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- How Do You Know What To Do For Sure? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from William CottringerHow Do You Know What To Do For Sure? By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Good judgment comes from experience and experience comes from bad judgment.” ~ Anonymous. How do you know what to do for sure? That is a very good question to which we should all want to know the answer, especially ...
Views: 788 - Rational Reality Repair Rx - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2008 from William CottringerRATIONAL REALITY REPAIR Rx by William Cottringer, Ph.D. “What is reality anyway? It's nothing but a collective hunch.” ~Jane Wagner. Whatever definition you give to “reality,” one of the biggest challenges in life is to learn how to successfully fix broken realities and create ...
Views: 826 - Give In & Win - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2008 from William CottringerGIVE IN AND WIN By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Conscience is what hurts when everything else feels so good.” ~ Unknown author. It was a rainy night in August of 1964 when this naïve 19-year old kid was assigned guard duty at the make-shift rear gate of Tan Son Nhut AB in Saigon, Vietnam. ...
Views: 802 - Resurrecting The Johari Window - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2008 from William Cottringer“All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.” ~Arthur Schopenhauer. This article is both a description of failing and a prescription of succeeding. Back in the early seventies two therapists ...
Views: 1857 - The Rewards Of Negativity - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2008 from William Cottringer“Positive people live their lives like there are no tomorrows; negative people live life like it will go on forever but wish it wouldn’t.” ~The Author You really don’t have to have a Ph.D. in clinical psychology to explain why some people are positive and some are negative. Human ...
Views: 1429 - What Is It That Matters Most? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2008 from William Cottringer“It’s not what you do, but how much love you put into it that matters.” ~Mother Teresa. One very interesting research study I came across a few years ago was done with very senior citizens who were all over 95-years of age. What interested me most were the top regrets these people had with ...
Views: 799 - The Trouble With Self-Help - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2008 from William Cottringer“If you want to know where you are going, stop; look at where your feet are pointing and look behind you to see where the footprints are that got you here.” ~The Author. I have been a part of the positive psychology, human potential and self-help movements since the late sixties. At this ...
Views: 681 - Personal "P" Points - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2008 from William CottringerBeing successful and winning in life takes much talent, effort, determination, cleverness, good timing, and patience. However you can shorten the learning curve by understanding and practicing certain “P” points. These psychological power points are the little things you can do, with strategic ...
Views: 802 - Winning In Life - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2008 from William Cottringer“Winning isn't everything, but the will to win is everything.” ~Vince Lombardi. After decades of mixed results—of both enjoying happiness and a sense of accomplishment in succeeding, and not enjoying the bruises, bumps, bleeding and broken bones of failing—I finally figured out a simple ...
Views: 916 - Head And Heart Battle - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2008 from William Cottringer“He has the right to criticize who has the heart to help.” ~Abraham Lincoln. For as long as I can remember, there has always been a raging war inside me between the terrible twins within—head vs. heart. That is wrong and this is right. This will work out for the best and that won’t. I can ...
Views: 4551 - Reality Repair Starts With Alignment To Purpose - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2008 from William CottringerTwo of my favorite words lately are alignment and purpose. When these two words are in sync with each other you can access unlimited success and abundance and all the positive feelings that come with those things. But when these two words are out of sync with each other, that is when you get ...
Views: 791 - The Essential Reality Repair Rx Toolbox - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2008 from William CottringerAfter decades of both humorous and sad failure attempts to fix broken realities I didn’t like in my own and others’ lives, I think I have finally discovered a simple prescription that I wish I had known about years ago. Many needless broken bones, bleeding and bruises could have been prevented. ...
Views: 946 - Reality Repair Rx 4 Normal Folks - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2007 from William CottringerA big challenge in life is to fix the broken realities you don’t like and to create newer and better ones you want. Unfortunately this is much easier thought about in our heads than done with our hands. Most of us are still stuck trying to deal with undesirable realities that are getting in the ...
Views: 652 - The Tricks Of Positive Thinking - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2007 from William CottringerTHE TRICKS OF POSITIVE THINKING By Bill Cottringer “A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” ~Winston Churchill. Gee, we have all heard enough about the power of positive thinking, right? You only get about 4 ...
