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- People That Bother You Most - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2008 from William CottringerPeople That Bother You Most By Bill Cottringer “Like the herd of animals we are, we sniff warily at the strange one among us.” ~ Loren Eisely Our success quest in life involves the paramount challenge of learning how to get along with other people. However, the reality of people being unique ...
Views: 1304 - Personal "P" Points - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2008 from William CottringerBeing successful and winning in life takes much talent, effort, determination, cleverness, good timing, and patience. However you can shorten the learning curve by understanding and practicing certain “P” points. These psychological power points are the little things you can do, with strategic ...
Views: 875 - POWER COMMUNICATION - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2008 from William CottringerPOWER COMMUNICATION By William Cottringer “Good communication is when an artist conveys the message of his images to a musician who correctly translates them into the musical notes she plays.” ~The author. Today being a good communicator is not enough. Professional success requires ...
Views: 1375 - PRETZEL MANAGEMENT - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2008 from William CottringerPRETZEL MANAGEMENT By Bill Cottringer “Pretzel Management is when you stop trying to figure out when one thing ends and another starts. You just spread some mustard, take a healthy bite and enjoy it.” ~ The author. I don’t think it’s just me but I sense management is getting tougher ...
Views: 940 - PRETZEL MANAGEMENT OF THE VICIOUS CIRCLE OF UNHAPPINESS - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2008 from William CottringerPRETZEL MANAGEMENT OF THE VICIOUS CIRCLE OF UNHAPPINESS By Bill Cottringer “Life probably gets annoyed at us for thinking too much. It’s like going to a great theatre production on Broadway or music concert at Carnegie Hall with virtual earphones, books, cell phones and DVD’s.” ~ The author. ...
Views: 1143 - Principles of Successful Conflict Resolution - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2007 from William CottringerTruth = The absolute way things could be in a perfect world, where we are trying to go. Reality = The relative way things are in the real world, where we are at now. Conflicts occur when people have differing opinions as to the causes of and solutions to particular truths and ...
Views: 3123 - Problem-Solving in Our VUCA World - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2023 from William CottringerProblem-Solving in Our VUCA World by Bill Cottringer “I know you think you understand what you thought I said but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.” ~Alan Greenspan. The new virtual VUCA world we are part of today requires a new set of problem-solving ...
Views: 514 - Psychological Power Points of Effective Writing - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2020 from William CottringerPsychological Power Points of Effective Writing by Bill Cottringer “Every secret of a writer’s soul, every experience of his life, every quality of his mind, is written large in his works.” ~Virginia Woolf. Earlier on in my prison administration career, a colleague, Herb Gross, ...
Views: 1112 - Psychology for Dummies (Like Me & You) - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2021 from William CottringerPsychology for Dummies (Like Me & You) By Bill Cottringer “Common sense is the simple knack of seeing things the way they are and doing things the way they need to be done.” ~ Mark Twain. 1. Most of what we think we know really isn’t so, whether we like that reality or not because it ...
Views: 767 - Putting the Common Back in Common Sense Again - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2007 from William CottringerPUTTING THE COMMON BACK IN COMMON SENSE AGAIN by Bill Cottringer Why do some people succeed and some fail in life? Why do we all sometimes fail and sometimes succeed? Can we do anything to improve our chances of success? In studying success and failure for over 40 years, I have ...
Views: 8451 - Rational Reality Repair Rx - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2008 from William CottringerRATIONAL REALITY REPAIR Rx by William Cottringer, Ph.D. “What is reality anyway? It's nothing but a collective hunch.” ~Jane Wagner. Whatever definition you give to “reality,” one of the biggest challenges in life is to learn how to successfully fix broken realities and create ...
Views: 908 - Re-Braining for 2020 - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2019 from William CottringerRe-Braining for 2020 By Bill Cottringer “The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.” ~Albert Einstein. 2020 brings a new decade of Information Age challenges, requiring some major transformational re-braining to navigate the mine fields ahead hidden away in the ...
Views: 1174 - REALITY INSTRUCTIONS FOR KIDS - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2008 from William CottringerREALITY INSTRUCTIONS FOR KIDS By Gandpaw Bill “One generation plants the trees; another gets the shade” ~Chinese Proverb. My oldest granddaughter, Hannah Banana form Metropolis Illinois (the real home of Superman, no joke!), reminded me (and I have to remind her she did this) that nobody ...
Views: 1046 - Reality is Not What it Seems - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from William CottringerReality is Not What it Seems by Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with ...
Views: 508 - Reality is Not What it Seems - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from William CottringerReality is Not What it Seems by Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with ...
Views: 495 - Reality is Not What it Seems - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from William CottringerReality is Not What it Seems by Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with ...
Views: 509 - Reality is Not What it Seems - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from William CottringerReality is Not What it Seems by Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with ...
Views: 554 - Reality is Not What it Seems - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from William CottringerReality is Not What it Seems by Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with ...
