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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- “I Was Brought Up To Tolerate Abuse!” - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember sitting at the dinner table, after I had come back from school and having an argument with my mother. This soon came to an end, though, as she ended up leaving the table and going to her room. I can’t remember exactly why we had this argument as it was a long time ago, but I think ...
Views: 1406 - “I Was Carrying A Lot Of Grief!” - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2014, I felt a lot better than I did in the beginning of 2013, and what also played a part here is that I had recently been away. I had gone to Mexico for my sister’s wedding in June that year. Going away gave me a lift and, when I came back, I wondered why I didn’t go ...
Views: 1406 - “I Was Completely Ignored!” - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA little while before I headed to Bournemouth for New Years Eve, in 2012, I had been texting a woman I had met online. At this point, I didn’t know a great deal about her, but I was keen to meet her. I think it was just after New Year’s Day that we arranged a time to meet and, when I met ...
Views: 1417 - “I Was Completely Out of Touch With My Own Needs!” - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOnce I had finished studying sport and leisure at college in 2003, I had absolutely no idea about what I was going to do next. I had only taken this course because I enjoyed working out and I didn’t know what else to do. So after it was over, I soon had to face what I had been able to avoid ...
Views: 1205 - “I Was No Longer As Motivated!” - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years, I felt extremely motivated when it came to writing articles, and I had a strong need to become a successful author. There was no middle ground; it was a case of hitting the big time or nothing at all. When I was able to take a step back and to look into why I was ...
Views: 1398 - “I Was Physically Abused!” - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen my sister and I were growing up, we had to do as we were told; if we didn’t, we would often end up being hit by my father. In a lot of cases, this would be something that our mother was behind. So, while my father was physically stronger than my mother, it didn’t mean that he was in ...
Views: 1394 - “I Was Terrified of My Mother” - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the middle of 2010, my life was going in the right direction; I felt confident, I had a relatively fulfilling job, and I had a plenty of good people around me. It was as though my life could only get better. Unfortunately, my life was about to get worse, a lot worse, and everything changed ...
Views: 1337 - “I Wasn't Good Enough!” - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I finished school I had no idea what I was going to do, so I ended up going to a college to see what courses were on offer. During this time, I thought I would be good to study psychology, yet that was as far as it went. I didn’t get very good grades at school, which meant that I was ...
Views: 1122 - “I Wasn't Just Grieving The Loss of My Father!” - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperShorty after I had got to the point where I could contain my emotions, the healer that I was working with said it would be a good idea for me to see if I could cry when I’m by myself. The reason for this was that I hadn’t been able to cry during the sessions that we had had. As even though ...
Views: 1471 - “It Wasn't Safe For Me To Express My Emotions!” - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was about 12 years old, I remember being told to “stop moaning” by my mother. And based on how she responded in this moment, it was as though I was actually making a fuss over nothing. However, this couldn’t have been further from the truth; I was simply speaking out about something. ...
Views: 1199 - “It’s Called The Fight Instinct!” - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA few years ago, I could see that I found it hard to stand my ground and to assert myself. But even though I could see that this was a problem for me, I wasn’t sure about what I could do to change this. And although part of me had had enough of experiencing life in this way, another part of ...
Views: 1114 - “I’m Being Ignored!” - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on I was waiting in line for something and the person in front of me asked the cashier a question. They didn’t receive an answer, though, and this made them turn to me and say that they were being ignored. A few seconds later, this person asked the cashier the same question and once ...
Views: 800 - “Mindfulness Was A Waste Of Time!” - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn 2010 I had tried a healing technique that didn’t really have much of an effect on me, and this made me look for something else. Towards the end of this year, I got in touch with someone who I had met around a year before. The reason for this was that I heard that they had created their ...
Views: 1299 - “My Gums Were Bleeding!” - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the beginning of 2010, I was all fired up, and this was partly because I had recently been on a course. When I was on this course, I met some great people, and I wrote down some of the things that I wanted to achieve. But after the days and weeks passed, my mood gradually changed; in a ...
Views: 1280 - “My Healing Technique Is The Only One That Works!” - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn 2015, I was speaking to a therapist called, Vijay Rana, about different healing techniques. I was talking about how some people believe that their technique is the best one available or the only one that works. After bringing this up, I went into why I thought that it wasn’t a good idea ...
Views: 1061 - “My Partner Isn’t Smart Enough” - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Sheryl Paul“One of the big traps we have in the West is our intelligence, because we want to know what we know. Freedom allows you to be wise, but you cannot know wisdom. You must be wisdom… The intellect is a beautiful servant, but a terrible master. Intellect is the power tool of our separateness. The ...
Views: 1051 - “Neurosis Is Always A Substitute For Legitimate Suffering” - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear the term ‘legitimate suffering’, it might not make any sense to them. But, if they were to hear the word ‘neurosis’, they might have a rough idea about what it means. This could be seen as a normal part of living in a society that encourages the avoidance of pain and ...