Views: 3143 - Wrong Perceptions Can Be Lethal - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2007 from William CottringerWRONG PERCEPTIONS CAN BE LETHAL By Bill Cottringer “You are only as wise as others perceive you to be” ~M. Shawn Cole It would be amusing if it weren’t for the destructiveness that wrong perceptions of people and situations can cause. What is amusing is that we are convinced of the truth ...
Views: 13481 - Unloading The Management Overload Problem - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2007 from William CottringerUNLOADING THE MANAGEMENT OVERLOAD PROBLEM By Bill Cottringer “I have a theory about the human mind. A brain is a lot like a computer. It will only take so many facts, and then it will go on overload and blow up.” ~Erma Bombeck. Is it just my imagination or do other managers feel ...
Views: 1103 - How To Talk With God - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2007 from William CottringerHOW TO TALK WITH GOD By Bill Cottringer The other day I text messaged God’s Administrative Assistant to ask him how God would prefer for us to talk with Her. Since he was very well organized, as would be expected for an administrative assistant of the whole universe, he suggested I just ...
Views: 1249 - Getting Your Head, Heart And Soul To Agree - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2007 from William CottringerGETTING YOUR HEAD, HEART AND SOUL TO AGREE By Bill Cottringer Oh boy, I hope I haven’t bitten off more than I can chew here with this title. It just came to me as a very important problem to solve—the many important disagreements between the information and choices these three things lead ...
Views: 1127 - The Purpose Of Relationships - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2007 from William CottringerThe Purpose of Relationships By Bill Cottringer “Many men go fishing all of their lives without knowing it is not fish they are after.” ~Henry David Thoreau. Lately, I seem to be more successful at accomplishing what I am trying to do when I remain mindful of my primary purpose in what I ...
Views: 1356 - How Do You Get Rid Of Negative Thoughts? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2007 from William CottringerHow Do You Get Rid of Negative Thoughts? By Bill Cottringer “All negativity is an illusion created by the limited mind to protect and defend itself.” ~Ambika Wauters By now the power of “The Secret” is commonplace knowledge. Since you attract what you ask for, the real secret is ...
Views: 4034(2 votes) - Soulful Satisfaction - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2007 from William CottringerSOULFUL SATISFACTION By Bill Cottringer “It is not the things in life that bother us but rather our opinions about these things.” ~ Epictetus Without a doubt, the above quote is my all time favorite, because day by day it keeps growing in meaning and value in my own life and adding ...
Views: 746 - Get Ready To Rumble - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2007 from William CottringerGET READY TO RUMBLE by William Cottringer There are plenty of dismal headlines in the business and public service news today. “Financial Meltdown,” “Profitability Plague” “Cooked Books,” and “Ethics Erosion” are common phrases today. Are these things just part of a bigger problem? ...
Views: 921 - Removing The Safety Space Between You And Life - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2007 from William CottringerREMOVING THE SAFETY SPACE BETWEEN YOU AND LIFE By Bill Cottringer In a recent movie, "Lions for Lambs," the truth of life was pursued to the end from three different directions by three great movie stars, who probably weren’t acting: Tom Cruise, the ambitious politician, Meryl Streep, the ...
Views: 914 - Humility Is At Least Half-King - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2007 from William CottringerHumility Is At Least Half-King By Bill Cottringer There is one critical virtue I can’t get enough of these days and I don’t think we ever appreciate its ultimate importance and value until the lack of it comes back to bite us in our butts. I think humility should be right up there with ...
Views: 848 - Light Their Fires - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2007 from William CottringerLIGHT THEIR FIRES by William Cottringer Knowing how to motivate employees is an important part of any supervisor’s toolbox. Fortunately you don’t have to be a psychologist to be an effective motivator. All you have to do is apply practical people principles in a common sense way. Below ...
Views: 1043 - The Will To Grow - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2007 from William CottringerTHE WILL TO GROW By Bill Cottringer There is one particular motivation that has a significant impact on the quality of your life; it can result in varying degrees of happiness and unhappiness, success and failure, peace and turmoil and good health and ill health. This single motivation ...
