it more. I’m told a lot that I’m very attractive and I've never had this problem with other men. At first he was very eager, but then it faded. I often ...
Views: 925 - Hot Women Get Dumped For Someone Else - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Dennis, From your experience, what causes a man to leave his wife for another woman? Such as Tom Cruise leaving Nicole Kidman for Penelope, and Brad Pitt leaving Jennifer Aniston for Angelina. What do you think was the primary reason? The "other" woman being more beautiful, sexier and more ...
Views: 925 - How (and Who) Do Professional Women Date? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHello Doc, For professional women (doctors, lawyers, CEOs etc) can you please tell me what is the best type of man that you've seen from your experience for these women to date or marry? For instance, when us ladies are out on the prowl for a nice gentleman what are some qualities to look ...
Views: 653 - How Can I Get Him to Never Leave Me? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederDr. Neder, I've been dating a man for almost 3 months now. I've very much been the short-lived relationship kind of gal in the past. Typically at 3 months, I'll find some reason to end the relationship. Whether it's not feeling a physical connection, or not feeling an emotional connection, or, ...
Views: 1089 - How Do I Make it Through - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dr. Dennis, I was in a relationship for 5 and a half years. The relationship is breaking up. My partner is not satisfied with me, I believe. He has said he wants to see other people and wants to consider other options. But he says he still cares or me and he is confused. I just read a ...
Views: 767 - How Do I Start Dating? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2010 from Dr. Dennis NederDoc, you gotta help me! I’m a 19 year old male, single and I haven't dated much. I’ve only been in one relationship and am now looking for a woman to be with and I just don't know where to look or even how to approach someone. My female cousins say to go to the movies, the mall, etc. but that ...
Views: 1122 - How Much is Sex “Worth”? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dr. Neder: I’m 23 years old and I met this guy (25) about 6 months ago and we really hit it off. He’s absolutely perfect! We got along great and started dating and things turned physical pretty quickly. I’ve decided to wait until I’m married before I’ll have sex but we made out and ...
Views: 1881 - How Much Should You Share With Your Date? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Doc! I've been dating off and on since my divorce a few years ago. I generally am completely open with my dates, and willingly share information about my life history. I've just met a gal who is a Psychologist. She has challenged my practice, saying that there are some things that are ...
Views: 667 - How to Attract Women - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHow do I attract a woman for a relationship? During high school I tried to ask out 5 different girls over 5 years. I thought I was in love with each of them and told them this, but was turned down each time with a corresponding blow to my self-confidence. I finally just gave up on finding a ...
Views: 1020 - How To Buy A Date From A Co-Worker - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Doc: I like this girl at work. Our work is not related but we work in the same office. She is 12 years younger than me and I hold a senior position. Knowing all the stuff about sexual harassment all I did for the last 7-8 months was just look at her. She would look back and we would just ...
Views: 2141 - How to Get Back Into Dating - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dr. Neder: I have been divorced for 16 years and focused most of that time on raising my two children. I have dated a few men however I seem to be attracted to losers. Now that my kids are grown I would like to find someone to settle down with again. It is hard to find single men my age. ...
Views: 708 - How to Get One Night Stands - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Dennis! I like this girl but she says she’s not ready for a serious relationship right now and wants to be by herself for a while. I’m respecting that and just being her friend right now. I want to really enjoy my youth as much as I can and I don’t want anything serious with anyone but her ...
Views: 3119 - How to Handle the Silent Treatment - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederLet’s say that you’ve dated a girl a few times and all of a sudden, she stops picking up the phone or returning your calls when she was very responsive before. What do you do? First, you stop pouting and sitting by the phone trying to will her to call by sending your aura through the telephone ...
Views: 2959 - How to Move On - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederHave you been having trouble moving on after breaking up with an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend? This can be very difficult to do! I’m going to show you an incredibly powerful technique to help you get healed quickly and permanently and to move on so that you can find that next great love and ...
Views: 1167 - How to NOT Impress Women With Gifts - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Doc! This girl I know casually through work invited me to a party. I am going to give her a nice perfume that costs about $100. Is that a good idea? She also said there will be lots of girls there. How do I start a conversation with a girl in a party and get her phone number? This is a big ...
Views: 845 - How To Not Stiffen Up On The Approach - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederHello Doc: I like this girl in my class and everyday before I go to school I am confident about approaching her. Every time I get the chance to however, I get all stiff. Today for example, when I was sitting only a few inches from her I couldn't even bring myself to talk to her. Can you tell me ...
Views: 643 - I Don’t Want to Look Like an Idiot! - by Submitted on May 24, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Doc! I work with this girl I really like and I talk to her every time we have a chance. She is the reason why I still stay at my job. She is funny and she makes me have a fun time whenever we work together, but I don't know if she likes me. First off, she has a boyfriend, but it seems she ...
Views: 888 - I Feel Like I’ve Been Waiting Forever! - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederDoc: My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We have lived together for 2 years and we get along fine. We have our times but not many of them. I do everything for him: cook, clean, and everything else a wife would do. I love him very much but I want to start a family. I don't mean ...
Views: 908 - In a Sea of Messages, This One's Mixed! - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederIn a Sea of Messages, This One’s Mixed Hello Doctor, I need your advice on a little dilemma of mine. There is this guy that I've known for quite some time now. It started off with just getting together for drinks and then a couple times for dinner, but it's been over a year and I don't know ...
Views: 891 - In Love With A One-Night-Stand Man - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2008 from Dr. Dennis NederDr. Neder: I met a man through the oddest of ways – a mis-sent text message! It went to the wrong phone number and somehow we started to text each other, exchanged photos of ourselves and started to flirt. He is an older man with a really sexy voice and is a successful business owner. We ...
Views: 861 - Interviewing For the Love of Your Life - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederYou probably had to interview in order to get your job. This interview process is an extremely important part of being hired because it tells the employer many things about you – how well you think on your feet, how well thought out your answer to questions are, how you present yourself, etc. ...
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