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- Psychological Validation: What Is Psychological Validation? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes achieving psychological well being; validation plays an incredibly important role. This primarily consists of two aspects: On one side this means that one’s thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviours will be acknowledged and accepted by other human beings; and on the other side ...
Views: 3643 - Anger: Do You Feel Uncomfortable When Other People Get Angry? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one felt unhappy and they were to meet a friend who was happy, they could soon start to feel different. Their emotional state has then been transformed through being in the other person's presence. This can happen without one having to really do anything, and their life doesn't have to ...
Views: 3595 - Momentum: Is Momentum An Important Part Of Success? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something is moving, it can be a lot harder to stop it. And yet when something is not moving, it can be a lot harder to get it going. If a boulder was rolling down a hill for example, stopping it could be extremely difficult. If this boulder was not moving, getting it rolling could also be ...
Views: 3581 - Actors: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Actors? - by Submitted on May 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t take much effort to notice how powerful and influential actors and actresses are in today’s world. And although they have had this power for a number of years; with the assistance of the mainstream media, this has gradually increased as time has gone by. One only has to go a film ...
Views: 3576(1 vote) - Emotional Dumping: What Is Emotional Dumping? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be moments in everyone’s life when things are not running smoothly, with this being a time when they may need someone to open up to. If they were to reach out to someone, they could just go over what has been going on. After this has taken place, one could soon direct ...
Views: 3558 - Acceptance: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Accept Themselves? - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the greatest needs a human being has is to be accepted for who they are. But while this is the case, it doesn’t necessarily mean that one has been able to fulfil this need or that they believe it is even possible for them to fulfil it. If people were generally encouraged to be ...
Views: 3533 - Social Media: Can Social Media Give People A False Sense Of Importance? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have many different needs, and one of those needs is to feel important. However, this is not to say that everyone will be influenced in the same way by this need; as some people will have a greater need to feel important than others. It could then be a need that is no more ...
Views: 3464 - Defence Mechanism: Repetition Compulsion - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences pain and it is not possible for them to face the pain that they’re experiencing, they’re going to end up using a number of defence mechanisms. This could be due to how traumatising the experience is or because it would be too much for them to face how they feel. A ...
Views: 3355 - Emotions: Why Do Some People Find It Hard to Identify Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile what is going on externally can be easy to see and describe, the same is not always true for what is taking place on the inside. And this can relate to ones: thoughts, emotions, feelings and sensations. This has the potential to lead to all kinds of challenges and these can depend on ...
Views: 3343 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Want To Be Worshipped? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is relatively easy for a woman receive attention; the only thing that she needs is a social media account. And if one is not enough, then she can join a number of different sites. A Big Audience Once she has uploaded a few pictures of herself, it might only be a ...
Views: 3325 - Assertive: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Be Assertive? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough assertiveness is largely described as the ideal, what is often found is either submissive or aggressive behaviour. So if submissive behaviour was at one end of the spectrum; aggressive behaviour would be at the other end of the spectrum. This means that assertive behaviour would be ...
Views: 3273(2 votes) - Prometheus: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the first things that I heard about this film was that it was a prequel to Alien. And after seeing the trailer I was expecting another film to do with the end of the world. I wasn’t expecting too much and I went into the cinema with an open mind. After watching the film for the first ...
Views: 3250 - Social Media: Does Social Media Encourage Exhibitionism? - by Submitted on May 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has often been said that some people require more attention than others, and this is something that can be seen in all areas of life. For example, one could think about what it was like when they were at school or college, and they might soon see how different people are in this regard. ...
Views: 3250 - Abuse: Why Do Some People Abuse Others? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many types of abuse; from child abuse, to abuse in relationships, abuse in the workplace and even through leaders of countries for example. And no matter what kind of abuse it is, people are put through pain and are made to suffer. One is then made to believe that something is wrong ...
Views: 3221(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Empty When They Are Not In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who not only feel comfortable in a relationship; they also feel comfortable when they are not in one. This means that their boundaries are strong enough for them to open up and to experience intimacy without losing who they are. And when they are not in a relationship, ...
Views: 3203 - Self Realisation: The Journey One Must Take Alone - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperSelf Realisation: The Journey One Must Take Alone I believe that the journey one embarks on to understand who and what they are; is one that could be classed as an individual journey. There will of course be many people who one encounters during this journey. And the amount of time that ...
Views: 3190(1 vote) - Self-Love: How Can Someone Love Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a person gets to a certain age, there is a strong likelihood that they will attend some kind of school. During this time, they will begin to learn about different areas of life and the kind of subjects that will allow them to function in today’s world. While their time in education may ...
