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- Accidental vs. Intentional Careers - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2020 from William CottringerAccidental vs. Intentional Careers By Bill Cottringer “Our strongest gifts are usually those we are barely aware of possessing. They are a part of our God-given nature, with us from the moment we drew first breath, and we are no more conscious of having them than we are of breathing.” ...
Views: 654 - AN ATTITUDE FOR ALL SEASONS - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2017 from William CottringerAN ATTITUDE FOR ALL SEASONS by Bill Cottringer “The amount of success you have or don’t have, is more related to how you define success, than all you talents, efforts, motivation, timing and luck combined together.”~ The Author. I have been an avid student of human behavior and ...
Views: 1364 - An Epiphany About Intentionality - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2017 from William CottringerAn Epiphany About Intentionality By Bill Cottringer “All things considered, the concept of willfulness loses sight of too many of them.” ~The Author. I am proposing that our entire justice system is built upon a highly questionable basic assumption—that all wrongdoers are ...
Views: 1395 - An Ever-Growing Gap Between Managers And Employees In The Information Age - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2014 from William CottringerAn Ever-Growing Gap Between Managers And Employees In The Information Age By William Cottringer When we first started on the path of the Information Age in the early eighties, we had no earthly idea where it was going to take us. Ironically, here in 2014, we still don’t know the answer ...
Views: 1591 - An Idea Who's Time Has Come - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2007 from William CottringerAN IDEA WHO’S TIME HAS COME By Bill Cottringer Thanks to the relatively recent science of neuromarketing, brain research has begun to identify the central role of the reptilian part of the human brain (old brain)—below the thinking and emotional semi-conscious mental activities we ...
Views: 770 - AN IMPORTANT “YES, BUT...” CAVEAT OF BALANCE BEING AN ASPIRATION POINTSubmitted on Feb 25, 2009 from William CottringerAN IMPORTANT “YES, BUT...” CAVEAT OF BALANCE BEING AN ASPIRATION POINT By Bill Cottringer For much of my life I have faithfully bought into the total virtue of the ‘golden mean’ of balance between extremes being the only way to go. This safe road has generally worked out to my benefit, ...
Views: 924 - An Irreconcilable Conflict? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2007 from William CottringerAN IRRECONCILABLE CONFLICT? By Bill Cottringer “There is no squabbling so violent as that between people who accepted an idea yesterday and those who will accept the same idea tomorrow.” ~Christopher Morley. In his recent movie, Gone Baby Gone, Director Ben Affleck leaves his brother ...
Views: 1943 - And Then There Is The truth - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2007 from William CottringerTHERE ARE ALWAYS TWO SIDES OF THE STORY & THEN THERE IS THE TRUTH By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Reality leaves a lot to the imagination.” ~ John Lennon Actually there are probably as many ‘stories’ as there are people on this planet. But, there is but one overall, unifying truth that ...
Views: 845 - Angry Hearts - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2007 from William CottringerANGRY HEARTS by Bill Cottringer There is an undesirable phenomenon going on today that we can all feel—angry hearts. Like any other problem we want to solve, we have to understand it and then figure out what we can do about it as individuals. Divisions between people seem to be ...
Views: 870 - Angry Hearts - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2007 from William CottringerANGRY HEARTS by Bill Cottringer There is an unexpected side-effect of being mentally and spiritually healthy: You become more aware of and obligated to help resolve the phenomenon of angry hearts. And this can be more time consuming, draining and beyond what you may think you are ...
Views: 1637 - Anticipating and Avoiding Getting Fired - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2013 from William CottringerAnticipating and Avoiding Getting Fired By Bill Cottringer “If you intend to go to work there is no better place than right where you are; if you do not intend to go to work you cannot get along anywhere. Squirming and crawling about from place to place can do no good.” ~Abraham ...
Views: 2114 - ANY RELATIONSHIP CAN GO SOUTH QUICKLY - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2008 from William CottringerANY RELATIONSHIP CAN GO SOUTH QUICKLY By Bill Cottringer “Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” ~Henry Winkler. Great, good or ghastly relationships can go South in a New York second if they are not prepared ahead of time for the Big “S”—the inevitable stress that challenges ...
