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- *** Who’s the Most Ordinary Guru on the Planet? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2014 from Rob WhiteTHE ORDINARY GURU PROJECT $9,000 in CASH PRIZES. “Ordinary gurus are everywhere, you just need to open your eyes, mind, and heart and be receptive. That clerk in the local grocery store, the cabbie or the passerby on the street might just say the right and perfect thing that gives you the ...
Views: 2261(1 vote) - ***5 Primal Principles of Communication - by Submitted on Dec 31, 1969 from Rob WhiteRule #1: Turn away when he looks at you. Rule #2: When he turns his head, it's your time to look at him. But whatever you do, never stare him in the eyes -- he'll think you're challenging him. And that's something you don't want to do! No, I'm not talking about dealing with a ...
Views: 1999(2 votes) - ***5 Ways To Aspire Higher – Set S.M.A.R.T. Goals - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2013 from Rob WhiteThis blog offers information that I’ve learned from my parrot, Shakespeare. Shaky (short for Shakespeare), has been with me for some thirty years now. Amongst the many lessons he taught me, one of my favorites is his demonstration of how to Aspire Higher by setting S.M.A.R.T. Goals. Shaky is ...
Views: 1958(1 vote) - ***A Guide To Daydreaming: 5 Ways To Turn Daydreams Into Reality - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2013 from Rob WhiteWe’re told, “Stop gazing out the window. Stop daydreaming; it’s a big waste of time.” And yet, the fact of the matter is that your world, and everything you experience in your world, is an out-picturing of inner pictures. Constructive daydreams are the instrument by which you create your ...
Views: 2947(1 vote) - ***Do I Need To Go To A Temple To Love God? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2014 from Rob WhiteDo I need to go to a temple to love God? Do I need to go to an arboretum to love nature? Do I need to go to a therapist to love myself? If my life is a dance, then love is already here, and I need go nowhere in particular to express my love. When I awaken with loving feelings, and when I say ...
Views: 1794(2 votes) - ***GPS Guide: The Only 'Recipe' You'll Need This Thanksgiving - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2013 from Rob WhiteNothing makes the heart warm and entices the blossoming of one's joyous spirit like the pleasing attitude of gratitude. With Thanksgiving Day approaching, this exceptional quality of the heart takes center stage in the mind. Thanksgiving offers us an opportunity to notice how far we've come by ...
Views: 1730(2 votes) - ***If I Always Practiced What I Preach - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2013 from Rob WhiteThis summer has been particularly momentous for me. As you know, I’ve been passionately finishing up my next book, And Then I Met Margaret. The creation of this book has been an incredibly reflective and enriching process, but it has by no means been all smooth sailing and sunshine. During ...
Views: 1789(1 vote) - ***If it ain’t practical, it ain’t spiritual - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2014 from Rob WhiteIn my book, And Then I Met Margaret, I share twenty one epoch experiences that helped lift me out of poverty into prosperity. I don’t consider it a “How To Get Rich” book by any means, but I do consider it a spiritual self-help book. The book points to many of the everyday, ordinary, unassuming ...
Views: 2128(1 vote) - ***Moods Decide Your Fate – 5 Ways To Choose Your Mood - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2013 from Rob WhiteWhen I was a kid, I was moody. When I was moody, I was fated to get in some kind of trouble that got me in hot water. When I got in hot water, I felt resentful, and would say to myself, “See, life is tough; I can’t do anything without everyone jumping all over me. No wonder why I’m so ...
Views: 2539(1 vote) - ***New View, New You, New Life - by Submitted on Dec 31, 1969 from Rob WhiteWhen I was fifteen, I was bored with my life. I no longer wanted to be the nice guy who was always polite and followed instructions. So, I decided to shake things up and changed my hair to look cool. I also bought a used leather jacket and started acting a little flippant. A few days later, ...
Views: 1452(1 vote) - ***Running With The Bulls - A Vanity Check - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2014 from Rob WhiteAfter a hard day at work, I love meeting friends at the local Mexican restaurant for a beer and spicy dinner. During a chips and salsa evening one hot July, I noticed a new poster near the bar. It featured a crowd of people running through the streets of Pamplona, Spain ahead of a herd of ...
Views: 2100(1 vote) - ***The $67,000 Question - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2012 from Rob WhiteYears ago when I was into body building, I couldn’t resist attending a training camp by the big guy. I mean the BIG GUY—Arnold Shwarzenneger. This was well before his Terminator and Governator days. At the time, he could barely speak the king’s English; nonetheless he won the “Mr. Olympia” title ...