Views: 3172 - The Flow: Is It Good Or Bad To Go With The Flow? - by Submitted on May 21, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to watch a stream, they would see that it goes in one direction, and this will take place without too much force being utilized. This is because the water is going in the same direction and there is little, if any, resistance. However, this wouldn’t be possible if each drop of ...
Views: 3172 - Social Media: Does Social Media Encourage Groupthink? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone talks to people over social media, it is not going to be the same as talking to them in person. It could be said that this is pretty obvious, and that it is not something that needs to be pointed out. What this primarily comes down to is that one is going to be using a device to ...
Views: 3162(1 vote) - Persistence: Is Persistence An Important Part Of Success? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who have the ability or the skill to do something and yet, that is as far as it goes. And this is going to mean that they end up wasting what they have and it will always be a mystery as to what they could have achieved. In other cases, there are going to be people who ...
Views: 3153 - 127 Hours: My Interpretation of the Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhat motivated me to see this was the fact that Danny Boyle was directing it, with it being his first film since Slum Dog Millionaire. After this I heard that it was based on a true story. The story is about a climber, who in order to survive, has to lose his own arm. While I was watching it ...
Views: 3116 - Emotionally Disconnected: Why Are Some People Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile emotions are often seen as a distraction and an inconvenience, they are a vital part of being human. Without them, life would be pretty meaningless and while there wouldn’t be any lows, there also wouldn’t be any highs either. It would lead to a life that is very empty and although one ...
Views: 3108 - Role Models: Can We Use Negative Role Models As Inspiration? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf the people one spent their time with had no effect on their life it wouldn’t matter who they had around them. But as human beings are interdependent and are therefore constantly being affected by the people around them, one has to choose their company wisely. When one walks into a room ...
Views: 3093 - Intellectual Boundaries: Why Do Some People Believe Anything? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperInformation can be empowering and disempowering and what one person finds useful might not be seen in the same way by another. But with personal opinion aside, information is vital for the growth of an individual and for humanity as a whole. Without it, very little would change and regression, ...
Views: 3092 - Legitimate Suffering: What Is Legitimate Suffering? - by Submitted on May 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a saying by Carl Jung that says - “Neurosis is always a substitute for legitimate suffering”. And while this has got to be one of his most famous quotes, it is not easily understood. In today’s world it is often advocated that one should avoid pain at all costs. This is something ...
Views: 3083 - “What Is Legitimate Suffering?” - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, it must have been around 2013, I came across a term that fascinated me. I can’t remember how I came across this term, but what I do remember is that I was part of a quote by Carl Jung. I even ended up writing an article about it around the same time. This was the ...
Views: 3072 - Black Swan: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first heard about this film I was intrigued by the story line. And after Natalie Portman had won an Oscar for her role, I thought it must be worth watching. It is directed by Darren Aronofsky, who directed The Wrestler and numerous other films. After watching this film I was amazed and ...
Views: 3064 - Relationships: Why Can't Some People Maintain Eye Contact? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many things that one can do to make a positive impression and this is going to include the impression one makes when they meet someone for the first time and in their existing relationships. And as human beings are not perfect, it is only natural that they are going to do things ...
Views: 3060 - Reality: Are We The Victims Of Our Reality? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhat I mean by this, is are we actually having an effect on our reality or environment or are we just bystanders in life, watching as situations and circumstances just ‘randomly’ happen, without us having any influence or control. Without even looking at whether this perception is right or ...
Views: 3051(2 votes) - Normal: What Does Normal Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word normal can trigger all kinds of meanings and what can come to mind are the judgements that are made around people. How someone looks, dresses or behaves is often part of this judgement. However, this article is not going to be about what is classed as normal or abnormal about people. ...
Views: 3048 - Interviews With Successful People - Darren Tate - International Record Producer and DJ - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the first dance songs I ever heard was 'It's My Turn' by Angelic. The artist, however, was a pseudonym for two people: Amanda O'Riordan (Judge Jules's wife) and someone I came to know as Darren Tate. Over the following years, I continued to hear many of Darren's songs, and these were ...
Views: 3040 - Relationships: Can Trapped Grief Stop Someone From Starting A New Relationship? - by Submitted on May 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that when one door closes, another door opens, and what this shows is that the end of one thing can be the beginning of another. However, in order for someone to walk through a new door, they will need to walk away from the old door. Yet, even though the old door has closed, ...
Views: 3026 - Humanity: Is Humanity Failing? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne doesn’t need to look very far to become aware of what is taking place in the world and this is because of how connected the world has become through technology. For instance, one only needs to turn a TV or a computer on or to look at their phone. Here, one will have the chance to consume ...
Views: 3013 - Identification: What Is Your Ego Identified With? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are two types of identification that can come to mind when this word is heard. Number One The first is known as a defence mechanism and occurs when one appreciates or values the behaviour of another person. And from that moment, one chooses to follow or express through their ...
