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- Controlling Mothers: Why Are Some Mothers Controlling? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that to some degree all mothers are controlling and that they have to be. From the very beginning a child has to have the right discipline and guidance to develop. However, what happens when this control is taken to the extreme and the child is taken advantage of? A ...
Views: 4817(1 vote) - Toxic Shame: What Is Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is said to be two types of shame. One is described as normal and healthy and the other is said to be abnormal and dysfunctional. Healthy Shame This shame is part of having a healthy conscience; with certain behaviours and actions being kept in check by this feeling. And when ones ...
Views: 4270(2 votes) - Celebrities: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Celebrities? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some time I have been reflecting on and thinking about what causes the obsession with celebrities. So here is my current outlook on what I believe is going on. Today's Society In today's society celebrities are often worshiped and are objects of obsession for many people. And it ...
Views: 13632 - Self Realisation: Running And The Journey - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt occurred to me how running is a great metaphor when it comes to the journey of removing the images and projections we have of reality and seeing reality for what it truly is. Something that can also seem to be, two steps forward and one step back at times. When we first start running it ...
Views: 2032 - Perfection: Are We Perfect As We Are? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI recently had a dream and in that dream there was a situation where I paid 60 pounds for this diamond shaped stone. I was then told how it would be worth more if I got it valued. So once I had bought it I went to a jeweller to see if it was actually worth more or if I had just been taken for a ...
Views: 2053 - Relationships: What Is The Purpose Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI believe that one of the purposes of a relationship is to lead one back into wholeness. This includes the relationships we have had, the relationships we have and the relationships we will have in the future. They each contain the experiences and situations that are perfect for one to regain ...
Views: 2614 - Chronicle: My Interpretation of the Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAfter hearing about this film through a friend, I thought it sounded similar to a number of other films that have been released in recent years. The films Push and Jumper came to mind. Now that I have seen the film I believe that it is a metaphor for intention and how intention is what ...
Views: 2154 - The Iron Lady: My Interpretation of the Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt wasn't until after I had seen the trailer that I become interested in watching this film. I didn't know much about Margaret Thatcher (Not that this film can be completely trusted in its portrayal of her), but what I did know is that this looked to be a powerful film. The films tagline 'never ...
Views: 2310 - Black Swan: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first heard about this film I was intrigued by the story line. And after Natalie Portman had won an Oscar for her role, I thought it must be worth watching. It is directed by Darren Aronofsky, who directed The Wrestler and numerous other films. After watching this film I was amazed and ...
Views: 3108 - The Adjustment Bureau: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMy interest in this film came about after hearing that it was based on a short story by Philip K. Dick. Blade runner, Next, Minority Report and Total Recall are just a few of the films that have been based on his stories. The storyline 'Do we control our destiny, or do unseen forces manipulate ...
Views: 2558 - 127 Hours: My Interpretation of the Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhat motivated me to see this was the fact that Danny Boyle was directing it, with it being his first film since Slum Dog Millionaire. After this I heard that it was based on a true story. The story is about a climber, who in order to survive, has to lose his own arm. While I was watching it ...
Views: 3155 - TRON: Legacy: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I heard that the film was all about taking down the master control system I was instantly intrigued. Although I hadn't seen the first film I went with friends to see what it was all about. And with it being in Disney Digital 3D, I had a feeling it was going to be good. And after watching ...
Views: 2273 - Racism: What Causes Racism? - by Submitted on May 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe live in a time of extreme exposure and this exposure is no longer limited to the old ways of reporting; where radio, news papers or the Television were the primary ways. There is now Facebook, Twitter, YouTube and many other ways that allow for current events to be exposed and for individuals ...
Views: 7930 - Responsibility: The Taboo Of Responsibility - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe title of this article might seem out of place and even slightly unnecessary. You might be wondering how a word of such meaning, can be used to describe something as normal as responsibility. There might also be the chance of your thoughts being along the same lines as what I am about to ...
Views: 2122 - Love Or Control: What Would You Choose? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s relationships what is often classed as love is nothing more than control. The desire to control another person and their behaviour then becomes more important than it is to love and honour the other person. The question is: what would make a person want to control another? If they ...
Views: 1918 - The Inner Child: Why Is It Important To Heal The Inner Child? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe term ‘inner child’ is not something that can be easily understood. It is somewhat hard to relate to and even harder to be taken seriously. So then; what is the inner child? I see the inner child as a combination of childhood memories and these appear to primarily exist just above the ...
Views: 1316 - Invalidation: The Abused Childs Greatest Pain - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be validated as a child is highly important in creating a functional and psychologically healthy adult. When this validation is not received and a child is invalidated, it can lead to all kinds of problems If a child is abused in some way, one of the most important things, if not the most ...
