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- Negative Thoughts: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Negative Thoughts? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe term ‘negative thoughts’ has become very well known in today’s world and this is true for people who are into self development and people who are not. Thoughts are generally the primary focus in the area of change and personal transformation. These are said to control how one behaves, ...
Views: 1659 - Illness: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Illness? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is very little attention given to emotions and feelings in the western world and the role that these play in whether the body is in a place of balance or imbalance. The typical approach is to look at things in isolation and what happens to the body is then a random occurrence. And ...
Views: 1769 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Have No Boundaries? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be human means to be vulnerable and so it is incredibly important that we look after ourselves and don’t allow people to compromise who we are. Physically we are vulnerable and this also applies to our mental and emotional sides. Each one of these needs to be looked after and protected from ...
Views: 3966(1 vote) - Relationships: Where Do Men’s Expectations Of Women Come From? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what a woman is going to be like, a man will have a set of expectations. And sometimes these can be consciously known and at other times, they can be completely unconscious. However, no matter whether these are conscious or unconscious, they will still have a massive impact ...
Views: 2228 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a relationship with another person, ideally, their body, heart and mind will be shared. This means there will be a physical connection, an emotional sharing and an intellectual exchange. But this doesn’t always take place and this means that one could have a relationship ...
Views: 8465 - Inner Conflict: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people work together and are all on the same side, so much can be achieved. If there is disharmony amongst people, problems can appear and this can lead to things being slowed down, or stopped completely. One example that comes to mind here is a sports team. When everyone in the team ...
Views: 1925(1 vote) - Needs: Why Are Some People Out Of Touch With Their Own Needs? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEach one of us has wants and needs and yet that doesn’t mean that everyone is in touch with their wants and needs. It is also possible for someone to have wants and needs that are second hand and have nothing to do with what actually matters to them. It could be that one actually believes ...
Views: 1889 - Anger: Why Do Some People Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous challenges in the world today and some of these challenges are to do with emotions; from depression, to suicide and a whole myriad of other things. And emotions cannot simply be ignored or dismissed. They deserve and need as much attention as ones diet or physical health. ...
Views: 3853 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Pull Away When Things Get Serious? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man and a woman first get together it can be going along nicely and as soon as things start to become a little more serious, a man can begin to pull away. This is naturally going to be confusing for the woman and may make no sense whatsoever. And it can depend on how connected the ...
Views: 7989(2 votes) - Relationships: Do Actions Speak Louder Than Words? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that ‘Actions speak louder than words’ and while this saying has been around for a very long time, it doesn’t mean that this advice is always followed. At times, it can be difficult to pay attention to anything but the words that are being spoken. When this happens, what ...
Views: 4276 - Celebrities: Are Celebrities Good Role Models? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is part of human nature to look to others for guidance in how to behave and what is right or wrong for instance. And this is not good or bad; it is just how things are. What can turn it into something dysfunctional and unhealthy is when someone copy’s behaviours and ways of being that are ...
Views: 8864 - Control: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Controlling Behaviour? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is common in today’s world and throughout history is control, but in most cases this is not self control, it is the control of others. And this can be seen at all levels of the modern day world. From the personal relationships that people have, to the authority figures of the world. To ...
Views: 1824 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Clingy In Relationships? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain behaviours that are going to cause problems in a relationship and could even sabotage one from taking place, and one of those behaviours is when someone is clingy. This can appear at the start of a relationship or it can appear as a relationship develops. For the person on ...
Views: 1947 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Attracted To People Who Are Self-Centered? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people think of a relationship, they often think about not only receiving, but also giving. These two parts come together to form a relationship and while it is not always possible to give and receive in each moment, this doesn’t mean that one of these aspects will then be ignored ...
Views: 6045(3 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Worship Women? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the idea of worshipping a woman is mentioned it can trigger all kinds of meanings in one’s mind. And what these meanings are can depend on is where one was brought up. To worship the feminine, which is what women physically represent, can be seen as sacred. The earth itself is often ...
Views: 5423 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Let Others Walk All Over Them? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo walk all over a carpet or some kind of tiled floor would be normal. This is because the floor has no feelings and very few wants and needs for example. If the floor was used too much it may wear out; so it will need to be cleaned at certain times and it might even need to be replaced after a ...
Views: 3978 - Defence Mechanism: Denial - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperDefence mechanisms are used to stop the ego mind from becoming overwhelmed, as if they were not utilised, the mind may not be able to cope with the pain that is arising. So they are not good or bad or right or wrong, they simply there to ensure that one survives. Denial will be used during ...
