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- Heart Freedom Exercise (4): Freeing the Fool - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandHeart Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do On Your Own by Al Link and Pala Copeland Freeing the Fool Time for Exercise: five to 15 minutes Properties Required: none Steps: When have you felt foolish, embarrassed, or humiliated? Recall the circumstances of those situations. What if these ...
Views: 630 - Heart Freedom Exercise (5): Heart In Darkness - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandHeart in Darkness Time for Exercise: 15 minutes to one hour Properties Required: drawing paper, pencils, colored pencils, pen, charcoal sticks Steps: Draw a picture illustrating the emotional state of your heart right now. Convey the extent to which your heart is wounded, ...
Views: 760 - Heart Freedom Exercise (6): Eye Gazing - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandHeart Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland Eye Gazing So through the eyes love attains the heart: For the eyes are the scouts of the heart, And the eyes go reconnoitering For what it would please the heart to possess. Guiraut de Borneilh, ...
Views: 2078 - Heart Freedom Exercise (7): Three Out Of Three - by Submitted on May 05, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandThree Out of Three “I want you. I need you. I love you.” Could there be any sentences sweeter than these to hear your lover speak? Time for Exercise: 15 minutes Properties Required: none Steps: Prepare in advance what you will say to your lover for each of these three ...
Views: 537 - Heart Freedom Exercise (8): Permission Please - by Submitted on May 08, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandHeart Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland Permission Please Time for Exercise: one minute Properties Required: none Steps: Ask your partner’s permission to be her lover. Look into her eyes and hold her hand while you speak. Most important is how ...
Views: 608 - Heart Freedom Exercise (9): Yin Yang Yes! - by Submitted on May 13, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandYin Yang YES! The familiar Chinese yin/yang symbol suggests a balance and harmony between the yin (feminine energies) and yang (masculine energies) or between any pair of opposites. Examples of yin/yang in relationship are following/leading, surrender/control, opening to the mystery/making ...
Views: 825 - Heart Opening Eye Gaze Meditation - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2010 from Al Link and Pala CopelandTime: 2 minutes per day, every day you are together. Lovers sit facing each other. For one minute, the first partner sends a look of Love, using only the face and eyes to send the love, but not speaking any words. Later in the day or evening, the other lover sends a look of love in this same ...
Views: 5269 - How Good Are You Willing to Have It? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2010 from Al Link and Pala CopelandSex is essential in a fulfilling mate relationship, unless you have consciously chosen to have one that is platonic, more akin to friendship than marriage. In a true marriage, based upon lifelong commitment, sexual fulfillment and abundance in love and pleasure are inseparable from relationship ...
Views: 2945 - Integrating Your 4 Freedoms (Part 1 of 9) - Quantum Reality - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandIntegrating Your 4 Freedoms Separation or Unity – What is the Nature of Reality? The Western world loves to compartmentalize, creating boxes of separation so that the complexities of life are easier to comprehend and simpler to cope with. We separate work from family life, spiritual ...
Views: 824 - Integrating Your 4 Freedoms (Part 2 of 9) - String Theory - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandString Theory The theory of strings, sometimes referred to as the theory of everything,i is considered by many physicists to be the most promising explanation to date for the nature of ultimate reality. It suggests the possibility that there is a connection, as well as a separation, between the ...
Views: 792 - Integrating Your 4 Freedoms (Part 3 of 9) - Remote Viewing - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandRemote Viewing Experiments Outside the realm of physics, other experiments have shown that there are connections between mind and matter that can’t be explained by the old model of separation. Studies starting in 1972 and lasting over two decades were conducted under the sponsorship ...
Views: 788 - Integrating Your 4 Freedoms (Part 4 of 9) - Ultimate Reality: Consciousness - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandUltimate Reality: Consciousness If the difference between particles and waves is so slippery, and if time and space are so easily transcended, what is the fundamental nature of reality? What is real? One answer is consciousness. Consciousness is original and fundamental, everything ...
