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- The Media: Does The Media Destroy Women’s Self Esteem? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what the media focuses on, there are many things that are positive and constructive and then there are also numerous things that are negative and destructive. This is to be expected, as there are pros and cons to most things in this world. And with that in mind, it is ...
Views: 1648 - Emotional Regulation: What Is Emotional Regulation? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough emotions and feelings are something each one of us has, it doesn’t mean that they are easy to handle or manage. For some people, they generally don’t cause too many problems, unless there is a major challenge in their life. And then there are other people who find it incredibly ...
Views: 1980 - Reality: Can Trapped Emotions Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what one attracts and doesn’t attract into their life, thoughts are often the primary focus. And when someone has this point of view, they are seen as the key to one attracting what they want and repelling what they don’t want. So here, one needs to become hyper vigilant ...
Views: 1690 - Self Harm: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Self Harm? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere could be said to be two ways that one can be harmed in this world. One of these is through external means and what other people do to them. And the other is what one does to themselves. What goes on externally can be noticed and as it is observable to others, they can come to ones ...
Views: 1741 - Beliefs: Do Our Feelings Create Our Beliefs? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is behaving in a certain way or not attracting what they want into their life, it is often said to be a result of what their beliefs are. And so one then needs to change what they believe, in order to act differently and to attract what they want into their reality. A large part ...
Views: 2901 - Attraction: Are We Attracted To What Is Familiar? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to romantic attraction, it is often said that one is attracted to someone who matches their facial feature in some way. And while there will be couples who do look like each other either in the beginning of the relationship or whose faces will grow to mimic each other’s over time, ...
Views: 2812 - Self Talk: How Do You Talk To Yourself? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile we talk to other people in the external world, we are also talking to ourselves in what could be described as the internal world. And this is a dialogue that takes place from the moment one wakes up and until they go to sleep at night. But in many ways it doesn’t stop there, as one can ...
Views: 1574 - Relationships: Are Rebound Relationships A Bad Idea? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone goes from one relationship to another, they are often described as having a rebound relationship. And this can takes place within a very short time of one ending and the other beginning; so there is very little time in between each one. This could be a relationship that has ...
Views: 1868 - Emotionally Disconnected: Why Are Some People Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile emotions are often seen as a distraction and an inconvenience, they are a vital part of being human. Without them, life would be pretty meaningless and while there wouldn’t be any lows, there also wouldn’t be any highs either. It would lead to a life that is very empty and although one ...
Views: 3108 - Forgiveness: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Forgiving? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to be told that they should just forgive and forget and simply move on from someone who has wronged them. This can seem to be the most logical thing that one can do; to put it behind them and carry on with their life. One could be told that they are bigger than ...
Views: 2111(2 votes) - Ungrounded: Can Trapped Emotions Make Someone Feel Ungrounded? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is a term that is typically heard in the area of spirituality and self development; where someone can feel a bit spaced out and disconnected from the earth. Perhaps one has engaged in some kind of energy healing or spiritual practice. And it can also take place when one been reading for a ...
Views: 2602(1 vote) - Shame: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Shame? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be human means that we are emotional beings and there are many emotions that we can have. Shame is one of them and this can stop one from acting in ways that are inappropriate for example. And yet this emotion can also end up taking over one’s life. It is then no longer something that is ...
Views: 1681 - Needy: Can Trapped Emotions Make Someone Needy? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have needs is part of being human and this is something that cannot be changed. One might pretend that they don’t have any and yet this is nothing more than a facade and an act of self denial. And then there can be other people who come across as extremely needy and there is no confusion ...
Views: 1683 - Empathy: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Having Empathy? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many different things that make someone human and therefore allow them to have a human experience and one of these things is empathy. This is something one can have for themselves and something that can extend outwards and towards other human beings. It enables one to mirror ...
Views: 1908 - Relationships: Can Sex Create The Illusion Of Love? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world the general approach towards sex has changed and instead of it being something that one engages in after a certain time, it can take place without too much time having passed. And like most things in life, there are pros and cons to this type of behaviour. For some people, ...
Views: 2272 - Siblings: Do Our Siblings Shape Our Lives? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves and sees themselves for instance, childhood development is often cited as a primary factor. This will include how ones father and mother treated them during their formative years as a child and a baby and even ones time in the womb. And while the ...
Views: 1737 - Self Worth: Why Do Some Men Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have a balanced sense of worth is healthy and conducive to someone realising that they deserve to receive and to achieve in life. The problem is that not everyone has this experience and this can cause them to believe that they are worthless and therefore deserve very little, if anything, ...
