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We all know love is the best and purest feeling in the world. But it is not always very easy to express love, no matter how intense your love is. So, what do you do when you are stuck between – whether I should say it all and hold back? You must communicate your feelings without worrying about ... Views: 1517
It is often said that it is important for someone to make sure that they don’t allow ‘toxic’ people into their life. And upon reflection, it doesn’t take much thought to see why this is the case.
Interdependent
In a way, this is no different to one being told that they shouldn’t eat food ... Views: 1736
Dr. Romance writes: Do you sometimes feel locked in a struggle with yourself? I know I do. Why is it that we know what we want to do, but it’s such a struggle to actually get it done? Even Saint Paul writes, in a letter to the Romans, “I do not do the good I want, but the ... Views: 1370
Dear Dr. Romance: I was very attracted to a lady and I did things for her with out asking for any thing in return. She was single and I fixed her jeep, I put down new linoleum in her kitchen for her, we did go out together for drinks, dinner, dancing, ... Views: 3368
It’s not the easiest thing to be assertive with friends. They may be used to you doing everything they ask. If you agree to any request they make, cancel appointments to be with them, and even ignore things you have to do so you can do what they want, then you’re like a doormat. You don’t ... Views: 7852
Helping your family members and friends develop self-confidence is based on the concept of human dignity. It begins with the foundation of respect. How you greet others, how you look at them, what you say to them, and how you listen to them all communicate whether you respect the other person. ... Views: 7853
Did you know that we’re physically and mentally healthier when we have meaningful and fulfilling relationships? People who are ill get better more quickly when they have a loving support system. People who are broken-hearted from a romantic breakup get back to normal more quickly if they have ... Views: 7466
Once you’ve met people and discovered you have some things in common, the next step is to arrange to meet again. If that’s satisfying to both of you, you’ll need to continue to meet.
Ideally, you and the other person will take turns initiating contact. But if you initiate more at the ... Views: 6730
Studies have found that having friends is one of the most important contributions to having a happy and healthy life. Forming friendships isn’t difficult, but it does take some effort.
Friendships Come in All Shapes and Sizes
Some friends we know from childhood are with us our entire ... Views: 6858
While there can be moments when one is in a position where they do know what is best, there are also going to be moments when this is not the case. It could be said that this is simply part of being human.
If, on the other hand, one was perfect, then there would be no reason for them to have ... Views: 1563
While social media can be useful in connecting you to family, friends and colleagues, there can be many pitfalls. But you can avoid these pitfalls by following these words of advice.
Spend a Limited Amount of Time on Social Media
Probably the most important thing to do is to spend a ... Views: 7930
If someone was asked why they use social media, they may say that it’s because it allows them to stay in touch with their friends. It could be said that this is not much of a surprise, and this is because this is how social media is often portrayed.
One of these sites has even promoted ... Views: 1334
Dear Dr. Romance:
I like your article "Stupid Cupid" and find that all your down-to-earth questions should be applicable in a daily life of a relationship. I will forward it to my friends. I'm writing you about a guy that I met at my dance class. I ... Views: 1320
In order for someone to experience intimacy, it will be important for them to open up to others. However, this is not to say that they should simply open up to anyone, and this is because doing so would lead to problems.
When one opens up to another they are putting themselves in a ... Views: 1293
Weeks ago, I had lunch with one of my best friends at McDonald’s. We talked about many things to catch up since we were both busy with work. We talked about our other friends. How are they? What are they up to? Do we still communicate with them? Sadly, the answer relies on social media. We are ... Views: 1123
Although some people have the tendency to take responsibility for what takes place within them, there are others who don’t. Due to this, it can be normal for someone to believe that what is taking place externally has nothing to do with what is going on internally.
It is then going to be ... Views: 1431
While one can have people in their life who are there to support them, they can also spend time with people who try to fix them. As a result of this, it could be said that one will feel good in their presence or they will end up feeling bad.