Views: 1016 - “Shadow Work Is Important!” - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe last time I spoke to a friend of mine called, Errol Campbell, we touched upon the effect that the mother/father wound can have on someone , and this time we looked into another important area. But before I got into what this was, I want to talk about how this topic came up. This was ...
Views: 1037 - “Shame Is A Soul Eating Emotion” - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhile I was looking through some of Carl Jung quotes, one that stood out was ‘“Shame Is A Soul Eating Emotion”. When I saw this, it reminded me of something that I said about toxic shame a number of years ago. In at least two articles, I said that in the same way that acid destroys things, ...
Views: 865 - “Stop Preaching!” - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThe first book that I read on self development was a by Louise L Hay and, shortly after I had read one of her books, I end up reading another. I bought the first book in a spiritual shop in Australia and the second book at a book shop in England. After I had finished this book, I read a few ...
Views: 1109 - “The Individual Has Always Had To Struggle To Keep From Being Overwhelmed By The Tribe” - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperMany years ago, I heard the following quote from Friedrich Nietzsche, “The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning ...
Views: 1021 - “The Only Way Out Is Through” - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago, I wrote an article about something I had heard from a TV series called Arrow. What I touched upon in this article is not the only thing in this show that has caught my attention; there are a number of other things. Something that caught my attention was when the main ...
Views: 607 - “The Wisdom of Anxiety” is Coming Down the Birth Canal - by Submitted on May 17, 2019 from Sheryl PaulIn April 2015, I had a dream while on vacation in Los Angeles: Robert Johnson, the Jungian analyst who has informed so much of my work, came to me and said, “It’s time to write another book and it’s mostly written.” I woke up, faithfully wrote it down as I do with most of my dreams, then filed ...
Views: 1455 - “The World Is Designed To Depress Us!” - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago I came across a post that had been shared on a social media site that went into how ‘the world is increasingly designed to depress us’. This was something that had been written in a book and the page that this had been written on had been shared. It went on to say that ...
Views: 893 - “There Is A Reason Why We Project Our Issues Onto Others!” - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years, I thought that the reason we projected our inner world/issues onto others was due to a lack of awareness; therefore, this wouldn’t take place if someone was self-aware. This was something that I was fairly convinced of. I think I even wrote a number of articles where I ...
Views: 1089 - “There Is No Reason To Feel Ashamed If You Have Mental And Emotional Problems!” - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago I was talking to someone who said that one of their friends had suffered from depression in the past and, along with this, another one of their friends had recently revealed that they were not in a good way. I don’t think it came as a surprise for them to hear about what their ...
Views: 909 - “This Guy Gets To The Root Of The Issue!” - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn a previous article, I mentioned someone who I met after I helped a friend move house. This was someone called Wain, and since our paths crossed in the middle of 2015, a number of thought-provoking conversations have been had. It doesn’t end there, though, as what I think about after we ...
Views: 1024 - “This Guy Knew How To Listen!” - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn November 2017, I had the opportunity to meet someone called, Geoff Hudson-Searle, who was an author and the managing director of a company that helps businesses to succeed. Our paths crossed after I sent him a message on a social media site and he suggested that we meet for a coffee. I ...
Views: 1098 - “This Guy Was Masculine!” - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I started a new job in the beginning of 2010, it took me a while to settle down. One of reason for this was that before I started this job, I had gone on holiday to Bali and Australia and I had been on a healing course in Belgium just before I headed over there. In addition to this, I ...
Views: 1289 - “This Was Someone Who Was In Touch With Their Emotions!” - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperShortly after I got back from Mexico in 2014, I started spending more time with a friend who I had met a few years before. This was someone who I had met whilst I was at a social club. I remember seeing someone who was friendly and outgoing, and I felt the need to go and talk to them. At ...
Views: 1263 - “This Woman Is An Inspiration!” - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks ago, I was doing a bit of research online for an article that I was going to put together. I was going to write an article about how women are being conditioned to see themselves as victims. During this time, I came across an article titled: 'Victimhood narrative' taught in ...
Views: 999 - “Until You Make The Unconscious Conscious, It Will Direct Your Life And You Will Call It Fate” - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is typically as though someone begins and ends with their conscious mind. Not only this, it is as though what is taking place inside their inner world has very little if any effect on their outer world. When it comes to the self-development world, however, it is often ...
Views: 341 - “We Were Together In A Past Life!” - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had been on the path for a number of years, I ended up doing a fair amount of healing work around my own path lives. At the time, this appeared to be something that would allow me to make progress. Once I stopped doing this, I rarely thought about past lives. This all changed many ...
Views: 973 - “We've Had A Complaint!” - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst my father was in hospital, towards the end of 2011, I was working somewhere where I had the opportunity to speak to a lot of people. When I first started working there, there were a number of things that I enjoyed. There were a number of people who I got on well with, and then there ...
