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- Have Awesome Outcomes, Exercise Your Power to Choose! - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2015 from Emma ViglucciI find that we make poor choices at almost every turn and then wonder how come our relationship and life are not as we’d prefer them to be I find that we do not own our Self and our life, that we do not know who we are and what we are meant to do I find that we do not take the time to design our ...
Views: 1087 - How to Create the Relationship You Desire - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2015 from Emma ViglucciUsually we have good intentions and mean to invest in our relationship. Somehow this fizzles from the moment we have that thought or attitude to the next moment… We are very fickle in our thinking about the status and course of our relationship. One moment we are partners for life, the next we ...
Views: 1052 - You CAN Understand Your Partner! - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2015 from Emma ViglucciA key ingredient in a satisfying relationship is Understanding. When we don’t feel understood we are out of sinc with one another and our needs can’t be met. Understanding validates our existence, is respectful and mindful. It is amazing that most people do not have this necessary ingredient ...
Views: 1102 - "Crying" Gets Your Needs Met! - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2015 from Emma ViglucciWhen we are babies we learn to get our needs met by alerting our parents of a poopie diaper, hungry belly, or an ouchie with our crying. As adults, we continue to try to get our needs met with our �crying�. Our crying has become more sophisticated over time and now takes the form of criticism, ...
Views: 1145 - How Do I want to be loved? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2015 from Emma ViglucciHow does this happen? Here we are loving a person and doing our best to show them we love, cherish and want to be with them to fail miserably at conveying that message. This is even worse when compounded by difficulties and lack or relationship skills partners bring to the table. But, it ...
Views: 1233 - ***Is Lack of Trust Affecting Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2015 from Emma ViglucciIs lack of trust undermining your connection with your partner and wreaking havoc in your relationship? Lack of trust might extend to beliefs that your partner is cheating. Or it can be as simple as not trusting your partner to be there, follow through, keep their word, be accountable, get your ...
Views: 1510 - ***It’s Time for Love! - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2015 from Emma ViglucciIt’s amazing how many partners know their partner loves them, but they still don’t feel loved… This is actually kind of an epidemic… Couples struggle because they get stuck in power struggles. They let their Ego get in the way. They approach their situation from a reactive and self-preservation ...
Views: 1350 - ***It’s Time for Romance! - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2015 from Emma ViglucciI think romance is underrated… I hear couples express they want romance and to be romanced, but they state it with a sense of shame, wishful thinking and as an unattainable outcome. They off-handedly claim their wish in the same sentence that dismisses it with the practicality of everyday life. ...
Views: 1107 - ***It’s Time for Passion! - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2015 from Emma ViglucciIn my recent reading I have come across a piece of writing that has made me think of sexuality and physical intimacy from a different angle. I love when that happens! Give me material that sparks my creative juices and that I can integrate into my work for greater impact, and I’m a very happy ...
Views: 1090 - ***Detoxing for Relationship Success! - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2015 from Emma ViglucciThere is more to us than meets the eyes… We have an internal world operating at all times that we are vaguely aware of. Some people are totally out of touch with theirs… The more we become acquainted with our own Self and all it’s aspects, needs and desires the more we can be our Authentic Self ...
Views: 1202 - ***Choose Intentions Over Resolutions… - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2015 from Emma ViglucciWe are what we think. We create what we think. What we resist persists. What we focus on expands. We are super powerful creating creatures… Our mind is a honing device for creating, a GPS for getting places… We create what we think whether intentionally or not. Left to its own untrained ...
Views: 1090 - ***Is Your Partner Your Life Partner? - by Submitted on May 09, 2014 from Emma ViglucciHonor your Self. What does that mean? In my book, it means getting in touch with our Core, True, Authentic Self, our Soul, and operating from it in all we do. This means being in connection with our Self, knowing our Self. Most of the time we are in a fog and cacophony of daily minutiae, ...