Views: 1590(1 vote) - ***The Meaning of Rapture - Day One - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2014 from Rob WhiteIt’s time to look at an important word that we love to banter about, but usually use inappropriately. The word is “rapture.” Its original meaning was “to jump out” … to jump out of one’s usual way of being … to jump out of ones’ comfort zone … to jump out of our shell and feel the freedom of ...
Views: 1754(1 vote) - ***The Typical Mind That Asks Cannot Answer - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2014 from Rob WhiteThe typical mind can easily ask a question with eagerness, but is not really looking for an answer. It is with “wrong eagerness” that it asks. It is truly only eager to give the point of view that it already holds. The question is simply leading to that. The mind that asks a thousand ...
Views: 1418(1 vote) - ***Who’s Your Guru? Share your story and win $5,000 - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2014 from Rob White] Announcing The Ordinary Guru Contest Life is always sending you everyday, ordinary gurus who help you break through beliefs and myths that stop you from experiencing the life you dream of living. These unassuming gurus help you to see yourself and life differently. They offer insights ...
Views: 2095(1 vote) - Achieve Success in the Face of the Fiscal Cliff - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2012 from Rob WhiteThere is an incredible conversation buzzing about the threat of the fiscal cliff right in front us. It reminds me of the days when my biggest fear was the Fear of Poverty. I reacted to this fear by pretending I was indifferent to money, that it did not matter to me. Of course it mattered, ...
Views: 1931(2 votes) - Are You Giving Yourself Proper Mental Nutrition? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2012 from Rob WhiteDo you remember the parable? Do you remember the parable about the man with a fig tree in his vineyard? He went to the tree looking for fruit, and there was none. He went back to the tree the next year, and it was still barren. He returned a third year. Nothing! The man then told his ...
Views: 2103(1 vote) - Do Something Special on Valentine’s Day: 10 Creative Ideas - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2013 from Rob WhiteMany a poet and philosopher has said that love is for all seasons. That’s true, but there’s nothing like Valentine’s Day to remind your significant other that you’ve fallen in love with her 365 times over the past year. The tried and true ways of showing your appreciation are always safe—cards, ...
Views: 2747(1 vote) - Five Proven, Successful & Motivational Tips To Age Backwards - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2012 from Rob WhiteIf you are at all like me, ( a "Baby boomer") you’ve probably heard expressions like “60 is the new 40.” The truth is actually that anyone can be 68 going on 50. All you need is a motivational mindset. Then you, too, can start counting the calendar backwards at each birthday. Beyond good ...
Views: 2493(3 votes) - Five Ways to Make Your Winter WOEs Fly Away - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2013 from Rob WhiteEven the most motivated and upbeat positive thinkers are susceptible to winter WOEs. WOE is an acronym for "What On Earth" is happening. It's what you say when you take on the role of helpless victim. It's also what you say on a dark winter day when the blues and blahs are getting to ...
Views: 2511(2 votes) - I feel the earth move under my feet: a story about resilience? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2013 from Rob White“It was 1:00 a.m. Who the hell is calling me at this hour!?” Who? Oh, just my neighbor in California (I was in Boston at the time). He called to tell me that an earthquake had moved under their feet out there, and reduced my 48 single-family home development in Watsonville to a pile of ...
Views: 2043(2 votes) - I’m a mental magician - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2012 from Rob WhiteIt’s magic I’ve discovered something that is quite amazing about myself. I am a mental magician. I have learned that if I change my mind about what I believe, I am able to change the world that unfolds before me. It’s magic. I notice that when I change my point of view about something, ...
Views: 1588(1 vote) - Paint it Black, Please - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2013 from Rob WhiteThere they were, 60 freshly painted white doors with black trim in my thirty-unit apartment building. Great job. Except for one minor detail: this was the opposite of what I asked my maintenance guy to do. I specified BLACK doors with WHITE trim. I don’t usually fly off the handle, but this ...
Views: 1817(1 vote) - Take Off Your Blinders! Opportunity Is Outside Of Your Comfort Zone. - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2013 from Rob WhiteDuring a romantic surrey ride around Central Park in New York City with my wife, I learned an amazing thing about horses that applies to humans as well. The driver told us that horses need blinders because they’re easily spooked if they see something in their peripheral vision. He explained ...
Views: 1727(1 vote) - The Curse of the Conditioned Mind - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2012 from Rob WhiteThe Curse of the Conditioned Mind The conditioned mind is a box of standard thoughts. This mind asks questions that only can be answered from the thoughts it has in its box. It can only think up to the walls of the box, and think no farther. The conditioned mind is a box of thoughts. If ...