Views: 554 - Reality is Not What it Seems - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from William CottringerReality is Not What it Seems by Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with ...
Views: 550 - Reality is Not What it Seems - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from William CottringerReality is Not What it Seems by Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with ...
Views: 546 - Reality is Not What it Seems - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from William CottringerReality is Not What it Seems by Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with ...
Views: 557 - REALITY REPAIR OF THE HUMPTY DUMPTY FALL - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2008 from William CottringerREALITY REPAIR OF THE HUMPTY DUMPTY FALL By Bill Cottringer Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall, Humpty Dumpty had a great fall. All the King's horses, and all his men, Couldn't put Humpty back together again! ~Well-known nursery rhyme. This well-known children’s nursery ...
Views: 1186 - Reality Repair Questions - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2008 from William CottringerREALITY REPAIR QUESTIONS By Bill Cottringer "I wouldn't give a fig for the simplicity that comes on the near side of complexity, but I would give my left arm for the simplicity that comes on the far side of complexity." ~Oliver Wendell Holmes. I just finished writing another book, Reality ...
Views: 965 - Reality Repair Rx - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2007 from William CottringerReality Repair RX By Bill Cottringer “Reality does not conform to the ideal, but confirms it.” ~Gustave Flaubert. This is a good question: What is reality? Reality = “Anything about the past, present or future you believe to be actual and true because it comes from trustworthy sources such ...
Views: 1038 - Reality Repair Rx 4 Normal Folks - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2007 from William CottringerA big challenge in life is to fix the broken realities you don’t like and to create newer and better ones you want. Unfortunately this is much easier thought about in our heads than done with our hands. Most of us are still stuck trying to deal with undesirable realities that are getting in the ...
Views: 703 - Reality Repair Rx Book Outline - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2008 from William CottringerReality Repair Rx Book Outline By William Cottringer, Ph.D. In writing books or articles it is always good to stop now and then to question the importance and value of your writing topics and what your truest intentions are. I made a door sign some time ago that reads, “Dr. Cottringer, ...
Views: 1221 - Reality Repair Rx: A Critical Time for Thoughtfulness - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2009 from William CottringerReality Repair Rx: A Critical Time for Thoughtfulness By Bill Cottringer “You can’t behave your way out of a problem that you thought your way into.” ~The author. This quote is a re-arrangement of an earlier one by Stephen Covey, “You can’t talk your way out of a situation you ...
Views: 968 - Reality Repair Starts With Alignment To Purpose - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2008 from William CottringerTwo of my favorite words lately are alignment and purpose. When these two words are in sync with each other you can access unlimited success and abundance and all the positive feelings that come with those things. But when these two words are out of sync with each other, that is when you get ...
Views: 848 - REALITY REPAIR: With Stress-less Success - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2008 from William CottringerREALITY REPAIR: With Stress-less Success By Bill Cottringer “Reality is the leading cause of stress amongst those in touch with it.” ~Lily Tomlin. This is my 7th book and I am trying something entirely new this time around. I am starting out with a definite title to my book in mind; ...
Views: 1194 - Reality Repair: Mostly Mind Over Matter? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2008 from William Cottringer“Reality is hard to see, harder to talk about and hardest to agree upon.” ~The author. It has taken me awhile, but I think I have finally figured out something very important. We all spend a great deal of time trying to repair broken realities we don’t like and trying to create new and ...
Views: 782 - Reconciliation of You - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2007 from William CottringerSigmund Freud was certainly right about one thing. Human beings do have a ‘personality trinity’ that actually reflects many such equivalent three-part government and social systems. However, I think the three concepts originally used may not convey the relevant story today. Three was ...
Views: 869 - Redefining Success: Seven New Super-Sized Success Secrets - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2015 from William CottringerRedefining Success: Seven New Super-Sized Success Secrets By Bill Cottringer “Success is simple. Do what's right, the right way, at the right time.” ~Arnold H. Glasow. There are literally thousands of good books and articles already available regarding what to do and how to do it, ...
Views: 1655 - Removing The Safety Space Between You And Life - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2007 from William CottringerREMOVING THE SAFETY SPACE BETWEEN YOU AND LIFE By Bill Cottringer In a recent movie, "Lions for Lambs," the truth of life was pursued to the end from three different directions by three great movie stars, who probably weren’t acting: Tom Cruise, the ambitious politician, Meryl Streep, the ...
Views: 990 - Repairing Virtual Communication failures - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2022 from William CottringerRepairing Virtual Communication failures By Bill Cottringer “In a world that is constantly changing, it is to our advantage to learn how to adapt and enjoy something better.” ~Kenneth H. Blanchard. Live, face-to-face (f2f) communication has always been difficult, unfortunately with ...
Views: 499 - Resurrecting The Johari Window - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2008 from William Cottringer“All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.” ~Arthur Schopenhauer. This article is both a description of failing and a prescription of succeeding. Back in the early seventies two therapists ...