Views: 1897 - Financial or Emotional Crisis? Get Security Today! - by Submitted on May 07, 2014 from Emma ViglucciMoney. Money is a hot topic in many relationships as there are intense emotions attached to money as well as a range of meaning around it. Partners have different ideas about the importance of money, what it means to them, its purpose, its role, how to manage it, and even how to earn it! Couples ...
Views: 1815 - ***From Desperate Anger to Blooming Passion - by Submitted on May 02, 2014 from Emma ViglucciThe season of renewal is finally here and with it comes an invitation to awaken to life. Note the blue skies, the sun shining, birds chirping, flowers blooming. What an enchanting time to be alive. The possibilities are countless. As we are coming out of hibernation, it is time to look around ...
Views: 1964 - Are You Treated Like Royalty? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2014 from Emma ViglucciYou have to be happy with yourself first… You cannot be happy in your relationship if you are not first happy with your Self… If you are not your Authentic Self, your Soul Self, you are just a robot completing daily tasks and missing the whole point of life… This is not Living… What is the ...
Views: 1855 - Facing Codependence in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2014 from Emma ViglucciWhen we think of codependence we think of it in terms of its association with substance dependence. We think of a partner who is codependent with a substance dependent partner. But this is not the case. Codependence can be a condition and state of being and dealing with life all on its ...
Views: 1585 - Managing Anger in Your Relationship… - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2014 from Emma ViglucciAnger is a poison in our relationship when it is misunderstood and unleashed. It gets in the way of understanding, connectedness, intimacy, love, and satisfaction in our relationship. Anger in its explosive or simmering manifestation, is a sign that something is wrong when it is prevalent. This ...
Views: 1779 - Prevent Blows to Your Relationship! - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2014 from Emma ViglucciMost relationships have to endure a history of trauma experienced by one or both partners and a current trauma(s). Traumas include abandonment, neglect, abuse, rejection, control, accidents, assaults/attacks, catastrophes, infidelity, infertility, loss, relocation, birthing and becoming ...
Views: 1615 - Are You Up for Unconditional Love? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2014 from Emma ViglucciI often find that couples hold a fairy tale expectation of happily ever after, for which I chide them. I dismiss this notion not because it seems unrealistic, but because couples go about creating their fairy tale all wrong. For you see, “happy endings” are possible… This is called unconditional ...
Views: 1832 - Addictions, Depression, Anxiety and Other Goodies. - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2014 from Emma ViglucciBeing parented by imperfect parents/caregivers is considered a traumatic experience of childhood in some of the trauma and attachment literature and information I have come across. This includes being abused, abandoned and/or neglected to various degrees. When trauma is defined in this ...
Views: 1634 - Surviving Infidelity in Your Relationship. - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2014 from Emma ViglucciWhat is an affair? What constitutes cheating? Infidelity? These are very personal definitions. Most people have their own version of what constitutes what. Here is a definition I have adapted from experts in the field that works well: An affair involves one of the partner’s passion being ...
Views: 1942(1 vote) - Are You Changing Enough? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2014 from Emma ViglucciIt’s very interesting to me to watch couples struggle and go around and around… I find that this happens with the ones where partners refuse to take ownership of their own contribution to their relationship’s status quo and are fixated with having their partner change… These are the partners ...
Views: 1678 - Betrayal – Loving and Trusting Afterwards. - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2014 from Emma ViglucciIt is very painful to experience betrayal in our relationships. I am primarily referring to betrayal by loved ones. This is the most painful betrayal. Betrayal may happen in many different forms and can be experienced by anyone at anytime during their life time Betrayal might take place in ...
Views: 1694 - Liven Up Your Relationship – Have Fun! - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2014 from Emma ViglucciWhat is the Fun Quotient in your relationship? Couples have the tendency to become complacent in their relationship including the fun aspect of their relating. This is traumatic to the relationship as it stifles its energy flow creating a numb, stuck and disconnect feel and dissatisfied ...