Views: 2326 - Abusive Parents: Why Do Some Parents Abuse Their Children? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAbusive parenting if often something that goes on covertly in our society. To the outsider it might not even be noticed. With how a family or parent presents themselves to the outside world being the complete opposite of how they our behind closed doors. These people can hold positions of ...
Views: 2916(3 votes) - Abuse: What Causes Abuse? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt can be difficult to describe what abuse is and this is because the word ‘Abuse’ can mean different things to different people. For one person it might relate to emotional pain, for another it might involve physical pain. With there being different degrees of pain and hurt within these two ...
Views: 2203 - Intimacy: What Causes The Fear Of Intimacy? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIntimacy can mean different things to different people. It is a word that has numerous meanings and interpretations. The meaning I am going to be looking at here is closeness. Although closeness is usually experienced in relationships of the opposite sex, it can be experienced in any ...
Views: 6702 - Instant Gratification Culture: What Created It? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe term ‘instant gratification’ is widely known and widely used in today’s society. Having something tomorrow or having to wait any longer than now, is often far too long in today’s culture. Instant gratification can be observed throughout all ages and in numerous situations, it is not ...
Views: 7402 - Our Story: What Roles Are We Playing In Our Story? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOur story is all that we have experienced up until his point, all that we are experiencing at this moment and all that we will experience in the future. And part of what makes up our story is the roles that we play. However, these are roles that might not even seem like roles, they can appear ...
Views: 1794 - Relationships: What Roles Are We Playing In Our Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhat I am referring to by the term ‘roles’ is the way one behaves in the relationships in their life. So with the description out of the way, the first question is; what causes one to behave as they do in relationships when their behaviour is dysfunctional and disempowering and doesn’t lead to ...
Views: 2626 - Our Story: Is Our Story Who We Are? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe all have a story to tell, no matter who we are or where we’re from; a story that reminds us of a past that can never be forgotten. This is a story can define one’s life; one that contains the potential to create a life that is a reaction to the story or a life inspired and motivated by ...
Views: 2024 - Relationships: The Healing Power Of Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhether it is relationships with friends, acquaintances or spousal for example; they all have the potential for healing and consequently growth to occur. Opportunities are presented for one to integrate and process those parts that lay dormant; that are waiting to be realised. We are also ...
Views: 2477(1 vote) - Dysfunctional Environments: What is A Dysfunctional Environment? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to describing a Dysfunctional Environment, it might help us to also look at what a functional environment might look like. Functional Environment A functional environment then; would be an area that is conducive to growth. Somewhere that not only supports and encourages an ...
Views: 7242 - Purpose: Why Is It So Hard To Find Our Purpose? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOnes purpose could be described as a combination of factors. With ones dreams, goals, intensions and behaviour all combining to express and fulfil this often elusive thing known as ‘purpose’. Some people say it is something we find and others see it as something that we create. Dreams No ...
Views: 2271 - Anger: Is It Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word anger and the behaviour that it creates is not something that is typically looked upon with acceptance or positivity. Anger is often portrayed as a troublesome emotion; an emotion that leads to destructive and abusive behaviour. And there is no denying that anger can be extremely ...
Views: 2732(1 vote) - Conditional Love: What Is Conditional Love? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is love that is not given freely; love that is only given based on certain requirements being fulfilled and met. It is during our childhood that we have our first experience of love and our meaning or model of love is also created as a child. And to be more specific here, the love I ...
Views: 5268 - Energy Vampires: What Is An Energy Vampire? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe term ‘Energy Vampire’ can conjure up all kinds of associations and meanings. What Does Energy Vampire Mean? The question is: What does the term Energy Vampire mean? The logical answer would be to describe someone that causes another to feel emotionally and mentally drained and ...
Views: 2801 - Controlling Behaviour: What Causes It? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperControlling behaviour is surely one of the more common ‘negative’ behaviours in the world today. And if one was to reflect upon human history they would find that this kind of behaviour is neither new nor different to the behaviour of the past. The severity of this behaviour varies - from ...
Views: 15930 - Emotional Abuse: The invisible Killer - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe name of this article might sound a bit extreme and over the top, however I thought it was relevant to create awareness around this often overlooked area. This is a general description of Emotional Abuse, which is based on my current awareness and observations. Physical Abuse Very ...
Views: 2754(1 vote) - Self Love: Why Is It So Hard To Accept Ourselves? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI would firstly like to point out that the love I am talking about here is not narcissistic or egotistic. What I am referring to is an acceptance of who we are; our true nature, free from the ideas and perceptions of who we are or should be. This is of course one of the hardest things in ...
Views: 4432 - Dysfunctional Love: What Is Dysfunctional Love? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is clear to see that in the world we live in, what is often classed as love is anything but love and could be classed as dysfunctional and in some cases abusive. So this is going to be my perspectives on some of the things that are not love. We come to understand what something is, by ...