Another way of looking at it would be to say ... Views: 1216
Remember the movie He’s Just Not That Into You? And how many of the characters there are in the “friend zone’’? Almost half of them, right? Safe to say it’s epidemic. By the time the movie was released the term friend zone is not popular yet. Friendzone was born from the social media. It is used ... Views: 1329
Friends forever are hard to find these days. People have almost forgotten the true meaning of friendship and friendship day. With new cultural and behavioral revolution people just make friends to pass time and catch up after a hectic friend.
However, if we look at our Indian historical friends ... Views: 3325
Do you truly practice the meaning of friendship? What is a friendship? The philosopher Aristotle said, “In poverty and other misfortunes of life, true friends are a sure refuge. They keep the young out of mischief; they comfort and aid the old in their weakness, and they incite those in the ... Views: 1188
Do you truly practice the meaning of friendship? What is a friendship? The philosopher Aristotle said, “In poverty and other misfortunes of life, true friends are a sure refuge. They keep the young out of mischief; they comfort and aid the old in their weakness, and they incite those in the ... Views: 949
If one was to think about what their friends are like, they could start to think about how they accept them for who they are. It is then not going to be necessary for them to play a role, and it could be said that this is how it should be.
The alternative would be for one to be in a ... Views: 1256
Have you ever felt like you are doing more to help your partner then they are to help themselves? Sometimes it just seems easier to take control and get things done on your own than ask your partner to do their part. And they may be completely happy with having you take care of business. But ... Views: 5927
Friendships have an enormous affect on your health and level of success. The people whom you spend your most time, energy and focus on will have a strong influence on not only how you see yourself and also how you see the world. They also influence your self-esteem, attitudes and what level of ... Views: 1517
If someone was to think about what their friends are like, they may start to think about how supportive they are. These are then going to be the kind of people who are life-affirming, and it could then be said that that they have the right people in their life.
Two Experiences
On one ... Views: 1165
While one can share their life with people who support them, they can also be in a different position. As a result of this, the people they are closest to could be the ones who hold them back.
The Ideal
When one has people around them are able to support them, their life is going to be ... Views: 1225
If one was to get in touch with someone they know it could be because they need something. However, it doesn’t mean that this will always be the case, as there could be times when they don’t need anything.
Curious
During these moments, one may want to find out about what they have been ... Views: 1182
No one person can live in isolation. We all need others to survive, to thrive and to have a happy living. It is this co-existence with our fellow beings that leads to relationships. Sometimes happy, sometimes not. But it is those happy relations that we share with other humans that are called ... Views: 1972
“I'm just surprised by what's happening inside me now that the kids have left home.”
My girlfriend nodded as she listened with compassion.
I went on to tell her how I had assumed I would be glad to have my new-found freedom. It's what I had been waiting for, after all.
I thought I ... Views: 985
While it is relatively easy to say ‘yes’, the same can’t be said when it comes to saying ‘no’. In fact, there are going to be plenty of people who are unable to say ‘no’, and it could then be said that it doesn’t mean much when they say ‘yes’.
What this emphasises is how important it is for ... Views: 1487
When one generally ignores their own needs and focuses on other people’s needs, they can be described as someone who rescues others. As a result of this, it is going to be normal for them to neglect their own life.
Out of Balance
It could be said that while it is good thing that one ... Views: 1200
You’ve suffered through the break up and now you’re trying to put your heart back together. It’s hard, isn’t it? Emotions are fluid and constantly changing as you try to absorb that you and your boyfriend aren’t together anymore. The situation takes on an even more sombre tone if you haven’t ... Views: 3936
Despite the freedom that’s come with claiming our rightful place in society, we women have become enslaved by a different form of captivity. We’ve become slaves of our own minds.
And here’s the reason why. As we fought for all the roles that men had harbored, we got used to comparing ... Views: 1883
Despite the freedom that’s come with claiming our rightful place in society, we women have become enslaved by a different form of captivity. We’ve become slaves of our own minds.
