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- Question for Men: How Do You Handle Stress? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2012 from nancy traversWomen support each other under stress. How can men handle it more effectively? Lets start with some basics: Stress affects both men and women. But growing evidence suggests that women do a better job of getting support from others, and in general, they manage stress more effectively. Take a ...
Views: 904 - Quotes to Help You Live Life to the Fullest - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2014 from nancy traversAdmit it. It’s easier to slog along in life without great spikes of joy or great valleys of sorrow. It’s easier to follow the path of least resistance. But are you merely existing? Do you feel you could do more with your life? If so, it’s time to jolt out of your comfort zone. Here are a few ...
Views: 1170 - Recognizing Your Co-Dependency - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2013 from nancy traversCo-dependency used to be a word reserved for those in a relationship with alcoholics or other addicted people. But the term has been expanded to include people with lopsided relationships—people who are partners, parents, family or friends with dysfunctional people. Dysfunctions can include all ...
Views: 896 - Relationships, Boundaries, and Facebook - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2011 from nancy traversSocial networks have injected an interesting new aspect into our lives and relationships. Today, we’re all living very publically. We’re our own paparazzi and gossip magazine, updating the web with every little thought, piece of drama, and embarrassing picture of friends. Our boundaries are very ...
Views: 3686 - Riding Out Relationship Cycles - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from nancy traversFashion goes in cycles. Palazzo pants, then skinny legs. Mini skirts, then below-the-knee. The economy goes in cycles, too—boom, bust and boom again. So why not relationships? I have a friend who’s close to her brother. But sometimes she’s closer than others. There were years when they both ...
Views: 1168 - Sex Addiction and Attachment Problems - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2013 from nancy traversThe very words ‘sex addiction’ are controversial. It’s a term that some are not certain is a legitimate designation. But a Newsweek article (November 25, 2011) declared sex addiction a national epidemic, estimating about 9 million Americans—or 3 to 5 percent of the population—suffer from ...
Views: 1009 - Sexpectations 2012 - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2012 from nancy traversAre you stuck in unrealistic sexpectations? Or ready to create a new language of love? Is your marriage or relationship bogged down in unrealistic sexpectations? Do your attitudes about your body, frequency of intercourse, sexual preferences, and assumptions about orgasm create distance and ...
Views: 932 - Six Essentials to Being a Gentleman - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from nancy traversA gentleman is a chivalrous, courteous, honorable man, according to the dictionary. You may think gentlemen are people from the past, but thoughtfulness never goes out of style. Basically, a gentleman is considerate of others, and that’s something to which anyone of any age should aspire. Here ...
Views: 1095 - So You’re Having an Affair - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2013 from nancy traversYou didn’t mean for it to happen. It started so innocently, with just a flirty conversation. Then it escalated to an emotional attachment. He so gets you, and you talk into the wee hours, if only clandestinely on your cell. And you feel so wonderful you don’t want it to end. But the fact is, ...
Views: 897 - Speak Out: How to Ensure Your Needs Are Being Met in a Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2012 from nancy traversWhen we enter relationships, we do so with the knowledge that we will be providing the person with emotional commodities and that they will be doing the same for us. Every relationship is filled with needs. Each individual will have different needs, and each relationship will provide different ...
Views: 1068 - Stress Test: 5 Ways to Make It Through the Holidays - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2012 from nancy traversMany people I know don’t find joy in the holidays. Too much stress and work. The chores of cooking, shopping and cleaning are often multiplied during the holidays, leaving you feeling put-upon and resentful. One year a friend had a tree trimming dinner party, and she wouldn’t give her guests ...
Views: 1816 - Sweet Sleep Can Be Yours - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from nancy traversWe all know a good night’s sleep is important. We feel better, more productive when we’ve had enough. But when our body is sleep deprived, it weakens our immune system, making us more vulnerable to infection. So why is a good night’s sleep so elusive? There are a number of fairly ...