Views: 655 - Integrating Your 4 Freedoms (Part 5 Of 9) - An Experiment In Awareness - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandDeveloping an Empirical Awareness of the Four Freedoms You can do simple experiments to comprehend that all elements of you are interconnected. For 30 seconds think a very negative thought, for instance, your partner has left you, you have been fired, or your home has burned down. Stop the ...
Views: 685 - Integrating Your 4 Freedoms (Part 6 Of 9) : Pleasure - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandLIVING A LIFE OF PLEASURE The true nature of reality is obviously a mystery. There is no “objective reality” to fasten onto as a conclusive guide for living. This can be frightening or freeing, for if there is no absolute certainty, then your reality is up to you. You create ...
Views: 582 - Integrating Your 4 Freedoms (Part 7 of 9) - Desire As Freedom - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandJust as we are sometimes taught that pleasure is a sinful path to follow, so are we warned of the terrible power of desire. Desire can lead us to overindulgence, to betrayal, and to misery. “The abstinent run away from what they desire, but carry their desires with them. When a man ...
Views: 652 - Integrating Your 4 Freedoms (Part 8 of 9) - Mate Relationship and Summary Of The 4 Freedoms - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandIntegration in a Mate Relationship A mate relationship is a superlative setting for integrating your Four Freedoms. A relationship is the ideal arena for learning to become whole. Lovers do not complete each other but rather comprise one whole relationship. Not only is committed ...
Views: 583 - Integrating Your 4 Freedoms (Part 9 Of 9) - Vision And Purpose - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandVision and Purpose Choice is the foundation of all Four Freedoms. You reclaim your freedom by making new choices and acting consistently to support those choices. Although you won’t get what you want if you don’t know what it is, you don’t have to know exactly what you ...
Views: 682 - Keeping Your Heart Open - Heart Freedom (Part 7 of 8 ) - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2008 from Al Link and Pala Copeland"Keeping Your Heart Open" As you proactively manifest Heart Freedom, in the context of a monogamous committed relationship, your burden of fear, pain, and insecurity declines continuously and sometimes dramatically. You can heal wounds from childhood to the present quite naturally without ...
Views: 622 - Massage Variations - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2009 from Al Link and Pala CopelandSeven Minute Massage It is a delicious treat to receive a full body massage that lasts any where from thirty minutes to a couple of hours, but you can also give your lover a boost with a massage “quickie”. You can effectively energize and loosen him up from top to toe in five to seven minutes. ...
Views: 1477 - Meaning of Life - Soul Freedom (Part 5 of 7) - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2008 from Al Link and Pala Copeland"The Meaning of Life and The Meaning in Life" The meaning of life is forever a mystery. Some mysteries are unsolvable and best left that way. But the meaning in life is entirely different. Life is not a problem needing a solution; it is an experience to be lived fully in the present, ...
Views: 1106 - Men In Relationship - Heart Freedom (Part 5 of 8 ) - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandPart 5 of 8 "Men in Relationship: The Hero Who Admits He Is Afraid" Many men are reluctant to embrace relationships but relationships are the marquee event in the Olympics of Life. Winning the gold medal in relationships is as good as it gets in this world. Ask yourself: Is a great ...
Views: 727 - Men in Relationship:The Superhero-Heart Freedom (Part 6 Of 8 ) - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandIn popular culture such as the cinema, superheroes are rarely associated with mature, fulfilling, sexual relationships. However, they can and should be. Doing so would begin the process of popularizing a model worthy of emulation, the hero as warrior and lover, all rolled into one glorious human ...
Views: 755 - Mind Freedom Exercise (1): The Witness - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandMind Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do On Your Own by Al Link and Pala Copeland The Witness When you act without thinking, caught up in habit, emotional overreaction, or conditioned behavior, you become powerless. Cultivating your observer consciousness—the ability to see yourself ...
Views: 1083 - Mind Freedom Exercise (10): What Matters To Me Sexually - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandWhat Matters to Me Sexually Time for Exercise: 15 minutes alone and five minutes with your lover Properties Required: pen and paper Steps: Take fifteen minutes, or more if needed, to identify what really matters to you in lovemaking. Identify some things that are essential, some things ...