Views: 1586 - When Do You Get On Your Partner’s Nerves? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2014 from Emma ViglucciDo you know when you get on your partner’s nerves? There is a general underlying theme to the complaints couples usually share and that is that their partner is being egocentric. Egocentrism gets in the way of witnessing our partner’s beauty, gifts and contributions. It keeps us trapped in our ...
Views: 1714(1 vote) - Enhance Your Relationship’s Romance, Passion and Fun Quotient! - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2014 from Emma ViglucciAfter the infatuation and dating stage, fun and romance doesn’t just happen in relationships. Great committed relationships don’t just happen. We have to put in conscious effort to create the relationship we want. Here are some tips for creating and enhancing your intimacy, romance, passion and ...
Views: 1662 - It Should be All Fun & Games! - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2014 from Emma ViglucciFun is important in our relationship. Having fun releases different chemicals in the brain that engender good feelings which get then associated with our partner. This is a good thing. Having fun with our partner should be a priority in our relationship. We can get huge returns on this ...
Views: 1772 - How Much Do You Get Your Partner? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2014 from Emma ViglucciThe majority of the couples that want to improve their relationship identify that communication is an issue for them. They share how they can’t see eye-to-eye, convey their feelings and perspective, or understand each other. They report they end up fighting every time they try to address ...
Views: 1760(2 votes) - Fun and Pleasure… - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2014 from Emma ViglucciThere is a tendency towards passiveness in our relationship as time passes. Couples get comfortable in their routine, whether it is an efficient and satisfying routine or not, and lax in their relating, whether they are on the same page or not. They settle into whatever relating they have ...
Views: 1765 - ***Do You Know How to “Clean” Your Energy? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciShare Good Vibes With Your Partner We are energy. We look like solid entities in our human form only because of our limited human faculties. We are energetic beings with vibrational frequencies. Imagine us as energy waves, reaching further than apparent by the illusion of our human ...
Views: 1252 - Rituals – A Fantastic Couple Success Tool! - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciThere is no better way to create wonderful memories and meaning in one’s relationship than with rituals. Rituals are a special way to show love, appreciation and importance for the partners throughout time in the life of the relationship. Relationships are made up of interactions between two ...
Views: 1579 - Restructuring: Are You In Your Partner’s Circle…? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciCouple relationships experiencing difficulties can be categorized into two broad styles of relating: temperamental or tenuous, and can fluctuate between these extremes. These relationships are not satisfying, and not likely to succeed – enjoy couples’ inherent synergy, as the partners are spent ...
Views: 1794(2 votes) - Follow the Path to Passion and Synergy - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciOne characteristic satisfied and successful couples have in common is that they are part of each other’s lives. Duh-ah! I’m sure this does not come as a surprise. The trick though is how the partners are part of each other’s lives. Partners have difficulties negotiating what this means to ...
Views: 1694 - How Badly Do You Want An Awesome Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2014 from Emma ViglucciBe Awesome With Your Partner! How badly do you want to have an awesome relationship with your partner?How committed are you to making the relationship work? Is failure an option? Do you have one foot out the door? I hear partners complain about how they want things to be different, but they ...
Views: 1185 - If You Can See It, You Can Create It… - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciYou might not have a chance if you keep this up: A tendency to look for weaknesses, gaps, holes, things to improve, deficiencies and the like, and miss the boat on capitalizing on strengths in your relationship. We bring this tendency to how we view our partner and how we relate with them. We ...
Views: 1688 - Connecting is Vital for Tapping Into Your Synergy - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciOne would think that connecting with our partner is an easy feat. After all they are the one person we are supposed to be the most intimate with. This is most often not the case and we are actually not that intimate. I find that couples have a very difficult time connecting, feeling connected ...
Views: 1599 - Your Relationship is the Key to Your Success!! - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciOur relationship is one of the biggest, most powerful asset and gift we have in our life! It is a true treasure chest worth a fortune. It can deliver unimaginable heights of satisfaction, peace, joy, love, happiness and success!! To cash-in on this fortune we have to polish the gems on the ...