Views: 1161 - Taking Care of the Elderly and Taking Care of Yourself - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2013 from nancy traversTaking care of the elderly is becoming a reality for more and more people. Often frustration is an integral part of that task, especially if the elderly person is afflicted with Alzheimer’s disease or dementia. The question is, how do you deal with a certain amount of inevitable frustration and ...
Views: 878 - Talking Back to Your Critical Inner Voice - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2012 from nancy traversHave you ever told yourself your body’s too fat, your hair’s too thin, that you’re a terrible mother, that you’re not disciplined enough, smart enough, kind enough? Do you have an inner voice that’s unjustifiably critical? Critical inner voices can be detrimental to you in a number of ways ...
Views: 1346 - Talking to the One Who Makes You Mad - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2013 from nancy traversIf you hate conflict, you could spend a long time stewing in your anger before you express it to the person who caused it. By then, your anger may have built to levels beyond reason. Or maybe you zipped off an e-mail, comforted by the fact that technology helped you avoid a face-to-face ...
Views: 1028 - The Anxiety–Overeating–Depression Cycle - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2012 from nancy traversYou’re anxious, you stress-eat, depression sets in. How do you break the cycle? Eating is one of the toughest addictions. We all have to eat, so it’s not possible to avoid being around food. But some of us have a hard time controlling our input, and we give our bodies what they seem to want, ...
Views: 1510 - The Chemistry of Love - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2011 from nancy traversWe’ve all heard our friends talk about chemistry and connections. Rock stars sing about the “chemicals between us” and movies depict racing hearts, sweaty palms, and love at first sight. Have you wondered where all of these scientific, chemical, and physiological terms and ideas manifest in ...
Views: 1058 - The Infernal Affair: Are You Caught Up in One? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2013 from nancy traversMost Americans think adultery is wrong. Almost 90 percent of men and 94 percent of women think it’s always wrong or almost always wrong. But many of those people have extra-marital affairs anyway. One of the most reliable sources for statistics is the National Opinion Research Center at the ...
Views: 1153 - The Silent Treatment in Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2012 from nancy traversDo one or both of you retreat too often into the cone of silence? In an article earlier this year, I spoke about the devastating effects of verbal abuse. A retreat into a “cone of silence” by one or both partners in a marriage or relationship can potentially be just as devastating. Sure, some ...
Views: 1387 - Verbal Abuse in Relationships: How to Recognize the Signs and to Figure out When it's Time to Go - by Submitted on May 14, 2012 from nancy traversIf you are having trouble dealing with the negative feelings associated with leaving a spouse because of a verbally abusive relationship, Orange County marriage counseling can help you sort those out and find yourself again. Verbal abuse is one of the hardest kinds of abuse to recognize. ...
Views: 635 - What a Woman Needs to Know before Sleeping with a Man - by Submitted on May 14, 2012 from nancy traversIf you keep making the same mistakes over and over again when in relationships with a man, Orange County counseling may help you figure out how to treat yourself better so you can hook a quality relationship. Sleeping with a man isn't always the event of the century, but very few women ever ...
Views: 782 - What Emotional Affairs are and Why They're Dangerous - by Submitted on May 20, 2012 from nancy traversWhen things are tough, it can be hard to admit you need help. That's when you need safe, reliable Orange County relationship counseling that can heal issues and problems in a calm, productive environment. People who are having emotional affairs often convince themselves whatever is going on ...
Views: 1090 - What is Emotional Intelligence? And Do You Have It? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2011 from nancy traversEveryone knows at least vaguely about general intelligence, or IQ, but what about emotional intelligence, or EQ? For the vast majority of us, emotional intelligence is more important to our lives than IQ. Harvard theorist Howard Gardner explains, “Your EQ [or emotional intelligence] is the level ...
Views: 953 - What It Takes to Be a Lady - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from nancy traversSometimes it’s useful to look back at the generation before us and learn from them. When it comes to being a lady, our grandmothers knew what to do. It’s not about being pompous sticklers for using the fork with the proper amount of tines. It’s about being considerate and behaving in such as way ...