Views: 1882 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Become Obsessed With Their Ex? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end some people come to conclude that it was no longer working and that its time had come. And then there are others who experience an end to a relationship and find it extremely difficult to let go and move on. This could have been a relationship that was ...
Views: 5013 - Relationships: How Can A Woman Get Over An Abusive Man? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor a woman who has been with an abusive man it is not always easy to move on. And this can be due to the following factors; how severe the abuse was and how the woman responded to the abuse. But no matter what took place or how a woman was able to respond to the abuse that was taking ...
Views: 1646 - Being Present: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Being Present? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperEver since Eckhart Tolle’s book ‘The Power Of Now’ came out, being present has consumed the self help industry. And even people who were not into self development came across this book. Interpretation And whether it is a teacher speaking about being present or whether they are talking ...
Views: 1764 - Attachment: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Attachment? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that attachment creates suffering and this is one of the foundations of Buddhism. And when it comes to attracting something into one’s life, attachment is said to be the very thing that will sabotage its arrival. One only has to look at what they are attached to and what ...
Views: 1820 - Suicidal: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Someone To Feel Suicidal? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many challenges in today’s world and the area of suicide is one of those. This can relate to people who are committing suicide or to people who feel suicidal and who would like to end their life in some way. Mental and emotional problems have become the norm in the western world. ...
Views: 1712 - Communication: Is It Good To Be Curious? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMost people have heard the saying ‘’curiosity killed the cat’’ and this has lead to all kinds of meanings being constructed. For some people it will have been interpreted to mean that being curious is dangerous and others may simply dismiss it as just an old saying. But regardless of this ...
Views: 2094 - Inner Voice: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Listen To Their Inner Voice? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is something called an inner voice and this is available to each one of us. But although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that one is in tune with their inner voice or even knows that they have one. The Inner voice is not the only term that is used to describe this powerful guidance ...
Views: 1940 - Relationships: Why Are Some Men Attracted To Abusive women? - by Submitted on May 29, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen abuse is mentioned it is often a man that comes to mind and this is due to number of reasons. Firstly, a man is generally seen as being stronger than a woman and so this can sound right. And if one were to look back on history, there are numerous examples of men who have abused their ...
Views: 6364 - Relationships: Why Do Some Breakups Hurt So Much? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne may experience the end of a relationship without experiencing too much pain or they could experience immense pain and suffering when a relationship comes to an end. It could then be hard to comprehend what is taking place and why this person is having this affect. And it doesn’t even ...
Views: 1857 - Trapped Emotions: What Happens When We Have Trapped Emotions? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough emotions need to flow and to be expressed during moments when it is appropriate; they are often inhibited and denied the chance to be expressed. Now, there will always be times in ones life when it is not appropriate to express them and yet when one is in a different environment, it ...
Views: 1630 - Behaviour: Do We Teach People How To Treat Us? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperHow we respond to others and how others respond to us can appear to be random and without reason at times. And at others times, it can be patently obvious as to why we have behaved as we have towards another or why they behaved as they have towards us. But whether one is aware of their ...
Views: 1916 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Try To Save Women? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some men out there women are seen as people who need to be saved or rescued from what is taking place in their lives. And so it doesn’t matter how big or small these women’s challenges are, as this type of man is only too happy to get involved. So this also means that unless a woman has ...
Views: 6368 - True Self: Is Pain Part Of Realising The True Self? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the true self is mentioned, pain if often not too far behind. There are also many other terms that are mentioned in regards to finding the true self and two of these are: the dark night of the soul and an existential crises. Here ones goes through an experience or a number experiences ...
Views: 1566 - The Media: Does The Media Cause Apathy? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t take too much effort to notice that today’s media outlets have incredible influence over so many people’s lives. And that this influence can result in all kinds of consequences taking place. Now, some of these are consequences that are clear to see and are highly visible. And ...
Views: 1670 - Victim Mentality: Why Do Some People Have A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is nothing like a good victim story to get people’s attention. The media routinely covers a certain event or situation where one person or a group of people are labelled as victims. And based on what happens in these situations, it is often very difficult to disagree with the ...
Views: 2126 - Self Realisation: Why Do Some People Always Look Outside For Answers? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe live in a time that is often described as the information age. And this is largely due to the internet and how this has made information so easy to access. What was only available to a certain class of people or what could only be known trough travelling to certain parts of the world for ...