Views: 818 - Are There Still Differences Between Male and Female Psyches? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2015 from William CottringerAre There Still Differences Between Male and Female Psyches? By Bill Cottringer After John Gray’s Book “Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus” came out decades ago, significant mental and emotional differences between the sexes explained many of the difficulties that caused ...
Views: 1785 - Are You Asking The Right Questions? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2011 from William CottringerAre You Asking The Right Questions? By Bill Cottringer “Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” ~Tony Robbins. Success in life, in the three primary areas of work, play and relationships, requires getting successful outcomes to solving ...
Views: 1551 - Are You Lucky Or Unlucky? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2021 from William CottringerARE YOU LUCKY OR UNLUCKY? by Bill Cottringer “Good luck is when opportunity meets preparation, while bad luck is when lack of preparation meets reality.” ~Eliyahu Goldratt. Are you lucky or unlucky? I suppose how you answer this question depends upon how you define “luck.” The ...
Views: 568 - Are You Smart Enough? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2017 from William CottringerAre You Smart Enough? By Bill Cottringer “Half of being smart is in knowing what you are dumb about.” ~Solomon Short. I have been an avid researcher of the connection between intelligence and success for several decades now, and am finally ready to release my short list for ...
Views: 1592 - Asking Good Questions To Increase Satisfaction In Work, Relationships And PlaySubmitted on May 16, 2009 from William CottringerAsking Good Questions To Increase Satisfaction In Work, Relationships And Play By Bill Cottringer Sometimes real success involves flip-flopping the traditional sequence in which we approach things. Then we end up wondering why something doesn’t feel quite right, like the tail seems to be ...
Views: 1127 - BANDWIDTH AND “P” POINTS FOR SUPER SUCCESS - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2013 from William CottringerBANDWIDTH AND “P” POINTS FOR SUPER SUCCESS By Bill Cottringer “Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” ~Winston Churchill. We are all on a super success quest race with an unfortunate delusion that there are quick cures and instant ...
Views: 1457 - Basic Beliefs that Block Success - by Submitted on May 07, 2009 from William CottringerBasic Beliefs that Block Success By Bill Cottringer “It is my belief, you cannot deal with the most serious things in the world unless you understand the most amusing.” ~Winston Churchill. Sara is a very positive thinker, John is as smart as a whip and they are both very happy and ...
Views: 1027 - Be a Winner of the Conflict Trifecta - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2023 from William CottringerBe a Winner of the Conflict Trifecta By Bill Cottringer Conflict is the beginning of consciousness. ~M. Esther Harding. There are three main types of conflicts—against life, between others, and within ourselves—which we all face in trying to get through life and live our own ...
Views: 414 - BE YOUR BEST SELF BY NOT TRYING TO BE A BETTER YOU - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2011 from William CottringerBE YOUR BEST SELF BY NOT TRYING TO BE A BETTER YOU By Bill Cottringer “We discover who we have always been when we stop attempting to become better than who we really are” ~Stephen Levine. When the positive psychology movement was gaining momentum, Stephen Covey characterized ...
Views: 1425 - Beating the COVD Holiday Blues - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2020 from William CottringerBeating the COVD Holiday Blues By Bill Cottringer “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart. Wishing you happiness during this holiday season.” ~Helen Keller This year the normal holiday spirit may be dampened by ...
Views: 797 - Becoming Single-Minded - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2007 from William CottringerBECOMING SINGLE-MINDED By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Self-consciousness creates the illusion that there is a separate self from the rest of reality. That would be the funniest mistake in the world if so many people weren’t so convinced that the illusion is really true.” ~ The author. ...
Views: 5151 - Becoming Your Best Self - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2020 from William CottringerBECOMING YOUR BEST SELF by Bill Cottringer “Knowing others is intelligence. Knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true strength.” ~Lao Tzu. An earlier Psychologist, Abraham Maslow, proposed a hierarchy of needs that all people had a ...
Views: 763 - Becoming Your Signature Self - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2007 from William CottringerBECOMING YOUR SIGNATURE SELF By Bill Cottringer What do Oprah Winfrey, George Clooney, Jack Canfield, Tiger Woods, Nichole Kidman, Katie Keric, and Alex Rodriguez all have in common besides being extraordinarily good looking, rich and famous, and masters of their trades? Better yet, what ...