Views: 2997 - Love: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Love Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone would like to love and appreciate themselves, it doesn’t mean that one finds this easy or even possible to do. But, this love is not an adaption and what appears when one doesn’t love themselves. Here, something known as unhealthy narcissism can appear; with one having ...
Views: 2991 - False Self: Can Toxic Shame Create A False Self? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere is often said to be a false self and a true self, and if one is into psychology or self development, they’re likely to have heard about these terms. If one hasn’t, they might sound a bit mysterious and something that one can’t relate to. But if these descriptions are put to one side ...
Views: 2981 - Comments: Why Do Some People Always Leave Negative Comments? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThrough the invention of the internet, people have been given a platform to express their views and opinions. And while this need is nothing new and has not just appeared, it has made it a lot easier for people to speak out and this is due to a number of reasons. When one is expressing their ...
Views: 2976 - Interviews With Successful People - Emma Hewitt – Singer-songwriter And Trance Vocalist - by Submitted on May 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThe first song I listened to from Emma was her collaboration with Chris Lake ‘Carry Me Away’, and this was then followed by ‘Not Enough Time’ with Cosmic Gate and ‘Live Forever’ with Lange. And while I have listened to a lot of trance music, these are two songs that stand out. But even ...
Views: 2952 - Interviews With Successful People - Barry Phelan: British And European Tai Chi Champion - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperBarry teaches in Dover, Canterbury and Ramsgate. From september he will be teaching adult education classes in Canterbury and Ashford. Born in Windsor on August 9th 1970: Barry moved to Kent in 1980, he left school in 1987 and studied a City & Guilds in Engineering. He then worked as an ...
Views: 2951 - Abused Children: Do Abused Children Need To Forgive Their Parents? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to moving on and letting go of an abusive past, it is not uncommon to hear that one needs to forgive. The act of forgiveness is highly regarded by many people and in numerous schools of thought. Religion has also espoused this outlook from the very beginning. So is it really a ...
Views: 2927 - Needs: Why Do Some People Feel Ashamed Of Their Needs? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across someone who said that they can live without air, one might start laughing or they could think that there is something wrong with them. This is because human beings need air to survive; they could go against this need, but their life would soon come to an end. As ...
Views: 2912 - Beliefs: Do Our Feelings Create Our Beliefs? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is behaving in a certain way or not attracting what they want into their life, it is often said to be a result of what their beliefs are. And so one then needs to change what they believe, in order to act differently and to attract what they want into their reality. A large part ...
Views: 2901 - Relationships: Do You Expect The Same Person To Meet All Your Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about their ideal partner, they may imagine someone who can fulfil all of their needs. They may even describe this person as their ‘soul mate’; with this being someone who will end up transforming their whole life. There is then the chance that they will have been with a ...
Views: 2896 - Relationships: Why Are People Who Act Superior Attracted To People Who Act Inferior? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn a relationship were each person is at the same level, one person is not going to see themselves as being above the other. This is not to say that each person is at the same level materially, for instance, but this is not going to affect the amount of respect they have for each other. ...
Views: 2892 - Abusive Parents: Why Do Some Parents Abuse Their Children? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAbusive parenting if often something that goes on covertly in our society. To the outsider it might not even be noticed. With how a family or parent presents themselves to the outside world being the complete opposite of how they our behind closed doors. These people can hold positions of ...
Views: 2874(3 votes) - Relationships: Why Are Some People Always Moody? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be moments when someone feels happy and moments when they don’t, and while they may prefer to be happy all the time, this is not going to be possible. When it comes to the people someone spends their time around, they may also find it easier to be around them when they are ...
Views: 2873 - Happiness: Why Do Some People Feel Responsible For Other People's Happiness? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen other people are unhappy, it can cause someone to feel a sense of concern and to be curious as to why they feel as they do. As a result of this, one can hope that this person begins to feel better and even see what they can do to help them. This could apply to anyone one meets that ...
Views: 2840 - Celebrities: Why Do Politicians Get Celebrities To Endorse Them? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a politician has the desire to get into a certain position, they can end up looking towards different celebrities. And while some of these might be known by people who fall into a certain age group, for instance, there can be others who will be known by people of all ages. Therefore, it ...
Views: 2829 - Abusive Mothers: Why Are Some Mothers Abusive? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some mothers out there who are loving and supportive and these are the epitome of the mother archetype in action. And then there are mothers who are anything but loving and supportive. These are mothers who have gone against their natural inclination to nurture. Instead of doing all ...
Views: 2828 - Attraction: Are We Attracted To What Is Familiar? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to romantic attraction, it is often said that one is attracted to someone who matches their facial feature in some way. And while there will be couples who do look like each other either in the beginning of the relationship or whose faces will grow to mimic each other’s over time, ...
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