Views: 795 - Mind Freedom Exercise (11): Two Ways Make New Ways - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandTwo Ways Make New Ways Time for Exercise:15 minutes to two hours Properties Required: pen and paper Steps: Have a conversation during which you identify points of difference, such as ways of thinking or acting, values, and beliefs. Some of these differences might be minor; ...
Views: 603 - Mind Freedom Exercise (12): You Go First - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandYou Go First The poet Alta once wrote, “Let’s stop hurting each other. You go first.” Somebody has to go first if things are going to change for the better. Time for Exercise: 15 minutes to one hour Properties Required: none Steps: Identify a contentious issue that ...
Views: 589 - Mind Freedom Exercise (13): The Whine Cellar - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandThe Whine Cellar Do you catch yourself whining and complaining needlessly about what ails you and what you don’t like? Do you notice your lover doing the same? Whining and complaining rarely elicit compassion from those around us but rather tend to annoy everyone. Certainly it is ...
Views: 553 - Mind Freedom Exercise (14): Truth And Dare - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandTruth and Dare All the secrets you hold inside are an enormous weight, a needless burden. This exercise offers an excellent opportunity for you to revisit and let go of things from your past that still bother you. All of us have experiences that have left us wounded: times when we felt ...
Views: 1364 - Mind Freedom Exercise (15): I Changed My Mind - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandI Changed My Mind… And she never gives out, and she never gives in. She just changes her mind. Billy Joel, She's Always a Woman Time for Exercise: 10 to 30 minutes Properties Required: none Steps: Individually select an issue that has been a bone of contention ...
Views: 556 - Mind Freedom Exercise (16): Completely Committed - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandCompletely Committed Time for Exercise: 15 minutes Properties Required: none Steps: Explain to your partner what your commitment means. Give evidence that supports your statement and shows your commitment. Below are examples of evidence that commitment is real. The items on this ...
Views: 546 - Mind Freedom Exercise (17): Posting Priorities - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandPosting Priorities Time for Exercise: five to 15 minutes Properties Required: pen and paper Steps: One partner reads the following story to the other. An expert in time management who spent a lot of his time in the countryside, came to town on occasion and spoke to business ...
Views: 2212 - Mind Freedom Exercise (18): Delectable Deliberations - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandMind Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland Delectable Deliberations One of the sexiest turn-ons for men and women is the intellectual stimulation of exploring and disagreeing about ideas. Time for Exercise: the length of a meal Properties Required: none ...
Views: 570 - Mind Freedom Exercise (19): Fantasy Fun - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandFantasy Fun Fantasies provide opportunities to explore all aspects of sexuality with a lover you trust in a situation that is safe, even though some fantasies might involve danger, violence, or taboos. Suggested guidelines for exploring fantasy: No-one gets hurt—no means no, and stop ...
Views: 713 - Mind Freedom Exercise (2): What I Notice Today - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandMind Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do On Your Own by Al Link and Pala Copeland What I Notice Today Your relationship is like a garden. You must pay attention to it every day weeding a little here, and watering a little there, so that it will thrive. Time for Exercise: two minutes Properties ...
Views: 616 - Mind Freedom Exercise (3): Flexible Thinking - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandMind Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do On Your Own by Al Link and Pala Copeland Flexible Thinking You have the power over what you think about. You also have the power over how you think about what you think about. Your brain performs various functions, such as recalling, thinking, and ...
Views: 1732 - Mind Freedom Exercise (4): Best Friends - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandHow well do you really know each other? How much do you take each other for granted? Time for Exercise: 15 minutes to one hour Properties Required: pen and paper Steps: Answer the following questions: What color(s) are your lover’s eyes? What color is your lover’s ...
Views: 601 - Mind Freedom Exercise (5): Mind-Field - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandMind-field Our minds can be drunken monkeys, flitting from one thought to the next. When you are trying to concentrate on something but notice you are drifting off to think about something else, use this technique to learn to stay focused. It will also help your thought process to become quiet, ...
Views: 1246 - Mind Freedom Exercise (6): Mind Puzzle - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandMind Puzzle Time for Exercise: 15 minutes to one hour Properties Required none Steps: Ask yourself the following questions. The first question is the most important one. All the other questions follow from that one. The first question is: “Who am I?” Some common answers might ...