Views: 780 - Heroes, Villains, Victims & Bystanders - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2007 from William CottringerHEROES, VILLAINS, VICTIMS & BYSTANDERS by William Cottringer In the game of life there are four main roles we can choose to play. These roles are Hero, Villain, Victim or Bystander. Which of these roles are you playing? HERO Heroes dream big, translate their dreams into ...
Views: 2766(1 vote) - The Four Stages Of Organizational Development - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2007 from William CottringerTHE FOUR STAGES OF ORGANIZATIONAL DEVELOPMENT by William Cottringer The human potential movement of the early seventies employed a helpful frame of reference to understand the process of interpersonal group development. This model involves four distinct stages of development: ...
Views: 19067(8 votes) - Reality Repair Rx - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2007 from William CottringerReality Repair RX By Bill Cottringer “Reality does not conform to the ideal, but confirms it.” ~Gustave Flaubert. This is a good question: What is reality? Reality = “Anything about the past, present or future you believe to be actual and true because it comes from trustworthy sources such ...
Views: 964 - Seven Things Relationship Counselors Usually Won't Tell You - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2007 from William CottringerSEVEN THINGS RELATIONSHIP COUNSELORS USUALLY WON’T TELL YOU By Bill Cottringer Now I realize that this article is going to rile a few people in the relationship counseling profession, but I will at least try to speak the truth gently and kindly. I have been there, done that and paid my ...
Views: 2936 - Dealing With A Controlling Toxic Bully - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2007 from William CottringerDEALING WITH A CONTROLLING, TOXIC BULLY By Bill Cottringer It is easy to get trapped into feeling negative about being mistreated by a controlling, toxic bully and worse over not feeling you can do anything about it. It is frustrating, humiliating and maddening. And you can get even ...
Views: 6550 - Reconciliation of You - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2007 from William CottringerSigmund Freud was certainly right about one thing. Human beings do have a ‘personality trinity’ that actually reflects many such equivalent three-part government and social systems. However, I think the three concepts originally used may not convey the relevant story today. Three was ...
Views: 779 - An Idea Who's Time Has Come - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2007 from William CottringerAN IDEA WHO’S TIME HAS COME By Bill Cottringer Thanks to the relatively recent science of neuromarketing, brain research has begun to identify the central role of the reptilian part of the human brain (old brain)—below the thinking and emotional semi-conscious mental activities we ...
Views: 754 - Angry Hearts - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2007 from William CottringerANGRY HEARTS by Bill Cottringer There is an unexpected side-effect of being mentally and spiritually healthy: You become more aware of and obligated to help resolve the phenomenon of angry hearts. And this can be more time consuming, draining and beyond what you may think you are ...
Views: 1623 - Letting Go Of "What Your Know' Management Thinking - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2007 from William CottringerLETTING GO OF ‘WHAT YOU KNOW’ MANAGEMENT THINKING By Bill Cottringer What It’s All About It’s not about— How smart you are, Who you know, Where you’ve been, Or what you have; It’s not about you, Or what you’ve done, Or left undone. Here’s what it’s about: Your silent surrender— The ...
Views: 1356 - The Two Halves Of Life - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2007 from William CottringerTHE TWO HALVES OF LIFE By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson. From where I am standing do my looking today, there seems to be two distinct halves to my life. Of course I am interested in finding ...
Views: 879 - Success Is Easier Done Than Said - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2007 from William CottringerSUCCESS IS EASIER DONE THAN SAID By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “People love chopping wood. In this activity one immediately sees results.” ~Albert Einstein. All the libraries of current success clues are making success harder said than done. We are all buried in the success overload and ...
Views: 786 - Languages Of The Head, Heart And Soul - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2007 from William CottringerLANGUAGES OF THE HEAD, HEART AND SOUL By Bill Cottringer “Truth is that sweet spot in time and place where your head, heart and soul hover over something from which nothing can be added, subtracted or changed.” ~The Author. I have been a student of conflict resolution and good ...