Views: 1718(2 votes) - Do You Support Each Other? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciWe all have dreams, wishes and goals. There are things we want for ourselves, our partner, our family. Sometimes though we find that it is difficult, if not impossible, to make our wish a reality. We may want to start a new business, go back to school, learn a new trade, pick up a new hobby ...
Views: 1868 - ***Are You Tapping Into Your Partnership Synergy? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2014 from Emma ViglucciPeople usually marry for love. A new phenomenon, only a couple of centuries old, in the history of the institution of marriage and in this culture. I say “usually” because sometimes people just get married because that is the thing to do, again speaking from today’s and ...
Views: 1118 - Do You Have Dirty Thoughts About Your Partner? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciWhen was the last time you were physically intimate with your partner? If you say a long time, you are not alone! A lot of couples share their sexual life is in the toilet. They struggle getting along, among other things, to the point that being physically intimate is the furthest thing from ...
Views: 1791 - ***Are You Conniving in Your Relating? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciPartners love telling each other what to do, how to behave, how to be, what to think, how to feel, and even things like what to eat and how to dress! They are on a mission to change their partner, consciously or not. This is a sign of lack of boundaries and personal ...
Views: 1284 - ***Do You Have the System to Meet Both of Your Needs Yet? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Emma ViglucciBeing seen and accepted for who we are is a basic need that specially plays out in our relationship. I find that the driver behind most conflict and dissatisfaction in relationships has to do with the partners feeling they can’t be themselves in one way or another. Partners ...
Views: 1150(1 vote) - FOR VALENTINE’S DAY: The Gift of Self Exploration & Expression - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciOften times partners share their wondering about how exclusivity, monogamy, and fidelity is possible in a longterm relationship. It is usually the male partners who pose this question when their female counterpart is not present. I appreciate their honesty, risk and willingness to explore ...
Views: 1676(2 votes) - ***The Secret to Increasing Attraction and Loving… - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2014 from Emma ViglucciWhen we are “too close”, whether we are getting along or not … , we can’t see each other. If we can’t see each other, how can we possibly decide if we like each other and feel attraction? This concept is confusing to most, when we live in a society where relationships ...
Views: 1236(1 vote) - ***Would You Like to Experience Greater Desire and Passion? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2014 from Emma ViglucciCouples usually end up accepting the lack of desire and passion in their relationship as a fact of life for a longterm relationship. They are not happy or satisfied with this, but their attempts at remedying their lack of (passionate) physical intimacy don’t usually succeed. The reason ...
Views: 1087 - ***What Gets You Super Excited … - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2014 from Emma ViglucciOften times couples get so hang up in the business of running their life, attending to their family and other responsibilities, and working that being together, enjoying each other and having fun falls to the way side. This creates a terrible state of affairs where after a while couples forget ...
Views: 1631(1 vote) - ***Learn to Set Healthy Boundaries for Relationship Success! - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciMind Your Own Side of the Fence! We hear all the time that having boundaries is a must for healthy living and happiness in relationship. The only glitch is that a lot of people don’t have the slightest idea about boundaries, never mind about setting them appropriately. I find that ...
Views: 1404 - ***How to Build More Intimacy in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciCultivate Your Intimacy! The hecticness and speediness of today’s pace of life makes it challenging for partners to synchronize, connect and bond. Add to this each partner’s limitations and the journey to Intimacy can feel pretty daunting. It’s no wonder partners ...
Views: 1529(2 votes) - ***How to Have a Successful Relationship… - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciAttune to Your Partner! What is a Successful Relationship? Is being with your spouse, partner, for decades the definition of a successful relationship? Is it raising awesome children? Is it having financial resources, a beautiful home? Is it having our partner do stuff for us? Is it having ...
Views: 1446 - Are You Showing Up in Your Relationship these Holidays? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciAre You Showing Up in Your Relationship these Holidays? The Holidays are always a difficult time of year for people for many reasons. At the risk of adding to the plethora of writing on this topic, I still feel called to share with you how you can use this time as an opportunity for change and ...
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