Views: 601 - Mind Freedom Exercise (7): Shaman Says - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandShaman Says The term shaman might have originated in Northern Siberia in a region in central Russia known as Tunguska, purported to be the location of a mystical kingdom referred to as Shamballa. A shaman (sometimes magician, sorcerer, witch doctor, or medicine man) has esoteric knowledge ...
Views: 1249 - Mind Freedom Exercise (8): Poet's Prophecy - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandPoet’s Prophecy Having something to look forward to is one of the supreme motivators in life. Helping your partner to see and believe that good things lie ahead is one of the great gifts you can offer. When lovers expect the best from each other, they are more likely to get it. The ...
Views: 652 - Mind Freedom Exercise (9): How Do I Love Thee? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandTime for Exercise: 15 minutes to one hour Properties Required: pen and paper Steps: Each of you makes a list of things loved and appreciated about the other. Take turns reading your lists out loud. Comments: You can never hear too many times why your partner loves, admires, ...
Views: 606 - Mind Freedom In Relationship: Conscious Attention To What Matters - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2007 from Al Link and Pala Copeland"Mind Freedom in Relationship: Conscious Attention to What Matters" Mind Freedom -Part 4 of 8 The world is demanding and constantly changing. People tend to ignore one of their most important anchors for intellectual sanity, emotional security, and spiritual wisdom—their primary ...
Views: 622 - Passionate Detachment - Soul Freedom (Part 4 of 7) - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2008 from Al Link and Pala Copeland"Passionate Detachment" Carlos Castaneda has written a series of remarkable books in which he describes his shamanic apprenticeship with the Yaqui sorcerer Don Juan. Don Juan advises Castaneda that a man of knowledge (an impeccable warrior) chooses a path and follows it with heart, acting as ...
Views: 3199 - Relationship Happiness and The Four Freedoms - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2009 from Al Link and Pala CopelandRight this moment, just as you are, you have four unimaginably powerful resources at your command. With them you can accomplish miracles. They are your Four Freedoms of Body, Mind, Heart, and Soul. Although you are already innately aware of these elemental forces—their strength, dynamism, and ...
Views: 2362 - Sacred Sex - Body Freedom - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2007 from Al Link and Pala Copeland"Sacred Sex – Body Freedom" (Part 5 of 7) by Al Link and Pala Copeland Although most couples want a really good sex life, many are afraid that it’s unattainable because they personally don’t know how to create it. They bury their sexual dreams under the weight of ...
Views: 1247 - Sex In History - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Al Link and Pala CopelandSEX IN HISTORY By Al Link and Pala Copeland - 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra As we human beings have changed and evolved over our thousands of years of recorded history so have our attitudes and expressions of all things sexual. The only thing that hasn’t changed much is ...
Views: 3865 - Sex Stats - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Al Link and Pala CopelandSex Stats By Al Link and Pala Copeland - 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra The next time you’re at a party and there’s a lull in the conversation rather than trying to fill the gap with your knowledge of sports statistics, sitcom trivia or movie tidbits wow your listeners with ...
Views: 3614 - Sexual Fire Breath - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2009 from Al Link and Pala CopelandThe sexual fire breath is one of the best exercises, especially with a partner (but you can also do it alone), for rapidly building a hot sexual charge and moving it up through your body, helping to open all of your chakra centers. In the sexual fire breath you use a combination of sound, pelvic ...
Views: 10519 - Sexual Harassment Policy Guidelines - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Al Link and Pala CopelandSexual Harassment Policy Guidelines By Al Link and Pala Copeland - 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra The following document is a draft sexual harassment guideline for business and other organizations. Permission is hereby granted for you to modify and use the information in this article ...
Views: 6606 - Sexual Magnetism: Pheromones - The Scent Of Sex - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Al Link and Pala CopelandSexual Magnetism: Pheromones – The Scent of Sex By Al Link and Pala Copeland - 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra All this time you thought it was sculpted muscles, dazzling smiles and fast cars that were surefire babe magnets. Well have we got news for you. What really drives women wild ...
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