Views: 1932 - Seeds of Anger - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2018 from William CottringerSeeds of Anger By Bill Cottringer I think most people would agree that the main problems of our day are: (a) the artificially dualistic, unfair sharp divide between those who have abundance, power and all the other desirable things in life, and those who don’t have enough of these ...
Views: 1711 - SEEING THE REAL ENEMY - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2024 from William CottringerSEEING THE REAL ENEMY By Bill Cottringer It pays to know the enemy - not least because at some time you may have the opportunity to turn him into a friend. ~Margaret Thatcher. The real enemy is not a person, group, country, or thing that we can easily see and fight against, but ...
Views: 322 - SELF-GROWTH REALITY REPAIR - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2009 from William CottringerSELF-GROWTH REALITY REPAIR By Bill Cottringer “Common sense is the simple knack of seeing something as it is and doing things as they should be done.” ~Mark Twain. This article has been written for both self-growth writers and readers. Having been an avid student, teacher, practitioner, ...
Views: 1026 - SEVEN COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2015 from William CottringerSEVEN COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS By Bill Cottringer “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~George Bernard Shaw. Communication, like time, is one of our most important resources, but is becoming less cost-effective in usage by the minute, ...
Views: 1559 - Seven Crossroads - by Submitted on May 01, 2023 from William CottringerSeven Crossroads by Bill Cottringer “If you come to a fork in the road, take it.” ~Yogi Berra. Self-consciousness compellingly temps us into falsely believing we have a unique identity as “I, me, and myself,” which is a stand-alone person distinctly separated and different from ...
Views: 578 - SEVEN HELPING PILLARS - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2008 from William CottringerSEVEN HELPING PILLARS By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It's not.” ~Dr. Seuss. We are all born with an innate desire to be successful and help others. There is wisdom in the saying, “you can best help ...
Views: 957 - Seven Learning Lessons from Failures - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2024 from William CottringerSeven Learning Lessons from Failures "Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts." ~Winston S. Churchill. The evolution of psychology tells us a lot about what needs to be studied. The first theories in psychology focused on ...
Views: 416 - SEVEN MANAGEMENT “SINS” THAT WON’T GO AWAY - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2012 from William CottringerSEVEN MANAGEMENT “SINS” THAT WON’T GO AWAY By Bill Cottringer "Always recognize that human individuals are ends, and do not use them as means to your end." ~Immanuel Kant. There are seven “sins” that plague all managers from time to time and which even the best MBA trained managers ...
Views: 1617 - Seven Simple Reality Repair Rules - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2008 from William CottringerSeven Simple Reality Repair Rules By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Reality is what persists and accumulates when you finally see past what you think you are looking at.” ~The author. The modern science of quantum physics have proved a remarkable paradigm-shifting truth that has enormous ...
Views: 1012 - Seven Sure Paths to Self-Actualization - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2021 from William CottringerSeven Sure Paths to Self-Actualization By Bill Cottringer “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” ~Theodore Roosevelt. There is common consensus that the goal of personal development is to learn, grow and improve into your best self—self-actualization as Abraham Maslow ...
Views: 494 - Seven Things Relationship Counselors Usually Won't Tell You - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2007 from William CottringerSEVEN THINGS RELATIONSHIP COUNSELORS USUALLY WON’T TELL YOU By Bill Cottringer Now I realize that this article is going to rile a few people in the relationship counseling profession, but I will at least try to speak the truth gently and kindly. I have been there, done that and paid my ...
Views: 3004 - Seven Verbs to Defeat Anger - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2021 from William CottringerSEVEN VERBS TO DEFEAT ANGER By Bill Cottringer “Speak when you are angry, and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” ~Ambrose Bierce. Anger is a strong, unpleasant feeling you usually get when someone else, something else or you yourself, may be getting in the way of ...
Views: 963 - Several Sound Sources of Happiness - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2024 from William CottringerSeveral Sound Sources of Happiness By Bill Cottringer Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. ~Mahatma Gandhi. Unhappiness is easy to have, but having authentic happiness is one of life’s greatest challenges because of the many adversities ...
Views: 381 - Sharing The Secret of Single-Mindedness - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2007 from William CottringerSHARING THE SECRET OF SINGLE-MINDEDNESS by Bill Cottringer The most important gift a leader can share is the illusive secret of single-mindedness. No organization can flourish with consistent growth, abundant prosperity and genuine success without single-mindedness of purpose and effort. ...
Views: 1645 - Shortcut to Happiness - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2009 from William CottringerSHORTCUT TO HAPPINESS By Bill Cottringer “Happiness is merely what you get from doing what you do to get it.” ~The author, not being facetious. Or put another way… Shortcut to Happiness Want more happiness? Slow down & do less, Unload the overload; Listen to what you want, Hear what you ...
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