Views: 7232 - Sex: Do Some People Have Sex To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent history, the general attitude towards sex has changed and it has almost gone from one extreme to the other. So a more liberal approach has appeared and this is often how life works. This can be seen at a more personal level and further out, to include what is happening in the ...
Views: 1586 - Relationships: Do Some People like Being Controlled? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the common challenges in relationships and a challenge that has existed throughout time is that of control. This can be something that is fairly subtle and anything but overwhelming. And then it can be so extreme, that one’s whole life is taken over by another person’s control. So ...
Views: 2194 - Female Celebrities: Are Female Celebrities Good Role Models For Women? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to ideas on how to act and in what one should or shouldn’t wear, celebrities play a pivotal role. And this applies to both men and women; neither gender is exempt from their influence. Their influence will be stronger for some people than it is for others and this can depend on ...
Views: 2060 - Physical Pain: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Physical Pain? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences some kind of physical pain or tension it can be normal to just see it as the body reacting to something and that some kind of external solution is needed to deal with the pain. And this is a natural consequence of seeing the body as separate from the mind and something ...
Views: 1776 - Truth: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Speak Their Truth? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough everyone has their own truth on this planet, it doesn’t mean that each one of them finds it easy to express their truth. And this includes what one says to others and what one says to themselves. There will be things that one needs to say to another or others and there will also be ...
Views: 1868 - Defence Mechanism: Justification - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what defence mechanism is being utilised, they all have the same purpose. And that is to stop one from being overwhelmed by what they are experiencing. They are used when the pain that is arising is too much for someone to handle. And as pain is part of life and therefore can’t be ...
Views: 2314 - Emotions: Why Do Some People Find It Hard to Identify Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile what is going on externally can be easy to see and describe, the same is not always true for what is taking place on the inside. And this can relate to ones: thoughts, emotions, feelings and sensations. This has the potential to lead to all kinds of challenges and these can depend on ...
Views: 3343 - Love: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Love Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone would like to love and appreciate themselves, it doesn’t mean that one finds this easy or even possible to do. But, this love is not an adaption and what appears when one doesn’t love themselves. Here, something known as unhealthy narcissism can appear; with one having ...
Views: 2991 - Rejection: Why Do Some People Fear Rejection? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many fears that human beings can have and some of these are classed as real and parts of one’s ability to survive and others are seen as self made and have very little to do with ones survival. And the fear of rejection is often classed as a fear that is irrational and not based in ...
Views: 2135 - Relationships: Do Some People Have Relationships To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are all kinds of reasons as to why someone would want to be a relationship with another person. And yet for some people, they will do everything they can to avoid having one. This can be due to them being fiercely independent and not wanting to rely on another person; having trust issues ...
Views: 1626 - Happiness: Is The Purpose Of Life To Be happy? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be happy is something most people want on this planet and there are many ways of achieving happiness. Some of these ways are beneficial and actually enhance ones general quality of life. And then there are other ways that can make one feel happy for a short time and then cause them to feel a ...
Views: 1625 - Blame: Why Do Some People Always Blame Others? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor change to take place and progress to be made, there needs to an element of responsibility. And this applies to all areas of one’s life; without it, something might stay as it is or simply get a lot worse. But while this is evident, it doesn’t mean that someone will take responsibility ...
Views: 4110 - Communication: Are You Approachable? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone might want to be approached by others, it doesn’t mean that this actually happens. And if it does happen, it could be something that doesn’t happen enough or in the right situations. This is going to relate to all kinds of scenarios and the primary areas are often to do with ones ...
Views: 2010 - Listening: Do You Listen With Your Head Or Heart? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is an essential human need to be listened to and truly heard by others. This leads to a sense of validation and the experience of being mirrored. From the moment one is born this need is there and it will stay there until the moment they pass. Although this need is essential to ones ...
Views: 1971 - Permission: Do We Need Permission In Life? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one may have the desire to act in a certain way or to achieve a certain goal, there can be challenges that get in the way. And one of those challenges is the need to gain permission from others. Now, this is not necessarily something that one looks for at a conscious level, it could be ...
Views: 1525 - Emotionally stuck: Does Society Keep People Emotionally Stuck? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years now it has been said that women grow up faster than men. And in some cases, they say that men are about ten years behind when it comes to emotional development. This is obviously not the case for all men, but there is often clear evidence to support this viewpoint. Now there ...