Views: 1126 - What to Do When Your Friend Is Suicidal - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2014 from nancy traversThe last couple weeks we’ve been talking about the important topic of suicide. In the United States, it’s the 10th leading cause of death. The strongest risk factor is depression. Chances are that you have had or will have a friend who is at risk. You may be reluctant to talk to him about his ...
Views: 1803 - What You Never Knew Before About Love - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2013 from nancy traversWhat’s your idea of love? Is it when you want the best for someone else? When you give up putting your own self first to focus on another’s feelings, desires, needs? When you give your whole self—heart, mind and soul—to another? Scientists have made great progress in understanding love ...
Views: 871 - What’s Sabotaging Your Good Intentions? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2014 from nancy traversIt’s the New Year, and time to make a new start with all your good intentions to have a productive, fulfilling, happy year. But sometimes it’s a struggle. We get sidetracked, bogged down. Before we know it, our good intentions have vanished into thin air. What hinders us? Negative motivation. ...
Views: 1600 - When a Loved One Commits Suicide - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2014 from nancy traversRobin Williams’ recent death left many of us, who didn’t even know him, feeling bereft. How could he, who was loved by millions, take his own life? How could his life have been so unbearable that he had to end it? And how do we cope with the aftermath? About 40,000 people in the U.S. commit ...
Views: 1508 - When Is It Okay to Lie? - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from nancy travers“A truth that’s told with bad intent Beats all the lies you can invent.” – William Blake In recent articles I’ve talked about the importance of honest communication in good relationships. It’s essential that our partners understand us, know how we feel, how we might react to certain ...
Views: 895 - When Is Make-Up Sex a Good Thing? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2012 from nancy traversIf you’re relying on make-up sex too often, your relationship may need help Make-up sex is famous for being unbridled and highly pleasurable. And that can be memorable, especially if the overall sex life of a couple has been routine, humdrum, or just plain bad most of the time. In a good ...
Views: 1925 - When Sleep Eludes You - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from nancy traversLast week we talked about housekeeping tips to get you to sweet slumber every night. If you followed them, you’ve made your room dark and quiet, you’ve checked your mattress, you’ve banned the TV from your bedroom, watched your intake of caffeine and alcohol, regulated your routine—everything. ...
Views: 1777 - When ‘Sorry’ Is Not Enough - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2013 from nancy traversApologies are an important component of repairing a relationship, but they only work if the apology is heartfelt. Saying “I’m sorry you feel that way,” or “I’m sorry you misunderstood,” may only exacerbate the problem and make your partner madder. For an apology to begin to work, it must be ...
Views: 891 - Who is SEXTing Anyway? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2012 from nancy travers“SEXTing” is a term that gets thrown around a lot these days. With technology so readily available, it was only a matter of time until our sexuality made its way to our cell phones. SEXTing refers to anyone sending sexually explicit messages or racy photos to partners, peers, or the public; this ...
Views: 1139 - Whose Home for the Holidays? Simple Ways to Avoid Seasonal Conflicts with Your Partner - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2011 from nancy traversHolidays are supposed to be a happy time, filled with food, family and fun. It’s a time of holiday music echoing through the shopping centers, spending long nights indoors with loved ones, and generally being thankful for every blessing that we’ve encountered in the last year. This season is ...
Views: 719 - Why Am I Always the One Who Initiates Sex? - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from nancy traversIf you are the one—male or female—who is always the first to ask for sex, you may begin to think your partner doesn’t want it. But there can be all sorts of reasons why he or she is more reticent than you. They could be medical, psychological, relational or just that you’re off kilter. Your ...
Views: 5499 - Why Do We Lie to the Ones We Love? - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from nancy traversWe don’t want to lie. We love our partner. We understand a good relationship is built on trust, and that trust depends on our honesty. But sometimes we lie anyway. Why do we do it? For one thing, we’re not perfect. Our partners expect certain behavior from us (and we from them) and when we ...
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