Views: 1339 - BEING A GOOD EMPLOYEE - by Submitted on May 16, 2009 from William CottringerBEING A GOOD EMPLOYEE By Bill Cottringer A big part of being happy and successful, involves your approach to work. These simple requirements are a prescription for the right approach to work in being a good employee If you practice these simple suggestions you are likely to get recognized ...
Views: 9791 - Being Certain - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2007 from William CottringerBEING CERTAIN By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Reality is that which, when you stop believing in it, doesn’t go away.” ~Philip K. Dick. The other day my daughter Abby was given a question to answer by the instructor of her epistemology class as a high school senior. The question was ...
Views: 993 - Being Happy Without Money - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2007 from William CottringerBEING HAPPY WITHOUT MONEY By Bill Cottringer “If you can’t be happy poor you can’t be happy rich.” ~ The Author. Are we all really capable of achieving great financial wealth like The Secret proponents and all the wealth books and wealth gurus profess? Are we all meant to have wealth? ...
Views: 11348 - BELIEFS & BEHAVIOR - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2024 from William CottringerBELIEFS & BEHAVIOR by William Cottringer, Ph.D. You never know how much you really believe anything until its truth or falsehood becomes a matter of life and death to you. ~C.S. Lewis. Beliefs are what drive our behaviors, but not all by themselves. They get much help from two ...
Views: 254 - Benefits & Challenges of Diversity - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2021 from William CottringerBenefits & Callenges of Diversity By Bill Cottringer “Our ability to reach unity in diversity will be the beauty and the test of our civilization.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi. The rest of the workforce diversity story is unfolding as every great social change brings sometimes unexpected ...
Views: 571 - BEST 10 CUSTOMER SERVICE TIPS IN THE BUSINESS - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2009 from William CottringerBEST 10 CUSTOMER SERVICE TIPS IN THE BUSINESS By Bill Cottringer “Good customer service is 90% listening and follow-up and 10% talking.” ~The author. 1. Leave your bad moods, frustrations and other agendas at home or at least put them aside and out of mind and heart when you are engaged with ...
Views: 2351 - Best Perspective For Success In Closing The Gap That Matters Most - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2013 from William CottringerBest Perspective For Success In Closing The Gap That Matters Most By Bill Cottringer Success is not— What you do, What you get, Or what you have; But what you attract, From being who you are. “Success is a certain sense of progress accumulated from making all the right little ...
Views: 1812 - Better Success with More Failure - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2024 from William CottringerBetter Success with More Failure by Bill Cottringer It is not the things in life that bothers us, but rather our opinions about these things. ~Epictetus. Like efficient government, this title seems somewhat like an oxymoron. Well, I certainly didn’t come up with the idea because ...
Views: 196 - Better Time Management for 2020 and Beyond - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2019 from William CottringerBetter Time Management for 2020 and Beyond by Bill Cottringer “Time is the one resource that is equally distributed, but unequally used.” ~The Author. This combining millennium will likely just continue to overload us with more and more information, where we end up never having ...
Views: 1245 - Birth of The Terrible Twins Within (Our Dualistic Minds) - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from William CottringerBirth of The Terrible Twins Within (Our Dualistic Minds) By Bill Cottringer “If we never experience the chill of a dark winter, it is very unlikely that we will ever cherish the warmth of a bright summer’s day. Nothing stimulates our appetite for the simple joys of life more than the ...
Views: 1475 - Brain and Heart Management for Better Success - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2014 from William CottringerBrain and Heart Management for Better Success By Bill Cottringer The lion’s share of success and failure is mostly due to how well we manage our brains and hearts—specifically how we learn, grow and improve the thinking and feeling which drives our behavior. Psychologists have never ...
Views: 1698 - BREAKING THE NEAR-IMPOSSIBLE CYCLE OF ADDICTION - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2009 from William CottringerBREAKING THE NEAR-IMPOSSIBLE CYCLE OF ADDICTION by Bill Cottringer “In the course of history many more people have died for their drink and their dope than have died for their religion or their country.” ~Aldous Huxley. A drop dead handsome, smart young man gets a good education and ...