Views: 1273 - An Irreconcilable Conflict? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2007 from William CottringerAN IRRECONCILABLE CONFLICT? By Bill Cottringer “There is no squabbling so violent as that between people who accepted an idea yesterday and those who will accept the same idea tomorrow.” ~Christopher Morley. In his recent movie, Gone Baby Gone, Director Ben Affleck leaves his brother ...
Views: 1918 - When All Is Said And Done - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2007 from William CottringerWHEN ALL IS SAID AND DONE By Bill Cottringer What remains when all is said and done? Take away all the additions, subtractions and changes we make to life with our thinking, perceptions and reactions and what remains is the 5% truth making up our personal success quest. Hidden away in that ...
Views: 975 - Becoming Single-Minded - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2007 from William CottringerBECOMING SINGLE-MINDED By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Self-consciousness creates the illusion that there is a separate self from the rest of reality. That would be the funniest mistake in the world if so many people weren’t so convinced that the illusion is really true.” ~ The author. ...
Views: 5115 - Success By Perspective - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2007 from William CottringerSUCCESS BY PERSPECTIVE By William Cottringer, Ph.D. Success—What you get from doing what you do to get it; acquiring any or all of the following: Having an abundance of health, wealth, power, influence, friends and wisdom; gaining a sense of satisfaction from achieving your goals, being ...
Views: 1072 - Ultimate Success Secret On A Pedestal: Right Perspective - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2007 from William CottringerULTIMATE SUCCESS SECRET ON A PEDESTAL: RIGHT PERSPECTIVE By Bill Cottringer “It is not the things in life that bother us but rather our opinion about these things.” ~Epictetus What was Jack Palace meaning , as Curly in the movie City Slicker, pointing with his finger in the sky and ...
Views: 1403 - Principles of Successful Conflict Resolution - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2007 from William CottringerTruth = The absolute way things could be in a perfect world, where we are trying to go. Reality = The relative way things are in the real world, where we are at now. Conflicts occur when people have differing opinions as to the causes of and solutions to particular truths and ...
Views: 3034 - Judgments, Defensiveness, Undercurrents, Festering & Fairness - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2007 from William CottringerJUDGMENTS, DEFENSIVENESS, UNDERCURRENTS, FESTERING & FAIRNESS By William Cottringer, Ph.D. Sooner or later conflict occurs in any relationship. A particularly difficult conflict is when one person thinks or acts one way about something that is diametrically opposed to the other person’s ...
Views: 933 - Being Happy Without Money - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2007 from William CottringerBEING HAPPY WITHOUT MONEY By Bill Cottringer “If you can’t be happy poor you can’t be happy rich.” ~ The Author. Are we all really capable of achieving great financial wealth like The Secret proponents and all the wealth books and wealth gurus profess? Are we all meant to have wealth? ...
Views: 11328 - Truthful Thinking - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2007 from William CottringerTRUTHFUL THINKING By Bill Cottringer “Success is what we get from what we do to get it.” ~ The Author. Which is more satisfying—week-old, cold apple pie out of the refrigerator or hot, freshly-baked apple pie with cold French vanilla ice cream on top? If Mary wants chocolate cake for ...
Views: 1345 - Winning Principles - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2007 from William CottringerWINNING PRINCIPLES By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Winning and success are what you get from doing what you do to get them.” ~The Author. I have been an avid student of the psychology of winning/success for four decades now—learning all the knowledge and skills that bring about ...
Views: 3129 - And Then There Is The truth - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2007 from William CottringerTHERE ARE ALWAYS TWO SIDES OF THE STORY & THEN THERE IS THE TRUTH By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Reality leaves a lot to the imagination.” ~ John Lennon Actually there are probably as many ‘stories’ as there are people on this planet. But, there is but one overall, unifying truth that ...
Views: 831 - Being Certain - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2007 from William CottringerBEING CERTAIN By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Reality is that which, when you stop believing in it, doesn’t go away.” ~Philip K. Dick. The other day my daughter Abby was given a question to answer by the instructor of her epistemology class as a high school senior. The question was ...
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