Views: 2371 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Find It Hard To Say No? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for women to be in positions of great power and responsibility. They often have more control in their career and relationships and are not as limited as previous generations were. This is not to say that this sense of inner empowerment has become the norm for ...
Views: 1971 - Intellectual Boundaries: Why Do Some People Believe Anything? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperInformation can be empowering and disempowering and what one person finds useful might not be seen in the same way by another. But with personal opinion aside, information is vital for the growth of an individual and for humanity as a whole. Without it, very little would change and regression, ...
Views: 3092 - Sensitive: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Someone To Be Overly Sensitive? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are described as being overly sensitive and highly empathic. And while this does lead to many benefits, there are also many challenges that arise from being this way. They can feel like sponges that pick up anything and everything that is going on in an environment. ...
Views: 1742 - Dependency: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Dependency? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn the area of self development and recovery the term co-dependency have been used for many years. And this generally describes someone who is not interdependent or independent; they are completely dependent on others or on certain substances. This is something that can relate to every need ...
Views: 2127 - Relationships: Can Our Internal Representations Of People Define How They Respond To Us? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt can seem accurate to come to the conclusion that how one sees another will not have an impact on how the other person responds to them. So how one thinks, feels and the ideas that they have in their head, in relation to the other person, are then meaningless. This outlook would see the ...
Views: 1631(1 vote) - Attention: Why Do Some People Avoid Attention? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is wide spread exposure when it comes to people who are attention seekers and these people can be labelled as having certain unhealthy narcissistic traits. One can come into contact with people who are like this in their local area and as well as in the mainstream media. It is only ...
Views: 7048 - Abuse: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Abusive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what area of life one looks at, there will be examples of abuse. And this can be abuse that is easy to spot and abuse that is more subtle in nature. There are some things that stand out more than others, but this doesn’t mean that what is not seen or recognised as abuse is any less ...
Views: 2045(2 votes) - Help: Why Do Some People Have Trouble Asking For Help? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that no one is their own island and each one of us in interdependent. This not only applies to people; it also includes the earth that one lives on, the air they breathe and the sun that creates light and gives off energy for instance. There is always going to be people who ...
Views: 2355(1 vote) - Compulsive Behaviour: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Compulsive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the biggest challenges when it comes to acting in ways that are healthy and functional, is something known as compulsive behaviour. This is something that has received wide spread publicity in recent years. When someone behaves in ways that are compulsive, it means that they are not ...
Views: 1777 - Feelings: Do Our Feelings Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is widely believed that the thoughts that one has create their reality. And this outlook is supported by numerous people in the self help industry. Thoughts then end up being the primary point of focus; when it comes to one attracting what they want in life and repelling what they don’t ...
Views: 1852 - Attraction: Can Trapped Emotions Define Who We Are Attracted To? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to who one is attracted to and attracts, it can appear to be a random process. And that one has no control over who they attract or are attracted to. Certain physical traits are often cited as being the reason why one is or was attracted to someone. And physical characteristics ...
Views: 2005 - Judgemental: Why Are Some People So Judgemental? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperTo be judgmental is part of life and it is something that everyone does to some degree or another. There will be some instances where this is seen as good thing and other times when this will be seen as bad or inappropriate. If one was to see an athlete or sports star cheat or break certain ...
Views: 4700 - Emotional Support: Is Emotional Support Important? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are either independent or dependent and while it can look this way, ultimately we are all interdependent. No one is their own island and each one of us is reliant on others in some way. This is not to say that everyone has this outlook: Some people can ...
Views: 3970 - Role Models: Who Are Our First Role Models? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the moment one is born, one is exposed to different people. And at the beginning of their life, these people are typically caregivers. So in the majority of cases, ones first role models are their parents. This can then go on to include siblings, other family members and family friends. ...
Views: 2729 - Relationships: Can Vulnerability Lead To Deeper Relationships? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the greatest human needs is to feel connected to others and this can relate to an intimate relationship with the opposite sex or the same, depending on one’s sexual preference and to family and friends. To share who one is and to be involved in the sharing of another, plays a vital role ...
Views: 1966 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Sabotage Healthy Relationships with Men? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a woman can say to herself and others that she wants to be in a relationship with a man who is healthy and functional, it doesn’t mean that she will be attracted to a man who is like this. This can relate to woman who can’t seem to attract a guy that is healthy and for women who do attract ...
Views: 3971 - Anger: Why Don't Some People Get Angry When They Need To? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are many examples in people’s private’s lives and in the world at large of anger that is openly expressed and out of control, there is another dynamic that is often overlooked and this is because it is not as easy to recognise. This is when one should get angry and express how ...
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