Views: 2991 - CAREFULLY CRAFTING CHANGE - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2008 from William Cottringer“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” ~Maria Robinson. As managers today, we are being challenged to use and teach one skill more than all the others in our toolbox—adapting to and teaching change successfully. Just pause a moment ...
Views: 833 - Challenges in Virtual Communication - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2022 from William CottringerChallenges in Virtual Communication by Bill Cottringer “Texting is a brilliant way to miscommunicate how you feel and misinterpret what other people mean.” ~Anonymous. Face to face (f2f) communication itself has many challenges but communicating in the new virtual world surrounding ...
Views: 497 - Character-Building - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2007 from William CottringerCHARACTER-BUILDING By Bill Cottringer If you do a Google search on “character-building programs in schools” you will uncover nearly a quarter of a million hits. Why is character-building such an important topic getting so much attention in our schools? First of all it is not ...
Views: 1742 - Choices, Choices, Choices - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2007 from William CottringerCHOICES, CHOICES, CHOICES By Bill Cottringer Probably the one thing we think about and do more than anything else in life is making choices. Many times we even have to choose to make a choice or not. We generally make choices from either our heads or our hearts, but usually somewhere in ...
Views: 785 - Choosing the Right Side - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2017 from William CottringerChoosing the Right Side By Bill Cottringer An elderly Episcopal priest once gave a simple sermon with a single message that makes too much sense to disregard, even for non-religious people. The message was this: There is one main choice in life and that is which side are you on—the ...
Views: 1193 - COLLABORATIVE LEADERSHIP - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2008 from William CottringerCOLLABORATIVE LEADERSHIP By Bill Cottringer “A leader is a dealer in hope.” ~Napoleon Bonaparte. And so the opening question is when have we needed hope more than today, if it is just help to be more optimistic in seeing past the ornery information overload that is burying us all? ...
Views: 1202 - Common Sense Life Mission-Based Alignment - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2010 from William CottringerCommon Sense Life Mission-Based Alignment By Bill Cottringer “Common sense and a sense of humor are the same things moving at different speeds. A sense of humor is just common sense dancing.” ~ William James. A few years ago, a colleague of mine wrote an important business book ...
Views: 2323 - Common Sense Or Good Sense? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from William CottringerCommon Sense Or Good Sense? By Bill Cottringer “Common sense in an uncommon degree is what the world calls wisdom.”― Samuel Taylor Coleridge. It seems to be a sad common consensus today that common sense is not so common anymore. But, the validity of that conclusion really depends ...
Views: 1512 - Common Sense Time Management Learned The Hard Way - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2011 from William CottringerCommon Sense Time Management Learned The Hard Way By Bill Cottringer “Time is the school in which we learn, time is the fire in which we burn. ~Delmore Schwartz. Today, given the tons and miles of information overload that the Internet and other technology has produced and the ...
Views: 1972 - Commonsense Solutions to Our Three Main Conflicts - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2021 from William CottringerCommonsense Solutions to Our Three Main Conflicts By Bill Cottringer “Ideologies separate us. Dreams and anguish bring us together.” ~Eugene Ionesco. To help identify the source that drives our three main conflicts, I am taking the liberty of expanding the meaning of the ...
Views: 498 - Communicating with Today’s Workforce - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2020 from William CottringerCommunicating with Today’s Workforce By Bill Cottringer “The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn't being said.” ~Peter F. Drucker. In managing a wide variety of workforces for nearly six decades now—private and public settings and large and small organizations ...
Views: 1032 - Conflicts and Heartaches - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2023 from William CottringerConflicts and Heartaches by Bill Cottringer “Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.” ~William Ellery Channing. Conflicts are as much a part of life as change, taxes and death. Heartaches go together with conflicts like grass ...
Views: 450 - CONTROLLING VS. MANAGING BEHAVIOR - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2013 from William CottringerCONTROLLING VS. MANAGING BEHAVIOR By Bill Cottringer “One of the biggest sources of frustration comes from trying to control the uncontrollables; on the other hand, great satisfaction comes from gradually learning to manage the controllables better.” ~The author. Control: To exercise ...
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