Views: 5771 - The Heart: Is It More Than A Muscle? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis article will look at the different aspects of the heart; this will include empathy, emotions and feelings. I will also explain my current understanding of what leads to an absence of empathy and an ability to feel. Inspiration I was also inspired to write this after seeing the Alfa ...
Views: 2104 - Psychological Boundaries: The Ability To Say Yes And No - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe term boundaries can seem unclear and even confusing at times. What does the term ‘boundaries’ mean? And how does it relate to psychological wellbeing? Are they the same as ‘walls’? And in this context what are walls? What I am describing here are psychological boundaries. So here I will ...
Views: 4348 - Deserving: Why Don't We Get What We Deserve? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is an area that can not only create frustration, anger and confusion; it can also make one feel powerless and a victim of circumstance. So here I am going to explain my current understanding, as to why we don’t always get what we think we deserve and can end up with something completely ...
Views: 2394 - Aloof Behaviour: What Causes It? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThis is an area I have been reflecting on for many years, pondering and asking myself why such behaviour exists. And with my recent expression through writing, felt it was time to talk about this interesting and often confusing area of behaviour. So here, based on my experience and ...
Views: 31489 - The Media’s Portrayal Of Beauty: Is It Dysfunctional? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe title of this article might seem out of place and even slightly unnecessary. You might be wondering how a word of such meaning, can be used to describe something as normal as responsibility. There might also be the chance of your thoughts being along the same lines as what I am about to ...
Views: 2514 - Reality Or Projection: What Do We See? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the questions I have been asking myself recently is; are we seeing reality based on how it is today or are we interpreting and creating it based on what happened in our past The first response to this question could be; Of course we are seeing reality for how it is today, what else is ...
Views: 1986 - Freedom Or Safety: What Would You Choose? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAfter recent experiences and awareness’s in my life and also from what is happening it the public domain, I felt it was right to talk about my views and understandings of these two incredibly important areas of life. The Dichotomy On one side we have a great need to feel safe and on the ...
Views: 2486 - Emotional Intelligence: The Importance Of Processing Our Emotions - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI have recently had an interesting experience. And upon close reflection, I believe this experience has explained how important it is to process our emotions and to limit their accumulation. I believe it also explains at a deeper level, what is meant by; we are not just the observers of our ...
Views: 2445 - Being Selfish: Is It Bad Thing? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word selfish has all kind of associations, however I’m sure one of the images that comes to mind for most of us, is of the person who only thinks about themselves and is extremely self centred. This person only seems to think about what is in it for them and how it will benefit their own ...
Views: 7906(1 vote) - Pain And Suffering: Do We Benefit From It? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI have recently been asking the question: why is it that we are so consumed with the pain of the world and at the same time run away from our own pain? Could it be that the very reason we have become so obsessed and addicted to the media, soaps, gossip and other such things, is due to us running ...
Views: 1903 - Friends: My Interpretation Of What They Are - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI was thinking the other night while I was getting to sleep, how being on one of those flat elevators at the airport is a great metaphor for describing how friends come and go in our life. While we are on them some people stay at the same speed as us, going only as fast as the elevator takes ...
Views: 2272(2 votes) - Happiness: Are Some People Happy Being Unhappy? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI have recently reflected on my own tendency to have felt happy only when I felt unhappy. And I sensed that, even when everything was going fine and I could see that I was achieving my goals, there was often a sense of unhappiness within me. By observing my own emotional and cognitive ...
Views: 2503(1 vote) - Self Image: Is Our Self Image Secondhand? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years I have been focusing on and asking myself about my own identity. Is the way we see ourselves the true expression of who we really are or is it the result of something else. And will we be comfortable with the same Identity our whole lives. Most of us have heard how the way we ...
Views: 2136 - Reality: Are We The Victims Of Our Reality? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhat I mean by this, is are we actually having an effect on our reality or environment or are we just bystanders in life, watching as situations and circumstances just ‘randomly’ happen, without us having any influence or control. Without even looking at whether this perception is right or ...
Views: 3085(2 votes) - Dysfunctional Relationships: Why Do We Attract Them? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI think to one degree or another, if we are not currently in one, we have all been in a relationship that is dysfunctional or abusive. So here, I am going to give my current understanding, based on my experiences and observations, of why I think they exist and what is going on at a deeper ...
Views: 6503 - The Environment: Is Our Dissociation Destroying It? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe live in a time where there is intense focus and even an obsession when it comes to our environment. In many ways, I believe that this is a good thing. The questions that arise for me are; what causes us to act in ways that are so destructive to the environment? And at the same time, why is it ...
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