Views: 2424 - Personal Power: What Happens When Someone Rejects Their Personal Power? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t take much effort to notice that some people are more empowered than others. But while it may appear that empowered people have something empowered people don’t, inherently we all have the same power. The defining factor is that some people are in touch with and connected to this ...
Views: 1601 - Relationships: Where Do Women’s Expectations Of Men Come From? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what a man is going to be like or what a woman is going to be like, we all have a set of expectations. And although these can be consciously known, they are very often out of one’s conscious awareness. So while a woman may be unaware of what their expectations are of men, they ...
Views: 1736 - Relationships: Is It Important To Understand The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperQuestions such as: what does it take to keep a woman happy and what does it take to please a man, have been around for many years. And sometimes people come up with answers and sometimes people give up trying to find answers. The great psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud even pondered this question ...
Views: 2152 - Nice Guys: Why Are Some Men 'Nice Guys'? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the modern day descriptions of men, there are two that are often mentioned. One is the bad boy and the other is the nice guy. And while on paper and in person these men can come across as being radically different, in many ways, they are simply two sides of the same coin. ...
Views: 1912 - Receiving: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Receive? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side is the ability to give and on the other is the ability to receive. And it is often said that unless one can receive, then it won’t be possible for them to give. So the ability to receive is generally considered to be the most important aspect. This makes me think about how ...
Views: 2210 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Fear Women? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAs men are often physically stronger than women, it often makes it hard to comprehend that they could be fearful of women. This is something that can sound illogical and abnormal. When some people hear this, it can sound like some kind of joke. But while this may sound illogical and even ...
Views: 1887 - Emotional Avoidance: What Can Happen When We Avoid Our Emotions? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter how old or young someone is, where they have come from on this planet or if they are male or female, one thing is clear, and that is that they will have emotions. For this is part of the human experience, without them life wouldn’t be the same. However, one of the challenges with ...
Views: 1960 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Unattractive When A Relationship Ends? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe desire to feel attractive is normal and something that the majority of people want to experience. Here, one can then feel a sense of healthy control when it comes to attracting the kind of man or woman that they desire. And this is also likely to lead to one feeling accepted and approved of ...
Views: 2317(2 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Attract Controlling Men? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a woman can want to experience a relationship with a man that is healthy and functional, there are numerous things that can get in the way if this actually taking place. And one of these things is when a man is controlling. To a one degree or another, both men and women are ...
Views: 5065 - The Media: Does The Media Distract People? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to understanding what is taking place in the area where one lives and the world at large, it is clear that some kind of assistance is required. This is something that usually takes place through the media. Here, one is informed about national and international events and ...
Views: 1694 - Intimacy: Can Emotional Repression Sabotage Intimacy? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough the need to experience intimacy is one of the strongest needs that someone can have, it doesn’t mean that this is a need that will always be fulfilled. For some people in the world, intimacy will be part of life and something that is simply taken for granted. And as long as they can ...
Views: 1992(2 votes) - Looking Good: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Looking Good? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne doesn’t have to look very far to see how obsessed people have become with looking good in the western world. And this is not limited to one gender; both men and women are involved in this. For a woman it could relate to: the kinds of clothes they wear, make-up, body shape, hair style, ...
Views: 2356 - Passive Aggressive Behaviour: What Causes It? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what gender someone is or where they have come from, there is likely to be moments where they feel angry. This is part of the human experience and it plays a valuable role in our survival as individuals and as a species. In most cases, anger is nothing more than feedback and is ...
Views: 2542 - Relationships: What Do People's Friends Reveal About Them? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to getting to know someone who has the potential to be a friend or a lover, it is not always easy. During the early interactions, there is the tendency for people to show their best selves. To present themselves in a way that is different to how they normally are or to exaggerate ...
Views: 1731 - Relationships: Where Does A Man’s Idea Of A Woman Come From? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what women are like, there are numerous ideas that men can have. And while the world is made up of all types of women, there are certain ideas that a man will have formed. These are not just going to be disconnected descriptions, but descriptions that carry emotional ...
Views: 1907 - Positive Thinking: Is Positive Thinking Dangerous? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has read anything do with self help or come across one of the primary figures in the industry, they will have heard of the term ‘Positive Thinking’. This is nothing new and has been around for many years. In 1952, Norman Vincent Peale published the book - The Power Of Positive ...
Views: 1732 - Violence: Can Repression Cause Violence? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne doesn’t need to look very far to see violence or to hear about violence. The media for instance, is only too happy to inform people of what is taking place at a local level and around the world. And then one can hear second hand accounts of violence that have taken place in another ...
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