And here’s the reason why. As we fought for all the roles that men had harbored, we got used to comparing ... Views: 1680
I was much older when I first recognized the voice of the inner critic. I’d known it for so long that I believed it to be my own.
My later studies in psychology and working with wonderful women made me realize that we all carried this voice in our heads. Denying it or challenging it was often ... Views: 1275
While some people are there for others from time to time, there are others who are practically always there for them. When one can relate to the former, they are going to have moments when they are able to take care of their own needs.
However, when one can relate to the latter, they are not ... Views: 1332
When someone uses social media, they can stay up to date with the people they know. This can relate to the people they have known for quite some time and the ones they have only known for a short while.
Along with this, there can also be a difference is how well one knows them, as there is ... Views: 1168
There is an African saying goes like this:
A friend is someone who knows your song and sings it to you when you have forgotten it. Those who love you are not fooled by mistakes you have made or dark images you hold about yourself. They remember your beauty when you feel ugly; your wholeness ... Views: 1232
If one was to go shopping and they were to speak to someone who works in a store, it is highly unlikely that they will expect them to treat them like a close friend would. In fact, they might not know what to expect from them.
This is something that can all depend on how they are treated by ... Views: 1194
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am 23 years old. I have been feeling lonely since high school and recently, its been getting worse. I feel like I can't have really close relationships with women and yet that is what I crave most right now. I recently cut off a friendship of 5 years because my ... Views: 1150
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am 23 years old. I have been feeling lonely since high school and recently, its been getting worse. I feel like I can't have really close relationships with women and yet that is what I crave most right now. I recently cut off a friendship of 5 years because my ... Views: 1035
“Everything is downhill from here, ‘cept what’s up…it’s all in your attitude.” Katie Lee, 95, Jerome, Arizona, singer, environmental activist.
Long ago, before modern communications, before electric lights, before mobility—people wrote letters—shaping eachsentence with care, lamplight over ... Views: 917
Throughout my life, I have considered every human being on an even keel with me. I treat each person I meet with dignity and respect; and I expect them to return the same.
I’m the guy who walks into the gym with a smile on my face and a greeting, “Top of the morning ma’am.” I open doors for ... Views: 1026
Along life’s highway, you will befriend countless people from school, work, sports and church. Each person offers you different degrees of friendship. Some casual, some close and a few become best friends.
Gym-rat friends encourage you. Work friends give you fits, starts and frustrations. ... Views: 942
Can you imagine if the world was completely void of color? A world where you never saw a garden filled with flowers of every hue, where you never read an adventure from a colorfully illustrated children’s book? What if you had never been introduced to color television and had to settle for ... Views: 1176
Dr. Romance writes:
Politeness and sensitivity are not held in high esteem in the media these days. The nastiest politicians get the most air time. Many media spokespeople, stars and commentators, “gangsta” rappers, nasty radio talk show stars and “edgy” comedians; as well as personalities ... Views: 1634
On one hand, one can have relationships with others that are deep, and on the other hand, they can have ones that are shallow. When it comes to the later, this could relate to the people they see at work or on the odd occasion, for instance.
And when it comes to the former, it could relate ... Views: 1563
It could have been your friend, your sister or your child. But somehow, over the course of your life, you have probably had someone come to you for comfort and consolation. They could have chosen you to allay their worries and sorrows after a long sad day. If we are all being honest, I'm sure we ... Views: 1273
On one hand, there is where one will meet someone who they will become friends with, and on the other hand, there is reason why they will become friends with them. And when it comes to where they can meet someone, this is not going to be limited to one place.
There will be the more ... Views: 1412
On one hand, one’s life can be an expression of their true-self, and on the other hand, it can be an expression of their false-self. When it is an expression of the former, they are going to spend time with people who know they are.
As a result of this, it will be possible for them to ... Views: 1876