Views: 1131 - “We’re In Some Sort Of Shared Hallucination” – Part One - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had watched what I would describe as a normal Arrow episode, the next episode ended up being another crossover episode titled “Invasion!” I thought this was well-made and shook things up a bit. Since that time, I have thought about what happened in this episode, and I think it is ...
Views: 536 - “We’re In Some Sort Of Shared Hallucination” – Part Two - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago, I wrote about the Arrow crossover episode titled “Invasion!” Shortly after this, it occurred to me that there was something that I had missed that I had to write about it. So, if you haven’t read the first part, it will be a good idea for you to read this article first, and ...
Views: 522 - “What Is Legitimate Suffering?” - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, it must have been around 2013, I came across a term that fascinated me. I can’t remember how I came across this term, but what I do remember is that I was part of a quote by Carl Jung. I even ended up writing an article about it around the same time. This was the ...
Views: 3109 - “What Qualifications Do You Have?” - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of last year I had a few videos made, and one of those videos was about what qualifications I had. What inspired me to make this video was an email that I had received around that time. In this email someone said that they liked my work or that they liked an article, but ...
Views: 1246 - “What You Resist, Persists” - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, I heard the saying, ‘what you resist, persists’. When I first heard it stood out but it didn’t really mean much, but as time has gone by and my understanding of it has changed, it has gradually come to mean a lot. Anyway, a few days ago I came across this quote whilst I ...
Views: 817 - “What’s Wrong With You?!” - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out the other day, I ended up hearing a child scream whilst I was reading a book. The child, along with both of their parents, was right behind me so I couldn’t help but hear. At first, I started to wonder when the noise would stop as I was finding it hard to concentrate. Sooner or ...
Views: 331 - “You Are Always Happy!” - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the time when my father was in hospital, towards the end of 2011, I did my best to carry on as normal. This would typically mean that I would act as though I was happy and that everything was fine. But as I had been this way for most of my life, it wasn’t as if I was doing anything ...
Views: 988 - “You Don’t Have The Luxury Of Giving Up” - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI remember reading ‘The Power of Others’ whilst I was in London towards the end of 2014, and there were a few things that I made a note of. In the chapter that I was reading at this time, the author touched upon how it is easier for someone to be curious when they are not caught up in trying to ...
Views: 1078 - “You Need Therapy!” - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperShorty after I left where I was working in 2012, I felt overwhelmed with stress and emotional pain. Due to this, I head back to the spiritual shop where I had had a reading a little while before, and I spoke to the owner. Her name was Sheila, and she was down to earth, genuine and ...
Views: 987 - “You Only Like Me Because I’m Famous!” - by Submitted on May 31, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago I had the chance to meet a DJ and producer, and I ended up seeing them perform afterwards. This was an incredible night and a time in my life that I will never forget. At the time it was surreal, I couldn’t quite get my head around how this was taking place; I didn’t ...
Views: 890 - “You Shouldn’t Have Asked!” - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn early 2000, I started to learn a martial art, and for a little while before this I had thought about doing something. What had a played part here was that I had been watching films with Jean-Claude Van Damme in. And while I ended up learning a different marital art to the one I had in ...
Views: 1013 - “You Suffer From Survivors Guilt” - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the final episode of season five of Arrow, Slade says to Oliver that he “suffers from survivor’s guilt”. After this, Slade says that he can’t get over the death of his father and that he needs to forgive himself. Confused, Oliver asks what he needs to forgive himself for, to which Slade ...
Views: 954 - “You Were Abandoned!” - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter the relationship that I was in at the beginning of 2013 came to an end, I ended up coming into contact with a lot of emotional pain. Although a certain amount of pain had been coming up for a little while, the end of the relationship brought it all up the surface. Fortunately, I was ...
Views: 1182 - “Your Likeability Quotient: Your Gut Instincts & Getting Along Better, a Quiz” - by Submitted on May 22, 2020 from Kare AndersonWhy do we instinctively like some people and find others irritating or worse? What makes us agree, buy, help . . . or not? Do your gut instincts help or hinder your “LQ” – Likeability Quotient? From an expert on gut instincts, gain insights about how to say it better next time. Answer this ...
Views: 764 - ”You Have To Be Careful What You Focus On!” - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was with a friend last year, I remember touching upon what was going on with the presidential election in America. I had been paying attention to this, but this friend hadn’t been doing the same thing. I said that it was hard to work out what was going on and he said that there was no ...
Views: 971 - Being Present: Can An Emotional Build-Up Stop Someone From Being Present? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is not living in the present it is going to be a challenge for them to focus on what they are doing. As a result, they could be more concerned about what is taking place within them than what is taking place without. If they were working, it could cause them to overlook what they ...
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