Views: 2387(1 vote) - The Day the Factory Stood Still - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2013 from Rob WhiteEvery small town has its Friday night rituals, and the community I grew up in was no exception. When my father's shift at the tool and die plant ended at 5:00 pm, the men who worked on the factory floor gathered at the Silver Front Bar and Grill to have a few beers, talk, joke about the day, ...
Views: 2275(1 vote) - The Truth About Lies - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2012 from Rob WhiteI am doing a two-part series on lying in the Huffington Post. I thought I’d add another layer to it with my contribution to Selfgrowth.com. So, here goes. Lying never really works, even good lies have a bad side. The reason lying never really works is because even the compassionate liar (the ...
Views: 2389(4 votes) - The Big Night: 5 Ways to Cultivate Patience - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2013 from Rob WhiteOK, this is an old joke, so forgive me if you've heard it. A psychologist is giving a talk and describes how every couple has its own unique frequency of making love. She then asks people in the audience to state how often they have sex. Hands shot up as she called out "Once a day?" "Several ...
Views: 2265(3 votes) - ***You Are Smarter Than You Think You Are - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2012 from Rob White“I’ve got to decide that I’m smarter than I think I am,” Mr. White, “or I’m not going to get accepted to Milton Academy.” So began a conversation with a student of mine, Debbie, who was hoping to get into Milton Academy, a prestigious middle and high school in eastern Massachusetts. This was ...
Views: 2314(2 votes) - How to Make Your Own Luck - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2013 from Rob WhiteIf you're looking for a guaranteed way to win the lottery (other than purchasing every ticket available), you won't find it here or anywhere else. But there's another kind of luck, and it's not the "luck of the Irish." You have it within your power to create your own luck. Real luck is about ...
Views: 2367(4 votes) - Mug of Enlightenment - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2013 from Rob WhiteCoffee isn’t only something we can gulp down in the morning; it can enrich us spiritually and emotionally. Here are five ways that a cup of joe can provide us with motivation, happiness, and even a touch of enlightenment: 1. Mindfulness in a mug. Mindfullness is a laser focus on what ...
Views: 2034(2 votes) - Nature Only Flies First Class - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2013 from Rob WhiteDuring a walk around the community pond today, I came face-to-face with Swami Charles, our name for a homeless guy who has more pearls of wisdom than you’d find at a convention of gurus. I commented on how lovely and elegant the swans looked. “As do the pigeons,” he responded. “Nature makes ...
Views: 2032(2 votes) - ***Do You Exaggerate? Learn The Incredibly Positive Power Of Exaggeration - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2012 from Rob White“Mr. White, what about luck? How much does luck play into someone being successful.” One of the students at the John D. O’Bryant Institute at Northeastern University posed this question during my talk today. It’s a great question. The answer is very simple, I explained: if someone denies ...
Views: 2469(3 votes) - Of Passion and Success - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2012 from Rob WhiteDo you ever get a fleeting memory of how you used to feel when you were a kid; that incredible feeling of freedom and passion for trying new things? Life seemed so exciting. It is okay to want that again. It’s not the good old days that you want – it’s the passion for trying new things with a ...
Views: 1832(3 votes) - You Can Choose To Be Chosen – Chose WOW - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2012 from Rob WhiteIf you’ve not been chosen to live a life of WOW – you can choose to be chosen. WOW is my acronym for: Wonderfully Obsessed with Winning. For me, this is a confidence builder; it’s an expression of wonder that motivates me to think higher. When I speak WOW with enthusiasm, the word opens my ...
Views: 2045(3 votes) - ***How To Destroy What’s Destroying You - Tip 1 of 5 - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2013 from Rob WhiteTiredness comes from compulsively doing those things that are destroying your health and well-being. The person who is unable to separate himself from his compulsive tendencies is enslaved by his interior conditioning; conditioning that causes him to mechanically react to his exterior life. His ...
Views: 1996(1 vote) - ***How To See The Perfection: Three Powerful Insights And Practical Suggestions - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2013 from Rob WhiteInsight One If you were willing to see that your very own thinking causes your glorious and your miserable experiences of life; if you were willing to accept that you are the originator, the cause of the kind of life you live – this is the beginning of the end of thinking that there’s ...
Views: 2279(1 vote) - ***Unrecognized Contradictions - The Negative Power of "BUT" - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2013 from Rob WhiteThe power of BUT is overwhelming when we don’t see it coming. Saying, “BUT” for any reason is calling upon a contradictory energy that cancels out any good you’ve done. “I like what I did with this project today, BUT, I still have a lot of work to do.” You are saying that you want to advance ...
Views: 2602(1 vote) - ***How To Improve Your Number On The Happiness Scale - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Rob WhiteREAD THE ILLUSTRATED GUIDE TO IMPROVE YOUR HAPPINESS RATING HERE It's wise to understand that, in every moment, you are about as happy as you assume it's your right to be. And, it's profoundly relieving when you trust that it’s your birthright to be happy and enjoy life. If, right now, ...
Views: 2783(3 votes) - How soon will the money come pouring in? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2013 from Rob White“Okay, so you quit your teaching job of 17 years to make millions in real estate. How soon will the money come pouring in? When will the results begin?” a fellow teacher mockingly asked me this when I told him that this was my last day in class. He believed I was making a big mistake, and he ...
Views: 2285(4 votes) - ***It Works for Me, It Can for YOU! - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2014 from Rob WhiteAll that I am today, and all that I have today is vastly more than I could have possibly imagined when I was twelve years old. At that age, I assumed that the best I could hope for was to sweep floors in a local factory in the mill town in which I was raised. All of my success, be it in the ...
Views: 1648(2 votes) - ***You Attract What You Are - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2014 from Rob WhiteLois is a wonderfully sweet 88-year-old neighbor who has dozens of friends, is always busy with community affairs, and has the loveliest garden in the world. How does Lois do that? At age 88, how is she constantly filled with vitality, and in high demand by everyone in the community? Lois ...
Views: 1958(2 votes) - How to Succeed in Real Estate from an Old Pro - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2012 from Rob WhiteI quit teaching after seventeen years and decided to decided to get really committed to my goal, which was to get rich in real estate, and do whatever it took to fulfill on it. If I were to give three essential tips that guarantee your success in real estate today, it would be these: 1. Make ...
Views: 2676(3 votes) - *** The Power of I AM: 5 Tips on Beingness - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2013 from Rob WhiteAll creation begins with Beingness. (1) Who you are being (2) determines what you will be doing (3) determines the experiences you will have in your life. Being-Doing-Having …that is the process of manifestation. So many folks get it backwards. “If I only had a million dollars, then I would do ...
Views: 2752 - *** Victim No More: 5 Tips To Take Command Of Your Happiness and Wellbeing - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2013 from Rob WhiteThe world will often tell you that the problems in your life are not your fault. Thousands will chime in with excuses that can convince you to give up on yourself. It’s popular today to talk about how ‘circumstances’ are very different from the past; when opportunity was prevalent at every ...
Views: 1891 - ***5 Springday Lessons From A Purple Guru - Day One - by Submitted on May 24, 2014 from Rob WhiteThere's nothing like a touch of spring in the air to stir my curiosity about what lessons the spring season may offer. The 75-degree weather in the Boston area during early April sure sparked me. I decided to do some spring-cleaning around the yard and began with the flower beds, figuring that a ...
Views: 1706 - ***5 Tips For Combatting Nervousness - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2013 from Rob WhiteIt's pretty easy to understand what causes nervousness: It's what we feel in the absence of self-confidence. So, the best way to stop feeling nervous is to seek the truth about yourself, about your unrealized talents and potential. You might notice that this means that you don't have to add ...
Views: 1750 - ***5 Ways To Manage Your Feelings - Story 1: The Rich Uncle - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2013 from Rob WhiteI’ve been around for a while, nearly seven decades. I’ve met a lot of successful folks in different domains of life. I’ve found some things are consistent with these folks, when it comes to succeeding in life. Most important is that they make a decision to feel good about themselves and life ...
Views: 1676 - ***6 Ways To Get Rid Of 'Mental Arthritis' - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2013 from Rob WhiteWe all associate arthritis with the aging process; our joints simply don’t work as well as we age. In the GPS Gide below, Personal Development expert Rob White explains that there’s another kind of arthritis that can set in way earlier -- it’s called Arthritis of the Mind. It’s a rigidity that ...
Views: 1706 - ***7 Tips For Living With The Wisdom Of A 70-Year-Old And The Passion Of A 20-Year-Old - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2013 from Rob WhiteAfter seven decades of living, it’s apparent to me that there are lots of myths floating around about aging. Indeed, aging is an inescapable body thing, but it need not affect your passion for life. When you bring alertness to your day, with the intent of savoring your experiences like a child, ...
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